Did you get into swinging to watch your wife with other men?

[Flori_DAMAN 26]

To precede this poll I have seen many if not most guys say that they want to watch their wife get fucked by a man. Many guys like to experience their wives getting "deflowered" after they have a stable relationship by being with them while they pleasure and are pleasured by a male.

 

So here is the poll.

[TeamSoBe 36]

I voted for the second one. I love watching my wife with another guy, but hey, I like sex myself, I'm not a eunuch or something.

 

Our first experiences in swinging were threesomes with straight guys. That environment helped my wife get into things because she could completely put any insecurity about me leaving her out of her head. I had a blast and I am always looking for a decent single guy for threesomes, but I wouldn't be happy if that's all that we ever did.

 

I also don't like it if I'm not there. When she gets with a guy and I'm not there I normally get very cranky about it afterward. Some people have been saying that their wives are into it but they want to be alone the first time. I'm really just not into that. I don't necessarily have to be involved, but I want to be there and know what's going on.

[Brit_Pair 62]

In our case, the primary reason for getting into these sorts of shenanigans was the opportunity for some female 2 female encounters. It was only later that I found myself excited by the idea of my wife pleasuring another man.

 

Right now, I’d be content to see her sucking another man’s cock. Like TeamSoBe, I’d want to be there. And like TeamSoBe, I wouldn’t be opposed to the experience of another woman’s mouth, if it was something that happened while we were with another couple. However, that would simply be a bonus.

[Vjklander 138]

I love to see my wife with another man or woman, and she loves to see me with another woman. We don't swap usually, just all go at it together. Occasionally I'll let her go solo with someone else, but only with select special people.

[Emy_Fraser 15]

We got into this so I could meet other bi ladies. It seemed the only way, and I didn't want to do stuff without Fraser.

 

At the start I was worried about him seeing me with other men and I wasn't sure I wanted it anyway. However, he does enjoy watching me getting "a good seeing to" as he puts it and knowing that turns me on too.

[lovefest04 700]

We started this mostly as an experiment, a chance to explore new and adventerous games. She was reluctant, shy at first.

 

I am totally ok with watching her with other men, yes a turn-on, mostly because it gets her so hot. She really loves two men giving her attention, and I love watching her get attention.

 

But we really began this as a team and are committed to playing together whether that play includes another man, woman or couple. It's all good. Swinging is an opportunity to experience others, to explore our sexual fantasies and "perversions" knowing that at the end of the day, we still have each other.

[Guest Mr&Mrs-naughty]

Watching Mrs naughty with another man is the Main reason we got into swinging but I never just sit back and watch. I am always participating in one way or another in a very straight way.

 

To be honest I can't just sit there and watch. It makes me feel like a peeping tom. Not sure why but it does. I mean I will watch for short periods while not participating (Less than 5 minutes, but even then I am usually snapping pictures ) but I just can't sit back during an entire sexual experience and watch from across the room.

[WesternSwing 504]

I also chose the second one. The primary reason was for my wife to be with other women. And we all know how hard it is to find single bi-female. My wife says "it's all about the pussy, and if I get some extra dick in the process, all the better."

 

I am really neutral about watching her with another man. It doesn't turn me on more than any other activity. We haven't been with a single male yet, but in my head I want it to be truely a MFM thing and not a MFM thing. At this point in our experience, it would make me jealous to be left out. So it would be turn-on being an "us" thing, but a turn-off being a "them" thing.

[serialkilla 15]

What I want more than anything is to watch my wife get fucked by another guy as I watch, BUT, I can't get her to do it...she tells me "NO! I'm not a whore!"and gets all pissed off. Is there a way I can tell her or talk to her so she would make this dream of mine come true?

[HotMoCpl 20]

The main reason was to see her do another guy and later me participating.

[anothercouple69 17]

Seriallilla,

 

Don't take this the wrong way, but chances are, like most men,

you're going about it all the wrong way. I don't know how you've

gone about it, but my hubby made & has been able to make feel good

about my desires. Don't get me wrong he still fucks up now and then,

but you got to understand, as a female, we are brought up to be

proper girls. And we all know, "Good girls don't have those kind of

thoughts, only sluts do". Yes, I've been with more than one man,

I've even had a gang bang, but not without feeling like I shouldn't

have or the fact that after if I felt like a slut. It was my hubby

that made me feel good. He said the right/and did the right things.

I can't tell you what they are, only you can know what makes your

wife happy.

[sexracing 15]

I'd be happy just to get my wife interested in sex in the first place, let alone get her to fuck someone else. Glad your hubby has the right touch.

[pervgeeks 119]

He's not really into watching me with another man. He's not jealous, he enjoys knowing I'm being pleasured, but it's not a particular turn-on or turn-off. He likes to enjoy himself, I like to enjoy myself, and we just happen to enjoy doing it together.

[GerdOEvert 51]

For the first fifteen years of swinging, Eileen loved MMF in any way shape or form. I like to have her have fun. We not only had MMF at the clubs, but also had them at their place, our place, or whatnot.

 

Later, she found her bi side, and enjoyed that too. I wished she had found her bi side earlier. I enjoy that most.

 

I also had my share of women who just loved to be well tongued. Sexy. I just love that.

[NakedInSeattle 159]

That's how I got started with ex-wife (deceased). It was the only swinging because of her jealousy. It's still half of the swinging activity (MFM) with present wife. Other half is MFMF. I sure love to hear her screaming - especially when I'm helping but still like it even when I'm otherwise similarly occupied.

[crazi429 16]

We are just starting I think finally. Red came home this morning after a date with another guy she has been fucking for a month or 2. It really turned me on just knowing she had been fucked. I really enjoyed eating her and really want to watch her get fucked. I have ED and so far none of the pills have helped. I want Red to be satisfied if it's by another man I love that. If I get to watch that's great. I love watching porn so I would really love watching my SO getting it good and hard then I can play afterward.

[WesternSwing 504]

As a follow-up to my previous post on this thread (it's been four years since then), although we got into swinging so Mrs. could explore her bi-side, I found after a while that I got very turned-on watching her with other men. She is my favorite pornstar and watching her do her thing from the third person perspective is incredible. Plus, I love to see her so happy and satisfied and being the center of attention between me and another guy who thinks she's just as sexy as I do. She deserves it. Besides the turn-on, I get emotionally fulfilled knowing she's had such a wonderful time.

[LFM2 1,482]

I asked Dave this question last night before company came, so I couldn't really reply until now.

 

I guess I never really knew what prompted him first to ask me about swinging, and when I asked him if it was to see me with other men, he paused, and said yeah, but it was also to see me with other women and to also be with another woman and to just explore all there is sexually with other people. I know he thoroughly enjoys MFM's as well. He doesn't have to be with a woman all the time, but Dave just enjoys sex, no matter who is participating. He is seriously one of the most sexual beings I've ever met!

[spamcatcher 36]

We started out because I had the desire to watch and she thought it would be fun to have another man after being monogamous for so long. So it was basically a hotwife/cuckold thing for a short time. Then it evolved into MFM and all-out swinging. The longer we're in this, the more varied are our experiences. We're doing things we never imagined ourselves being part of and we're having a great time!

[cplnuswing 4,713]

For me it wasn't so much wanting to see her with another guy in a voyeuristic sense, but more just getting to see her get to cut loose and be happy and having fun. I won't lie and say that watching her have sex isn't fun and a turn-on, but it's in sort of the sprinkles on the icing on the whole cupcake that is swinging, not something I really focus on.

[adamgunn 1,460]

Well, I would have picked the answer, 'No, the reason we got into swinging was for both of us to have sex with other people."

 

Before we started swinging, I don't remember ever having a thought that watching her would be fun. And the first few times we swung, although I kept tabs on her to ensure she was safe, I didn't watch her that much - I was having my own fun.

 

But, after awhile, yes, I started enjoying watching her. And we started having MFM threesomes as a way I could enjoy that part of it as she was enjoying herself.

 

BTW, every poll placed on here should always have an 'OTHER' option . . .

[EastInWest 1,524]

For me it wasn't so much wanting to see her with another guy in a voyeuristic sense, but more just getting to see her get to cut loose and be happy and having fun. I won't lie and say that watching her have sex isn't fun and a turn-on, but it's in sort of the sprinkles on the icing on the whole cupcake that is swinging, not something I really focus on.

 

It started out as something very specific for me, that I wanted to watch her suck cock. That does a lot for me, and it was kind of an odd thing to throw out there since it didn't necessarily have the obvious appeal of full swap for her, but she was game. It took a long time to work up to that, but once we did it, it evolved literally overnight into exactly what you're describing: we were just having fun having fun.

[Guest]

We got into LS through MFM, and still do it more than anything else. It’s all about me, he’s not at all bi and so is pretty actively involved the entire time. He kind of pulled back and watched the one time with the other guy turned on to have a rather large dick but the only other time he really watches is if he gets done a little earlier then the other guy or if the other guy goes for round 2. What he does enjoy watching is me flirting and seducing at the bar. Most of our MFM are just happenstance, someone at a bar or resorts starts chatting with one or the other of us and at some point I realize that I am in the mood and find the guy interesting and kind of move the chat to flirt and then on to seduction.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

It was a fantasy of mine to watch my wife getting fucked by another man. I couldn't get that "dream/nightmare" out of my head. It was not my intention of talking my wife into trying it so I could have sex with other women. The only way she agreed to try it was that I wasn't doing it to have sex with other women. She said that she wouldn't be able to handle me having sex with another woman.

[2BFree 26]

The initial attraction for me were FMF threesomes since my wife is bi. But after watching it for the first time last night it absolutely turned me on. Watching her freely suck cock and get fucked made her into my favorite porn star.

[couplers 4,652]

Petra here. This poll is written entirely from the male perspective, but I'll reply anyway. My boyfriend/fiance/husband, David, and I got into swinging because I kept my old boyfriend, Red, through dating, engagement, then marriage. At first, I was just still seeing Red on the side, David figured it out and said he didn't mind. David is the least jealous person who I know and it didn't bother him at all. In a short while I introduced them (talk about awkward introductions), and we started doing MFMs. Again,it was David who was more comfortable with sharing me. At first it was mostly one guy then the other and both would finish in my pussy; Red preferred me "fresh" and would go first, David preferred to maintain his excited state longer and would go second (Red would leave the room for that). Eventually we started doing DPs and the like.

 

Neither guy was screwing anyone else until I got over my jealousy and started setting up David with other women, just to prove to myself that I could take it. It led me to open up to my Lesbian side as well. Now were in a poly family with two other women, and we girls share another guy on the side.

[J&Wu 408]

We have been exhibitionists forever with sex in dangerous places and eventually in the group setting. I get off on whatever gets Wu off which does not for her include other partners although frankly I have always wished it did(either gender OK but preferably Male).