Couples Profile Reviews

[Dare2Share 16]

Very nice. Very "to the point". You may want to give a little more detail about things you'd like to do and/or things that are off limits. For example, are you looking for long-term friends with whom you "play" occassionally (the impression I got), or are you more interested in just getting comfortable enough to have sex but not really interested in non-lifestyle related activities? Regarding sex, are you interested in soft swap, full swap, no swap but same room, swap in seperate rooms? With another couple, would you be interested in doing another MFM? How bout FFM or FMF? (I'm guessing PROBABLY on those last three) Does she like anal? (some people will want to know) Are you into any fetish-related activities, such as BDSM, water sports, etc.? Or are you opposed to them (which is pretty standard, from my experience)?

 

Some of that is unnecessary, however it's helpful to give folks an idea of what you're into/interested in. For example, I've overlooked some couples that I would otherwise be interested in because of fetishes that don't jive with us. As you are new to this (according to your prof) I'm gonna tell you that it's okay to turn away people who's sexual desires (and other interests) differ from your own. It's okay to be choosey. You want to make sure that the people you get together with are on the same page as you, and that you're basically compatible on a personality level.

 

Anyway, there's my 2 coppers. Good luck!

 

Matt

 

Thanks for the advice, I really appreciate it. I'm going to go back and add a few things to it.

[NandTfromCA 84]

Dare2Share said:

I'm going to throw this out there for you guys. Please let me know what you think.

dextrousduo on SLS

 

 

We think your profile is great!

 

We ditto what Matt said.

 

Here are a couple other things:

 

Along the lines of what Matt already said- Does the female half of the couple you meet NEED to be bi, or are you just as eager to find a couple for male/female play?

 

A lot of people have statements in their profiles that describe their appearance (“We are an interracial couple…”). Our opinion is that for the most part, your pictures should do the talking when it comes to looks.

 

“…quite unintentionally become home bodies…”- Are you saying that it wasn’t intentional but now you like it, or are you saying that you settled into a comfortable pattern but are looking to get out more? Either way is great, it just has to represent who YOU are.

 

You seem like a very nice couple. Good luck!

[Dare2Share 16]

We think your profile is great!

 

We ditto what Matt said.

 

Here are a couple other things:

 

Along the lines of what Matt already said- Does the female half of the couple you meet NEED to be bi, or are you just as eager to find a couple for male/female play?

 

A lot of people have statements in their profiles that describe their appearance (“We are an interracial couple…”). Our opinion is that for the most part, your pictures should do the talking when it comes to looks.

 

“…quite unintentionally become home bodies…”- Are you saying that it wasn’t intentional but now you like it, or are you saying that you settled into a comfortable pattern but are looking to get out more? Either way is great, it just has to represent who YOU are.

 

You seem like a very nice couple. Good luck!

 

Great! I've taken your advice and adjusted our profile accordingly.

[The Fuse 1,012]

Here's one couple's humble opinion:

 

If we told you that we would be all over meeting you two if you were closer, would that give you a good idea of what we think of your profile?

 

Love the subtle humor and how direct you are about what you want and who you are looking for.

 

Your pics are great too (your main pic is extremely similar to one of ours ). We like the classy and sexy look you guys seemed to be going for.

 

Thanks for the compliments! I just looked at your profile, and it IS too bad we live on opposite coasts. I like what you said about how life-long friends are fine, but that level of compatibility is not required for play. One comment: in your first sentence, you mis-spelled "dinner" as "diner".

[good times 991]

The Fuse said:

Hi folks,

 

Could some nice volunteer(s) review ours too? We're at The_Fuse on swinglifestyle.com Thanks!

I liked your profile and do not have any useful suggestions that would help you improve it. I may plagiarize some ideas from it to help improve ours though, hope you don't mind. I especially liked your pictures, sexy yet tasteful, wish I was a better photographer.

[good times 991]

RenoFantasy said:

Ooo, a ! Let us jump on for a ride

 

RenoFantasy said:

renofantasy on swinglifestyle.com

 

Matt & Sarah

We like your profile as it is a good example of a clear informative profile without being overly long. Knowing you two, I have to say it is a very accurate description of you, more so than most folks we have met from SLS.

[good times 991]

If you'd like to take a look at ours, it's: jimnjan.swinglifestyle.com (think I have that right?!)

 

First time I'm posting here, I know should have introduced ourselves prior, but what better way then giving our profile? LOL

Firt off Welcome to the board.

 

Overall a very nice profile, in my opinion. I would agree with NandTfromCA though in that the repeating of his being straight so often kind of gives the profile a negative feeling that does not seem necessary to me to get the point across.

[jimnjan 16]

Firt off Welcome to the board.

 

Overall a very nice profile, in my opinion. I would agree with NandTfromCA though in that the repeating of his being straight so often kind of gives the profile a negative feeling that does not seem necessary to me to get the point across.

 

First, thanks to EVERYONE for their feedback, we've made some revisions, thanks to your suggestions! We did have a picture of him, it was just private, as we have a need for being discrete. However, I've taken that pic and worked the effects on the face, so there is a public pic showing no face and a private pic showing face. Altered the profile a bit, we think it does sound much better with the suggestions that were made.

 

THANKS AGAIN!!

[The Fuse 1,012]

good times said:

I liked your profile and do not have any useful suggestions that would help you improve it. I may plagiarize some ideas from it to help improve ours though, hope you don't mind. I especially liked your pictures, sexy yet tasteful, wish I was a better photographer.

 

Thanks, GoodTimes! I always like reading your posts and Mrs. GoodTimes' posts. Your profile looks nice too. Do you have any pictures of you that you can crop and make public, so the ladies can get an idea of what you look like? We occasionally get emails from couples who have, say, one ass shot of the lady, and ask if we're interested. Often their profiles say little to nothing, unlike yours, and of course I haven't been reading their posts for months either. How are we supposed to know if we're interested?? I always suspect couples like this are not really serious.

[good times 991]

Thanks, GoodTimes! I always like reading your posts and Mrs. GoodTimes' posts. Your profile looks nice too.

Thank you, I to enjoy reading your posts here.

 

Do you have any pictures of you that you can crop and make public, so the ladies can get an idea of what you look like?

You know I have been thinking I need to do that too lately. The problem we have is that the pictures that we have private have both of us in them and I will admit that I pretty much suck as a photographer but Mrs. GT is even worse. So most of the pictures we have with me in them were taken by somebody else. We will have to work on that though as I think it is a good idea to have a public picture of both of us.

[NandTfromCA 84]

...it IS too bad we live on opposite coasts.

It can be a small world so who knows if we will run into each other somewhere

 

 

 

 

One comment: in your first sentence, you mis-spelled "dinner" as "diner".

Someone else tried to set us straight on that before but somehow we didn't fix it. Thank you so much for pointing it out...we now have it fixed

[The Fuse 1,012]

Here is an interesting experience we had recently, that is somewhat related to this thread.

 

In another post I mentioned getting emails from couples with, say, an ass shot and a breast shot, and of course none of the guy. I was thinking of one we had gotten that day. Stereotypically, their profile said almost nothing about them, and all their email said was "liked your profile and pics, are you interested"? or something to that effect. I almost just sent back a "Sorry, no thanks" but then for some reason (I can't bring myself to just do that, it seems so dismissive) wrote them a message that asked for more G- or PG-rated pictures, one or two of their male half, and if they could tell us anything about what their likes and dislikes are, what they are looking for, etc.

 

To my utter surprise, they didn't just fade into the woodwork upon being asked something so unreasonable. They opened up their private pictures (more body parts, but at least I could see their faces and one of the guy). The really unusual part is that they wrote some more in their profile! I could actually get an inkling of a suggestion of who they were.

 

We still didn't have a match, but when I wrote them back, I suggested their time hadn't been wasted since their updated profile would get a better reaction. They actually sent a "thanks" in response! Who knew?! People can surprise you sometimes.

[PGHcpl83 15]

Hey guys we are rebuilding our profile and would like some help please check it out. PGHcpl83 @ swinglifestyle. We want great so be brutal. Take Care.

 

-R and S

[good times 991]

Hey guys we are rebuilding our profile and would like some help please check it out. PGHcpl83 @ swinglifestyle. We want great so be brutal. Take Care.

 

-R and S

Your pictures are good but I think you need to add some details to your profile. More information about what you are looking for, what you are interested in and a little more details about yourselves would make it much easier for someone to get more of a feel for you.

[The Fuse 1,012]

Ditto to Good Times. A little about what you like to do when you go out (e.g. food, movies, dancing, sports, etc.), and a little about your other hobbies or interests are good things to mention. Then people have a starting point from which to make conversation with you. Your smiles are really nice; you look like a fun couple to hang out with.

[kandr2000 15]

Ok, here I go, please be kind but honest......

 

kandr2000 at swinglifestyle.com

 

We are new to this and have a few options open, but are wondering honestly what people think. We want to come across as down to earth, friendly people.

[Gena 15]

here is ours...

 

seoh on swinglifestyle.com

[2jersey 16]

Gena said:

here is ours...

 

seoh on swinglifestyle.com

 

Your profile needs alot of work.

 

You will get a much better response if you include photos in your profile - public and/or private. "Pictures available upon request" implies that you are intending to e-mail photos to those who ask? If you are concerned about privacy, post some private photos which you can open at your choosing.

 

I believe you intended for your tag line to read: "First time for everything"

Take another pass through your profile and try to fix some of the spelling, grammar and punctuation errors.

 

You claim to be looking for people with "similar desires", but other than saying you want to meet and play, you don't express any specific desires.

 

I don't believe you need to place so much emphasis on your being D&D free. I would rather have you describe yourselves as clean, fit, healthy, etc...

 

Perhaps include a little information about what interests you (other than sex), or describe some of your more attractive qualities.

[cj22s 15]

can some one give an opinion on ours

 

cj22s on swinglifestyle.com

 

we would really appreciate it.

[NandTfromCA 84]

kandr2000 said:

Ok, here I go, please be kind but honest......

 

kandr2000 at swinglifestyle.com

 

We are new to this and have a few options open, but are wondering honestly what people think. We want to come across as down to earth, friendly people.

 

Overall it’s pretty good.

 

Some small items:

 

Telling the male half of the couple not to contact you will probably result in you getting emails signed by the female and sent by the male. Maybe you could just put something like “I (our female half) would look to speak with your female half for our first conversation. After all, if the girls get along, everything else will flow easier.” Then you could put the “No single men” line at the end of that section.

 

I would get rid of the “…we aren’t model looking skinny…” sentence. The statement reads a little defensive. Your pics and height/weight will give them an idea of your build.

 

The last part about having a family, job, etc could be condensed. Most of the people we’ve met have kids, jobs, family, ets so it’s understood that getting together could take some planning.

 

For your man, for the pics that show up first on your profile, you might consider putting something up other than his “package”.

 

Nice profile overall!

[Deptydog 15]

I'm sure that our SLS profile needs a lot of work as well. Any help or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. However, I don't know how to link our profile to here.

 

Our SLS name is also Deptydog.

 

Thanks

[DGrey 28]

I recently had someone tell me it's too long.

 

dgrey on swinglifestyle.com

[DGrey 28]

Deptydog said:

I'm sure that our SLS profile needs a lot of work as well. Any help or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. However, I don't know how to link our profile to here.

 

Our SLS name is also Deptydog.

 

Thanks

 

I would be a bit more detailed as to what you're looking for. The duplicate picture of the female half should be deleted as well.

[Deptydog 15]

Thank you for the input. I have changed it a bit and added more detail. I hope this is better.

 

Thanks

[Spoomonkey 421]

DGrey said:

I recently had someone tell me it's too long.

 

Not too long, really - but the format makes it hard to read. I would break it into paragraphs. It would make it a lot more inviting to read.

[PGHcpl83 15]

Thank you all for the advice, check again and see what you think this time. Sadly we feel this will be a slow process cause every time we try our minds go blank. Take Care.

 

-R and S

PGHcpl83 @ SLS

[DGrey 28]

Spoomonkey said:

Not too long, really - but the format makes it hard to read. I would break it into paragraphs. It would make it a lot more inviting to read.

 

Thanks Spoo! It is broken up into paragraphs but for some reason, when you access the external link on SLS, it's smushed together. If you're logged in and read it, it's broken up.

[DGrey 28]

Thank you all for the advice, check again and see what you think this time. Sadly we feel this will be a slow process cause every time we try our minds go blank. Take Care.

 

-R and S

PGHcpl83 @ SLS

 

Looks good, great pictures as well! I'd clean it up a bit grammar wise but then again, I'm an English teacher so my eyes are more sensitive to mistakes. Otherwise, it's good.

 

I would add some information about what the male half likes though.

 

E&D

[PGHcpl83 15]

Who cares about the male, just kidding, thank you we looked it over and cleaned it up.

 

-R and S

[Gena 15]

Thanks NJersey....

 

Boy you were right, maybe late night signing up isn't the best idea LOL

I redid ours, how is that?

 

seoh. on swinglifestyle.com

[2jersey 16]

Gena said:

I redid ours how is that?

 

That is quite an improvement. If you tweak it a bit each day, you will get it to where it reads smoothly and conveys the message which you intend.

 

Your interest levels suggest you are willing to meet couples (in addition to females). In your text, you focus alot on females - you may want to include a few words about couples' play.

 

BTW, you mention that he prefers women who are "smaller than him". Given that he is 6'0" and 240 pounds, you may not need to state this particular preference.

[LICouple4u 15]

WHEW - long thread - finally realized I was reading April 2005 and skipped ahead a few pages to get to 2006

 

On SLS we're LiCouple4u as well - would love a critique. We're open to changing it around a bit and actually just made a few edits due to what we read here.

 

I, the female, tend to do most of the profile stuff and I am CLUELESS on HTML - so I'll have to ask hubby if it's thought that we should paragraph a bit.

 

One thing I read in a few profiles that I am TOTALLY clueless about and never heard before was comments that someone is surgically safe - does that mean their tubes were tied (be it male or female )?

 

Anyway, looking forward to any responses we get.

[2jersey 16]

WHEW - long thread - finally realized I was reading April 2005 and skipped ahead a few pages to get to 2006

 

On SLS we're LiCouple4u as well - would love a critique. We're open to changing it around a bit and actually just made a few edits due to what we read here.

 

I, the female, tend to do most of the profile stuff and I am CLUELESS on HTML - so I'll have to ask hubby if it's thought that we should paragraph a bit.

 

One thing I read in a few profiles that I am TOTALLY clueless about and never heard before was comments that someone is surgically safe - does that mean their tubes were tied (be it male or female )?

 

Anyway, looking forward to any responses we get.

 

 

LICouple4u - You don’t seem to have garnered any responses yet, so we’ll give you our quick views:

 

There are two questions which every profile should address: What do you seek? What do you offer?

 

Overall, you do a very good job on describing what you seek. The ‘friendship’ objective is something which we see a lot – but not something with which we can personally relate. For us, sexual attraction proceeds at a faster pace than the development of a true friendship. Our motto (if we had a motto) would be comfort and compatibility first, sex second, and friendship is welcome, should it develop over time.

 

You are very candid with respect to your meeting/travel limitations (related to family obligations), without also sounding defensive (it is what it is…) This gives us a sense of your priorities – and we (personally) respect those priorities.

 

If you want a very good profile to be a great profile, we would like to see you beef up the discussion of what it is you offer. Try to convey a bit more personal information about yourselves and what makes you special – inject a bit more of your personality.

 

Finally - of your 14 public photos, only one photo is of him. We would like to see a better male/female balance.

[LICouple4u 15]

TwoJersey - thanks Made some changes. I do agree, must get more pics of hubby, he's usually behind the camera vs being in front of it.. We will change that though

[jandg 25]

Always good to have someone else look and edit:

 

jimandgail at swinglifestyle.com

 

We're also on ClubLifestyles as jimandgail.

[2jersey 16]

jandg said:

Always good to have someone else look and edit:

 

Here are our quick and random thoughts.

 

Your profile states that you are “only interested in the softer side of swing”. Your “no intercourse” limitation is certainly consistent with soft swing. But your “no kissing” rule may be a turnoff for other soft swap couples (including us) who consider kissing to be a significant aspect of soft play. However, if you are committed to “no kissing”, it is entirely appropriate that you mention this limitation in your profile.

 

We appreciate the fact that you mention how recent your photos were taken. We would prefer that that your private photos should be a bit more up-to-date than three years, but you are completely forthright (unlike many others).

 

You say that you are not bi or bi-curious, but willing to consider other options. As oft discussed on this board, there are many different definitions of bisexual – but we believe that “willingness to consider other options” would qualify you (either he/she or both) as bi-curious.

 

No need to shout (all caps) ‘couple’ or ‘person’, in our opinion.

 

You say that you have posted age limits because you have to, but they are flexible. If these preferences are flexible, why not broaden the limits a bit. Age 21 seems low to us based on your ages, but age 60 might be a bit limiting. If age 65 works for you, change your upper limit.

 

“Spread shot” photos are not allowed on SLS, so there is no need to make this reference in your SLS profile.

 

It is unusual to see the male’s chest measurements in a profile where the female chest measurements are not listed. You may want to exclude this measurement altogether, or list the female’s measurements.

 

Your public photos are nice – and it is good that the male has equal representation (for a change). We usually interpret public face photos as a sign that a couple is ‘out’. If you are not out, you are at high risk of being ‘outed’.

 

We don't mean to be insulting, but at 5’6”, she looks to be a tad above 120 pounds. But most people don’t care if this data is accurate as long as pictures are visible.

 

There are a few grammar errors – nothing major. PM us if you want precise input on this aspect. (Or if you want to yell at us for being so candid.)

[jandg 25]

Thanks for the input.

[bourbonnchristi 15]

Please give us your thoughts on our profile:  bourbonnchristi on swinglifestyle.com

[2jersey 16]

bourbonnchristi said:

Please give us your thoughts on our profile

 

Overall, your profile is okay. It addresses the two key questions: 1) What are you seeking? 2) What do you have to offer? You can, if you would like, improve the clarity and formatting a bit. Our random/quick thoughts follow:

 

You wrote: “We are certainly not what you would call “hardcore swingers” thou we are certainly not tame in the least bit.” The interest levels on your profile suggest that you are equally interested in tame, moderate and wild activities. There is an apparent contradiction.

 

You wrote: “As always we are looking for single bisexual ladies or couples where the lady is either bi or straight.” We’re not sure what you mean by the term “as always”.

 

You have misspelled the word “though” two times. There are a few capitalization and punctuation errors scattered throughout the profile.

 

“You wrote: He is straight but not necessarily homophobic…” Literally translated this implies that he ‘might’ be homophobic. You might want to clarify this point.

 

You wrote: “We are a married white couple in our early 30s.” We don’t need to hear that you are ‘white’ - this is a dated adjective, in our opinion, and it clear from your pictures. Your data states her age at 28 (which is not ‘early 30s’) – perhaps '30ish' is a better term.

 

You include your sexual objectives (FMF, MFMF, etc…) in the “describe yourself” section of your profile. If you want to follow the SLS format, this information should be in the “We are looking for” section.

 

Twice in your profile you state that you “prefer a more intimate setting with few people”. You only need to make this point once.

 

Your existing photo is fine, but we would like to see a few additional photos.

[bourbonnchristi 15]

Thanks for the input Jersey...We will be fleshing out our profile over the next few days. Thanks agian for the constructive critisicm

[kandr2000 15]

kandr2000 at swinglifestyle.com/

 

Here is our profile again....I did make a few changes. We have decided to add a facial pic to our profile, just dont have any that are very good. We have both lost some weight lately, also cut and dyed my hair. So pics we have aren't very current. Anyways, anymore advice would be appreciated. Thanks, Kelly

[xxhale 15]

would love some input on ours xxhale @s winglifestye.com.

[2jersey 16]

kandr2000 said:

 

Here is our profile again....I did make a few changes.

 

Hi Kelly, Most of the problems are grammar related, but a few sentences stand out as needing clarification (or elimination)…

 

You wrote: “If you are the male half of a couple (cheating on their spouse) we are not interested.” --- Since your objectives don’t include single males, this statement is either redundant (in this context, no single males means the same thing as no cheating males) or gender-biased (unless you are okay with cheating females, but want to exclude cheating males).

 

You mention your husband is “straight but not afraid of other guys”. --- We would remove the reference to his not being afraid of other guys – it sounds a bit defensive.

 

“We both have been very happy for 8 years, so we have a little extra padding.” --- Confusing statement - does eight years of happiness lead to an increase in body size?

 

You say you want to “talk to the female half of a couple to make arrangements to chat or talk, or meet.” --- Do you really want to talk to someone to make arrangements to talk?

 

We believe you need more/better pictures of your male. Update all of your photos, as soon as possible. Overall, the profile works, but we don’t get a good sense for your personalities. Injecting a bit of warmth and/or humor might be helpful.

[AlaskanGrown 15]

We'll take a stab at it. alaskan_grown.swinglifestyle.com  I just set this up, and there will be more and better pics once we are actively seeking. If it seems a bit vague it's simply because we consider ourselves pretty accepting and we don't know what we like...yet.

 

--Hubby

[LICouple4u 15]

Alaskan - nice profile, you really do give off the goof-ball aura that I think you want to - and that attracts me

 

Your profile states you're not seeking tobacco smokers, does that mean those who smoke 'other' things are ok? Slightly misleading there. Might just want to state that you don't smoke and are seeking other non-smokers.

 

You state that if people are interested they should send you pictures, that gives off a feeling that you are a picture collector and/or only care about looks.

 

You are seeking a single female only? I see you have a little bit for couples. I also see a little bit for wild, so you might want to clarify that within the profile.

 

It really doesn't need a whole lot of work, it's short and actually seems to display what you are and what you seek. Just might want to add a little bit more meat within it.

[angelrose85053 16]

Ok My turn! aim4kev @ SLS Thanks for any feedback!

 

Aimee

[2jersey 16]

You state that if people are interested they should send you pictures, that gives off a feeling that you are a picture collector and/or only care about looks.

 

Many people want to see pictures - to us, this is no indication that you "only" care about looks - it merely means that appearance is a factor which you will consider. Perfectly reasonable and common.

 

We perceive a different issue regarding the pictures: On SLS, the picture exchange process is usually accomplished by opening private photos for one another – but as ‘free’ members you are not able to view private photos.

[AlaskanGrown 15]

Alaskan - nice profile, you really do give off the goof-ball aura that I think you want to - and that attracts me

 

Your profile states you're not seeking tobacco smokers, does that mean those who smoke 'other' things are ok? Slightly misleading there. Might just want to state that you don't smoke and are seeking other non-smokers.

 

Yeah. We're cool with herb, but it's not something you can advertise on a singles ad. The notation of "no tobacco" would make sense to our smoker friends that don't smoke tobacco.

 

You state that if people are interested they should send you pictures, that gives off a feeling that you are a picture collector and/or only care about looks.

 

I'm not seeing that in the profile. Is this some default setting?

 

*EDIT* My wife must have added that line. We're not judgmental on looks. In fact neither she nor I are turned on all that often by the typical Ken & Barbie look. We simply like to have a face to put with who we're talking to.

 

You are seeking a single female only? I see you have a little bit for couples. I also see a little bit for wild, so you might want to clarify that within the profile.

 

 

Thanks. I'll fix this when I have a moment. We'd be interested in couples down the road, but we'd rather start off with an extra F in the mix if possible.

 

It really doesn't need a whole lot of work, it's short and actually seems to display what you are and what you seek. Just might want to add a little bit more meat within it.

 

Will do.

 

--Hubby

[NFA-n-Indy 15]

Could you guys tell us what you think of ours. We know there's no pic of the Mr. and we are working on that. Our name there is "IndyNFA"

[LICouple4u 15]

Many people want to see pictures - to us, this is no indication that you "only" care about looks - it merely means that appearance is a factor which you will consider. Perfectly reasonable and common.

 

We perceive a different issue regarding the pictures: On SLS, the picture exchange process is usually accomplished by opening private photos for one another – but as ‘free’ members you are not able to view private photos.

 

It was just the way it was written - something like 'if you are interested in us, send us pictures.' I know they didn't mean it that way though It just needed to be reworded, not deleted. I see they did reword it in an excellent way.

 

Thanks for the info regarding private pictures on SLS. We became lifetime members right away, so I could only remember that they can't see nude pics.