Thoughts on plus size women and couples

[danjan 33]

We just wanted to get everyone's thoughts on being with plus size women/couples. I know that everyone fantasizes about super model women and buff guys, but in reality.... Anyway, is it a problem for people, or is it more about the situation, attitude, ect.

[Cpl2share 147]

Read some of the other posts on breast and penis size. There are also some others regarding body shape. But first go to the local shopping center. Look around. The stats say that something like 5 percent of people are into swinging, and over 50% of this country is considered clinically obese. The heavy are swinging around too. It is not just Barbie and Ken, in fact, I would venture to say that over half of the people we have met in the lifestyle have been a bit beyond just heavy.

[des1re06 200]

We both prefer women with curves over stick thin. The majority of our playmates are plus size.

 

Personality is more important to us than body type.

 

Mr. & Mrs. D

[fordman460 20]

We both prefer women with curves over stick thin.

 

Personality is more important to us than body type.

 

Mr. & Mrs. D

 

I concur, although I reserve the right to not throw a skinny girl out of bed;)

[jedi6942 18]

Large ladies will always be my first choice...all other things being equal.... facelick

[fun4Ds 1,098]

nothing wrong with plus size women. yea i know your thinking that that since mrs.fun is 5'7 at 135 with every thing in the write places, that im being contradictive but one of our very best friends growing up with was quite large. let me tell ya though this girl was one of the most fun people to be around. talk about someone being sexy. yep plus size women are hot.

[havefuninsun 122]

It's all about variety and desires. Not everyone wants to play with plus-sized folks, and not everyone wants to play with "skinny" people either. But most want to play with folks with fun attitudes. Sounds like you have what most people want -- have fun!!

[BCinIN 52]

Not my thing at all. My wife doesn't like plus-sized men either.

[Chicup 41]

We just wanted to get everyone's thoughts on being with plus size women/couples. I know that everyone fantasizes about super model women and buff guys, but in reality.... Anyway, is it a problem for people, or is it more about the situation, attitude, ect.

 

Its going to be a problem for some people, and others it might be a turn on. You need a 'thick skin' for swinging, because just about everyone gets rejected at some point no matter what you look like.

[wildcherry 15]

well lord i am a plus size women and am married to a bigger guy too ..i like a guy to be bigger not obese but some meat on him and i am bi and i like both types of women. it all has to do with them as a person and if we like them then it happens if not ..it dont we are not rude .and i dont care if someone tells me they dont get turned on by a plus size person ..heck its ok .. plus you normally know if they are into you or not without gettin your feeling hurt.

[mike big 13]

I do enjoy a plus size woman over a skinny girl, but i like a girl with a nice round ass, so that it all depends. I've seen some very very sexy plus girls out there.

 

a girl im seeing now has a hard body (we met at the gym) and thats fine by me

[DBL D 120]

I know I am generally not attracted to plus size gals and don't really look at them for play partners but I have been with a lady who was a lot larger than I thought I would want and we had lots of fun. There are a couple other larger gals that I have decided that I will play with if given the chance but the personality really does have the lions share of what I look for and not the physical. Like chicup said: all of us will be rejected by every type before it's all said and done, and also will reject every type ourselves too.

 

Since swinging reflects our societys' demographic, you should expect to see every body and personality type on display.

 

Male D

[TOC 16]

We have played with both, I the male half seem to injoy the bigger ladys, there personality seem to be so much better, it's like most are just a joy to party with!

[lost_j1 5]

I guess I would half to play the guy card on this one. Have I play with plus sized women? You bet I have on several occasions. Was it something we went to club looking for? Nope.. The last meet and greet we went to was cool as hell went out to eat and met everyone then we went to a LS club. So happens that when we started to relax and enjoy the club the one couple with the plus size was a blast to party with. We had a great time dancing and fooling around. Due to some bad food the wife got sick so went did not have sex as to say left early. BUT, I did everything else but penatration with her. Was a blast to have fun and relax. To us it is about the trip down the road to fun not the ending. Every situation in it's self has an answer. Just like I am not attracted to very skinny women. Would I play with them? Hell, I don't know, never got the chance to meet the person. Body size need it be plus or very skinny is just a shell. Once you get to know the person things may change. So relax and enjoy it's just sex....

 

JAY!!!

[WesternSwing 504]

I will never turn down any woman I am attracted to, and it is more than just body size that turns me on. But, in my world, life starts at size 12.

 

Mr. WS

[NYCWhtFBlkmCpl 15]

We would prefer the female be plus-size (mainly because wife is a BBW). If only we could actually meet someone.

[ShellyM 0]

In response to the OP,

In this lifestyle there is truly someone for everyone. I do not prefer skinny men. The men I am turned on by are what most would call chubby....HAVE GOT to have meat on those bones. I have found in our experience that most men love women who have curves on them. Its just a personal preference, but I guarantee you that there is someone for everyone.

Shell

[nice_cpl_n_bama 24]

I like all shapes and sizes of women except for stick-thin-shaped-like-a-12-year-old-boy types and over 400 lbs. between those extremes, it's all good. One thing I dislike about plus sized women though is so many of them have horrible self images. I couldn't really care any less about a womans body shape, I want her to have a confident sexy attitude.

I am very blessed to be married to a beautiful sexy woman who is confident in her sex appeal. It doesn't matter a bit that she's larger than average.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,023]

We just wanted to get everyone's thoughts on being with plus size women/couples.

 

The more people we meet, the simpler this becomes in our minds. It's entirely a personal preference. As far as our prefereneces, our Lifestyles friends range from 90 lbs. to 275. Just to speak for myself, I think it is silly for a man to say, "I really like big women." Seems a bit condecending.

[ShellyM 0]

I agree SW_PA.

The reason why I say that is because what one person thinks is thin may not be to another, and same with chubby or BBW. I think of myself as rather thin, but compared to some girls I'm not. So when a person says "I like them big" I always think okay, give me your interpretation of what big is.

Shell

[mwcohio 15]

My fiance and I both go to the gym daily. Not just to stroke our ego's but because we enjoy living healthy. We are not models, nor are we perfect. But it means alot ot us both to try to stay sexy for each other, and to live healthy. Neither of us smoke either.

 

We are not attracted to people who are obese. Its not a judgement thing. Its not a friendship thing. Its just a sexual thing.

[LFM2 1,482]

I like all shapes and sizes of women except for stick-thin-shaped-like-a-12-year-old-boy types and over 400 lbs. between those extremes, it's all good. One thing I dislike about plus sized women though is so many of them have horrible self images. I couldn't really care any less about a womans body shape, I want her to have a confident sexy attitude.

I am very blessed to be married to a beautiful sexy woman who is confident in her sex appeal. It doesn't matter a bit that she's larger than average.

 

Exactly!

[Youngcalcpl 125]

I'd say we agree with the common consensus here...For us its not so much how heavy someone is but how attractive overall they are to us. Size, attitude, etc. all mixed together. Someone can have a perfect body and some other factor can make them completely unattractive to us.

 

We're going to the gym almost everyday now but we've still got a ways to working off the baby fat. We know that we aren't going to be attractive to everyone; we've accepted that and have 'tough skin' enough to be cool with it. Though the couple that we recently started playing with have awesome personalities and great bodies to match and yet they don't seem to care that we aren't as fit. I think we hit the jackpot!

[catalina8591 15]

WOW! I am glad I came here today after not popping in for months! I am plus size and cute! (okay my mom says so but so does my SO...) - I needed this pep talk thread since I am dieting..... trying to be healthy to get rid of a cold!

 

-Cat

[SailLovers 15]

Without getting too graphic, my experience is that plus-size women have much better pussies. I was married to a very slender ex-stewardess for many years and am now married to a lovely plus-size woman. Believe me, the current Mrs. is much, much better.

[funcpl4life 51]

I agree SW_PA.

The reason why I say that is because what one person thinks is thin may not be to another, and same with chubby or BBW. I think of myself as rather thin, but compared to some girls I'm not. So when a person says "I like them big" I always think okay, give me your interpretation of what big is.

Shell

 

Hmmm. How about this: "My ideal female body shape is somewhat larger than what fashion magazines tell me it should be, but I'm not willing to change." or this: "I think Lane Bryant underwear ads are sexier than Victoria's Secret"

 

BUT, body shape is somewhat further down on the scale than what fashion magazines tell me it ought to be as well.

 

Unrepentant

Mr. FC4L

[ANGEDKY(mr) 100]

Glad we could have this discussion without some ass piping up, interjecting his/her stupid comments........it's been a long time comng around here. Specifically as it relates to this topic.

 

Way to go SB!!

[Chicup 41]

Glad we could have this discussion without some ass piping up, interjecting his/her stupid comments........it's been a long time comng around here. Specifically as it relates to this topic.

 

Way to go SB!!

 

I think this is the first time where people just stated what they liked without saying other people were somehow 'wrong' for not liking the same thing, or casting character aspersions upon those who do not fit their preferred body type.

 

Very odd indeed

[DRxDON 15]

There are all sizes and shapes of 'plus sized women'. My particular preference is for the full bodied sex queens of the 50's and 60's like Marilyn, Jane Russell, Jayne Mansfield, etc. The typical 'hour-glass figure'. Today, these women would NEVER be shown on screen as 'sex symbols'. They would be considered 'plus sized women'. ALL of the 'sexy' women on TV shows, movies, music videos, and commercials are skinny as far as I'm concerned. If a 'plus sized woman' has that hour-glass figure, with the 'plus' in the 'right places' and isn't much over 200-250lb she's fine with me. facelick . I'm not attracted to what would be called 'obese' women with very large bellies and large arms and alot of loose flesh. Anyway, the most attractive feature on a woman for me is a cute face.

[bethncole 49]

I've been with some amazing looking women who were so bad in bed I didn't care to play with them again, and I've been with some very average looking women who were absolutely amazing. I'm pretty sure almost every guy on here has had the same experience.

 

So, it's not about the looks when it comes to sex. Yes, there must be a physical attraction but that attraction can come from the sexy attitude that one has rather than a bra size.

[ShellyM 0]

Ive said this before and I'll say it again. There is absolutely someone for everyone! Just love yourself and be confident. Nothing turns people on other than confidence...not cockiness mind you, self love and confidence.

I have a friend who loves tiny, tiny women size 2-4. With my body type I could never attain that, even if I literally starved to death. You'd have to cut my pelvic plate lol. So to him I'm too heavy. Then to some men I'm too thin.

So its all about personal preferences and what turns you on.

Just love yourself, and the rest will take care of itself.

Shelly

[BradAndJanet 70]

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So, it's not about the looks when it comes to sex. Yes, there must be a physical attraction but that attraction can come from the sexy attitude that one has rather than a bra size.

 

Well said.

 

Have y'all seen this already? I love it.

 

-B

[foxyscarlett 15]

I think it's whatever / whomever you are attracted to.... Plus size or skinny it has to do with personality over all; if they're effin lame or need to back to school for some book learnin' then it just ain't happening at any size...

 

Foxy Scarlett

[lovemonkey#1 48]

i just have to say, like many others out there, i just love women. i'm not really interested in putting labels on them and honestly, i don't know what PLUS size even means. does that mean that she isn't supermodel thin? is there a difference between BBW and plus size women? where is the line drawn and who decided? it's all so silly to me.

 

it all comes down to confidence, intelligence, and a sense of humor. i do hate that in this culture so many women have such horrible self images because they try to compare themselves to what the mainstream says is sexy. just love yourself and forget about the ones who judge you based on your "size". fuck that!

[badangelcpl 15]

I swung as a single and never had a problem being a BBW....lost of men actually prefer woman with great, larger curves.

 

Now?....it is a bit more of a challenge because it seems that couples do want "model quality" people. Maybe I haven't found the right place or people yet....we've only started to get into the SLS the past month. Have already made some fantastic friends though, which makes it all worth it.

 

B is for "bad"

[dkswingers04 15]

I look for personality first and foremost, If I like to talk to them and they come across as interested then I too will most likey be interested...I love to kiss and this is the one thing that will make it or brake it for me, if they are not a good kisser then I will not enjoy it as much no matter what size they are. I have been with both persay extreems and have had just as much fun on both ends of the sprcturm. Again it is all about personality and being a pleasent person to start with.

 

Our world has made everyone think that thin is beautiful. and that everyone should be thin....That is just not right and will never happen. It make me sick that some people judge others by thier looks before they ever meet or talk to them, some of my best friends are on the large size and that sure does not make them any less friends.

 

I too am glad that no one has tried to tell others that they are wrong for liking or disliking one body type over another. To each thier own. It is all good, it can all be fun and we are all swingers to have fun and enjoy sex together.

[Larry & Michell 15]

We have played with both, I the male half seem to injoy the bigger ladys, there personality seem to be so much better, it's like most are just a joy to party with!

 

 

Well, they are supposed to be jolly...

[lovemonkey#1 48]

I look for personality first and foremost, If I like to talk to them and they come across as interested then I too will most likey be interested...I love to kiss and this is the one thing that will make it or brake it for me, if they are not a good kisser then I will not enjoy it as much no matter what size they are. I have been with both persay extreems and have had just as much fun on both ends of the sprcturm. Again it is all about personality and being a pleasent person to start with.

 

yes, this is the most important thing to me: personality. and i think they should be able to kiss too!

[FloridaFlirt 15]

Well said.

 

Have y'all seen this already? I love it.

 

-B

 

 

Love the video!

 

Personality means more to me than appearance does (except when it comes to hygiene and grooming...LOL)

 

I gotta admit though...it's awesome being a BBW in the lifestyle. There are so many men that think I am a goddess!

[WesternSwing 504]

Well said.

 

Have y'all seen this already? I love it.

 

-B

Mrs. WS sent me that link a couple of weeks ago. She says it's her new theme song!

 

Mr. WS

[queenofhearts 15]

 

Have y'all seen this already? I love it.

 

-B

 

Oh, gosh I loved the video. Cute. I sent it to my friends.

 

In response to the post. I have been called everything under the sun. Plush, over weight, zaftig (spl?), chunky (I am not applesauce), healthy (which is funny) and BBW. Big is too vague, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and woman is mandatory. My other doesn't call me any of this. It is part of who I am. I am sure if I cut off my boobs and my hips/butt I would loose about 50 lbs there.

I love who I am except for my height I am only 5' 3". And I only really hate that when I am trying to get something off of a tall shelf. I haven't swung before but I am sure... if you like me we will party and if you don't well you missed out on a really neat tounge trick.

 

I do list BBW on websites only because I don't want anyone to say that I lied.

[FloridaFlirt 15]

Here's a link to the lyrics of a great song from the musical "Hairspray":

 

http://www.stlyrics.com/lyrics/hairspray/bigblondeandbeautiful.htm

[charms123 52]

We are both plus sized, he more than she. We have played with same and those that are "weight and height appropriate." We have fun with people, not sizes.

 

That said, I guess that is why God invented chocolate and vanilla! And for those on this board... Strawberry! :)

 

Our best,

 

M&N

[deanncat 25]

would have to say attitude is more important the body shape or size

[funcpl4life 51]

I'm pretty buff, the Mrs. is a size 20. I likes it just fine. I prefer Lane Bryant underwear models to Victoria's Secret. I prefer women who are into me and comfortable in their own skin as play partners. Size is pretty far down on the list. (Though *really* tiny women scare me a little.)

 

Mr. FC4L

[Sir Dude 15]

My wife has some extra weight on so I suppose she is boderline BBW. But like you guys have been saying, what is a BBW? She shops at some plus size stores but she is also tall.

 

As for me, I love some extra weight on a woman. I really like big hips. I prefer bigger women to skinny women. Most men may not admit it but I think they like it too.

 

Trust me, bigger women are smokin hot. I love it.

 

I've always had a lot of confidence around women. Expecially since I met my wife because I couldn't care less what a strange woman thinks of me. I can be myself because I'm not looking to impress. In college my buddies would be afraid to approach a woman and they knew I liked a little extra poundage.

 

When I approached most slim "model" type girls and told them how beautiful they were I usually got a bad reaction. I was called a perv or a creep or they just kept walking. When I said the same thing to a bigger more beautiful woman I hardly ever got a bad reaction. They thanked me and seemed very flattered. Maybe that is another reason why I love the slightly bigger girls.