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By ViSexual
As I've made pretty clear here, my wife has simply lost the desire for sex. Everything else in our marriage is great but she just doesn't want sex anymore. We experimented with swinging years ago so it's not like having sex with someone besides each other is going to harm the marriage, we've proven that.
So I have to wonder about the possibility of finding a couple like us, only it's the husband who no longer wants sex, and find relief that way?
Hey, just had another thought. My wife absolutely loves Disney World. She gets an annual pass every year and she and her sister even spend a week every December at a Disney resort. I don't particularly like Disney but will go with her a few times a year just for her.
Well now, if we found a couple about our age with a husband who isn't interested in sex but loves Disney and a wife who is still needing some sex but couldn't care less about Disney? And, of course, all agreed. My wife and the husband could go spend the day in the 'G' and 'PG' world of Disney while the other wife and I take care of some 'R' and 'X' needs of our own.
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By Ashley1987
Hi everyone. I'm not sure if this is the right place to ask this but I really don't know where else to turn. I was wondering if anyone has any advice on how to get my husband to open up to the idea of me sleeping with other men.
I feel like I missed out on a big part of my sex life. I'm 27 years old and I've only slept with two people. My husband and my boyfriend in high school. I'm not saying this is a bad thing, I understand there are probably lots of women who would be happy with that. And I'm not saying that I want to be a total slut and just sleep around with lots of guys. It's just that this is not how I pictured my sex life would be. When I went to college I had this list of things I wanted to experience and I never did any of them. I met my husband my freshman year and we dated through all four years of college and got married after we graduated.
When we first started dating everything just seemed so much more wild and free. My husband was the first (and only) guy that I've watched porn with. We had sex in public a lot. And we talked about our fantasies all the time. We even did role-playing during sex. I won't say that I expected that we would be swingers, but he knew my fantasies before we were married and I guess I thought that fulfilling these fantasies together by inviting others into our bedroom would be part of our marriage.
He wants nothing to do with any of it though and he doesn't even like talking about my fantasies anymore. I almost feel like that the man I married is not the man I dated. I realize all married couples go through slumps in their sex life, but it is more than that. The more I want to spice things up the more he wants to keep them the same. When we were dating and I would tell him some of my fantasies he would say that it really turned him on. He even asked me several times if I would ever go through with them. When I said that I would he would tell me how hot I was. But now it's like he forgot all of that.
I don't want to divorce my husband but I don't know that I can go the rest of my life without fulfilling at least some of my fantasies.
What do I do?
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By JustAskJulie
I've been having this discussion with friends and I thought I'd bring it here. The discussion is regarding the meaning of the use "open-minded" in swinger ads. I've long seen it as a cliche term in swinger ads, with the thought that all swingers are "open minded", to a degree, when it comes to sex. Describing yourselves as open-minded is like saying you are "attractive" or that you don't want "drama". They are all subjective terms, that often get thrown around in ads simply because everyone else uses them. New couple sees terminology in 80% of other ads out there and comes to identify with it so they use it in their own ad, and so on without ever really stopping to think about what it actually means.
However, it was recently pointed out that for some "open minded" or at least "sexually open minded" is really just a euphemism for saying that they are into male-male bisexuality. I know Chicup has said that here in the past in a tongue-in-cheek way under thread of "what people mean when they really say...", but now I'm wondering if that is the underlying "meaning" for those "in the know" (ie. other couples who are open to male-male play but not willing to be straight-forward about it). And, if so, where does that leave all the poor innocent folks who are just using the term thinking it means they are open to new ideas....
Thoughts? What does it mean to you when you read "open minded? Or better yet, what are you trying to convey when you use the term in your ad?
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