What Happens After the MFM

[summitcouple 16]

Hey all, so we have been discussing having our first MFM. We both are really looking forward to it. My concern is what happens after. I mean when we finish, I imagine we may be able to enjoy the "moment" a couple of times, but when one or all seems finished how does it end? i would like to hear about what you do, maybe even what happened after your first time.

 

Thanks for your replies to a couple of "newbies"

[spectraschain 21]

The first time was quite awhile ago, but as I recall Spectra made salads and the three of us sat around the table getting to know one another and discussing all things sexual...

 

We've one gentleman that's a musician like myself, it's not uncommon for he and I to play music for a couple of hours...

 

A couple of the young guys get done, get dressed, a handshake and a goodbye kiss, and off they go...nothing wrong with that.

 

In our encounters I can't recall any uncomfortable moments...

[flkeyscouple 21]

spectraschain said:

In our encounters I can't recall any uncomfortable moments...

 

No bad or uncomfortable moments - after sex, how can someone be uncomfortable around the other? What is there to hide?? So far, no regrets!! Lots of fun, however!!

 

Sarah

[oc1234 436]

In our case, we all lie in the bed for a few minutes and then I usually get up and shower, leaving my wife and friend in our bed. They play around for a few minutes and then go in and take a shower together.

 

After that, all three of us usually go out to eat. I must mention that we have been friends with him for 26 years and swinging with him for 20 years, so we are very comfortable together.

[ohash01 20]

I'm trying to remember exactly what happened after our first MFM. We had been in the hottub, we went inside, all kind of still playing around and touching, we got dressed, each had a glass of water and chatted a bit, then we left. I don't even think I kissed the other M goodbye or shook his hand or anything. I was a teeny bit embarassed. I left my bra there. And not on purpose. Haha.

[gatorvol64 216]

I doubt you will have a problem. Just let the after happen.

 

It is different with each man we are with. We meet with 3 single men on a semi-regular basis. One we pretty much leave soon afterwards but, we know him pretty well. With another, we lay in the bed and talk awhile, usually have met for a meal first. And the last (which was really the very first), we stay the night with him. But I'll admit that we play more than sleep. And they have to feed me sometime. But I do kiss each of them goodbye. Just seems kinda natural and not a big thing after all we've done together.

 

Vol

[The_Phoenyxes 15]

After Mr. Bird and I had our first MFM we all laid on the bed and cuddle. Usually Mr. Bird would clean up and leave me and our friend on the bed and we'd usually just lay with each other and talk a bit. After all the nakedness and kissing was over then we'd get dressed and usually go watch and movie and our friend would usually stay the night (mind you our situation is a little different because our other male partner is a good friend of ours, so everyone is very laid back and casual afterwards). Really i dont think you will have a problem. Just enjoy yourself and worry about all the closings to your evening when its finally time

 

Hugs,

Mrs. Bird

[graygo98 148]

I guess as you can see, how things go is really dependent on the chemistry of the three of you and what you and your SO want to experience.

 

The following thread, from a dearly missed late member, provides a lot of detail on how one couple's experience went. You may be interested:

 

https://www.swingersboard.com/forums/topic/14158-omg-its-really-gonna-happen/

[spectraschain 21]

That absolutely tore my heart out....

[xxoticangel 99]

When I feel its time to end the evening I excuse myself to take a shower and leave the guys alone. By the time I get out and put a robe on one or both guys has dressed and either hubby or I will suggest getting something to eat. Even if we met for a meal at the begining it has usually been 4-6 hours ago and with all the exercise everyone starts to feel hungry. Getting out of the hotel gives everyone time to chill out and breaks the sexual tension allowing either us or him to make a comfortable exit.

[cuzzeyesaidso 31]

We gave him a towel and a bottle of water. After he wiped off his sweat and rehydrated he got dressed, hugged my wife goodnight, and left.

[meandher2go 17]

it usually just happens. most of the time the guy just says thank you, rolls over and we all get up and start to clean up. "her" will usually jump in the shower or go into bathroom and clean herself up as she is usually left a mess with a map of hawaii on her somewhere. we shake hands, thank each other and he leaves.