desirefeb2007 16 Posted January 22, 2007 Is this socially acceptable? That is, masturbating oneself - not the other man. I don't have a problem with this but is this ok? I would think so. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
kush2112 20 Posted January 22, 2007 Most of the time it is just a reaction from watching your wife with another man. It would be very hard for me not to do it while watching her with another man Quote Share this post Link to post
WesternSwing 504 Posted January 22, 2007 I would say "yes" if it's okay with everybody else involved. The only thing I think would be weird is if you were a single male and looked over and there was hubby doing that and you had no idea that this kind of thing could happen. Quote Share this post Link to post
flkeyscouple 21 Posted January 22, 2007 I think it's pretty natural. I don't think anyone would object or think it was weird! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Spoomonkey 421 Posted January 22, 2007 I wouldn't be comfortable masturbating, but that isn't to say that it is wrong to do so if everyone agrees with it. Quote Share this post Link to post
daisy girl 34 Posted January 22, 2007 I think it is perfectly fine. In fact, seeing others masterbate while watching me and a partner is so hot!!! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
carlos_pchot 16 Posted January 22, 2007 Hi there, I don't see any problem masturbating on that situation, maybe not everyone would do it, but nothing wrong with it. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
bigjoehd 26 Posted January 22, 2007 ...Or you could just stand there or watch tv. Of course it is ok Quote Share this post Link to post
Tybee Swing 286 Posted January 22, 2007 Husbands masturbating while watching the wives (engaging in bi activity, right?) Yes! I can't imagine that anybody who would swing would be offended by masturbation. Personally, I LOVE to watch my husband do that, and it's just natural that the husbands are stroking themselves watching their wives play with another woman. They're getting very turned-on. There have been times like that when the other woman and myself have suggested to our husbands to take it out and stroke it, if they seemed too shy to do it without the suggestion. Socially acceptable? Maybe not to Miss Manners, but it likely is for most swingers, in those circumstances. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
ohash01 20 Posted January 22, 2007 Socially acceptable? Maybe not to Miss Manners, but it likely is for most swingers, in those circumstances. HAHAHA!! Miss Manners has a stick up her ass anyway. She has no idea what she's missing! Anywho - We've run into this situation. I think it's sexy. J. thinks it's weird IF there's another man there. If we have a single F over and she and I are playing, he's okay with it. But he has some sort of penis-shyness where he doesn't want to "whip it out" in front of another man unless he's actively using it. He's very concerned about the locale for some reason...he's constantly going "do we sit? do we stand? are we next to each other? or is there a guy on each side?". I think it's just confusing for him. He's a planner...so he's probably flummoxed by this... Quote Share this post Link to post
Chicup 41 Posted January 22, 2007 I don't swing to toot my own horn so to speak. While it is a major turn-on to see my wife with another woman, I'd wait for alone time with her to have sex. We also avoid the girl girl play, only couples, so it has never been an issue, but something about it just seems creepy and odd to me. Quote Share this post Link to post
Wife Watcher 20 Posted March 29, 2007 I know I would love to see men masturbate to my wife and watch me masterbate. I'm bi curious and have never been with a man since adulthood but I would hope it would turn into more than just watching. 1 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
joaninla 162 Posted April 5, 2007 I agree with Daisy Girl. It's a big turn-on for me to see my husband masturbating while he is watching me and another man. Very Hot! He will often share with me later on that night or the next day his thoughts/feelings/fantasies he was experiencing while jacking off looking at me. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
d&dintn 16 Posted April 5, 2007 I would be disapointed if my husband wasn't turned on enough at seeing me with another woman to masturbate. I do want him to enjoy the experince as much as everyone involved. If he were uncomfortable or turned off than I would be concerned enough to talk to him about what he really wanted and hope it doesn't stem from jealousy. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
sexcupid 809 Posted April 6, 2007 I think it depends on the situation. Are you talking about a MFM where you are stepping back to just watch for a little bit? Or sit back to watch your wife making out and playing with another woman? I would think it perfectly acceptable. Are you talking a full swap scenario where you are so distracted by what your wife is doing that you stop playing with your partner to masturbate? well....maybe not so much so in thise case. I like to know my SO is turned on, but wouldn't want it to be to the detriment of someone else's fun too. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
coolman_80070 18 Posted July 9, 2010 My friend always masturbates while he watches me and his wife performing. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
shy_couple 459 Posted July 10, 2010 Perhaps if it just a 3some or 4some. Mr Shy doesn't and neither have our playmates. We did go to a party where they allowed single guys and there was one guy that no matter where we went or what we were doing, there he was. It was creepy but also comical. We nicknamed him "Wanky McWanker" 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
New2swinging225 53 Posted July 10, 2010 The only thing I think would be weird is if you were a single male and looked over and there was hubby doing that and you had no idea that this kind of thing could happen. What is the reward in voyeurism if you can't get off while watching your sexy woman in pleasure? If the man doing her didn't expect you to whip it out, why did he think you would let him screw your wife? 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Suburbia 130 Posted July 10, 2010 The husband masturbating while the wife plays is expected behavior. It is, however, rude to let it fly on the players unless they approve. 1 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
ClosetSwinger 112 Posted July 10, 2010 Personally (I am the wife) I would be turned on seeing a man watching and masterbating at the same time. HOT! 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
tn_softswing2 59 Posted July 12, 2010 Yes, I think it's acceptable for one spouse to masturbate themselves when they are watching their partner with another person. That's part of the fun! 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
asncpl 729 Posted July 12, 2010 Absolutely! I think it's really hot seeing my husband masturbate while watching me with another man. And he likes it, so I think as long as everyone, including other partners are ok with it, I don't see why not. Quote Share this post Link to post
joaninla 162 Posted July 12, 2010 I think it is perfectly fine. In fact, seeing others masterbate while watching me and a partner is so hot!!! I couldn't agree more! I love watching my husband jack off while another guy is having sex with me. Very hot! Quote Share this post Link to post
piglet6870 15 Posted July 12, 2010 i don't see why not. That means they are happy and enjoying the fact that you are having fun yourself. Way to go! Quote Share this post Link to post
Brian and Jo 344 Posted July 15, 2010 I would be disappointed if Brian didn't get turned on when he is watching me playing with another man or woman. And when he is turned on I think it is fine for him to masturbate while he continues to watch us. It is a hot scene for both of us. Quote Share this post Link to post
Pleasure King 16 Posted July 16, 2010 Yes I love to masturbate while watching her go at it! Quote Share this post Link to post
willyoats 324 Posted July 16, 2010 I remember one guy whose wife was into gang bang. She would do 10 or 15 guys and all the time he's sitting on the sidelines playing with himself and directing who should be next into her. He never had an orgasm in these sessions, but he sure seemed to be having a good time! I know of one other guy whose main delight was getting himself off at the end of the bed while his wife was screwing another guy. I have masturbated and kept myself hard several times while my wife was with another guy, although never to climax. We always finished me off with me inside of her. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
magnum 78 Posted July 26, 2010 Is this socially acceptable? That is, masturbating oneself - not the other man. I don't have a problem with this but is this ok? I would think so. I would say masturbating while watching your wife is OK...I would think that would be an almost given...Getting excited watching your wife... Quote Share this post Link to post
josmonkey80 15 Posted November 4, 2011 Yes, it is way ok. May be a turn-on for the wife to see her husband masturbate while he's watching her. Quote Share this post Link to post
WVaCPLforSluts 15 Posted November 20, 2011 I think this is totally ok and normal. I'd like to know what I'm doing is turning my husband on. Quote Share this post Link to post
celtic239 297 Posted November 21, 2011 Not really my thing, I think it's a waste of perfectly good sperm especially when it takes quite some time for me to "reload". 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
rockin 21 Posted November 21, 2011 Why would it be ok for the wife to be touching all over another person but not be ok for the husband to touch himself? It would be crazy to have him watch me play but say "you can't touch yourself." Quote Share this post Link to post
2fitfunsters 32 Posted November 28, 2011 An absolute yes!! I get so turned on when my fiancé starts to stroke himself. I love when he sits back and enjoys the view and plays a bit with himself. I always motion him back over to get back in the action, but I know he loves taking it all in as a voyeur as well. Quote Share this post Link to post
tnt69couple 64 Posted December 2, 2011 If I understood that while a wife has sex with another man that he masturbates then yes I think it is perfectly fine. Quote Share this post Link to post
JustAskJulie 2,595 Posted April 20, 2013 I wouldn't have a problem with this, thinking about it I think it's kinda hot. I'd much rather this than the guys standing there having a conversation about something unrelated, or trying to tell us what to do. Quote Share this post Link to post
Sophy 569 Posted December 20, 2013 My husband does, because he gets so turned on watching me having fun, especially during a MMF. I do not multitasking good, so he basically has to wait for his turn. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Trophy1802 132 Posted December 21, 2013 Masturbate. Why not? It is a very big turn-on for me to watch my wife with another guy, especially in the MFM experience, and she knows it. That's the main reason why the MFM has been the main activity in swinging for us for the past several months. Mrs really loves the fact that she can ask me to masturbate for her and for her to watch while she is being fucked by the other guy. She really enjoys having both of us finishing off by jerking ourselves and covering her in our cum. If it works and no one is offended, by all means. 1 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
AngelandTiger 364 Posted December 27, 2013 Masturbate. Why not? She really enjoys having both of us finishing off by jerking ourselves and covering her in our cum. If it works and no one is offended, by all means. In am MFM situation, I simply cannot help masturbating while I watch Angel with another male. It's so hot, so erotic that I could not possibly refrain. She loves that I do it, and she'll ask me to if I'm not. I don't cum, but keep it hard and stroking until I'm with her again. When the other guy is watching, we're both turned on by him masturbating while watching us. And like Trophy, she and I love it when we finish with one guy kneeling on either side of Angel's chest and stroking until we cover her breasts with our cum. 2 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
dolphin443 38 Posted December 30, 2013 Self pleasing and enjoying the panorama? Yes, as long as it gives pleasure and no pain, everything is ok. The only rule that applies for us is NO PAIN or kinky stuff. Quote Share this post Link to post
cplnuswing 4,713 Posted June 7, 2019 I think absolutely, as long as what the husband is doing isn't distracting or done in a way to be taking over her playtime. I love watching her in action, and if the scenario is right, like a threesome where I don't have my own playmate to be focused on, I will quietly masturbate for pleasure and to stay hard for if and when she wants me to join in. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
M1F2KTJ 473 Posted June 7, 2019 I have had to resist the urge to touch myself watching my wife enjoying having sex with another man. There were times I was so hard I could feel my pulse in my cock. I thought I was going to cum without touching myself. 1 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
HotEllie 87 Posted June 7, 2019 I got into my first soft play with another woman recently while my husband watched. He got an immediate erection, and masturbated while watching us. It was extremely erotic and arousing to see him doing that. It definitely added to the experience. 3 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
EastInWest 1,524 Posted June 8, 2019 I definitely understand why it's weird for an uninvolved guy in a club to whip it out and watch, but it's never even occurred to me that it might be a problem in a group where everyone knows each other and is playing together. "Orgasm denial" is a kink that often goes along with cuckolding. If that's a couple's thing, that's cool, but not my thing, for sure. If I'm not masturbating while Mrs. E is performing, I either just came or I'm dead. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
adamgunn 1,460 Posted June 9, 2019 When my wife and I have an MFM, I usually let them play for quite awhile before I join in. As they're getting naked, I do too, and I handle my penis while she and he are having fun. I don't normally come, but just enjoy myself. When they come to a resting point, often after he's come inside her, I'll take over and add my semen to his. I don't know if you'd call this 'masturbating' though . . . 3 Quote Share this post Link to post
Numex 2,416 Posted June 12, 2019 ... I have masturbated and kept myself hard several times while my wife was with another guy, although never to climax. We always finished me off with me inside of her.Same here. During an MFM with my wife (or one of the other guys' wives actually), the woman usually takes care of both of us for a while, then likes to concentrate on one guy. I always prefer going second because watching the show is much better before I cum. So I'll masturbate without cumming while they fuck then go into the same hole and finish where he blew his load. 2 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
LaidBackFun 36 Posted June 18, 2019 In nearly all the MFM threesomes we have had, usually my wife will settle in with one of us and the other guy will watch. The guy watching is always stroking himself but not to climax - basically waiting for his turn. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Numex 2,416 Posted June 19, 2019 ... NO PAIN or kinky stuff. Define "kinky." 1 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Bluespruce1 706 Posted June 19, 2019 Loved watching him the other night. I had two guys taking care of me and he watched us for an hour. Hebedged the entire time and finally exploded. Watching him took my experience to an entirely new level. 1 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
bbarnsworth 2,637 Posted June 23, 2019 Early on when my wife and I got into swinging, she would want me to be directly involved in an MFM. As time went on, she became comfortable with me just watching her play with another man. I'll be stroking myself when this happens. I very much enjoy watching my wife have sex with another man. It's nice to just sit back and watch some times. Kinda like the best porn movie ever 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Numex 2,416 Posted June 23, 2019 ... She would do 10 or 15 guys and all the time he's sitting on the sidelines playing with himself... He never had an orgasm in these sessions, but he sure seemed to be having a good time!.. He probably had one fantastic orgasm in his wife afterwards. Talk about sloppy. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post