Ever been surprised running into people you know?

[ALilOEverything 901]

How often do you run across people you know in the vanilla world in the lifestyle? I wasn't really expecting to find people I knew in the vanilla world but now it's happened. The only time a single female has ever written and it had to be someone we were next door neighbors with (shared a roof even). This is the first time and if I know someone this early in the game I'm sure it's not the last. I'm okay with that though...as it's been pointed out, we're all here for the same thing. And what about the other way around too, running across people from the lifestyle in the vanilla world? In our explorations in the past few months this lifestyle is more prevalent than I would have ever dreamed it to be.

[Greg & Sheryl 369]

That's a pretty wild coincidence. We've never had anything like that happen to us, but that's probably because we have so few vanilla friends. However, it is fairly common for us to run into some swinging friends in vanilla places. For example, earlier this summer we ran in a certain couple we knew as the four of us were about to walk into Coors Field for a baseball game.

[good times 991]

We have had both happen, we've ran into vanilla people we knew at the club and we've ran into swinging friends in the vanilla world. so far it has never caused any problems.

[cumply21 16]

When we first got started in this lifestyle, I was chatting online with a couple, and found out that they lived four doors down in our small apartment building. The building only had 5 apartments. That was wild. We became good friends, but never did play, and then we all moved away from there.

 

We still keep in touch, and they just bought a house and invited us out for a visit. It's a 14 hour drive, but we'll probably go next summer. Who knows if we'll actually play when we go, but it'll be nice to see them again.

[sexcouple 15]

We recently put an ad on SLS and received an email. We talked for a while then exchanged pics. It wasn't until we started talking about getting together for dinner and drinks and where to go that I (Mrs.) realized that they and I had grown up in the same town....a small one at that!

They were both a little older than I but we all remembered each other from High School.

 

We decided to have dinner and drinks anyway.....My hubby feeling like he was at a reunion !

 

But it turned out our first experience was with people that we knew! facelick

 

Imagine the possibilties.

[Guest Mr&Mrs-naughty]

We have had it happen twice (sort of).

The first was a guy I knew from the gym. We ended up hooking up and Mrs naughty ended getting along real good with the male half. Actualy it was her (and we found out later his) first FULL swap. Unfortunately myself and the female half didnt click.

 

I still see him at the gym a few days a week and we shoot the shit but thats about it.

 

The second:

 

We ran across an ad by a single male that we know from the "vanilla" side. We do not know him that well and are going to keep it that way.

We do not think he knows who we are because we do not have our faces showing in our public pics.

[deeptouch 21]

We lived next to a couple for 5 years and then moved to Florida. When we joined sLs we saw them listed. Imagine how surprised we were. I had always lusted for her and Molly had said many times that she wished they were swingers.

 

We phoned them and had a two hour conversation, laughing and trading comments about what we felt. It seems they wanted to fuck us too. There is a happy ending .... they were coming to Florida on the way to taking a cruise, they arranged to fly into Tampa on a stop and go .... we meet them, went to our car in the parking garage and fucked. It was awesome. On the way back from thier cruise, they stopped for a long weekend, and it was non stop sex for three days.

 

Since then, we have visited them a couplr e times and have also stopped by to see them, and they us, on business travel. Sometimes that travel is just him or me, and we still get together.

[xxoticangel 99]

We have bumped into several people we know from the nilla world online or at a club. The first was at a club we used to attend. The four of us had just finished a romp in the group room (the private rooms were all full) as we were leaving we were stopped by a married supervisor from my wife's office. On another occasion at the same club I saw a coworker with his wife. I don't think he recognized me and the only way I'm sure it was him is the unusual tattoo on his wrist. My immediate supervisor has an ad on SLS. Despite the face picture I wasn't sure until he showed us pictures of his vacation and I was able to see his wife. Two guys from our gym are regulars at Trapeze.

[Guest Mr&Mrs-naughty]

We also have met a couple on SLS who live right around the corner from us but we have never met in person. The hubby thinks we live to close and the idea kind of freaks him out. Which is completely understandable.

We suggested that we just meet as friends because that is all we would prefer being they live so close.

But he still is/was uncomfortable.

So we left it at that. We told them if they ever wanted to meet for a drink just drop us a line........

[TexasBlondie 15]

Great question:

 

Get this, our first experience in the lifestyle was when we found a swingers club online in Austin (100 miles away) and went there. Had a blast. People were asking "Why are you here when you have P******'s in San Antonio?"

 

We didn't know that there was a local club so the next weekend we went to the club in SA. First night there my wife ran into a lady who she works with, sold her first home to, and who attended her children's birthday partys... sheesh. They pointed at each other and screamed (embarrased) and swore each other to secrecy. We have never seen her at a club since and that was about a year and a half ago.

 

The third time we were at that same club I saw one of my clients there....

 

Small world.

 

Hugs,

Texas Blondie

[artboy 15]

A woman who works with my wife, introduced herself to us..well..Mrs. Artboy anyway...and said they saw our pic on swappernet....they knew each other, only from meetings and what not...never a real friendship, they had More of a working type relationship..they live about 5 miles from us...and we have played with them 3 times...each time it gets better. ..no worries about being so close, or work either. We spend some time with um or vice verse, and then we go our seperate ways. Never any clingyness...or awkward moments either. Hell, their oldest daughter has babysat for us during this past summer. We see um at Wal Mart...Mall..Movies....actually it's pretty cool. We have lifestyle folks say they wish they had a similar set of circumstances as far a their friends go...heheheh . We were somewhat hesitant at first..you know..work...their home so close to ours...but after a few times together, we seem to have worked out the bugs. They are so much like us, in regard to this lifestyle choice, that it gets freaky...they and us, can basically take this or leave it.....

 

 

oh yea....(She) the wife of the couple is extremly bi, and that has really helped my wife explore that part of herself..(she) was slow, tender, and NEVER EVER pushy...very gentle, and much to my surprise and Mrs. Artboy, Mrs. A, has found she really likes the girl-girl play time.

 

Last time we all were together and played..well...needless to say after (us) the guys got finished.. :rollseyes heheheh....the girls continued on for about 30 more min..hehehe.. we literally had to go back in the camper and pull um apart!..It was like "Uh....hello.....we are cooking...yal'll still wanna eat?....food that is!!....Sorry so long here...but to sum it up....We have met one other couple who did not recognize us as "In the know" type folks....and we have left it like that.

[ALilOEverything 901]

Okay, so this week alone we've run across two more people who we knew in the vanilla world. One used to work with my husband and the other currently works where I do. Isn't that just crazy! I'm starting to think my hometown isn't nearly as conservative as I once thought. I always thought I would like to move but maybe I'll stick around for awhile, it's getting more interesting every week

[oncewere 84]

Many years ago my wife was at a party about 80 miles from our home. She had just finished fucking a fellow there and when she looked up, there, on a nearby mat was our assistant Pastor on his back with our Sunday school teacher riding riding him having a great time. She waited until they finished then went up to them and said "Gee, Pastor, I would have expected the missionary position." After the two got over the shock they had a good laugh. Both the Pastor and the Sunday school teacher were there with their spouses. My wife said it felt kind of weird when she banged the Pastor later that night but lots of fun. (No, he didn't say Oh God when he came :-) ) Needless to say, it was hard to concentrate on the Sunday school lesson the next week. We played with both couples off and on for several years.

[DBL D 120]

We had someone contact us who said she knew me! Worked with me. Kind of a shock as the photos were not really of our faces. Fem D thought it was a bad thing till she talked to them a bit. Then we met them and all's well. They aren't our "type" so Fem D didn't feel so threatened about us being together at work. Now if they had been our "type".... Surrender

 

Male D

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

The very first couple we started regular communication with through SLS was a client of ours from ten years earlier. We didn't know this at first.

 

In the beginning, our profile had a face picture of me as the default picture [not anymore]. The guy thought he recognized me but didn't share this at first because he wasn't certain. After we got comfy with e-mailing them we sent a picture of Mr LM and me together. This is when the guy revealed he had been a client. We were a little uncomfortable learning that but didn't want it to get in the way, afterall we knew this sort of thing was likely to happen some day; we just didn't expect it so soon!

 

We never met with the couple (for other reasons) but it is strange how quickly you can discover that people you know are swingers.

 

LM

[fun_pairTX 26]

We occasionally get email via SLS from someone that recognizes Mr Fun, it is never of any real consequence. Mr Fun is a musician and he figures someone calling him a pervert is a step up the social ladder. When Mr Fun sees someone in the "other" world, he just puts on his biggest smile and says "Hello Senator".

[mwsw4ever 15]

Recently i have seen a guy from a couple i used to work with and still have the posibility of running into on future jobs.I though he was a nut case when i worked with him plus i don't think to mix playing with co workers is wise.I had to decline.I have seen others i have know too lately.

[WesternSwing 504]

Lets see... we've run into an account rep for a vendor to us and a the parents of our middle daughter's best friend in preschool. We'd love to swing with the account rep but we're not interested in the other couple. Nice folks, just not our type.

 

We've never had any problem with it, but it was funny when the account rep walked into the house party we were at, spied us from across the room and you could very clearly see her mouth "oh shit".

 

Mr. WS

[Jester 15]

Yes...

 

One night we went to the club we go to regularly, walk in and a few minutes after we are there the wife turns to me and indicates that a woman on the other side of the bar looks familiar to her. I indicate I think that may be so and so, using their SLS profile name. She goes, oh I didn't look at that one yet. So we dropped it at the moment as we started talking to another couple we know at the club. Some time goes by as we go about the night, the wife and I separate and chat with some different people. Then I look over and see her talking to this couple and they are laughing ...so I figure I should walk over and join the conversation. After I approach, the wife goes I want to introduce you to so and so, their son is my class.

 

As for the reactions, the wife and I and the other wife got a kick out of it and thought it was funny. The other husband was little freaked out about it at first. But he came around and laughed about it as we talked more, but I think he was still uncomfortable. So the rest of the night we moved in one circle and they moved in another. I would say all is well though as we have run into each other in vanilla situations since and there is no awkwardness.

[EvilMJ 65]

First I ran into a guy that I was in basic training with back in the navy days. Didn't surprise me because we were both kinda the wild ones of the group. It worked out fine.

 

However, at the last dance we went to one of my ex boyfriends was there. It was so awkward. I wasn't sure he remembered me and I certainly didn't want to approach him (not the best break up). I was with the hubby of a couple we play with leaving the dance floor when he turned and said 'hey how are you doing." the husband thought he was talking to him so he said hi back, so I have no idea if he was talking to me or him. Needless to say I played dumb just because I was not really interested in striking up a conversation.

 

It would probably have went "Hey dear, this is my ex boyfriend __________, we dated before I met you, actually there wasn't a lot of dating going on because I thought he was dumb as a stump, but the sex wasn't bad at all."

 

Oh that was mean of me...bad MJ..bad.

[dandawest 15]

Well we were having a good time at the club mingling and talking great looking blonde female and having drinks getting to know each other, but didnt get to play due to a early time to be at work. Wife and I both had feelings we saw her some where else but couldnt place it ........... Then walked into local pizza place and turns out she's one of the waitresses there Didnt say anything due to being in the vanilla world but could tell she reconized us by grin facelick

[sereneiders 263]

Yep.

 

1) An old friend of us we didn't see for long time. He saw us and came yelling "hey folks... so... you too?"

 

2) A single woman who use to attend the club, we both had the impressione we knew her but we were unable to figure out from where. We even faced her one night to ask her. She said the same, our faces were known bug she couldn't tell from where. A couple of days later I bumbed against her at the supermarket: she's a supervisor there. She grinned and turned away from me (of course, I wasn't planning to talk to her right there!). In any case, we keep bomping her here and there, and share the grin.

 

3) This is worst. This single guy who's a regular (and very popular at the club), and my wife telling me she knows him because he's a college, having a LOT of people in common. She was really worried because of this, moreover because he was single (i.e. he has less to loose if he open his mouth), in the other hand, he was very well reputated among the rest of the regulars and knows how to behave as to do it. But the weirdest part was, she bumped against him accidentally a couple of times and both looked into each other eyes, and this guy was playing dumb, as if he wasn't knowing her.

 

When this happend, my wife told me to move to another club to avoid meeting him. I told her "look, if he's avoiding you, it's either because he's affraid of something, or because he don't want to make you unconfortable, and in any case this is even worst. Let's talk to him to straighten things up and make it clear everithing is ok".

 

So... we face this guy and my wife start talking to him, while the guy's face showed confussion at first... and turned funny when he figured everithing out, telling us "no... sorry, I don't know you. You're confussing me with my brother. Everyone does, but this is the first time it happens to me here... btw, I won't tell him about this, don't worry".

[good times 991]

This is never really a problem unless you have more to lose than the person you meet if you were outed, in that case this can really suck. In our case or more specifically Mrs. GT's case, almost everyone she works with has less to lose than her if they were outed, lets put it this way, she is very high up in the chain of command at work. So yea, we worry about this, have even made a hasty exit from a club for this reason before. And I do agree with hotsauce9, some people, in fact, a lot of people have nothing to lose and are not very discreet. Not to pick on them again for no reason, but we have noticed that single guys are the worst, they often just can't help bragging to their buddies or letting slip what they know about coworkers. That is just one of the many reasons we now avoid most parties that allow single males.

[sereneiders 263]

Yep, we did... three times: an old friend of us that we didn't see for years before bumping at the club, the brother from one of my wife's collegues, and a coworker the next weekend after I moved to this new job (this was creepy).

 

However, bear in mind these people are there for much the seame reasons you do, they're as worried by their privacy as you do, so we all have something to loose.

[Mr. Truelove 81]

I might add though. If the people are so indiscrete then wouldn't you already know they were? I don't think I worry too much about people that might be "open" outing me. Because if we were that close, and they are open, then I would know.

 

But I do see some logic in people changing status, or perhaps changing parts of stories to out you without outing themselves to brag. "I saw so and so walk into this club that a lot of people 'think' is a swingers club." I can see that.

 

This saturday will be my first trip to our local club... I hope I'm not surprised by who I see.

 

Mr. Truelove

[Mrs.PaganLovers 15]

Yes about 3 times in the last few weeks, I will look up and say, oh crap...look who just walked in lol.

 

One close friend emailed us and said they should were going to out themselves to us, as not to suprise us at the club. They recognized us from our profile, even though the faces were hidden.

 

It's a small town, it was bound to happen. I am hoping that the "your here for the same reason" holds true.

 

Blessings

Mrs. PL

[bill&sabrina 22]

Being surprised would depend on the person. I'm surpised I haven't seen some people. I always have, and always will say this. If swinging is going to turn your world upside down, you need to find a new hobby.

[WesternSwing 504]

We've seen acquaintances at clubs and house parties, but they knew what the party was and that's why they were there.

 

At one club party we saw our middle child's pre-school best friend's mom and dad. At another some friends of ours saw their hairdresser there. Last weekend at a house party one of our friend's saw his ex-sister-in-law there.

 

Small world for great minds, I guess.

 

Mr. WS

[brew82 15]

We ran into the soon-to-be-ex sister in law with her new boyfriend at the local club once. Totally freaked us out because we know she wouldn't have a problem telling my wife's brother about us.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

We have never encountered anyone at a club whom we had already know outside of the lifestyle. But we did send an introduction to an SLS advertiser who instantly recognized JoAnn. After a few messages had been traded, she gave us the hint we needed to identify her. We subsequently became, all four of us, great playtime friends.

 

Michael

[jdtpcouple 32]

So glad we aren't the only ones...

We joined an online site & did a search for people in our area & accidentally came across his aunt & uncle. He was a little spooked at first & blocked their profile so we couldn't view them & they couldn't view us. After getting over the initial shock we decided to message them through the site. It was pretty much "hey we found you...oops...we won't tell if you won't". Thankfully their response was all good, but the next family gathering should be interesting...

[retsoc 15]

we have met many people at events that we know in the vanilla world. strange but we got through the situation just fine.

 

on the other side, a friend of ours and his wife decided to enter the lifestyle. at their second party, who did they meet?.......his brother and sister-in-law!!!

 

ok....awkward, but they got through that and started attending parties/clubs together.

 

they decided to attend a four day event in atlanta suburbs. who did they meet?.......his mother and father!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

definately awkward, but they eventually all had a good life and regularly attend parties/events/clubs together.

 

[Swing*8701 887]

Susan here-- A couple of years ago we ran into a couple that I knew because I was a consultant at their employer. At first it was,'Oh cripes.' Yet, Ed took the smart approach and said,"The cat's out of the bag," let's say hello. We did and it was great that we did. Like us, they were discrete and we decided it would be silly to Play because of the professional relationship that existed.

 

Later, they changed employers and were moving away. We were part of their Bon Voyage Blow Out House Party. I don't know if it was because of the sexual tension, because we couldn't play, or the wall between us coming down, but they came home with us that night and it was incredible.

 

Our feelings is that it's best to say hello and address the topic that having the proverbial 'elephant' in the room.

[twoforone100 45]

Well we have run across a cousin at a meet and greet. Mrs two's sister took us to our first meet and greet. There are people you can trust and people you can't you know early on who is who. Patrick Pattie

[bethncole 49]

Well, swinging is like the "fight club". And the first rule of the fight club is... well, you know :-)

 

Seriousely though, here's a couple of reasons why it's no big deal to run into someone you know at a swingers club:

 

1. For them to tell on you about you going to a swinger club, they would have to admit to being there as well. So, they will have to reveal their dirty secret if they want to reveal yours. And that's not likely to happen.

 

2. If people want to gossip and talk shit behind your back - they'll do it anyway. And the rumors they'll make up about you will be probably way worse than the actual truth.

 

Hope this makes sense.

[des1re06 200]

Yes, unfortunately.

 

We ran into my boss's boss at the lifestyle convention, and ruined it for us.

 

We've also run into someone I work with at a party. I left fast.

 

Sorry, but I just can't chalk it up to "it happens". I have too much at stake, and my career would be over. It might be already due to the "sighting" 2 weeks ago.

 

 

Mrs. D

[tangyspecial 31]

Yes, unfortunately.

 

We ran into my boss's boss at the lifestyle convention, and ruined it for us.

 

We've also run into someone I work with at a party. I left fast.

 

Sorry, but I just can't chalk it up to "it happens". I have too much at stake, and my career would be over. It might be already due to the "sighting" 2 weeks ago.

 

 

Mrs. D

 

 

I don't get how a career can be ended from running into someone you work with. Wouldn't their career also have to come to an end for admitting they saw you there??? Good thing I work in a bar rather than an office I guess. If I saw someone I worked with, I would laugh my butt off and make a new best friend.

[Semod 15]

The closest we've ever come is running into a woman that had my brother-in-law as a teacher in high school. And, met a guy who works for a company that the company I work for does contract work for. We know a lot of the same people but never ran into each other.

 

This is a fantasy of mine. To run into someone that I wish was in the lifestyle. Several someones!

[nwmifun 16]

We've run into a few - one couple we met at a club were parents to a student who attends the school at which I'm was an administrator (moved on from there for happy reasons, no worries about running into them hurting us) and one day later when the husband/dad dropped his daughter off at school, I didn't even recognize him at first (lol - maybe he needed to be on top of my wife) and felt rude when I just nodded at him as I passed him in the hall. Luckily I caught him before he left to say "hey, how's it going".

 

We also ran into a guy I distantly worked with and he was dressed all in fetish-wear and was a bit more way out than what we're into. We just kind of avoided himon that basis, although it probably would have been fine to see him as we were both in the same place for the same reasons. I have always had a little smile when I see him and remember him all dressed in his latex and chains.... LOL

 

Our favorite awkward moment was when we met a great couple we were really into and as we were discussing our adventures and comparing notes, about how some professions seem to be more open to this kind of thing. We mentioned a couple we knew that one was a scientist and the other had a sales route. They were taken aback for a moment and asked me to repeat myself. I felt awkward because you do want to have a bit of discretion, but they kept digging for more info about that other one particular couple. As it turned out it was his brother and sister-in-law. They ended up approaching one another and everyone was fine. It was a bit awkard for us and let ourselves drift away from both couples as we really got the strange vibe that they played with one another. Now when you think of it, if it did happen, which is really was only a feeling on our part, there were no blood relatives playing, but man, that is just too strange for us. lol

 

So, there's our adventures in a small world. There's been a few other incidentals, but not fun enough to type about.

 

From a few posts above, I'm curious as to why you think your career is over running into your bosses boss? Seems strange as that person was there for the same reason as you. If you feel comfortable, elaborate....

[havefuninsun 122]

The closest thing we've had happen is meeting couples who know other couples that we had met ... try following that without a cup of coffee this morning ... LOL!! But, we know all parties from our SLS profile, so it wasn't an "outing" type of thing.

 

I'm sure sooner or later our worlds will intermingle somehow ...

[2inthemood 15]

We ran into a customer of mine and his wife, and there was just a "ehy, didnt think id see you here... small talk (and work talk)... have fun, see you around".

 

Found a couple relatives of mine while we were at a nudist beach and after the first seconds of surprise they went something like " we knew it!! could have bet you two guys were nudists" with time the swingers matter came out. The biggest thing in the discussion was them wanting to understand why we swing and once assured that we are a solid couple they just went flat out with the curiosity questions, we spent the rest of the day like any other normal day.

We both come from families that are pretty openminded and with them the bottom line in a lot of things always been "its their business, they are old enough to decide what to do", and so would be with this im sure, not that for that we plan on announcing we swing at a family gathering.

 

Generally we wouldnt have any problem "getting caught" by anyone for the simple reason that if they are there they understand things and they wouldnt think bad of you, so why worry about it,there could be surprise but thats it, we wouldnt hide. But we understand how running into someone that works with you could not be a good thing, the attitude can somewhat change and with coworkers that could be a problem depending on your job position, wouldnt say a career end but a pita yes.

Mostly if it happens we wouldnt swap with them, i dont even tend to see coworkers unless its for work, like to keep the two things separate or the job would pester my whole spare time.

With friends we could even swap, noone of our friends would create problems outside the lifestyle.

Relatives, oddily that probably could be the more relaxed of the encounters, maybe akward at first but since the whole sexual side disappears at that point it would be all reduced to having someone to talk to freely with, and sometimes thats a nice thing.

[smoothwaitress 15]

We were at a club and my husband ran into a couple from our gym. We knew them from the gym just to say hi. We invited them to sit with us and we had a wonderful time. The following week we ran into each other at the gym and all was fine. We partied with them on a regular basis until they moved to Florida. We are making a trip this winter to see them in Florida.

[ALilOEverything 901]

So here we are, 5 years later since I posted this and on SLS for the second time. We were contacted by a couple who we went back and forth with for several emails but neither of us would even give first names. I was really leary about giving out my name to someone local as most everyone in town knows who I am now. Before I did it I did a quick google search of the user name and sure enough it was quite easy to figure out who they were. I was really surprised at who it was at first but then after further thought it made total sense. When we were all teenagers they had partied at my apartment, I remember seeing the female half naked and the male half did a strip tease for us. I remember thinking how much I wish we could all just get naked and have a great time but I didn't have the courage back then as I do now. I contacted them back and let them know who I was and it shocked the heck out of them. I look forward to having drinks with them soon.

[allnightfuncpl 60]

Running into people we knew from the vanilla world while swinging was something that really concerned Mrs. Allnight when we first got involved in the LS.

 

Once we finally got back into the LS after the little break after our second time out with a couple is when things got really interesting for us in the sense of knowing people from the vanilla world specifically work.

 

Ended up being that 5 of my coworkers in the store I worked at that time were involved in the LS, which was quite interesting because 2 of the coworkers I would have never in my life expected to be in the LS, while the other three were no big surprise. Two of the 5 are now very good friends of ours.

 

Since Mrs. Allnigt is a SAHM (Stay at home Milf) she doesn't have to worry about running into anybody she currently works with as it is just herself but we have seen ex coworkers of hers from when she was working at the club we go to.

 

If it happens it happens is my take they are there for the same reason as we are in my view it is kind of hard to out some without outing yourself.

[mixtupcpl 169]

So here we are, 5 years later since I posted this and on Swing Lifestyle for the second time. We were contacted by a couple who we went back and forth with for several emails but neither of us would even give first names. I was really leary about giving out my name to someone local as most everyone in town knows who I am now. Before I did it I did a quick google search of the user name and sure enough it was quite easy to figure out who they were. I was really surprised at who it was at first but then after further thought it made total sense. When we were all teenagers they had partied at my apartment, I remember seeing the female half naked and the male half did a strip tease for us. I remember thinking how much I wish we could all just get naked and have a great time but I didn't have the courage back then as I do now. I contacted them back and let them know who I was and it shocked the heck out of them. I look forward to having drinks with them soon.

 

This story is awesome... We are really excited for you guys. You must provide updates on how things go! Mrs and I go back to high school with each other and there is definitely one friend of mine who we would love to "see again" and who, in hindsight, had I been more secure and bolder (which would have been impossible at the time), we could have had an amazing time with. He and I were very good friends, but he was way ahead of us at the time and we just werent ready yet, so we completely empathize with your situation!

[stlfffun 15]

We have seen friends or acquinatances from the vanilla world several times at parties and clubs - guess they really weren't vanilla after all. Ex wife used to worry about seeing people she might now until she realized they were there for the same things she was. But the most surprising case of running into someone I know was when my exwife, a GF, and I were at a club and we saw one of my sisters with her husband and a male "friend" in one of the group grope rooms. She saw me too and we actually played in the same room - in opposite corners of course - lol. We have never mentioned it outside the lifestyle, but I have seen her at the same club on other occasions since then. A couple of times, we all have sat and chatted in the hot tub as well.

[ALilOEverything 901]

A few days ago I had a facebook request I didn't think much about. We were neighbors for years and I was good friends with his sister. I ran into him three years ago when I was in need of emergent care out of town and it was nice to see a familiar face and he's still friends with my siblings. Last night he hit me up on Facebook chat and asked "have you ever heard of s.l.s.?" (without the periods). If you could have seen my face I'm sure it was priceless. I never would have suspected anyone from his family in a million years. He's a really great guy and hard to not have naughty thoughts now.

[tallicafan 41]

I was on SLS one night this past December when I got an IM invite and answered it. 10 minutes into our chat I recognized the woman as an ex co-worker who I was friendly with in the past. I told her "I think I know you" and waited for a response. A minute later we were chatting again and exchanged pictures of our spouses and such. We decided we were all adults and on the site for the same reason.

We met up a week later for drinks and pool and immediatley hit it off. It has been great. All 4 of us have chemistry and have gotten together several times. We have also established/rekindled a very good friendship.

[bernett69 36]

we were invited to a new group in the area and we were surprised to see our pediatrician there. he was indeed shocked to see my wife.

 

we have got a lot closer to him and he has been over to the house many times since.

[stumbledin 15]

I have been pleasantly surprised at some of the people that I've run into...several people from school, I always knew we were pervs at that place...few from work, couple from bowling....