Subtle ways to spot a swinging couple in public.

[Guest]

I asked my husband and he told me that you can tell becuase the women are conspicuously not wearing undies. I looked in them mirror and I think he may be right.

[Rock n Tits 186]

On 10/28/2007 at 6:10 AM, Tybee Swing said:

 

I used to host a board on iVillage about sex and marital intimacy. There were no swingers there. The people there used the word "vanilla", but it had a different meaning. To regular monogamous couples (the ones we call vanilla), the word "vanilla" means people who have sex in the dark, are opposed to toys, opposed to the use of porn for couples, hardly do anything beyond missionary, too embarrassed to talk about sex, etc. So, "vanilla" is in the eye of the beholder.

 

To the BDSM community, swingers are vanilla. I used to visit a board called "Taboos", and they referred to everyone outside of BDSM as vanilla.

Has been used for years in the swing set

[EastInWest 1,524]

11 hours ago, Rock n Tits said:

Has been used for years in the swing set

Yes. "Vanilla" is contextual. The submissive I work with has visited this and some related forums and was completely shocked to find out that it has an identical - yet completely unrelated - usage outside of BDSM.

 

(Ex., "vanilla" meaning 'not swinging' may not at all mean 'not BDSM', and vice versa.)

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

"Vanilla" is jargon and references what someone perceives to be normative behavior. Personal normal and social norms are not quite identical and yet often confused: think for a moment on one's reaction to seeing an open collar when the rest of the men are wearing neckties.  Similarly, the couple wearing bathing suits on a nude beach are normal but (context-sensitive) non-normative. Curiously, it is non-normative behavior that make people, stories, and life interesting.

[couplers 4,635]

I agree, there is no way to tell by looking.  In the our experience of our family, however, it is clear that woman-to-woman interaction is the fastest way to make a connection on what may be possible: early on me recruiting single women willing to have sex with a married man (my husband) several bi women with me as well, and more recently Clair with finding us a couple.

[NoAngels 334]

As a business traveler I could tell who the cheaters were by observing the interactions between men and women. Of course in my mind every couple at a bar were cheaters because I was and that is how my mind works. 

[Sophy 569]

If the girl is checking on me and her partner seems content about it, "DING, DING, DING, we have a winner"

[SAMnTINA 362]

When ever we travel and have time in an airport or other public place with lots of traffic, we play a game. We call is maybe, maybe not, hope not. This is where we point out couples to each other and guess if they are or are not in the lifestyle. 

[Idahocouple6969 294]

3 hours ago, SAMnTINA said:

When ever we travel and have time in an airport or other public place with lots of traffic, we play a game. We call is maybe, maybe not, hope not. This is where we point out couples to each other and guess if they are or are not in the lifestyle. 

LoL we do the same thing! My favorite thing to whisper to my wife is "I'd do her" same goes for someone on TV. 

[njbm 2,869]

7 hours ago, Idahocouple6969 said:

LoL we do the same thing! My favorite thing to whisper to my wife is "I'd do her" same goes for someone on TV. 

But would your wife do her?

[Idahocouple6969 294]

6 hours ago, njbm said:

But would your wife do her?

Lololol why yes she would! 

[Aphroditee 323]

I've seen some women wear the jewelry, a Hotwife Necklace, a Queen of Spades Anklet, a swinger bracelet, or a threesome bracelet.  But it's delicate stuff so you'd have to be super close to see it.  And even if you saw it and picked up on the relevance there's no gaurantee they want you.  I have a girlfriend who has a queen of spades tattoo on her ankle and a bisexual symbol tattooed on her wrist.  But again you'd need to be close to pick up on them.  In general I think you just need to pay attention to the setting and peoples body language and actions.  

[let's do it again 414]

Maybe someone can confirm or deny this, I saw this beautiful blonde have a tattoo of the Eiffel Tower between her tits. I was told this is a swinging sign, never heard this, is it true?

[hunterdonNJcpl 1,387]

When we're on the prowl my wife will wear necklaces or anklets that communicate our intentions to those who are observant enough to notice

[bbarnsworth 2,637]

let's do it again; I've never heard of the Eiffel Tower thing. The hotwife necklace (as in hunterdon's post) or an anklet with the same is far more direct. I'd go that route.

[let's do it again 414]

When I saw the Eiffel Tower tattoo, I had no idea what it signified but I had a guy at work that does tattoos as a side job and he told me this. I have seen the upside down pineapple, ace of spades, queen of hearts, and double 69. For me it's all about the atmosphere I'm in to recognize the swinging signs.