Meeting single guys at their homes

[sweetrosy1956 15]

I have never posted before and hopefully someone can help. We have been finding hookups online and so far the worst thing to come up has been no-shows, until now.

 

We have been chatting with this guy whose profile says that he is single, and we like mfm threesomes so were thinking very highly on meeting this guy. The problem he refuses to meet us in public, claiming that he's tired of all the no-shows. He insists on his private home, and has given us his address and how to get there and his home number.

 

I'm not to sure about this private home deal. If it was a couple it probably would be less scary.

 

Anyone have any thoughts on meeting a single guy for the first time be in his home? Or should we stick with meeting in public as we always have?

[new2wild 35]

I would stick with public, No way would I do the first meet at his home. Just seems like a common sense rule to me.

[ShellyM 0]

If you are uncomfortable than he needs to compromise, as simple as that. I understand that he is pro-active because he has been stood up...this is understandable. However, you can talk with him on the phone, this shows that you are a real person. I would never meet a person at their home, not only feels strange but thats very personal.

[lost_j1 5]

I would say meet in public at dinner or something to see how things go. This way if there is not na attraction you are not committed by being at his home.

[Reef99 30]

Definately meet in public. If this guy is interested he will meet you in public. There is NO WAY I would go to his home. You have no idea what may happen when you get there.

[ShellyM 0]

Definately meet in public. If this guy is interested he will meet you in public. There is NO WAY I would go to his home. You have no idea what may happen when you get there.

 

Agreed. I mean though, a woman can be raped in a hotel room just as well as in an apartment if the guy is a lunatic. I think that its just more personal...I'm NOT being his girlfriend for the night lol, I'm there to have a great time sexually...use his body as he uses mine for a while and go home with or to my husband and children...my husband is the one that I want to reap the real benefits. Jay and I have an absolute rule that we do NOT snuggle or spoon with play partners after play. I'll lay there talking with you and I'll give you a kiss to say thank you. But I am not falling asleep in your arms, that to us is the ultimate in intimacy. This is our most steadfast rule in swinging.

[socolais 696]

If you're uncomfortable with a first meeting at his house, that's all it takes. Either find someone else or somewhere else. Surely there's a starbucks in the neighborhood that would serve as neutral ground.

 

On the otherhand, every encounter carries some risk. I think it's unlikely this is some nefarious trap where you'll suffer physical harm. Tell a friend you're going and have them give you a call after your arrival - if you don't answer, call the cops. The phone call is a perfect milestone to evaluate the evening. If things aren't going so well, it's an easy segue for your departure.

 

Does he have certifications that look real??? Drive around his neighborhood and through the alleys too. Call the police and ask about any unusual activity in the neighborhood (don't give the cops his actual address, use street intersections to describe the area).

[JW n Laci 15]

We meet only single guys and it's always in public. IMO, he shouldn't be making such requests. Maybe requests such as this is one reason he's stood up so often.

 

We've never been stood up, but we have had many cancel shortly before the meeting time (some of the excuses are funny, and lies....one forgot his lie and busted himself on it 2 months later....that was funny ) then never hear back from the guy again.

[purpletiger 25]

I would vote no on this one also - until after a meet and seeing if there is a connection, we wouldn't even consider that - it would be a Thanks, but no thanks.

 

I can understand him not wanting to commit to dinner and be stood up - it's not like a couple who can have a great time together - he's eating alone.

 

As an alternative, I would suggest drinks at a local place or as mentioned above Starbucks:eek: (not our favorite coffee), then at least he can have a cup of coffee and leave.

 

Good Luck!

[des1re06 200]

Well, he thinks too much of himself doesn't he!

 

If he won't agree to somewhere public that's close to his home (you're compromising by picking somewhere near him), then forget it.

 

Remember this: there are many single men available in this lifestyle who are not assholes.

 

You are allowing him into your relationship so you be in charge!

 

If he won't bend, then move along. He's not really interested in meeting you, and it will be a bad experience for you. Trust me on this.

 

climbing off high horse now.

 

Mrs. D

[tribbles 490]

Ask him to pick a place really close to HIS home so that he doesn't have to go far, in case of a no show...and then if all feels right, you can go back to his house.

 

Just give his address and name and all the info and date you meet to someone you trust....then if anything did go wrong, someone knows where to hunt for the guy.

[absingleman 178]

I ALMOST understand where this guy is coming from. For one, he has been stood up often by couples that have cold feet. Then he reads about all the couples that say they don't contact single men anymore because they always get stood up. So he decides to make couples prove they are interested in MFM and serious about meeting him by asking them to meet at his place.

 

Giving someone his home address might sound like a good idea in his head, but it is trying too hard to appear serious about swinging. That is extremely naive and dangerous for him. He may be the nicest person in the world (probably why he gets stood up...women can't stand nice men they aren't married to for some reason LOL), but he doesn't know how to make others commit to him. He is trying to take a shortcut by making himself seem more vulnerable than you, and he is shooting himself in the foot in the process.

 

If you are really interested in meeting him, try and explain to him how revealing his home too soon is not just dangerous for him, but unsettling for you. Explain that divulging too much information too soon makes it feel like he is hiding something bigger and that meeting somewhere neutral REALLY is the best idea, and not because he is a single man.

[absingleman 178]

OP

 

I didn't see you were from Michigan. This is NOT a single male friendly state, which is probably the cause of his desperation. Again, tell him if he isn't brave enough to meet you in public, you cannot be sure he will be up to the job he is applying for.

 

Its not a nice thing to say, but it will get him to either propose an alternative to meeting at his home first or give up swinging altogether.

[Alura 2,773]

Somewhere in these forums is a horror story from a couple who met a single man in a hotel room. I don't remember the details but —trust us— you don't want to do it.

 

You have nothing to prove to him. This lifestyle is all about couples. Singles are guests, and single men are —as they say— "a dime a dozen."

[funseekers45 15]

Gee, single guy here, I would want to meet in public. I'm not that super neat, and it would drive me crazy having to clean.

[2chase3 25]

I don't see asking to meet in a public place, possibly a coffee house he enjoys or whatever, as going out of his way. Something just doesn't feel right about someone asking for us to either come to his house or no deal.

 

Just because you are a male is no reason you should feel safe in this lifestyle. Any lifestyle that invites sex also lures the sick and twisted.It reminds me of a story of a couple who were out on a date. Got carjacked by a group of men, taken by gunpoint back to a home and were sodomized for days, and it happened that one of the attackers was female. Long story short, and to save you the gory details, the man was raped and beaten repeatedly but compared to the woman got out easy and was killed the first day. The female was not so fortunate, her nightmare lasted days, and ended up dismembered in a trash bin. So would I worry about him being put out? Absolutely not! It is almost irritating to me he could be so inconsiderate...look elsewhere.

[JDApopka 54]

We also only meet with single males. We always meet in public first if all goes well we invite them home. if that goes well we like it when they invite us over to their place it helps us make sure that they are really single (and we try our best to make sure of this before ever meeting)

We have been stood up on more than once thats for sure but for the most part our system works well. matter of fact it worked very well just last nite:D

[spectraschain 21]

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This lifestyle is all about couples.

May I ask...what the HELL has happened to this forum?

[spectraschain 21]

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Any lifestyle that invites sex also lures the sick and twisted.

I rest my case...

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

spectraschain said:

May I ask...what the HELL has happened to this forum?

 

Perhaps it's the gawd-awful pink...

 

It's called everyone has their own opinions. Some swingers do not feel that singles have a place in swinging and that is their right to have their opinion.

[Sico_tiko 17]

That seems uncomfortable, well what about inviting him to your home as long as he doesn't want public places? But if you don't find any solutions ignore him and find someone else, the swinging life is full of singles that could play easily.

[Spoomonkey 421]

spectraschain said:

May I ask...what the HELL has happened to this forum?

 

Actually - it is common sense. As a husband, I have something to protect. If I am not cautious - and practice some measure of discernment - then I am an idiot. I can make a mistake for me and deal with it - but if I do something moronic that puts my wife at risk, I hardly deserve the title of "husband".

 

I trust her intuition - she trusts my "spidey sense".

 

My "spidey sense" in this case says that a single guy who wants to dictate where the first meet is going to be is either:

 

a. a psycho (unlikely, but why bother?)

b. pushy

c. disrespectful to me and/or my SO

 

Yes - single men are a dime a dozen, but good ones are as rare as single females. They aren't easy to find - but the bad ones you seem to stumble over every time you turn around. What the OP has found is a bad one. My advice is "move on."

 

As for whether or not the lifestyle is about couples - it is pretty simple really, take single men out of the equation and what do you have? Swinging... Take couples out and what do you have? Bath houses...

[rpu3 630]

Personally, I'd be sticking with the usual public place as a first meeting and then I'd feel better about going to his place.

 

And more on the personal front, I'm shocked he's even offering up his own home. The single guys we've met with prefer either our house or a hotel/motel, even though I'm pretty sure they are truly single. I'd drop dead of shock if one of them actually offered up their own home on occasion.

[Thrax 384]

Spoomonkey said:

As for whether or not the lifestyle is about couples - it is pretty simple really, take single men out of the equation and what do you have? Swinging... Take couples out and what do you have? Bath houses...

 

I haven’t been around the Board for awhile, but I noticed when I logged in today that there are a LOT of new members (and many of you are posting. Excellent! That’s great for the Board!). However, I want to make newbies aware that although Spoo’s comment that “swinging” is a couples-only thing (i.e., swinging is synonymous with swapping) is shared by many on this Board and in the lifestyle, there are many couples who regard “swinging” to be a state-of-mind, so single males and females can be swingers, too, and actually some couples in the lifestyle might NOT be swingers. And, of course, there are many couples and singles who really don’t care about this issue. (Hope I didn’t confuse anyone.)

 

So, if you want to explore the “Are singles swingers?” thing, check out these threads that deal in whole or in part with the singles as swingers issue.

 

Are singles really swingers?

 

The Elusive NICE Single Guy?

 

The plight of the single male

 

If these threads don't address your questions about singles and swinging, maybe you can start a new thread and we can all pile on there.

 

(I’m not sure what to make of the “bath house” part of Spoo's post. Is there the implication that all single males are gay, or at least bi? Or are there bath houses for straight men and women? Or something else?)

 

Anyway, back to the original topic.

 

As a single male, I have ALWAYS met with potential lifestyle play-partners (both couples and single women) in public settings before any sexual activity. I'm sure they are concerned with their safety as I am concerned with mine. We have met face-to-face at bars and/or restaurants, meet-&-greets, house parties, or lifestyle clubs. Some couples and single females I have met I have played with at the event where we met. Some couples I have met at parties, M&Gs, and clubs, had email conversations with, and hooked up with later. Some couples I have met online but have only played with after we met in a public place to talk first.

 

In every instance, no matter the method, I have always had face-to-face communication before playing. I need to look into their eyes! I think I’m a fairly good judge of character, but I feel it’s too easy for an individual or couple to misrepresent themselves via email only. So far I haven’t been disappointed with my decision to evaluate play-partners in person. I recommend that the OP do that too. If the single male in this case doesn’t like it, then don’t consider him a viable candidate for your attention.

 

And I would prefer potential play-partners meet me in-person in public so they can evaluate ME also. If they don’t like my looks, attitude, bearing, etc., I’d rather know that in a neutral setting so we can all disengage while saving face. I understand the fickleness of compatibility. I wouldn’t want to arrive at a front door and see a crestfallen look on a woman’s face (I get that enough in the vanilla world ) or enter the room and find out that she/they aren’t as advertised either.

 

If this guy doesn’t want to meet in public, I say don’t consider him. If you really want to meet him and want to reassure him you will not bail on a public meeting with him, think of something that will benefit him and penalize you if you two don’t show up. For example, send him a $25 gift certificate to a bar/restaurant where you could meet. (After all, he IS willing to give you his home address.) If you two show up, he should use the cert. for drinks and food for all of you. If you two don’t show up, he can use the cert. as he sees fit. Just a suggestion.

 

Good luck!

[ShellyM 0]

I agree Thrax, its not fair in my opinion to say that to bring in a single is not swinging. I don't think that is very fair to the cool singles that we have met. And I'll be honest: Finding couples with no issues is like landing all of the Power Ball numbers. A possibility, but I'm not holding my breath. Perhaps that is our area, but couples are a pain in the ass from our experience. I'm not saying that we are into singles, but I'm also saying that you just cannot lump an entire group of people into one ball.

[Spoomonkey 421]

Thrax said:

(I’m not sure what to make of the “bath house” part of Spoo's post. Is there the implication that all single males are gay, or at least bi? Or are there bath houses for straight men and women? Or something else?)

 

Actually, I never said that swinging was a "couples only thing". I actually said that good single men were rare, but by implication "out there" and a part of swinging. Context... Try it... It may actually become your best friend some day

 

As for the "bath house" comment - it really is quite simple. Take the couples out of swinging and leave only single men (again, there is that context thing) and what are you left with? It is really simple math. I can even send you a spread sheet if you need help with that.

 

And when I was single I met a lot single women myself - I didn't call it swinging, I called it a good night out... Couples make swinging what it is. It is as simple as that. I have no problem with single men being a part of the lifestyle, but let's not confuse how they fit in to the picture, shall we?

[Thrax 384]

Spoomonkey said:

Actually, I never said that swinging was a "couples only thing". I actually said that good single men were rare, but by implication "out there" and a part of swinging. Context... Try it... It may actually become your best friend some day

 

Context would be better than my right hand? Yeah, like that would happen.

 

Anyway, my post above is a victim of my sloppy editing, but also is a result of one thing that you posted in an old thread, and another slightly different thing you posted in another old thread.

 

So, back to the post in this thread. That shouldn’t be “couples-only” but “at least one couple involved”. There are folks that believe that only couples can be swingers; singles cannot be swingers because swinging equals swapping. In my haste I put you in that category. There are folks that believe singles can be swingers, but only in the context of playing with a couple. Spoo, I think you are in that category. Right?

 

There are also those who believe that singles can be swingers outside of the “playing with couples” context. (E.g., a single female and single male playing at a lifestyle club, a single male in a threesome with two married female swingers, etc.) That is, singles engaging in recreational sex between consenting adults.

 

And then there are those that really don’t care about definitions and wordplay, just playing. I happen to like all of that, though, nerd that I am.

 

Anyway, Spoo, sorry about the potential slander there. I read your post in this thread but I was also remembering a quote you made in another thread which seemed to contradict your post in this thread a little. It took me about two minutes to find: “It is tough because the one single guy is a great guy - and a true friend. I'd trust the guy with my pin numbers for crying out loud. So it is tough for me to slam single guys. But - as a "culture" I have to agree with Chicup. They aren't swingers - they're opportunists.” (Emphasis mine.)

 

But you have also posted this in a different thread: “If you are a good single male (and who is there to define that?) you can call yourself whatever you want as far as I'm concerned. But, most single men are opportunists, based on my experience. There is a HUGE difference between sharing your wife and sharing someone else's wife. Most single men simply aren't swingers in that regard.” (Once again, emphasis mine.)

 

Sorry, the difference between "single males aren't swingers" to "some single males are swingers" confused me, but I think I understand your position on the issue now.

 

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As for the "bath house" comment - it really is quite simple. Take the couples out of swinging and leave only single men (again, there is that context thing) and what are you left with? It is really simple math. I can even send you a spread sheet if you need help with that.

 

Actually, I think the bath house angle is a bit of a stretch, but that's my problem, isn't it? Here's how I would have said it --making it generic enough to remove the bi/gay angle -- if I were you: "As for whether or not the lifestyle is about couples - it is pretty simple really, take single men out of the equation and what do you have? Swinging... Take couples out and what do you have? Star Trek conventions..."

 

 

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And when I was single I met a lot single women myself - I didn't call it swinging, I called it a good night out... Couples make swinging what it is. It is as simple as that. I have no problem with single men being a part of the lifestyle, but let's not confuse how they fit in to the picture, shall we?

 

And I agree that vanilla dating isn't swinging. However I feel that if I have a threesome with two single women, that IS a good night out, but it definitely ISN'T vanilla, and is in the realm of "swinging" sex. Obviously, YMMV.

 

Good night.

[JW n Laci 15]

In the opinion of people who are in the lifestyle, I wonder if we're considered swingers?

 

We don't swap, she'll do male(s) as I watch, that's all we do.

 

Is the general consensus we are or are not swingers?

[rpu3 630]

JW n Laci said:

In the opinion of people who are in the life style, I wonder if we're considered swingers.

 

Well, it's probably getting away from the intent of this thread, but I'll opine that you probably don't need to spend a lot of time wondering if you are a swinger or fit the majority's definition of swinger. There are as many definitions as there are people.

 

I personally don't label myself as a swinger (I relate more towards open marriage or consensual non-monogamy, with a side of swinging ). In any case, there has been far more acceptance on this Board lately as to the wide range of alternative sex/non-monogamy options and that we don't really need to be telling anyone else what they are, what their beliefs should be and what words they should use.

 

End threadjack.

[JW n Laci 15]

rpu3 said:

I personally don't label myself as a swinger (I relate more towards open marriage or consensual non-monogamy, with a side of swinging ). In any case, there has been far more acceptance on this Board lately as to the wide range of alternative sex/non-monogamy options and that we don't really need to be telling anyone else what they are, what their beliefs should be and what words they should use.

 

Sorry if I didn't explain myself and I apologize for not staying on the original topic..(We need a fork thread option ).

I wasn't asking anyone to "tell" me what I am, I was asking opinions of what they would consider us to be.

[Spoomonkey 421]

Thrax said:

There are folks that believe singles can be swingers, but only in the context of playing with a couple. Spoo, I think you are in that category. Right?

 

Not at all. In fact, as the quotes you posted show, I am comfortable that there are single men who are swingers. It is a mindset, I believe - not just the particular situations. Yes the situations have to exist - after all, a man who has never set foot on a boat is no more a pirate than I am, even if he says "Yarrr."

 

Based on my experience, however, most single men we have met have been opportunists, not swingers.

 

Similarly, I believe there are couples in the lifestyle who are not swingers. They would more properly be called train wrecks... But that is another thread all together.

 

Thrax said:

Anyway, Spoo, sorry about the potential slander there. I read your post in this thread but I was also remembering a quote you made in another thread which seemed to contradict your post in this thread a little. It took me about two minutes to find: “It is tough because the one single guy is a great guy - and a true friend. I'd trust the guy with my pin numbers for crying out loud. So it is tough for me to slam single guys. But - as a "culture" I have to agree with Chicup. They aren't swingers - they're opportunists.” (Emphasis mine.)

 

But you have also posted this in a different thread: “If you are a good single male (and who is there to define that?) you can call yourself whatever you want as far as I'm concerned. But, most single men are opportunists, based on my experience. There is a HUGE difference between sharing your wife and sharing someone else's wife. Most single men simply aren't swingers in that regard.” (Once again, emphasis mine.)

 

Sorry, the difference between "single males aren't swingers" to "some single males are swingers" confused me, but I think I understand your position on the issue now.

 

Thanks. I am not a defender of the culture as a whole. For the most part, I don't really see the average single guy adding much to the lifestyle. But that is me - and probably just our "luck of the draw" in our little corner of the world. But, I do know a few who I would consider great people and an awesome asset. So to say "all" is not something I would or have done.

 

In truth, I see all of the quotes above as being fairly consistent - which is actually pretty impressive when you consider the fact that people's attitudes change as they experience more. My opinion has been as steady as the hand of a gun fighter

 

Thrax said:

Actually, I think the bath house angle is a bit of a stretch, but that's my problem, isn't it? Here's how I would have said it --making it generic enough to remove the bi/gay angle -- if I were you: "As for whether or not the lifestyle is about couples - it is pretty simple really, take single men out of the equation and what do you have? Swinging... Take couples out and what do you have? Star Trek conventions..."

 

That's funny...

 

I don't care who you are...

 

My only question is, really, what's the difference?

[curiousagain 326]

Let me play devil's advocate for a minute. Let's say the SM in question isn't an AH, just someone who's been stood up one time too many either by couples or somebody pretending to be a couple. Maybe he's been sitting in a restaurant eating alone after being stood up one time too many. Offer to meet him someplace like a park if you are interested in working around this "glitch". If not, just go back to the pool of SMs and pick again.

 

 

edit: To add a bit to the what if thing, if you take the females of the couples out of swinging you pretty much have a star trek convention. :-)

[Spoomonkey 421]

If not, just go back to the pool of SMs and pick again.

 

Unfortunately, that'd be the case... I mean, I know you pretty well, CA, would YOU go to a couple's home who you didn't know and it was a first meet? You are more likely to go, probably, than most because you hit like a truck - but seriously, wouldn't that send up a red flag even for a single guy?

"You have to come to our house or nothing..."

 

 

edit: To add a bit to the what if thing, if you take the females of the couples out of swinging you pretty much have a star trek convention. :-)

 

True... But the married guys do get to leave and go home to a woman... Granted, they'll be dressed like an elf and rolling dice with five other dungeon-denizens... But its something. eh?

[curiousagain 326]

This thread made me remember something I wrote a draft of months ago so I found it and posted part of it in the singles forum. Yeah, I'd have to decline. I had a couple invite me to be part of a fivesome with another couple back in the summer and we met at the new couple's home but I knew the first couple so I was cool with it. Turned out to be an experience that nearly made me quit swinging completely but that's another story.

[WesternSwing 504]

Doesn't want to meet in public? Tired of no-shows? My ass. What he's actually saying is:

 

A) He's too broke to go out

B) he's too lazy to go out

c) he thinks he's all that and you are there for his pleasure, or

D) all of the above

 

If he's for real, and he's serious, he'll get off his ass and meet you at a restaurant or night club and see how it goes from there and if you hit it off well enough to go back to his place.

[2ofakind33 15]

I have not read all the posts. But if you are uncomfortable, it should only be done in public. We will only do public .(until we get to know the person) We tried at our house and it went really bad. But, we had talked and hung out with the couple for 2 yrs. Even if you have a no show(which is not good),you can still have fun. Meeting in private for the first time with someone that I dont know just reminds me of a bad horror movie.. I am a movie buff, so maybe thats not a good thing..LOL

[ShellyM 0]

I have not read all the posts. But if you are uncomfortable, it should only be done in public. We will only do public .(until we get to know the person) We tried at our house and it went really bad. But, we had talked and hung out with the couple for 2 yrs. Even if you have a no show(which is not good),you can still have fun. Meeting in private for the first time with someone that I dont know just reminds me of a bad horror movie.. I am a movie buff, so maybe thats not a good thing..LOL

 

Not only in regards to safety issues, but it just puts you in a nasty position...if you see him and he is not what you expected or you aren't sexually attracted...whatever it is. If you are at his home drinking margaritas there is just an unspoken expectation that your clothes are going to end up on his bedroom floor. Meeting for the first time at a bar or restaurant keeps it neutral. We NEVER agree to play on the first meet up. That way if its not there you eat and drink, have great conversation and go about your way.

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

WesternSwing said:

Doesn't want to meet in public? Tired of no-shows? My ass. What he's actually saying is:

 

A) He's too broke to go out

B) he's too lazy to go out

c) he thinks he's all that and you are there for his pleasure, or

D) all of the above

 

If he's for real, and he's serious, he'll get off his ass and meet you at a restaurant or night club and see how it goes from there and if you hit it off well enough to go back to his place.

 

When I first read the OP I had a flashback to a date I had in college; first date with this guy. Don't remember much about the date or the guy except that I decided at the end of our night out to go to his apartment. Once there I was shocked. I didn't want to sit down anywhere! It was a mess and scary. At that point, I don't remember what I did exactly, but I got out of there fast.

 

We ALWAYS have a first meet with a single or a couple at a public place.

[sweetrosy1956 15]

Update - we finally got the guy to agree to meet at a McDonald's, he was half hour late even.

 

Anyways, we told him at the McDonalds that she was not comfortable with his home and said motel only, split cost, and he keeps saying his home. He said he had candles going, flowers, pot of coffee. When she said no, motel only, he got up and left! Not even a "don't think it would work" and the look he gave her, well we are glad it was public because it just wasn't a pretty site.

[8inches 15]

sweetrosy1956 said:

Anyways, we told him at the McDonalds that she was not comfortable with his home and said motel only, split cost, and he keeps saying his home. He said he had candles going, flowers, pot of coffee. When she said no, motel only, he got up and left! Not even a "don't think it would work" and the look he gave her, well we are glad it was public because it just wasn't a pretty site.

 

That sounds like a very weird experience to me. I'm a single male and I have met every single couple (except the first one which turned out to be super weird) in a public place and I have NEVER been stood up. There are several steps you can take to avoid being stood up not the least of which is getting a cell # and confirming prior to the meeting that the meeting is still on. Picking a place close to your home ensures that even if there was a no show you didn't have to drive far....

 

Public meetings are standard and expected so this guy had some agenda although I'm not sure what it is. Maybe in his home he felt he could make more demands or what not???

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

sweetrosy1956 said:

...he keep saying his home he had candles going and flowers had pot of coffee...

Well this explains it!

 

This guy would never buy candles, flowers, or coffee for himself and the thought of blowing his pocket of dollars for "nothing" was too much for him.

 

With all the pressure he was putting on you, I'm glad you stuck to your decision not to go to his place.

[8inches 15]

LikeMinds321 said:

Well this explains it!

 

This guy would never buy candles, flowers, or coffee for himself and the thought of blowing his pocket of dollars for "nothing" was too much for him.

 

OK, maybe he was just incredibly cheap and didn't want to spring for half of the hotel room. Who's idea was it to meet at McDonalds anyway?

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8inches said:

OK, maybe he was just incredibly cheap and didn't want to spring for half of the hotel room. Who's idea was it to meet at McDonalds anyway?

That we don't know. Maybe Sweetrosy1956 will come back with the answer.

 

But I will say, I'd never meet at a McDonalds. The environment is not conducive to bringing out lusty feelings in me.

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sweetrosy1956 said:

Anyways, we told him at the McDonalds that she was not comfortable with his home and said motel only, split cost, and he keeps saying his home. He said he had candles going, flowers, pot of coffee. When she said no, motel only, he got up and left! Not even a "don't think it would work" and the look he gave her, well we are glad it was public because it just wasn't a pretty site.

 

There is so many red flags showing in this post I can't even start. I feel you were right not to go back to his house. And he gave her a look? WTF was that about? Anyway, I'm sure y'all are planning to stay as far from this guy as possible.

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sweetrosy1956 said:

When she said no, motel only, he got up and left! Not even a "don't think it would work" and the look he gave her, well we are glad it was public because it just wasn't a pretty site.

Brrrrrrrr! That was a shiver of creepiness going up my spine. That guy was a freak, and not in a good way.

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Stood up or not with other couples, he is a single guy who is hoping to get it lucky with a lady, it is the couples choice on meeting arrangements either it be public or private.

 

He seems to be a very creepy fella if you ask me.

 

I'm a single guy, and I'd be careful and meet in the public area first, don't want to stand alone in front of a mass murdering couple...lol......seriously, should never entertain meeting in private until and unless are cock sure.

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We won't go to anyone's home until we know them quite well. I would be more worried about him having hidden video cameras running than him being an axe murderer. I don't want to see my wife on YouTube the morning after we had some fun.

 

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Originally Posted by sweetrosy1956

When she said no, motel only, he got up and left! Not even a "don't think it would work" and the look he gave her, well we are glad it was public because it just wasn't a pretty site.

 

 

I'm sorry, sweetrosy, I disagree with making it sound as if only you're wife is uncomfortable. I, or we together, will will state any rejections. If there is any anger directed at us, I want it towards me, not my wife.

 

But take heart, remember "he keep saying his home he had candles going"? His house was probably burned down from the unattended candles!