Cuckolding: Another form of swinging?

[denlin_99 15]

Just wondering if others have done this. We have done 3somes (fmf,mfm), 4somes(with couples), but wife likes to play alone sometimes with her boss (we have never done a 3some with him nor does he know I'm aware of them playing). It drives me crazy (in a good way) when she comes home smelling of sex, then tells me every detail while I suck on her cum-filled pussy.

 

I know there has to be other husbands that have done the same or am I the odd ball here? Hoping to hear from other males, females, and couples please.

[funseekers45 15]

Ummmmm, yes, we did it, and I loved it!

[carlos_pchot 16]

Hi there, couldn't say I did it, but wanted to!! jeje

with one of my ex, I wanted her to have sex with a friend we had a soft encounter and stayed being friends, even wanted to set a "trap" for him.. jeje but couldn't do it, so I understand what you say.

It's not inusual, some couples don't like it, since they like to go out always as a couple, but if you're ok with it and you enjoy it, well, go ahead. Would be nice if you carry on with a secretary or someone from your work too, don't you think?

take care

[flkeyscouple 21]

I know there has to be other husbands that have done the same or am I the odd ball here?Hoping to hear from other males,females,and couples please

I know there are many that will agree with your situation, and get excited by it, but I just don't get it.

 

I would hate to portray the image of a cheater - and since the guy she is playing with doesn't know you know - he thinks she is cheating. I am SO VERY proud of my relationship with my husband - how honest, loving, fulfilling, and satisfying it is - that I don't want ANYONE to think that either of us would be in a cheating situation.

 

I'm sure there are many that agree with you, but I would think there are many that would agree with me too. It's not just that we play only together (and we do) but it's the whole image of our relationship - it's important to me that others know we have a great relationship.

 

I hope that all makes sense.

 

Sarah

[daisy girl 34]

Just curious...if you are trying to set something up so that a friend or a boss becomes involved with your spouse, isn't that being deceptive. I think swinging is about honesty. Not trying to judge, just trying to echo the honesty and free will aspect of swinging.

[sexcupid 809]

I was in a similar situation when I was married to my ex. He knew I played around, my playthings knew that he knew (probably not to the extent that he was actually aware of). Now there were times he wasn't happy about it, but I will say that the sex afterwards was always hot for a week or two. He liked listening in on encounters, made a video once and always told him every story when I would come home.

 

So if it works for you, go for it. Maybe if your wife really wants to blow the boss's mind, she can make him aware that you know what's going on?

 

 

Maria

[Chicup 42]

Cuckolding is to Swinging as commercial fishing is to fly fishing.

 

There are similarities, and you both want to catch fish, but the motivations are very different.

[WesternSwing 504]

Cuckolding is to Swinging as commercial fishing is to fly fishing.

 

There are similarities, and you both want to catch fish, but the motivations are very different.

Now that is a good analogy!

[WesternSwing 504]

I know there are many that will agree with your situation, and get excited by it, but I just don't get it.

 

I would hate to portray the image of a cheater - and since the guy she is playing with doesn't know you know - he thinks she is cheating. I am SO VERY proud of my relationship with my husband - how honest, loving, fulfilling, and satisfying it is - that I don't want ANYONE to think that either of us would be in a cheating situation.

 

I'm sure there are many that agree with you, but I would think there are many that would agree with me too. It's not just that we play only together (and we do) but it's the whole image of our relationship - it's important to me that others know we have a great relationship.

 

I hope that all makes sense.

 

Sarah

 

I understand it completely. And I have a couple comments on it based on personal experience, too.

 

We play together and alone, with couples, singles, in intimate settings and parties. It's okay for either of us to have a "friend" we can see alone from time to time. But, all those people know first and foremost that we are a couple and that we have chosen to make them a part of our relationship. And because of this there is a huge amount of respect from these people for us, and they have also become close friends outside of sex. It's important to us also that they know that we have a great relationship, and because of that we have a great relationship with them.

 

Then, there are the men and women that try to do what I call "divide and conquer". I don't think in the manner of getting us to leave each other, but the idea of us having not only each other's permission but each other's blessings to go have fun, just freaks them out. So they try to create situations where they exclude one of us.

 

We've run into several men like this and one woman. The idea made them uncomfortable and they tried over and over to get one of us to play alone with them. And it's not that, because we will. The difference is that those we do play with will play with us in a threesome situation, also. It's about "us". With these others, they don't want "us", they just want Mrs. WS or I alone.

 

Where this is all going? Well back to the scenario of the OP. There was a guy that was after Mrs. WS really bad. And she thought he was great and would have loved to have an afternoon or three with him. But, he kept pushing her to do it without my knowledge. That was the turn-on for him. The "cheating wife" scenario. I think for him a cheating wife strokes his ego: "the husband can't satisfy her so she's seeing me." Her seeing him with my knowledge, approval, and blessings didn't turn him on... it freaked him out. He didn't want to have a threesome with us, he didn't want me to know when and if she saw him. He wanted her to cheat on me. So of course, Mrs. WS cut him loose.

 

About ten years ago I was the unknowing single male in a couple's "wanton wife/cuckhold husband" sex fantasy. At the time I didn't know, but now days it all makes sense and I'm still kinda' pissed at her for deceiving me that way. I would have gladly played along with them had I known... but seeing it now I can understand how many wouldn't, so they kept it to themselves.

 

Hell, I'd bet the OP's boss would freak-out and put an end to the "affair" if he knew the truth, that this is part of his lover and her husband's sex play. i think that sometimes it's just too much for the vanilla mind to wrap itself around.

 

Mr. WS

[mike big 13]

whats Cuckolding? never heard of it

[funrealcouple 15]

It is quite different than swinging I think chicups definition was good as far as what cuckolding has become.

The cuckolding by definition is a bit more brutal.

 

cuck·old

n

A man married to an unfaithful wife.

tr.v. cuck·old·ed, cuck·old·ing, cuck·olds

To make a cuckold of.

[Middle English cokewald, from Anglo-Norman *cucuald, from cucu, the cuckoo, from Vulgar Latin *cucclus, from Latin cuclus.]

 

Word History: The allusion to the cuckoo on which the word cuckold is based may not be appreciated by those unfamiliar with the nesting habits of certain varieties of this bird. The female of some Old World cuckoos lays its eggs in the nests of other birds, leaving them to be cared for by the resident nesters. This parasitic tendency has given the female bird a figurative reputation for unfaithfulness as well. Hence in Old French we find the word cucuault, composed of cocu, "cuckoo, cuckold," and the pejorative suffix -ald and used to designate a husband whose wife has wandered afield like the female cuckoo. An earlier assumed form of the Old French word was borrowed into Middle English by way of Anglo-Norman. Middle English cokewold, the ancestor of Modern English cuckold, is first recorded in a work written around 1250.

 

FRC

[HardTongue 31]

Like you we have done the couples, thjreesomes, etc, and I enjoyed them all but it really turns me on for my wife to go out and pick up a stranger and then come back to me with the details. She had several long term boyfriends over the years but also a lot that she met at hotel lounges, at work, clubs and to tell the truth many of my friends. I loved it when she came home with a smile on her face, cock on her breath and cum in her sweet cunt. Unlike many women in swinging she has never had her cunt shaved (except for when she had the kids) as I truly love the sight of her hairy cunt, especially when the hair is matted with another fellows cum. HardTongue ht6977@yahoo.com

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

Cuckolding: Another form of swinging?

According to my dictionary of the American language, what you describe is neither cuckold nor swinging.

 

As sexcupid observed, it works for you, go for it. But I recommend you not try to cloth the obvious elements of deception in names like cuckold or swinging.

 

~Michael

[DE_BBC 15]

I've some experience in this field, and even did some vid. work for a web couple.

 

It seems to me that this is/can be slippery stuff, I've seen it in the light way where the hubby just likes watching his wife with a larger black man...then there are the hubby's that like to watch, but get somewhat vocal with it...even asking the wife "you like that big black dick"...and who want me to be vocal about it as well....which is all good.

 

Then I've seen the extreme where the wife is is total control, telling the husband what to do...where to go, where to sit, ect... dressing him up in women's clothing...making him eat creampie, complete and total control.

It was crazy to see this normal looking guy being made to do these things...and after talking with the wife she said it wasn't always like that that it was a progression...they started off just as reg. old swingers...then over a few years she took more and more control of the marriage.

 

Didn't mean that to come off as some sort of a warning....to each his own.

[LOL_OMG 130]

Denlin

 

I don't want this to come off harsh, but in my eyes what your wife is doing is wrong on at least two levels. One, she's having sex with her boss, that scenario looks like a big minefield to me. Two, you both are encouraging a cheater, which in the bosses mind he is, even if he's single he thinks your wife is cheating on you. I hope things work out ok but my thoughts are that we will be hearing bad news from you down the road.

 

Mr. Lol

[it'sso 198]

I'm left to wonder how many women would get off on their husband getting an occasional servicing from a younger, tighter lady and his relating a "blow by blow" rundown of events?

[bbarnsworth 2,652]

I'm left to wonder how many women would get off on their husband getting an occasional servicing from a younger' date=' tighter lady and his relating a "blow by blow" rundown of events?[/quote']

 

There are women that do. Count on it. How many? No way to tell.

[Alura 2,775]

When we were first married and interested in exploring swinging, Mrs. Alura and I, because of impatience probably, tried "cuckolding" when she was presented with an opportunity. Of course, she was successful; she always was, but there were some problems.

 

First, she felt like she was talking to a rock when she tried to explain that it would be one time and one time only. The guy just couldn't understand why she would do what she was doing.

 

Second, when she told me the details, there were few that stood out. The others did not produce the exciting results we'd hoped for. She felt that, had she still been single, the date would have ended after the first kiss, but she persevered for the experience. She wanted to at least get fucked so she'd have something to tell me.

 

Third, the whole thing was boring for both of us. We decided cuckolding was a waste of time and opted to continue our search for the right couple. Were we ever glad we did! When it happened, it turned out to be as thrilling as cuckolding had been underwhelming.

 

Mr. Alura

[couplers 4,718]

I'm left to wonder how many women would get off on their husband getting an occasional servicing from a younger' date=' tighter lady and his relating a "blow by blow" rundown of events?[/quote']

 

Hi, Petra here. I did and still do. Some are younger, I don't know about tighter, and I enjoy the "blow by blow," even more when I can watch.

[youngcouple10 15]

I never like the phrase cuckolding! I love sharing my wife, the smell of another guy, feeling a freshly fucked and cum filled pussy. but I hate the thought that its to embaressed about it. I have a big dick, some have had big some smaller. I'm good in bed. Some guys are as good most aren't. Cuckolding is just another made up fantasy. In reality I just love having a common intrest with my wife which is a hugh turn on for both of use and fucking the shit out of her as she tells me every detail of the nights events. Just nice to be prelubed pussy lol. The hottest thing I think is when your wife puts her self out there how much attention is waiting, and she glows for a week and self confedance goes threw the roof.

 

Ryan

[glassdj56 16]

wife likes one on one with a new partner - doesn't feel like she's putting on a show for me and I like her renewed confidence and sometimes a pre lubed sweet surprise for me! definitely a turn on for me .

[metroman 17]

I know there are many that will agree with your situation, and get excited by it, but I just don't get it.

 

I would hate to portray the image of a cheater - and since the guy she is playing with doesn't know you know - he thinks she is cheating. I am SO VERY proud of my relationship with my husband - how honest, loving, fulfilling, and satisfying it is - that I don't want ANYONE to think that either of us would be in a cheating situation.

 

I'm sure there are many that agree with you, but I would think there are many that would agree with me too. It's not just that we play only together (and we do) but it's the whole image of our relationship - it's important to me that others know we have a great relationship.

 

I hope that all makes sense.

 

Sarah

 

Sarah, I like the way you think and as a guy, I totally agree with it !

[youngcouple10 15]

I know there are many that will agree with your situation, and get excited by it, but I just don't get it.

 

I would hate to portray the image of a cheater - and since the guy she is playing with doesn't know you know - he thinks she is cheating. I am SO VERY proud of my relationship with my husband - how honest, loving, fulfilling, and satisfying it is - that I don't want ANYONE to think that either of us would be in a cheating situation.

 

I'm sure there are many that agree with you, but I would think there are many that would agree with me too. It's not just that we play only together (and we do) but it's the whole image of our relationship - it's important to me that others know we have a great relationship.

 

I hope that all makes sense.

 

Sarah

 

I like this Sarah. Makes very good point. I want any guy to know that me and my husband know everything, I don't want to get weirded out but I tell them my husband knows all about this and were I am at all times! I do leave out that He knows every inch of him and get great detail of the events, And leave out that he always eats me out after there done. Dont want them to be scared away you know!

 

Great post tho

 

Melissa & Ryan

[tojoe59 17]

I was the bull in a cockold cpuple. He knew I was working on her and she did not hide it. I would call her at home chat with her & set up a date. She would get herself ready and I would pick her up. even say good night to him. We would get a room and I would F**her. At the end of the night I would drop her off. She would tell him about what I did and then her would enjoy every thing I did and the mess I left behind. It was his & her kink. I was happy because she was great in bed. She liked it because she had 2 guys to make her hot. He liked that she was extra warmed up . Seo we all win.

[metroman 17]

I was the bull in a cockold cpuple. He knew I was working on her and she did not hide it. I would call her at home chat with her & set up a date. She would get herself ready and I would pick her up. even say good night to him. We would get a room and I would F**her. At . end of the night I would drop her off. She would tell him about what I did and then her would enjoy every thing I did and the mess I left behind. It was his & her kink. I was happy because she was great in bed. She liked it because she had 2 guys to make her hot. He liked that she was extra warmed up . Search Engine Optimization we all win.

Not to rain on the parade here but do consider this. Our friends got involved in this activity with her dating with his permission & encouragement. She would come home & tell all but do to work schedules they started drifting apart; then there were meetings that were Not disclosed unless he specifally asked then they did 3 somes to supplement. After 2 yrs of this: she felt "given away", "not valued as his prize possession" - her self esteem had gone to -0- and he had turned to internet porn. They divorced. So "No" I don;t think it's swinging. If I had a million dollars, I wouldn't willingly hand it to aquaintences to play with for a night & return it & think it couldn't be deminishing with each person using it - my wife is worth a million dollars to me so what we do, we do as a "Couple" together. It's great for the Bull - No down side. Is it good for you or me as a Couple? Things that make you go "ummmmm".

The "bull" loves it but in the Big Picture is it good for the couple.

[Alura 2,775]

I have to agree with Metroman. The real attraction to swinging for Laura and me was the closeness we experienced by doing it together. I have to hand it to a couple who can endure cuckolding and even enhance their marriage with it, but (in my opinion) it cannot be swinging as Laura and I knew it.

 

For several years we had a regular "playcouple" who had been married thirty years. Apparently, she decided having an affair was about the same as swinging. That went on until she and her "bull" decided to leave their families (he had three young children at home) and live together. It lasted a few months until he returned to his wife and family.

 

In the meantime her husband, a college professor, met a younger graduate student and "found communication he'd never experienced before." They're married now and thrilled with each other.

 

His ex-wife lives alone in a one-bedroom apartment.

 

Laura and I were so appalled with the situation that we never looked for another playcouple, thinking that what we didn't know might, indeed, hurt us.

 

Alura

[snapps 78]

Denlin

 

I don't want this to come off harsh, but in my eyes what your wife is doing is wrong on at least two levels. One, she's having sex with her boss, that scenario looks like a big minefield to me. Two, you both are encouraging a cheater, which in the bosses mind he is, even if he's single he thinks your wife is cheating on you. I hope things work out ok but my thoughts are that we will be hearing bad news from you down the road.

 

Mr. Lol

 

 

I agree with this..... Even thgough it seems everything is all -good right now.... this isnt gonna last long the way things are going... I see a hard dose of reality setting in very soon, and its not gonna end pretty. I mean why would you be ok with your wife giving off the perception to another man that shes cheating on you and playing you for a fool?? Even more so, its with someone at the job... Her Boss!!!.... I dont know, i mean, i consider myself to be very open-minded, but even that is a bit much for me to understand... I dont know about this man, but good luck though...

[couplers 4,718]

Hey, Petra again. Sex with someone at work, let alone someone in the reporting chain? Never.

 

 

The only people that know of our sexual arrangements other than our play partners is my sister. If we are ever outed a work there would be talk of course, but I think everyone that counts would be professional enough to not let it affect anything. I would think that many would defend it as our private lives just out of principle.

 

 

But screwing the boss or subordinate is a betrayal of workplace order.

[lookingfora3rd 36]

yes there are others who enjoy the hell out of this idea. I am a confident lover, not small down there by any means, not ashamed of myself, etc. etc. and i know that she is attracted to me more than anyone else so we are not in the 'humiliation' cuckhold camp but i gotta say there is NOTHING HOTTER than the few times she has played alone and come right home after. She tells me every juicy detail while i do everything to her, but better than he did

so damn hot!!!!

ultimately though she likes MFM much more than playing alone and an almost bad encounter last time she met someone alone has caused us to re think that whole part as we both feel that i should be there for safety if nothing else.

but...if she does find someone down the road sometime i will not resist as it is really a huge turn on.