How did you feel emotionally after your 1st time?

[sigh35 20]

If there is an old thread on this maybe someone could point it out for me. I am just wondering what it felt like . Just before the deed went down, when you were walking back to your car, when you got home and were alone, when you woke up the next day and realized you were officially a swinger? Just trying to prepare somewhat if that's possible!

[socolais 696]

This looks like a fun question.

 

I haven't found the "official" definition of the minimum activity that qualifies one as a swinger. My definition is since I feel like I'm swinging, I must be a swinger.

 

My first erotic kiss from another woman in more than 30 years is still fresh in my mind (yeah, the one on my shoulders too) There's an energy I'd long forgotten. Instinctively, I kissed back and felt a shower of goodness flow through my body in the form of mass quantities of adrenaline and testosterone. What a rush!!! And I felt an immediate urge to share that energy with my wife. It's been almost a week and we're still enjoying that energy together.

 

She was surprised at first. Now, she energetically regards the experience as a positive thing. She's ready for some too.

 

The crystal ball is still cloudy for chapter 2......

 

(I still haven't figured this swinging thing out,,,, but what-the-hell, I can still enjoy it)

[SouthBond 18]

Speaking for both of us, the experience lit our fire. Horny doesn't even describe the feeling. Our sex when we were first married was very mild compared to the "can't get enough" desires that erupted. Getting into bed with another couple and completely releasing every desire that we had hidden inside.

[mfmyeahbaby 19]

for us we kind of took it slow, we felt each other out and stayed cool.. things went for me the male half better than expected for her they went a little fast but I made sure that things were within her limits. I think she enjoyed herself more than she expected to which made her feel guilty, for me it made me feel comforted by her enjoyment. I felt like I can handle whatever guilt may be there but I don't want her to be akward. she got so into things that she let him in anally and afterwards she didn't like that, he wasn't caring at all, which knowing this person he had to since that she was so into it that it led to that but she was okay with it even attempted to go there again. that first time turned into 10 years of us getting together for mfm play mostly just them two but often enough us three altogether. at first we didn't know how to use the mfm play but now after every play session we are totally sexually charged for days. we love our mfm play and look forward to at all times.

[joaninla 162]

For our first time - MFM - I thought beforehand that I would enjoy it if I could just relax and enjoy the attention of two men focused on me. It turned out that after a short time, I was able to allow them to "take me", and after that it was all very erotic. Turning this fantasy (mainly [initially] hubby's) into a reality has been a huge turn on for our love making sessions for the two of us.

[sigh35 20]

I guess what I really want to know, is what was going through your mind as you laid down for the first time...with your love nearby, as some random cock came toward you...what thoughts did you have just moments before the first permissive penetration...sorry if that's too graphic, but that's what I want to know

[iapr 24]

You really are asking two different questions between your first post and your last one.

 

I'll answer the first one first. Our first encounter was a same room/same partner encounter and noone laid a finger on anyone other than their partner. As we were heading home we had ear to ear grins and for days any time we looked at each other we broke into a naughty snicker. The important thing that we came away with was that the swinging experience can be very powerfull and in our case that power was positive. We also realized that if something that powerfull was negative that it could be a truly devistating thing.

 

Now then as far as your second question that is a bit different. As this is the male half here I can not say what it was like having a cock coming at me

I will say that our first full swap experience came after soft swinging for about six months and it definately was not some "random cock." It was with a couple we had known for several months and had a number of soft encounters with. We were very comfortable with them and it really was a magical night.

 

As far as the next day, it was like we are after every good swinging encounter and that is we have big ol' grins that just won't go away and we can't keep our hands off of each other for days. That is what it is all about for us. We do like to play and we really enjoy being with our play partners and have a great affection and appreciation for them but what we really like is to get back home all turbo-charged and really shake the roof when it is just the two of us again.

[sigh35 20]

that is two different questions isn't it? It sounds like your experiences feel the way we feel now with just even talking about doing it...we have grown even closer and more attracted to each other. I see him with a renewed appreciation and pride that he's mine .....and mine to share! I think we will go slow, just so we can savor each new situation that goes beyond our norm...thanks!

[oc1234 436]

With my wife and me, swinging just happened. We are nudists and we had a close nudists couple over for the evening. As usual, we were all nude. We had been drinking a little - not enough to get drunk, just enough to loosen up a little.

 

I started started massaging my friend's wife and he started massaging my wife. We had know each other for a few years and had flirted but not much else before.

 

We were all on the living room floor. I glanced over to my wife and saw that she and my friend were having intercourse. That did turn me on and I started playing around more seriously with his wife. His wife and I got up and walked into the bedroom and really went at it. After we had finished, we went back into the living room and my wife and the friend went into the bedroom and finished up while his wife and I listened.

 

Later, our friends went home and my wife and I went to bed. When we woke up the next morning, we each asked the other if it really had happened.

 

Neither of us had any regrets and felt really great that it had happened.

[nwmifun 16]

Our first encounter was actually on our third date really before we even had a chance to know each other. We were in Key West and doing the Key West thing having several drinks. A single woman who was a local was just hanging out at the bar and befriended us after she and I were in a hula hoop competition up on the stage together. Neither of us could hula hoop, so we were both on the same page when we just dropped the damn things and showed our boobs. Since the contest was won by applause we ended up tying for the win and we both got the t-shirt which she gave to my date. Well, needless to say none of the three of us had to pay for drinks the rest of the night. There was a bit more flashing and posing for pictures and when my date ran out to the car to get the camera, she and I ended up kissing for someone or another's camera. WOW - that got me charged up beyond belief. I had never kissed a woman before. It seems that my generation is right on the edge of now when I hear about my high school students doing it all the time without it being a big deal. It was still pretty taboo for me. Well, he got back and I told him, and of course he HAD to see it too. It was the beginning of a pretty interesting evening.

 

It turned out she was a stripper across the street and she took us over there for a few lapdances from her favorite co-workers, which charged the night up quite a bit more. We all ended up back at her place supposedly just to sleep. LOL - seems she and my husband were on the same page as they both were on me from the time we walked in the door. Somehow it even ended up on video.

 

Anyway, the next morning my thoughts were more centered on "am I gay?" and I was seriously worried that I liked being with another woman so much. I don't think the thought of being a swinger entered my mind 1) as I really had never heard or thought of the term and 2) we weren't even an actual couple yet. So, I'd have to say that the concerns about my sexuality were my main focus and not the stigma that society places on the term swinger. Needless to say, I've resolved those worried feelings and now have no question about loving the feel and passion of another woman.

 

We talked about it on the drive home and he really helped me come to the conclusion that I prefer men, and I was still straight even if I enjoyed a drunken encounter with another woman. Because I resolved even if I liked it, it was NEVER going to happen again! Yeah right! lol - I wouldn't even accept the lable as bi-curious for the longest time, even though the bi experiences kept inexplicably popping up.

 

And my date must have loved it, as that was seven years ago, and he's now my husband of three years, and we've been inseperable since then.

 

Don't know if that helps, but that's our story and those were my thoughts the next morning.

 

I have to agree with what others have said. Shortly after this we moved to Atlanta where we eventually started attending Trapeze pretty regularly and we started experimenting with fun with other couples. The best sex came when we got home that night, and when it would come up, we couldn't keep our hands off of one another for days.

 

So, if you're secure in your marriage and relationship, I say go for it!!!

[havefuninsun 122]

Well -- I think we both were nervous, but in an excited way. Even now, meeting new folks makes me a little nervous ... kinda like a first date.

 

Afterwards, I felt more in love with my mate than I have ever felt before. He felt the same way. We felt this closeness that is hard to explain, but those of us who have felt it know where I'm coming from.