Tattoos and swinging

[redeye69 8]

I was wondering what the general consensus is regarding tattoos as I have noticed on a lot of profiles "no tatts" The reason being my partner and I will be going to the couples club in Sydney for the first time and I don't want us to get snubbed because I have them

 

Normally I wouldn't worry but this is something new to us and I wouldn't want it to go bad because of them. I have many emotions and feelings about our new adventure but this is the only negative one any advice about this would be welcomed.

 

This thread may sound trivial to some but I have been judged because of them before. Everything is cool until they see my arms.

 

Any other advice would be appreciated also. Thanks in advance.

[socolais 696]

Don't worry about it, just plan on having fun however you may define it. Sure some folks may decline to play because of the tats and other folks may decline for other trivial reasons. It's very probable that you'll find someone where there's mutual attraction and if not, your regular partner is unlikely to be "second best".

[ShellyM 0]

I have one, on my lower back. Most people don't have issues with tactful tats, I know people though that prefer you not to be covered with them though. Just a matter of taste, I have no issues unless you are super covered with them.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

I was wondering what the general consensus is regarding tattoos as i have noticed on a lot of profiles "no tatts"

 

 

That must be a local thing, as we have not seen this on an ad around here.

 

These days, if a couple is limiting themselves to someone without tattoos, then they are really limiting their chances at a hookup.

[daisy girl 34]

Hmm...interesting...I have not noticed that in ads either.

[purpletiger 25]

I've never seen that in an ad either. Personally, I really like a classy tattoo on a lady. Now if you have the ole jailhouse tats, that would not be a turn-on but I doubt it would be a deal breaker.

 

But different people are turned on and off by different things. That's what makes the world. I wouldn't worry about it, go have a great time, and if someone is not interested in your tats, well... that's their loss.

[redeye69 8]

Thanks for the positive feed back. I only have 3 tattoos a panther, eagle and dragon all done professionally I guess its first time nerves as this has been a long time fantasy of mine and now its about to be realized, my partner of 20 years suggested we go for her 38 b'day some shopping for clothes first then dinner and a play then of to the club to have a look and see what happens, it gives me butterfly's every time i think about it which is most of the time. Any further advice would be much appreciated.

[Spoomonkey 421]

Mrs Spoo and I both have tattoos. While not everyone has them, I think they are generally accepted.

 

Like others, I've not seen any ads that say "no tats", but it may be a regional thing.

[Chris&Suzanne 204]

We have "no excessive tats or piercings" in our SLS ad.

 

Just not attractive to me. Small ones are O.K. but ones that cover the arms, chest, etc. are just too much. Same with piercings in the nose, lips, gentials, etc. are just too much as well.

 

No offense to those that like them, but each to our own.

[WesternSwing 504]

Both Mrs WS and I are tattooed more than once, and I can say it's never been an issue with any playmates to date.

 

If someone does say something along the lines of "no tattoos" in their profile they are simply stating their preference and you'll know they aren't for you. I'd say they are the minority though.

 

But, here is the clincher... we've had many people contact us stating they like women that are skinny, slim, etc. yet they can plainly see from both our profile and pics that Mrs is a full-figured woman. When I'll email them back saying I don't know if we'd be a good fit because of this it all of a sudden becomes a non-issue with them.

 

So maybe even the "no tattoo" folks take people on a case-by-case basis.

[good times 991]

I am not a tattoo fan, but with one exception I have never refused to play with someone because they had them. The one exception is a friend of ours who is covered in, what I call "jail house tattoos", I just couldn't go there, even though I like her as a person, her tattoos just gross me out.

 

The funny thing is, I have never seen a "no tats" statement in an ad either, yet I know several people who won't play with someone with tattoos. I think that is because, nowadays, it is more socially unacceptable to admit that tattoos turn you off than it is to have tattoos.

[redeye69 8]

Maybe it is an Australian thing. I do remember when I first arrived here there were a lot of negative response to them. Maybe it is the convict stigma they have or it could have been the area I was living as I have noticed they seem to be more accepted now. In any case, my complex was only a fleeting thing and with all the positive responses I don't think it is really an issue. Thanks.

[Bama0468 93]

Tattoos are a issue for some because of the old ways they did them; reused needles, some places didn't properly sterilize, etc. However, nowadays almost all use NEW needles, and for those that looked around and knew what they were shopping for could always find a tattoo artist that had a hospital grade sterilizer.

 

I myself have 2 and want another, I got my first one at 26 second at 32. I was picky as I KNEW it was forever. If you are going to get one you ought to get the one you want and get it where you can see it.

 

The stats I have seen say that those who get their first one where it can NOT be seen by them will get a second one with in 6 months in a place where they CAN see it.

[Chris&Amelia 253]

I've never seen a profile that said "No tats". I must not be looking in the right places.

 

Neither one of us have any tattoos. We don't have any philosophical objection to tattoos. Nor do we find them ugly or distasteful. We simply don't have any.

 

For me, it comes down to two reasons:

 

1) I'm really not partial to needles.

 

2) I don't really have anything "important" enough to say that would warrant going on a tattoo.

[freshcream 43]

I have tats. Fresh has tats. We love tats on other people! In fact, our ad states just that.

 

For every "no tattoos" person out there, there's bound to be a "yes tattoos!" person. Keep looking 'til you find them.

[realcplub2 513]

The other issue that arises from the older tattooed folk is the concern over Hep B.

 

It was a common occurrence 30 or 40 years ago, before the current standards of state health requirements, as well as the requirement of all the utensils and tools to be sterile.

[traveling cpl 59]

I was wondering what the general consensus is regarding tattoos as i have noticed on a lot of profiles "no tatts" The reason being my partner and i will be going to the couples club in Sydney for the first time and i don't want us to get snubbed because i have them, normally i wouldn't worry but this is something new to us and i wouldn't want it to go bad because of them. I have many emotions and feelings about our new adventure but this is the only negative one any advice about this would be welcomed . This thread may sound trivial to some but i have been judged because of them before , that is every things cool until they see my arms, any other advice would be appreciated also. Thanks in advance

 

If you are going to the 'Couples club' in Surry Hills- Sydney, they will not care if you have tattoos or not. Its the attitude and chemistry with the other customers. They will not stop you from entering because of tattoos. Then its up to the people you met there. Neither my wife or I have tattoos, but one chap we met last year with whom she became close to for a while had his back covered with one. But during the lead up to our fun over drinks etc and with his shirt on we didn't notice, or ask if had any. Had he said that he had tattoos before hand, would we have continued, don't know but it wasn't relevant to what we had in common.

[AprilMike 16]

April has both arms 3/4 sleeved with hot rod and pinup art. Honestly, we have NEVER had anyone run from the tats, in fact, a LOT more are drawn to them.

[Elena 42]

I love tattoos, but I understand that some people just don't like them. And that is fine. Different strokes for different folks. I have four. One on my left shoulder, one on my right ankle, one at the back of my neck (below the collar line of a shirt) and one at the bottom of my back. The Mr has three. One on his right bicep and one right above it and the other on his left bicep. A good tattoo is very nice. A jailhouse looking tattoo does nothing for me. I would agree that more people than you think have them these days.

[Karmickiss 28]

Hi All,

 

Interesting thread. I do have tattoos....and I love them. I've had people that normally aren't into them say I "pull it off"..and not only that, but each one is a part of a story of my life, though I don't have 'sleeves', and can cover them all if I wanted to. Lot's of times, they are a subject of interest, when meeting people. Of course, I don't mind tats on others either. I can say there are some not so professional looking ones out there...but for me, it really does depend on the personality inside the skin.

 

I have one I actually drew myself, and the artist did a great job...in a place easily and normally covered...I can truthfully say I don't regret any, and anything I might want to tweak, could be tweaked, easily, by a good artist...

 

I don't take issue with people that really just cant get passed them, and respect everyone's right to their opinion. However, a lot of issues similar to this, that might be things about me that accent and make me who I am, seem to act in my favor. I don't take offense so easily, but if there's something(s) about some people that feels "closed" to me, that are a part of me, than it's better for all if one is honest. I don't try to hide myself for the sake of fearing a different view, and it's great to feel this way, I like some things age and experience have brought me

[2lovers 87]

I had 2 kids and I had a bad scar after c-section, so I decided to have a tattoo to cover it , and it turns out well for me, I feel more comfortable taking off my clothes when I am with a new partner and my husband like it too

[Hippiegirlie 276]

I have 3. I got my first for my 29th birthday and have never regretting any of them. Mine are all in places I can choose to hide or show and no one has ever expressed dislike for them, in fact, most people find them as sexy and intriguing as I find tattoos on others. I see someone with a tattoo and it is an instant way of connecting with them by asking why they chose it and what it means. Many (if not most) have a significance to the person. My next is being inked in a month and I can't wait!

[Jonesin 15]

My wife and I have many tattoos. Love them!

[DigginIt 1,132]

We used to have none, in the last couple months we have both gotten two pretty large ones, she has one that covers her entire back (center) and I have almost a half sleeve. My thoughts, if you don't like them, don't fuck us

[junglecouple 127]

Tats are trampy... that being said, we both have some... LOL

[Mr&MrsV 46]

We both have tats and we love tats on other people!!! Glad this topic has been discussed as I just (gasp) stepped outside my little bubble and tried to imagine how others view our tats if they were considering us in a sexual way. I've always been proud of my ink work and I think it's very tasteful but the Mr. has bluntly informed me in the past that while he finds my ink hot, a lot of men don't. It was kind of hard for me to take because I've always been considered attractive by men (pre-tats)...I love the way I look now with them but I never considered a man or woman might be now not find me attractive because of them.

 

That being said.... I like my ink, I like his ink, I like ink on others... so I hope I see more of it!

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

We find the majority of people we've met have tattoos and love them. We don't but, I appreciate them on other people. The men your husband is talking about probably aren't in the lifestyle.

 

We've only known one couple who wouldn't play with someone with tattoos.

 

You will see lots of ink (at least here in Ohio)!

[CuriousNJCouple 38]

I am mega turned on by a woman with tatts. My wife doesn't care for them but wouldn't let that decide anything. I only have one tatt, on my arm, but run a tattoo, piercing and body paint group on Flickr. Tatts are a huge plus for me.

[pna42 67]

I can't see how anyone could have a ''issue'' with tats. It's just body art and expressive. Now, someone with a piercing in their penis or piercings in other risky places I may...be heading for a exit. lol.

[CuriousNJCouple 38]

Piercings don't bother me either. Maybe it's the artist in me. Years ago there was a swinger couple I knew where she wouldn't do anything with a pierced guy (pierced penis) and one day she did because she really liked the guy. The last time I saw them, she would actually look for the guys that were pierced. She said the sex was 10x better.

[cpl36996 91]

This is just me, but when I see a little tattoo on a woman it won't turn me off, but when the tattoos are all over, male or female, I relate them with gang members.

[angelkin 1,326]

I have 3. I got my first for my 29th birthday and have never regretting any of them. Mine are all in places I can choose to hide or show and no one has ever expressed dislike for them, in fact, most people find them as sexy and intriguing as I find tattoos on others. I see someone with a tattoo and it is an instant way of connecting with them by asking why they chose it and what it means. Many (if not most) have a significance to the person.

 

I like tattoos on a man - the whole "bad boy" thing, I guess - and tasteful tattoos on a lady. I have four, all covered while at work...hubby has two, one on each bicep. All have meaning and memories associated with them.

 

I too enjoy the conversation and discovery when I see them on new friends. It's a piece of them, and often a very good story. I quite enjoy it when used as a conversation starter - it's a great way to break the ice and maybe see some skin

[Mr&MrsV 46]

I like tattoos on a man - the whole "bad boy" thing, I guess - and tasteful tattoos on a lady. I have four, all covered while at work...hubby has two, one on each bicep. All have meaning and memories associated with them.

 

I too enjoy the conversation and discovery when I see them on new friends. It's a piece of them, and often a very good story. I quite enjoy it when used as a conversation starter - it's a great way to break the ice and maybe see some skin

 

 

Good point and all my tats (and his) have their own personal significance... I'm very bonded with that ink so to speak (it's not painless!) so if someone was to just immediately dismiss me on that aspect that's fine their loss!... I'd rather be around like minded people who appreciated them and were genuinely interested in the stories behind them, or at least people who didn't judge on that aspect, but i see it no different than in the "vanilla" world.

[DigginIt 1,132]

Since our last post, we have kind of jumped off the cliff. Mrs. Diggs is sporting her full back tattoo plus two that are around the front bikini line and migrate outwards. My arm is fully sleeved (minus the back of the upper arm). I look in the mirror and say "Damn, so much canvas left!"

 

I also agree with that the amount of pain associated with tattoo's, those that have 'lots' take it very seriously. Someone may wander in drunk one time and get a tattoo but it takes a real love of them to sit there for 5 hours while someone is on their fourth overlay of color in the same areas. You start second guessing your existence about that point.

[CuriousNJCouple 38]

It's not painless, but it's worth the pain. I personally would have more than I do but DW is not big on tattoos. On a side note there is a video, on YouTube, of a woman who has orgasms from getting tattooed. If that were me, my tattoos might have tattoos!

[divenaked 325]

I have two tats, both with deep patriotic meanings stemming from my upbringing. I would like to add to them, but more ink just for the sake of more ink is not my style. I spent years deciding on what i have, and will probably take more years deciding on expanding my art.

[SwingerGirl 132]

I barely think about my tattoos to the point I have to REALLY think about how many I have, and when I'm counting them in my head I usually leave one out

 

I have 2 on my back- one I really hate and one I don't feel one way or another about, but I'm thinking of getting them both covered up just to cover up the one I don't like. That would probably mean a full back tat for me I'm excited about it because I've always wanted more ink. I don't really think about how potential sex partners are going to feel about them. If they don't like them, they are probably not for me and I'm fine with that.

[iceman7570 40]

I have quite a few tatts 20+ actually and Mrs. Ice has her 2 for now. We have learned one thing so far, the only difference in a person who has tattoo's and a person with out, is the person with tatts doesn't really care if you have them or not...If you as a person without tatts has to judge a person with tatts and let it stop you from being with them could cost you a good friend...

[M1F2KTJ 473]

I would not refuse playing with anybody that has tattoos but I prefer no tattoos. Fun with Sharpies! Tattoos are a very personal thing and not everybody has the same appreciation of art.

[sparkstar 128]

We both have no tattoos. She would love to have some but... long story of reasons to not have any. He doesn't like them on himself.

 

We've toyed with the idea of each of us having the same tattoo located on our pubic area, a star like 5cm in size with our partners name inside the star. If we do split up then it wont be a problem to cover over the name so then there is just a star.

[Casurina 28]

My wife has one, lower back, so never been an issue for us.

[JonMeg2112 126]

It seems to be just like anything else. Being attracted to someone who has tattoos (certainly a lot of tattoos) is not for everyone. The wife has none and I have just a few but I'm seriously attracted to women with a fair amount of ink. Still searching for our "Suicide Girl" unicorn. :-)

[IEcouple 222]

I can't see how anyone could have a ''issue'' with tats. It's just body art and expressive.

 

There are two potential issues I can think of.

 

The first is that there are many people out there whose tattoos indicate gang membership, felony convictions, white supremacist backgrounds, etc. You can easily Google this to see examples. If those are the kinds of people you would prefer to avoid (and I hope they are!), then that's something to pay attention to. It's not the fact that they're tattooed that's an issue, so much as WHY they have them.

 

The second issue is that there are some tattoos -- especially on the head and neck -- that indicate, at the very least, that the person may never be worried about having legitimate employment. That should make you wonder what kind of employment they DO have.

 

Neither of these is a knock on tattoos per se, just a reminder that some tattoos tell you negative things about their owners.

[Cancuple-he 37]

My wife has one, lower back, so never been an issue for us.

 

Same here... Wife has one- lower back... (sometimes called a "tramp stamp")... not an issue for me.

[Trophy1802 132]

When we are chatting with any couples, especially any prospective couples that we may intend to meet, we always mention the fact up front that both of us have tattoos.

 

Mrs Trophy 1802 has a very nice butterfly on her lower back and another small one on her right shoulder. She also has a small dolphin on her bikini line. As for myself, I have the pieces symbol on my left upper arm, a shark towing a diver on my right pec, and a dive flag on my right shoulder...yeah, I am a recreational diver and really enjoy the water. all of our tatts are very tasteful and you would not know we had them unless you met us at a beach in swimwear.

 

We have never run into a problem with the tattoo issue. However, I can see how some may find very large or full body tattoos a bit of a turn-off.

[81lizard69 470]

I use to not really care about tats until I was talking to a relative who is a cop and showed me some of what some of the gang and jail tats mean. I wish I had never looked into them that deeply. I understand that they can have deep meanings for the person that has them. I like the tats that have meanings.. Like the love of a child. Or a mentor. Some of the really cool new tat work is really cool. There is nothing hotter than the tramp stamps when doing doggy...

 

For me it is just cool to see how people express themselves.

 

I have never had one... Never even thought about getting one. If I did they would be of my family in some symbolic fashion.

[Fours Company 169]

Neither of us has tattoos and never will as I guess it's just one of those things we're traditional on and just don't not feel the need to decorate our bodies with something permanent we might regret or will look different years later as one ages.

 

That being said we've been with several couples with them and I do admit a woman with one can be sexy if both the subject and location is tasteful such as an ankle. Anything trashy or too many would be a turn-off quite frankly and like total pubic shaving, I never could understand the trend even in the vanilla world of whole body or large area tattooing.

 

I've never seen such a preference either way in a profile and while we wouldn't turn anyone down because of a tasteful tattoo or two, but if they had a posted pic clearly showing the whole body canvass thing going, that would more than likely be a deal breaker.

 

Just being honest and nothing against those who believe in the "body art", more is better concept...just not our thing.

[CaptainFantasmo 15]

I love tattoos, and I love getting them. I think the only tattoos that would bother me on someone would be obvious "prison tattoos" or something horribly offensive. If someone is covered in awesome well-done tattoos, then I just see it as more to look at. With that being said, I only have two, but I used to have four. One was removed, and two of them were covered up with a really awesome bigger tattoo. I am definitely getting more. Part of it is loving the way they look, and part of it is that I love the way it feels. Maybe I'm a masochist, but getting tattooed is just a really awesome experience for me. My husband only has one, a kind of big one on his back, and he is not at all interested in getting anything else. That's fine too. Having tattoos is not a requirement for me to be attracted to someone.

[Coupleerotic22 1,419]

My wife is not a big fan of tattoos but I suppose it depends more on the guy, unless the tattoos tend to cover significant amounts of the body.

 

I am okay with most of them, in fact I like playing find the tattoo on strategically placed ones. That said I cannot image I would be wild about being eye to eye with a cobra tat as I was going down on a woman.

[Lava&Spike 28]

It is not an issue.... Its is about more than your tats. It is about the rest of you!