Swinging anxiety about premature ejaculation?
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By Sawman
I am at the mature end of the swinging demographic as are my play friends. The ladies have their share of curves and character lines and often prefer to wear something when younger, fitter ladies prefer total nudity. This is just to say clothing is totally OK if it makes you comfortable. This is not a photo shoot. This is intimacy and mutual giving. Besides, a little color and texture is nice to see and feel. When I know my partner is shy I can adjust and just observe that as a boundary.
Now, go shopping.
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By wickedkitty71
My wife is interested in going to a local club in Louisville Ky. She herself is self conscious about her body as she is a bbw. I find her wonderfully beautiful but I love larger sized women. I am very protective of her “in a good way” and very much want it to be a positive experience for both of us. I read on many of the clubs websites of how their club has the “hottest most beautiful” couples. I am 48yrs old and she almost my age. My question is, will going to a club be a positive experience or have we missed the boat and uncomfortably be an object of ridicule until we decide to up and leave. We clean up pretty well and I can rock a casual suit as well as the next guy, but I’m not a 24yr old paratrooper any more either.
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By Coffeeblack
We've been slowly getting back into the swing of things...moving at my wife's comfort level. We've been visiting clubs locally over the last couple of months... Have yet to play with anyone, but definitely enjoying being around other like minded, sexy people. Here's the situation:
My wife tells me she's not ready to play with couples, but very interested in having another female to join us, while I watch at first and then join in later. I'm fine with that, so we've contacted some single females, but they never follow through...no big deal, shit happens.
So, the other day my wife says she would feel more comfortable playing with another female by herself without me there. At first, I'm thinking to myself 'sure that would be HOT' But after thinking about it a bit, I thought to my self 'what does she mean more comfortable without me' So, when I ask her about her comment, she said 'she doesn't know what to do and would feel embarrassed and on display doing anything in front of me' I told her, we're both new and no one knows what to do exactly the first time at something like this and we should not be embarrassed or uncomfortable doing anything in front of each other, ever.
She says that 'she can't help how she feels and I should respect her feelings...she says, it's only for the first time and then she'll be more comfortable being with couples and doing other 3somes. I told her, I personally don't have a problem with her being with another female, but it bothers me that she feels that way about me She now feels like she should have never said anything and she doesn't want to swing anymore.
Any advice with this mess, would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks.
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By Blueyebabe
I am attracted to other women and my bf would love a 3some but my anxiety goes haywire and I have all kinds of worries and emotions about it. I am willing but feel handicapped at the same time. So frustrated right now.
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By CurvyJezebel
27 yo female. New to the site and completely new to swinging. Not sure quite how to express my feelings at the moment but I'll do my best.
My husband (26 M) came to me about a month ago asking to open our relationship to others. I know with 100% certainty that he has our marriage's best interest in mind and if this turns out not to be for us, he would drop it without thinking twice. A little back story -- We have been together for 5 years, relationship is solid and we have always been happy. Since our first discussion, we have talked, a lot, and communicated every angle and concern. We even went to a marriage counselor once to make sure there is nothing we are missing before "diving in". She suggested going to a Swingers Club to observe first, which we are going to tomorrow night. Before the session with the counselor, we have done a soft swap with a male friend of ours, with which we were all very drunk and inhibitions we're obviously down. That actually turned out to be a great time. On another occasion, however, simply watching my husband make out with another woman in front of me was like a knife in my side.
As I mentioned earlier, I'm not quite sure how to express my feelings but my question is how? How do you get past those uneasy feelings? How do you become comfortable with the idea of your SO being with someone else? What can I do to get past all this uncertainty? Any advice is very appreciated. Thank you!
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