Trip report - first house party

[tittietwister 126]

We finally got up the nerve to attend our first house party two weeks ago. Before we committed to going I did speak with the host to determine the style of the party as another couple advised me to do. The host explained that it would be pretty much be like a normal party except that bedrooms would be open for people wanting to play. If we didn't want to play but just enjoy the atmosphere that was OK too.

 

So we went. It was kind of strange as we didn't know anyone and of course we were ignorant regarding a certain key ritual (my characterization and more on that later). Most of the people were very nice - a little more so than at a straight party. The hot tub was going but most didn't want to go outside to use it as it was 39 degrees. Then the unwanted happened - some people we knew but would prefer not to showed up. OMG! We managed to deal with that amicably - it was a big house which helped. As a fall back, I told my spouse to call our son on her next smoke break and tell him to call me every 30 minutes so I could have a premise to leave if it got unbearable. Son couldn't be reached so she called our daughter. Daughter tried but the damn cell phone couldn't get a signal in the rec room/basement!

 

Then the aforementioned (unknown to us) ritual started. The host had alluded to lingerie on the phone but the way he explained it I assumed it was for ladies who simply wanted to get more comfortable for activity. What I realized after observing this was that it was the way the ladies signaled the other ladies and guys that playtime was on. The funny thing was that it was more ladies that paired off and went upstairs leaving half dozen guys or so at the bar to talk among themselves! What's wrong with that picture?

 

To be brutally honest, neither of us was attracted to the people anyway as I guess we are very picky and for me, I need to know the person first. At least my spouse had chosen not to bring lingerie and had kept her clothes on so she wasn't transmitting any attraction signals. When it was us six guys and my spouse standing around the bar with less and less to talk about it we pushed the eject button and headed home.

 

Not sure if this is typical but certainly not an experience I would want to repeat unless I already had established friendships with at least some of the attendees. My head is still spinning. Nevertheless, it was fascinating.

 

Just thought you would be entertained at a newbies perspective on what you guys may take for granted.

 

Comments and constructive criticism always welcome.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,023]

I'm pleased to read that you and your wife have made it to your first private party. Sound like there will be more in your future.

 

All of the women changing into lingerie on queue? Never seen nor heard of that before. Someone receiving a cell phone call to support an excuse to make an exit -- have seen that more than once. But does, overall, sound like a typical party.

 

Good luck in all of your explorations into The Lifestyle. Keep us appraised.

 

Michael

[ShellyM 0]

OP, it sounds like you had a good and bad night. Ummm, I know that alot of ladies wear it just because its looks good and is cute but I have never heard of it being done on queue; it also sounds like it was very laid back which is good. The f/f play is very common. Usually what happens is the ladies go do their thing and then when they are done they come out and then its more mfmf play type activities. Which is cool; this is why we always find out the guest list before going to house parties so we know if its going to be more of a bi lady thing or couples pairing off, etc. Anyways, don't be discouraged. In the future you'll probably want to ask for the guest list pre party, esp. since you are picky. Anyways, they are alot of fun.

[Greg & Sheryl 368]

When it comes to house parties, there is no such thing as "typical." Every party is going to be different. Even when the same circle of people are involved, the mood will vary from party to party.

 

Don't be afraid to leave a party immediately if something (or someone) makes you uncomfortable. The idea of having someone phone you to give you a premise to leave seems quite unnecessary to us. If someone asks you why you are leaving, you can diplomatically answer, "We're just not feeling it, tonight."

[WesternSwing 504]

I agree with Greg & Sheryl, you never need a reason to leave. You just can. Just say you're tired... You're going home to play together... You're not "feeling it" tonight (like G&S said)... Or any number of others reasons to leave. Believe me, there were plenty more people there so you leaving was not going to put the kibosh on the party for others. You have every right to politely say "good night" and leave if you want.

 

Now have we ever seen a party like that? No. All the parties we've gone to are just like what you said the hosts explained to you when you contacted them prior to the party: a bunch of people standing around drinking, eating and socializing and there are bedrooms or other areas set-up if you want to go play. From our experience this is not a "typical" house party. We'd chose not to participate in the activity they had planned, either. And we'd be considered "veterans" now.

 

Mr. WS

[good times 991]

The reason we don't care for house parties is that they tend to be real hit-or-miss. We have had fun at a couple, but we have been to many more that weren't all that fun or turned weird and we made a polite but quick exit. If house parties were the only venue available we would probably still go to them, but we prefer clubs because they are usually more predictable.

 

I will admit though, what you describe would of made us make a hasty departure too.

[NakedInSeattle 159]

As for "All of the women changing into lingerie on queue?", we've been to parties where it was "everybody getting naked on queue." And we've been to some where people just slip off surreptitiously pretending that the swinging isn't really happening and the ones left in the kitchen or living room also pretending that nothing is happening. Like it's been said, every party is different.

 

Vive la difference.

 

It's like opening a box of chocolates as Forrest Gump would say. Part of the excitement in this great hobby of ours is that you never know just what you're gonna get - or who.

[tittietwister 126]

Thanks all for taking the time to respond! It is reassuring to know that some of you that have more experience would have also felt uncomfortable. It's nice to be able to discuss it here.

[sweet_tna 680]

Hmmm, being a newbie myself I couldn't tell you whether that's a "typical" party or not. But I will agree with Greg & Sheryl, that you shouldn't have to set up a phone call to give yourselves a reason to leave. The only reason you need is that you're not having fun. Long as you're polite about the exit, I can't imagine anyone having an issue.

 

Hopefully, if you attend another party it will be more fun for you than this one.

 

=)

[BiloxiCouple 695]

I haven't heard of Tittie Twister in years. Brings back lots of memories!

[Pepper & Drew 384]

It's not typical of any house parties we've been to. The ones we go to are just like socials, but you can play right there, the food's better and you can actually talk over the music.

 

We would have hit the door too. You just need to find some different people to invite you their houseparties. Don't let it scare you from going to houseparties forever.

 

Pepper

[des1re06 200]

This one surprises me, and I'm not easily surprised.

 

Did the hostess not talk with your wife at all about what was planned?

 

As a party hostess, I always pay special attention to my new guests. I would never go off and leave them hanging. I always let them know they are welcome to participate or just watch. There's no "required" anything.

 

Sounds like a bad hostess to me. There are many others who are good at hosting.

 

Mrs. D

[tittietwister 126]

Mrs D.

 

Both talked briefly with us on the phone prior to the party. In hindsight, despite us declaring that this would be our first party, they assumed we knew what they took for granted. We didn't know what we didn't know so it made it hard to ask the right questions. We did try the best we could to determine the party style before attending.

 

At the party the hostess disappeared quickly to play. The host was very attentive to my wife as she was one of the best looking ladies there so his intentions were very transparent - take advantage of the newbie (in my opinion).

 

S&D

[Vjklander 138]

Mrs Vjk would have been right in her element with 6 guys and her. I can guarantee she would not have wanted to leave.

[tittietwister 126]

Hello,

 

The saga of the tittietwister newbies continues. This is the male half reporting.

 

For background, my original desire was to have a hotwife. For that reason we do entertain invitations from single men. Several have been persistent and one in particular has done a good job of wooing my wife. After weeks of back and forth emails he convinced her to meet him at a local hotel bar. I accompanied her to ensure her safety and provide a second opinion.

 

The meeting went very well. He was a very charming guy and we both liked him. As it turns out his company does business with my company and we knew some of the same people. They agreed to meet again to play. As we were parting ways in the parking lot they engaged in some pretty passionate kissing. Kinda turned me on. The she did the same to me in the car - very hot.

 

Out of the blue he calls her on the cell about a week ago Thursday and invites her back to the same place to play. I had already said it was fine with me but only if she wanted it. She was not to do anything simply to satisfy me (emphasized multiple times). She decided to go and play. He had a nice bottle of wine waiting in the hotel room. To cut to the chase, she made him cum twice - first via intercourse and again with a blowjob. He did not make her cum.

 

We both arrived home around the same time (me from work and her from her afternoon play). There was still some cum on around her mouth and in her pussy. I kissed her but couldn't taste anything. When we got inside I took her upstairs to enjoy what I have fantasized about for years - a creampie. First I noticed two hickies on her breast. He liked to play a little rough. I wasn't happy about that but she didn't mind so I proceeded to eat her pussy. I could taste the mixture of their juices - that distintive tang mixed in with her unique taste. Then I entered her and felt the unique slippery texture deep in her. It was unreal. I then pulled out and she sucked his cum off my dick. I then fucked her until we were both sore and she did cum with me. My dick was almost chapped when we finished. It was the best gift ever.

 

Will she do him again? Maybe. She said he was just OK as a sex partner. She said he actually had hoped I was going to be there as he likes to be part of threesomes. He is really into watching. He also wants the three of us to go to some clubs together. He told her of some very sexy games that are played so at some point maybe we will join him for an outing. I'm not yet up for a threesome as I haven't gotten it right with couples yet.

 

So far this is only experience that we both actually got off on. Even though single males seem to be shunned by most couples we have found that at least in terms of what they convey in profiles they are generally in better shape and many of the younger men are interested in older ladies. I think the intense competition among them keeps their game on a higher level all things considered. That's not to say there aren't attractive men out there as part of a couple. There are indeed.

 

Our next report will be on our second encounter with a couple.

 

S&D

[tittietwister 126]

Hello,

 

Him again posting another true newbie encounter.

 

We played with our first couple prior joining this board. We met once for a very enjoyable dinner and then played on the second date. I won't go into the details on that one but suffice to say it ended poorly. My wife's partner could not perform due to blood pressure meds and I couldn't keep it up due to performance anxiety. My wife reacted poorly to the situation and her partner took it very personally. His wife later become nasty about it despite our many apologies and complete acceptance of blame. In hindsight though, my wife admitted that she agreed to play when she didn't really want to as she wasn't physically not attracted to him. Had she said no instead of yes the whole sitution would have never happened. Lesson learned is say what you mean and mean what you say.

 

The second date was yesterday evening with a couple I had chatted with for months and become very friendly with. We had a dinner meeting with them several weeks ago and things went great. Conversation was animated and there was a good bit of groping. We had already agreed not to play that evening. We later made a date to play but suddenly my wife got cold feet and we backed out, apologizing with every step. We remained chat buddies although not as frequently as before. When my wife decided she was ready to play I invited them out, dinner and drinks on us, and then to a hotel to play. They had other plans. Then last week we got a short fused notice that they were available to play Friday night. I was very happy as I really do like this couple and wanted a long-term relationship with them where we do many things together.

 

I was still nervous about meeting though as I am haunted by my failure to perform with our first couple. That combined with a pathological shyness prompted me to take Cialis, Dostinex and Yohimbe prior to leaving for the dinner. I figured I was a one man orgy. I had tested that combination with my wife and it worked great with her.

 

So we go out to dinner at the same place as before. We have another fun time and I pick up the tab. More groping and the girls got nice and loose with some drinks. I limited myself to one drink just to be social as I know alcohol is bad for erections but with all the rocket fuel I had in me I thought I could have one lousy drink.

 

Dinner is over and we head over the hotel. My GPS gets us lost - more stress. We finally meet them in the lobby and I sign in as they had already done. Everyone is cool and making jokes. My nervousness continues to rise anyway. I figure no worry - the meds can compensate.

 

We're on different floors so we part company and head to our rooms. I could feel something wasn't right. The passion had disappeared. I still liked the lady very much but I didn't feel sexy. Kissing I thought - that will fix it. She was a fantastic kisser and I do love that. Finally I feel a rise. We then start undressing and kiss some more - really good feelings now and hardness is kicking in. I'm home free.

 

She goes down on me. She is really good at it. Deep throats like nothing. She says she just loves to suck cock. I think she wants me to come but I can't - I'm always thinking a lady won't like no matter what they say. Then we go back and forth with eating each other, kissing, and playing in different ways. Her husband had previously told me I had to use a condom because she was fertile so I brought some along. I was worried about being able to perform with one but I figured that would be a plausbile reason if I couldn't perform as I haven't used one in over 30 years. As we're playing for longer and longer I notice my erection is getting softer. Panic starts to build. The she puts me inside her without the condom. Another puzzle to work on. Why did she do that? She previously told me she cried all the way home on another occassion when a condom broke so why would she putting me inside of her and risking worse? All this thinking combined with the panic from the fading erection resulted in a complete loss of the erection while she is on top riding me like a cowboy on a bucking bronco. She goes down on me to try to revive the stupid thing. It works briefly and then she reinserts only to have my thing die again. At this point I want to call Scottie for an emergency beam out. I decide I have to make the best of bad situation and go down on her again with the intent of making her cum. I've got to do that to save any face at all. It was a mighty struggle but finally she cums. Shortly thereafter the closest thing to an emergency beam out occurs - her husband calls wanting to know if we are done as he and my wife are. They are coming up and shortly it is over.

 

My wife and him have had a great time. I later learn that she made him cum twice, that he was very good, had a nice dick, good body and they also liked each other as people. That's about all my wife volunteered. My narrative is not just about me because I like writing about me. She just didn't communicate much back to me because she was a little angry at me for taking so long. She didn't realize the situation I was in and that I couldn't think of a way out.

 

We part company and everybody is still acting lovey dovey. We decide to spend the night at the hotel. After they leave I collapse mentally. I can't believe I have failed myself and the rest of them so miserably. I'm also a little upset at what I perceive as the lack of support for me on the part of my wife even after she learns of my experience. It's really my lady friend that I feel the worse for as she had some self-esteem issues herself although I found her perfect just the way she was.

 

When we returned home this morning I called and made an appointment with a professional to help deal with these anxiety issues. I realize that I have always had a social anxiety disorder and swinging has made it impossible to evade as I have in the past. I am also very goal oriented which is fine for business but doesn't work in the bedroom where the process is to be enjoyed.

 

I truly regret this happening to this particular couple as I saw in them the possibility for a real light-poly kind of relationship - my ideal. I sent both of them separate emails. I thanked him for the great time he gave my wife and apologizing to them both for my failure. I haven't received a reply even though I can see they have been on-line. Is a simple acknowledgement

too much to ask?

 

I don't know what the future holds but I refuse to back out of this feeling less than a man. Hopefully with some help I can redeem myself. This is not about swinging anymore.

 

We have another first meeting with a couple on Monday. I called the female half today, was very honest about my performance issue and said that I was giving them the opportunity to cancel as I didn't want to waste their time. Her response - your mouth and fingers still work, don't they? Maybe there is hope after all.

 

As always, your kind comments and suggestions are solicited and welcomed.

 

S&D