Fair to turn them down because his dick is so small?

[twoplayers 15]

Hi I am the female part of the couple, have done alot of lurking around these pages, never felt the need to post before, but I have a question....

 

on our second swing experience, we met a couple that was very nice, and goodlooking....we decided to play a bit of strip poker, and when we were all naked, I noticed that the male partner of the other group had a very, very small penis, looked a bit biger than a cocktail wienie flacid.... Both me and my husband talked about it, and he said, dont worry it will probably get alot bigger when he gets hard (maybe it is cold in here or something) ....Now here lies the problem, we start playing, and I notice, the other guy was fully errect (we played a bit of touching games) and it didn't get any bigger!! Now, I am not saying I need a monster penis to satisfy me, but my Husband has a 9 inch penis, and the first swing partner we swaped with had about 1 inch on my husband...

 

So was it wrong of me to tell my husband he could not have sex with the other wife, just becase I thought the penis was too small? was I being selfish, or should I have let him give it to his (now salivating over the size of my husbands cock) wife? He was fine with just playing touchy feely with the other couple, but I kind of feel guilty and want your opinions.

[OhioCouple 41]

Originally posted by twoplayers

 

So was it wrong of me to tell my husband he could not have sex with the other wife, just becase I thought the penis was too small? was I being selfish, or should I have let him give it to his (now salivating over the size of my husbands cock) wife?

I have several questions here.

 

Until you disrobed were you at all turned on by the man? Was he sexually stimulating in his attitude and behavior? Did you like his clothed appearance?

 

Could it also be that since your husband has a much larger than average penis, that the other man's appeared to be so tiny? Are you only turned on and able to reach orgasm through penetration, or are you able to reach that point through manual (meaning with a toy) stimulation and/or oral sex if you are attracted to someone? Were you not willing to give him the opportunity based on the penis size, if you were indeed atrracted to him clothed? If you have a preference for a minimal amount of inches, do you relay this in your ads or which ever way you utilize to meet like minded couples?

 

Without the answers to these questions, I feel it is rather hard to say whether or not you were selfish (which I do not think is an appropriate term, I am just using the one that you did) to put an end to everything as by the appearance of your posting everyone seemed to be pretty hot with each other until the disrobing.

 

Lori

[twoplayers 15]

No our ad does not state a minimum penis size, and yes I was attracted before he disrobed. I did not say we didn't play, but it almost seemed a waste of time IMO, because I could have gotten more penetration from fingering...(it was 2 1/2 maximum, and skinny.... maybe I should put a min size of 4 inches in my ad huh?

[OhioCouple 41]

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Originally posted by twoplayers

....I could have gotten more penetration from fingering

If penetration of the penis is important to you for your own sexual satisfaction, then I would say yes, you need to state that in your ad. For myself as much as I love penetration, I also dearly love oral sex and I can have one without the other and be thoroughly satisfied.

 

Lori

[BradAndJanet 70]

I certainly agree that the penis isn't center of all sex and that there are a variety of good ways to reach orgasm, for both men and women. After all, a great deal of sexuality and potential for arousal lies between the ears, not the legs.

 

But, what you describe is very much outside the normal range and no doubt surprised you, which in turn probably spoiled the mood. I'm wondering if they didn't say anything beforehand for fear that you would turn them down. It's a little dishonest and if that's what they're doing I think they're really cheating themselves out of a better experience. I think it would have been better to let you know what to expect.

 

Have you thought about what you would have done if you had known beforehand?

[TwoNumbNuts75 15]

Originally posted by twoplayers

So was it wrong of me to tell my husband he could not have sex with the other wife, just becase I thought the penis was too small? was I being selfish, or should I have let him give it to his (now salivating over the size of my husbands cock) wife? .

 

To answer your question of whether you were selfish, you have to wonder what would you do if the situation was reversed. Let's say the other woman's body was not sexually appealing and wouldn't satisfy your husband, for his specifications, but her husband had a tremendous penis which you were salivating over. Would it have been fair for your husband to say you couldn't have sex with this man just because his wife's body was not sexually appealing to him? Wouldn't you then say that your husband was being totally selfish? Just wondering...

[avgcpl4u 15]

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Originally posted by OhioCouple

If penetration of the penis is important to you for your own sexual satisfaction, then I would say yes, you need to state that in your ad. For myself as much as I love penetration, I also dearly love oral sex and I can have one without the other and be thoroughly satisfied.

 

Lori

 

I would agree 100% with OhioCouple's suggestion, by stating in your ad that you prefer the man from the other couple to be HUNG or ENDOWED!

And since you are already use to something of that size.

 

At least then, others will know what you are looking for along with your preferences.

[youngish56 15]

Sorry folks, but I'm going to be crude here.

 

I'm the male part of this duo and I've never seen a shlong anywhere near that small. Are we sure we're talking honestly, or are we measuring things differently perhaps ? Erect penis measured along the top from where it leaves the torso to the tip.

 

Two and a half inches, how does this guy pee on a cold day, or how small would it be when "I was in the pool!!!" (Seinfeld) ?

 

My wife is not an appreciator of penetration, oral is her game, but she has mentioned a negative distraction to a certain 4 and a half guy she's otherwise enjoyed. So I understand the premise of the post, just never seen one THAT small.

[Additude 457]

Rejection based on perception.

 

I could understand your thoughts if the guy had a monster cock, 14" and 14" around...that could hurt, or if his cock was dripping green stuff. But your rejection was selfish and unfounded.

 

They guy might have been a real turnon. The blind can see with their ears, the deaf can hear with their eyes. Just because the guy had a small penis doesn't mean he couldn't perform and make you climax......unless you had already made that judgemental decision.

 

You had nothing to loose, there was no imminent danger.

 

You don't know if you don't try.

[twoplayers 15]

Thank you all for your replies, and yes it was that small. I put my hand on it, and it did not come out the other end (I have small hands...I am 5'6 about 115 lbs)

 

but I don't think I require guys to be hung, or huge, just have a bit to play with....

 

That's all I was asking for.

[Chicup 42]

Was it selfish? Yes, as it was about your wants, which is basically the definition of selfish.

 

Was it wrong? Not really in my book. That small is in the realm of the freakish I would think.

 

What's worse would be coming off the high end of the bell curve in penis size to the low end.

 

If the whole package isn't there (no pun intended) you shouldn't feel the need to swing.

[rammur 17]

Hey, as a couple, you write the rules, right? If your husband was totally into it would you have settled for oral. The guy must be great at something if he is that small!!

 

Anyway it was I hope a couple decision, I once allowed my husband to have another woman, the man and I just didn't hit it off, we agreed to stand by and play with our mates as they had the main event, fun was had by all!!

[avgcpl4u 15]

Originally posted by twoplayers

So was it wrong of me to tell my husband he could not have sex with the other wife, just becase I thought the penis was too small? was I being selfish, or should I have let him give it to his (now salivating over the size of my husbands cock) wife? He was fine with just playing touchy feely with the other couple, but I kind of feel guilty and want your opinions.

 

I think I might guestly know what she is saying by this above. Maybe she was afraid of letting her hubby give the other woman the long shlong because, she was afraid that the other woman would enjoy it so much that she might fall in love with his huge manhood! And he might enjoy it too by giving it to someone that never got it so big or good before!

Or something like this anyway... But correct me everyone if I'm wrong...

 

This also could be a visa versa for men too. Meaning, maybe the man wouldn't want his woman to be entered and penetrated by some dude that had a HUGE dong, of fear that she may not want hubbys little one anymore!

 

Just a thought.... I dunno?

[vorphlak 15]

9 inches make a 5-7 inch look like a cocktail wienie. most likely you are jus' used to a massive tool.

[joseph3d 15]

I once had a girlfriend who told me once that the best lover she ever had was small. Even better than me I asked? She said no insult meant, but honestly yes because they fit better since she is so small/tight herself.

 

We are all human beings and we're going to find that everyone will have different reasons for being turned on..penis size is important to some women.

 

And the great thing is there are all sizes to be had, if one doesn't fit, you can try on another one.

[Flori_DAMAN 26]

In and of itself penis size or appearance are not the total sum of attraction.

 

It is a combination of the things that count to you.

 

One person may place penis size high on a list that includes, age, charisma, character, physical attraction, race, etc.

 

The priority of any factor varies from person to person.

 

To assume that penis size is of utmost importance for everyone is just as ridiculous as assuming the race of a person is the only thing that really counts.

 

For some it is a high priority for love but not for swinging. For some it is the opposite. Some swingers need a charismatic charming person and others need a bod to kill.

 

It's all good as long as you know your own priorities for both your choice in love partners and swinging partners.