Couples Profile Reviews

[Dynamar 246]

The writing is very conversational and you seem very approachable. I, too, liked the face pix with both of you in it and smiling. The only vibe that I got that might be construed as negative to some readers was that you seemed a little eager... perhaps too eager. Especially the line "Can't wait to play with you", which could be interpreted as "we'll play with anybody." Otherwise... great job!

[here2play 15]

Interesting point Dynamar, but definately makes sense. Thanks!

[AwakeInFairfax 29]

Ooooooh. Do me, do me!

 

Oh, and since I'm a single male at the moment it doesn't matter what I think. You seem like a fun couple though, I really like the profile!

[fun4Ds 1,098]

excellent profile here2play

 

eros hummmm, funny thing you should mention that;)

[8inches 15]

The writing in your profile is excellent. I like the main picture but you might want to add few more pictures. Most couples have at least one pic of the female half either dressed in something sexy or in a sexy pose.

 

A sexy pic of your lady could be the thing that really helps out. Good luck!

[crazycatz 17]

The writing in your profile is excellent. I like the main picture but you might want to add few more pictures. Most couples have at least one pic of the female half either dressed in something sexy or in a sexy pose.

 

A sexy pic of your lady could be the thing that really helps out. Good luck!

 

I disagree with that. I think its either all or nothing, i.e. if you want sexy pics on your profile then both members of the couple should have them, not just the female.

 

One thing that really turns me off profiles are ones that contain loads of pornstar pics of the wife and one face pic or body shot or nohting of the husband.

 

Having said that, I'm generally turned off by all pornstar pics!

This couple's profile would be one that would catch my attention (in a good way) as a result.

[rpu3 630]

One thing that really turns me off profiles are ones that contain loads of pornstar pics of the wife and one face pic or body shot or nohting of the husband.

 

I agree.

 

I am the screener, and I'm going to tell you in my response that I'm not interested if there are no pictures of the husband. It's actually a pet peeve of mine to see profiles with 20 pics of the wife, but not even one of the husband. It's just wasting my time and to to me, it means that nobody gives a flying fig newton as to my potential interest or attraction to the man.

[ShellyM 0]

I agree.

 

I am the screener, and I'm going to tell you in my response that I'm not interested if there are no pictures of the husband. It's actually a pet peeve of mine to see profiles with 20 pics of the wife, but not even one of the husband. It's just wasting my time and to to me, it means that nobody gives a flying fig newton as to my potential interest or attraction to the man.

 

I agree with you completely; for us straight girls especially its frustrating to have to ASK constantly for face pics of hubby. We do have more of me on our profile but there are also a few of Jay. And not only face shots but ones that show both of our bodies. To me its just fair, it helps a couple make a good determination of whether or not Jay and/or I have the look/body type they are interested in.

[ShellyM 0]

I disagree with that. I think its either all or nothing, i.e. if you want sexy pics on your profile then both members of the couple should have them, not just the female.

 

I agree, we love pics of both wife and hubby. Now as far as sexy pics go, men are very limited in what they can do though. The sexiest pic a man can do to me is the shower one.....still dripping wet in just a towel. Yum yum yum! Women can do lots more poses than men can in my opinion. But yes, we love pics of both as well.

[here2play 15]

Thanks all! We have listened, learned and acted! The responses are already better!

[katsgoods 10]

How about our profile, could you check and see what we are doing wrong? We don't have pictures, we can not afford the membership just yet, and we have not received any responses at all. Thnak you

[sexcupid 809]

Kat,

 

Honestly, we would pass on the profile for 2 reasons...1. no pic...there has to be someone out there that has taken a digital pic of the two of you...post it! (It doesn't have to be a pervy pic, just one of the two of you that you like) and 2. there is NOTHING filled out in the profile. Not including your tag line, there is 4 sentences there (with the tag line 5). Plus the fact that you are only seeking females (married or single) is probably going to limit the number of prospective hits on your profile. You may want to take the opportunity to write in your profile exactly WHY you are only looking for a female playmate. Girl/girl play? Is soft swap with mainly the girls playing ok? Just elaborate a bit (particuarly on your descriptions of yourselfs since you don't yet have a picture to speak for you).

 

You do not have to be a paying member to post pics or write a profile. I don't think ours is superb, but have a looksie at it. There are pics of both of us and plenty written.

 

 

 

Maria

[here2play 15]

If you are considering having your profile looked at, we highly suggest it! We did it, and the feedback was wonderful! We took some advice, looked within our own desires and made some changes. Our responses to meeting/chatting have gotten so much better! Thanks all!

[des1re06 200]

AwakeinFairfax

 

Your SLS button under your avatar here doesn't work. Please turn on the public profile selection at SLS, and you'll get more response.

 

As to your profile, the one thing missing for me is a statement about respecting boundaries of the couple and/or female. Almost everyone has some sort of rules, and I want to see that you understand and respect that.

 

Read a little more here in the singles section and you will see that how you come across in your writing has alot to do with how you are perceived. Spend more time describing your sexual nature. Are you into lots of oral, massage, candelight dinners, or just plain gang bangs (even all of the above is ok, as everyone has different desires). We do not want to hear what YOU get out of the encounter, but what you'll give to the lady. See what I mean?

 

Picture - not sexy. You can be discreet and still have a sexy picture (face blocking with image software). Keep in mind here, the first impression is what gets couples/females to respond.

 

Good luck to you!

Mrs. D

[AwakeInFairfax 29]

AwakeinFairfax

 

Your SLS button under your avatar here doesn't work. Please turn on the public profile selection at SLS, and you'll get more response.

 

As to your profile, the one thing missing for me is a statement about respecting boundaries of the couple and/or female. Almost everyone has some sort of rules, and I want to see that you understand and respect that.

 

Read a little more here in the singles section and you will see that how you come across in your writing has alot to do with how you are perceived. Spend more time describing your sexual nature. Are you into lots of oral, massage, candelight dinners, or just plain gang bangs (even all of the above is ok, as everyone has different desires). We do not want to hear what YOU get out of the encounter, but what you'll give to the lady. See what I mean?

 

Picture - not sexy. You can be discreet and still have a sexy picture (face blocking with image software). Keep in mind here, the first impression is what gets couples/females to respond.

 

Good luck to you!

Mrs. D

 

Thanks a lot! I really took your advice to heart and added a bunch of info to my profile and turned my external back on. I just hope my wordiness doesn't turn people away, haha. The picture bit stung a bit at first but then I got what you said. I'll try and take some better ones this week.

[des1re06 200]

Just trying to help you sweetie. You're a good looking guy, so flaunt it! Not expecting porn shots, just a little more than you taking a picture of yourself.

[Head 15]

Well, I've been in the ad biz 30 years and have never seen anybody abbreviate the word advertisement as "add"....methinks you are looking for the abbreviation "ad"....just to help ensure folks do in fact use good spelling....your advice herein, however, is good enough that you probably ought to pen a regular column on the topic. Looks like it would be a big hit! All the best, JB

[swingcouple69 25]

Any one willing to give us a profile review (coupleswing69)? Any advice will be appreciated!

 

Thanks!

[sweet_tna 680]

Any one willing to give us a profile review (coupleswing69)? Any advice will be appreciated!

 

Thanks!

 

My #1 suggestion would be to add a photo of you and hubby together. A G-rated shot would do just fine, even if you want to cover or blur your faces for the public pics (you can uncover them for the private ones).

 

Other than that, it looks great to me!

 

=)

[ncmd_couple 597]

Well, I guess the curisotity got to me, what do you folks think about our profile?

 

S

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Well, I guess the curiosity got to me, what do you folks think about our profile?

We'd answer it. You present a good image of yourselves in your one-line profile. You also give all of the information that prospective contacts might need. Many of the members here at Swing Lifestyle will not be able to review it as you have your external link turned off.

 

I will respectfully suggest: 1) The problem you state in sharing photos through SLS might be that non-paid members cannot see a photo attached to a message if you profile has any "Type 2" nude or adult content photos. And this is true even if the photo you forwarded was a "Type 1" G-rated photo. 2) We have always been put off by any suggestion of exchanging pictures using regular e-mail. Don't think we are alone on this. 3) You might be leaving questions in peoples' minds by using relatively obscure terms like Golden Unicorn.

 

Good luck in your search,

 

Michael

[ncmd_couple 597]

Michael,

 

Thanks for the feedback. I forgot about the pic comment, I need to take that out as it was operator error. Mine! Haha, I thought everyone knew what that was, it was ment as a joke.

 

S

[ncmd_couple 597]

Michael,

 

A second reply... we turned off our external link after several outing threads here. Both of us have fairly high profile jobs and the thought of someone just cruising seeing it scared us. We figured that if someone was a member of the site they can still find us if interested.

 

S

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Michael,

 

A second reply... we turned off our external link after several outing threads here. Both of us have fairly high profile jobs and the thought of someone just cruising seeing it scared us. We figured that if someone was a member of the site they can still find us if interested.

 

S

This is understandable. Though I'd check maybe in case you simply had simply missed it.

M

[ncmd_couple 597]

Thanks!

[sexcupid 809]

Michael,

 

A second reply... we turned off our external link after several outing threads here. Both of us have fairly high profile jobs and the thought of someone just cruising seeing it scared us. We figured that if someone was a member of the site they can still find us if interested.

 

S

 

Well, I logged into SLS to have a looksie...but your entire profile shows as invisible...

 

Maria

[fungacouple33 15]

We would love any advice for our profile  fungacouple33 @ swinglifestyle.com Thanks in advance....

S&S

[des1re06 200]

ncmd_Couple - the only thing that worried me was the camera. Some folks would be very reluctant to have their pics taken in a sexual setting. If it were me, I would put a small comment that permission is asked before taking pics.

 

fungacouple33 - words to correct for spelling: "upper class men (classmen)" "hones (t)" "children a(t) home" "down town" (downtown)

 

Alot of information about family, what you don't like and how busy you are, but very little about what you bring to the table sexually. What do you enjoy?

 

Mrs. D

[ncmd_couple 597]

Well, I logged into SLS to have a looksie...but your entire profile shows as invisible...

 

Maria

 

I have no idea why that would be.... Let me look

[ncmd_couple 597]

ncmd_Couple - the only thing that worried me was the camera. Some folks would be very reluctant to have their pics taken in a sexual setting. If it were me, I would put a small comment that permission is asked before taking pics.

 

Good suggestion, thanks, profile changed.

[WesternSwing 504]

fungacouple33 said:

We would love any advice for our profile 

Your profile is pretty good, but the two things that caught my eye right off is the repeated

Quote

***********We are not interested in DRAMA of any kind*******************

and your tag line

Quote

No Fakes Please......

These kinds of things send out a big red flag to many couples. There is even a thread on this board about this subject, and the general consensus is that those that say these things usually bring the most drama to the table. I'm sure you're not one of these couples, so I'd just eliminate those from your profile altogether.

[sexcupid 809]

I have no idea why that would be.... Let me look

 

I like it...the pics are nice (love the motor scooter )...and lots of information to read (which I like).

 

Maria

[SCcpl40 74]

sccpl40 @ swinglifestyle.com

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

LM...Thanks for your feedback...and the compliment. However, we've gotten a lot of compliments on our profile and to be totally honest...if someone is really interested in us and not...f**king around...they're going to take that time and that is EXACTLY why the profile is so long.We want serious people who aren't just wanting to screw and run and not even take the time to say hello...and I've tweaked that profile a few times specifically so that certain people will sense our irritation and not even write if they're not serious.So, I'm glad for the most part, our message is getting through.And, we haven't gotten half the junk mail we used to get since I created this profile. Thanks again for your feedback.

 

 

We are serious and looking to meet people for more than sex, but just like when I see REALLY long posts on this board, I tend to skip really long profiles as well. I might read the first paragraph and if it doesn't really get my attention in those first few sentences then I'm not going to keep reading. Aside from losing a lot of people who are going to get bored before they finish reading... another thing to think about is to remember to keep something to talk about later (whether you talk through email, IM or on the phone), there should be questions still to be asked and answered.

 

You seem like you are getting upset that someone gave you some constructive criticism about your profile, which makes little sense, since one would assume that the reason you posted your profile here for review was that you wanted some constructive criticism. Either that or you were just wanting an ego boost and a pat on the back that you already had a perfect profile. No one's profile is perfect, everyon's can use a little tweak now and then. And yes different people are going to see different things based on what they like to see in a profile. If you were having such success with your profile already then there was little reason to ask people to review it and give feedback. Right?

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

fungacouple33 said:

We would love any advice for our profile 

 

The first paragraph of your profile was GREAT. I think you did a wonderful job of explaining EXACTLY what you are and are not looking for. Kudos to you there. However, when I got to the second paragraph I started getting bored and then I looked down and I saw a LOT more reading to do. I would say try to shorten those parts. When you tell about yourselves, give a little more details about what you like outside of the bedroom (since you've already said you'd like more than one -night stands) - I'd like to know if we have something in common. I know it's not a valid assumption but I think most would assume that if you are a happy swinging couple you have a good sex life at home...

 

The last two sections are really good and again go into some good points about what you are looking for. Really the only thing I would change is the "about you" section, as I don't think it adequately tells a reader enough about you to know if we have anything in common.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

SCcpl40 said:

sccpl40 @ swinglifestyle.com

 

overall a great profile. I was just confused on one point. Reading through most of your profile I got the impression that while you may not be bed-hoppers that you were definitely more interested in the sexual aspects than in friends. Then your last line is something like "we may become your new best friends" which makes we wonder which it is that you are looking for. If friendship is something you are seeking over just sex, you may want to make some changes to make that more clear.

[SCcpl40 74]

Well, we're looking for both, and when we find it, we hang on to it. "what we do think of ourselves is based on the quality of friends we have maintained over a long period of time." Thanks for taking the time to look at our profile.

[WesternSwing 504]

The first paragraph of your profile was GREAT. I think you did a wonderful job of explaining EXACTLY what you are and are not looking for. Kudos to you there. However, when I got to the second paragraph I started getting bored and then I looked down and I saw a LOT more reading to do. I would say try to shorten those parts.

I think one thing that would help is breaking it up into several paragraphs rather than one run-on paragraph. That would make it easier to read and not seem as daunting.

[brandi511 15]

biblonde said:

 We will take any comment good or bad..or any ideas on how to improve it.

I liked your profile, it had all the information I would want to know - but I would make at least 1 picture public, even if it doesn't have your faces in it. I hate looking at profiles without having a clue as to what the people look like, but that might just my opinion.

[cocpl2007 170]

Well, we're looking for both, and when we find it, we hang on to it. "what we do think of ourselves is based on the quality of friends we have maintained over a long period of time." Thanks for taking the time to look at our profile.

 

Great job with the profile, the only thing I noticed was the word "breast" you might want to make that "breasts" unless of course there is one natural and one otherwise!

 

Your profile as written oozes quality, really nice and appealing.

[SCcpl40 74]

Thanks, made the change!

[Styles-N-Heidi 41]

Oh please do us. StylesNFreakydiva on SLS

[des1re06 200]

Good information and pictures.

 

The only part that threw me off was your tagline: be fore riting us...

 

I understand the point you're trying to make, but it took me a minute to figure out that that's not the way you write. So, if I were perusing the ads, I would pass you by just for that, and never get to the great writing in your profile. I'm also a stickler for intelligent conversation.

 

Item 3. "Goes for you to guys" The to should be too (ie. also).

 

You sound like a great couple!

 

Mrs. D

[ncmd_couple 597]

There are a few minor typos in there, otherwise, a good profile.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Oh please do us. StylesNFreakydiva on SLS

The next time I hear the guy that yells switch I will switch his head to another area of his body? My recommendation is that you not display this kind of feeling in an on-line profile. It might scare away some people who would be worthwhile knowing.

 

M

[Styles-N-Heidi 41]

Well certain parts of our profile were written with the intention of being humorous. The tag line and the switch thing have gotten us more emails than anything else. We even had one couple write us with a subject line that said how do you spell Gorgous? Awwww. Thanks for pointing out the grammatical error I made. I will correct it now.

[BiloxiCouple 695]

Some of your pictures had dates on them that went back to 2002. Might want to update?

[Styles-N-Heidi 41]

Batteries fell out of the camera. I didn't realize it posted the dates on them otherwise I would of reset it. I wish I could photoshop the dates off because those pics were taken three months ago.

[rpu3 630]

Batteries fell out of the camera. I didn't realize it posted the dates on them otherwise I would of reset it. I wish I could photoshop the dates off because those pics were taken three months ago.

 

You could use your basic MS Paint program to crop it out, or "spray paint" it out, or one of the free programs (Infranview, etc.) to just select the relevant part of your pictures and discard the rest (i.e., the date).

 

Good luck!

[NWGA_Couple 41]

Hey it's us again. We had to take a few months off due to work and other life related BS. We decided to redo the add and change what we were looking for when we started back up. Any feed back is welcome. Thank you.