Swinging mistakes: I'll Never... Or... I'll Never Do that Again!

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I was just reading a post in the Situational Help forum and they mentioned experiencing a few "I'll Never" situations. It made me wonder, what are your "I'll Never" situations, the things you say you'll never do....

 

Or if you've been in a situation and afterwards said "I'll Never do that again!" what was it that you said you'd never do again? Have you ever said that and then made an exception and done it again?

[des1re06 200]

I'll never let hubby "surprise" me with a male partner that I don't know again.

 

Mrs. D

[rpu3 630]

I'll never take one for the team again.

[jennifer_w_dfw 17]

I will never be tied up again...Tie someone else up. Not me!

[ShellyM 0]

Never play with a couple that is not in love with each other.

[ShellyM 0]

I will never be tied up again...Tie someone else up. Not me!

 

MMMMM girl, thats my fave!! You can tie me up then lol.

[good times 991]

I'll never take one for the team. And yes, we both continue to break that one every once in a while. But it is all good, as soon as we are done we always say, "I'll never do that again".

[fun4Ds 1,098]

I'll never drink and swing.

 

Before ya call me a party pooper it is not that I don't enjoy a cold beer and most swing events are b.y.o.b. but, I feel more sexual without any alcohol.

[Guest ibn battuta]

I'll never drink and swing.

 

Amen. I don't remember who on this site said it, but they demonstrated that they were wiser when I when they claimed that you should never drink and swing, saying something to the effect of: "If you have to be drunk to do it, you probably shouldn't be doing it." While a glass of wine or a single drink is OK, all drunken encounters I have had, have not ended well.

[Better Half 15]

I'll never be with a couple who has not had sex with each other for over a month.

[Spoomonkey 421]

I don't remember who on this site said it, but they demonstrated that they were wiser when I when they claimed that you should never drink and swing, saying something to the effect of: "If you have to be drunk to do it, you probably shouldn't be doing it."

 

If you NEED to be DRUNK - then I agree. But if a person chooses to have a beer when they are out with friends after a long work week, I don't think this should imply that they are "unwise." If a person is smart enough to know where the line is between enjoying a beer and being too drunk to get it up - then I would consider that wise enough

 

As for the question:

 

I would never again help a pissed off drunk woman find her husband after he has disappeared upstairs... Being a Boy Scout doesn't pay...

 

Spoomonkey

[ShellyM 0]

I'll never be with a couple who has not had sex with each other for over a month.

 

Amen and Amen again!!!

After one bad experience with a couple like the one you described we have started watching how they relate to each other. How a couple shows their love to EACH OTHER is what we look at now.

[sexcupid 809]

As for the question:

 

I would never again help a pissed off drunk woman find her husband after he has disappeared upstairs... Being a Boy Scout doesn't pay...

 

Spoomonkey

 

 

on one hand, that would have been entertaining to watch...but OTOH, I hate the drama.

 

And my response to the question is, I try not to do anything that I will feel bad about afterwards (ie. taking one for the team, or feeling obligated in some way to play, etc).

 

Maria

[sexcupid 809]

I'll never be with a couple who has not had sex with each other for over a month.

 

What?!?! That sounds like an ugly situation waiting for a place to happen.

[socolais 696]

I'll never eat the brussels sprouts on the party buffet..... cheese and crackers are not nearly as windy

[The Fuse 1,012]

I'll never again go out with a couple when it appears that the woman is very interested in me, but only lukewarm about my husband.

[ShellyM 0]

I'll never again go out with a couple when it appears that the woman is very interested in me, but only lukewarm about my husband.

 

AMEN!! Vice versa as well....we played with a couple, and they obviously wanted an MFM....Third wheel comes to mind lol.

[Liutas 15]

I've heard "taking one for the team" mentioned a couple times, and while I'm familiar with the concept and what it means in general, please explain what it means in regards to swinging.

 

In answer to the question, nothing jumps to mind that I wouldn't do, I like to think I'm open to trying anything once. And I can't think of anything I've done that I wouldn't try again.

[sweet_tna 680]

I've heard "taking one for the team" mentioned a couple times, and while I'm familiar with the concept and what it means in general, please explain what it means in regards to swinging.

 

I'm a newbie, but I'm pretty sure "taking one for the "team" means swinging with a couple when only you or your partner is interested in the other couple (ie your lady is hot for the other guy, but you're not into the other woman).

 

 

Okay, addicts, did I get that right?

 

 

And my "never" would be not doing anything I'd regret.

 

Mrs. Sweet =)

[fun4Ds 1,098]

I'm a newbie, but I'm pretty sure "taking one for the "team" means swinging with a couple when only you or your partner is interested in the other couple (ie your lady is hot for the other guy, but you're not into the other woman).

 

 

Okay, addicts, did I get that right?

 

And my "never" would be not doing anything I'd regret.

 

Mrs. Sweet =)

 

yes, perfect

[DBL D 120]

Ask my wife to swing again....

[Liutas 15]

yes, perfect

 

Cool, I figured it was something like that but I wanted to be clear. I don't want to be that guy who keeps using an expression that doesn't mean what he thinks it means.

[ncmd_couple 597]

Poppa always told me: "Son, try anything once, twice if it is good, and three times if it is real good!" I try to live by that rule. I will never again go to sea in a ship that is designed to sink! Bubbleheads are crazy!

[Tia Vampire 167]

We'll never take one for the team and meet up with a couple before seeing their pics.

[BradAndJanet 70]

We'll never place an online ad again.

[ShellyM 0]

We'll never take one for the team and meet up with a couple before seeing their pics.

 

Agreed. I was talking with a gentleman just TODAY that actually thought I would meet him without seeing a picture. I don't THINK SO! He didn't even ask me if we play alone, which we do NOT at this juncture with single men LOL.

[Michfunlovers 15]

We will never play with a couple that isn't married. Did that once and the other woman spent her g/g time telling the wife how badly he treated her and how she wanted out of the relationship. Man, we shoulda saw that one coming, but we both were blinded by the other woman's beauty and charm. And by the way, she's still with him.

[willyoats 324]

Literally, the only "I"ll never..." situation that has come up in all of our years in swinging was at a club when my wife went off with first one guy alone and then later another guy alone without asking me if I wanted to come with them. I never minded if she did it once, but for some reason, twice in one night without me being involved either time got to me. I didn't care how many guys she took on in any one night, but I needed to be involved with it.

[Pepper & Drew 384]

We will never go to a hotel room with a couple that we don't intend to swing with. Early on, more than once we ended up in a situation that was very awkward to get out of because we didn't just say no while we were still at the social.

 

We will never serve hot wings or any jalapeno-laden foods at a swinger party. Guess what? If it burns your mouth, it will burn elsewhere too! Bean dip is not a great idea either .

 

I will never wear something to a social for the sake of being sexy. Too many times I've left with hurting feet because the heels were too high, or was cranky because I was cold all night, or was otherwise uncomfortable because it was too short, cut off my circulation or whatever.

 

I'm sure there are more, but those are the biggies right now.

 

Pepper

[two4youinswva 3,068]

We'll never go ahead and hit a club when we're not feeling it, expecting our mood to change upon arrival.

[Chicup 41]

I'll never DVP, in case anyone was wondering.

[angelkin 1,326]

We will never (again) compromise on what we want in a playmate for the sake of playing.

[blondie86 15]

I'll never take one for the team again, did it once *shiver* and will never do it again.

[MrsPandMe 150]

We will never again get into a swing situation that has a higher ratio of men to women.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

We will never go to a hotel room with a couple that we don't intend to swing with. Early on, more than once we ended up in a situation that was very awkward to get out of because we didn't just say no while we were still at the social.

 

This would be us. We made that mistake once before early on and we've been careful not to make it again.

[SASS 69]

I'll never...

 

drink too much before a play date...

 

swing with vanilla friends...

[SJBluebirds 195]

We'll never assume both members of the other couple we're meeting for the first time are on the same page.

 

On more than one occasion, we've set-up an initial meet-up for drinks using e-mail and texts, only to find the woman has NO clue we're not her husband's co-workers or long-lost school pal. We've learned to ask something along the lines of "Both of you know we're all meeting as potential bedroom play-partners, right?" (Or words to that effect!)

[M1F2KTJ 473]

I'll never play with the couple whose husband has bi tendencies and wants to have a sexual experience with me. I'm not into having sex with another man.

[Guest]

We will never again bring a guy back to the room for MFM if we are staying in a nice, old B&B. Those rooms just aren’t sound proof and you have to face all of those people at breakfast the next morning as they try to figure out what couple was next to them and or above them.

[BabeAndApe 70]

We'll never place an online ad again.

 

Amen to that. We were on SLS for a ten days. We received 14 pings. Of those, 13 were skeezy as all get out. We deleted our profile and haven't looked back.

 

In terms of our club experience (the club has a pretty good social media section on its members only section)....

 

I won't meet couples with straight men and bi-women who both rave about Babe while ignoring me.

 

If they want a unicorn they need to say so up front. We'll still say "no," but at least no ones time gets wasted.

 

I will meet a couple with a bi-wife if she signals she's also interested in me.