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By NEWTOTHIS34
Hello all,
Just an honest from the heart post.
My wife and I have chatted about same room sex and she has said she would be happy to do that in the right situation but no more than that. She said she is aroused by swinging type situations and we role play a bit but said she wouldn't do it in reality.
So my question or rather some clarity is this as I have no one else I can talk to about this in person. If I happen to be in a busy supermarket for example I would say 1 out of every 2 women between 21 - 50 I feel a sexual attraction to and would love to have sex with. Obviously that's impossible but that's how it is. My wife and I are pretty open about things and I have said this to her and she says that is not normal and something is wrong with me. What do others think? Sometimes I feel pretty alone and feel like what is wrong with me.
I don't think I should have to feel this way and won't want to be around people who think anything sexual or any man who has sexual desire to another woman is dirt.
Another topic or some thoughts on something else I would appreciate some thoughts on is this.
I have had this my whole life and I am so sick and tired of being called derogatory terms or looked down on for being open about sexual things by men and women. For example the latest thing a very good looking woman wrote a tweet on twitter who's in my friend's twitter network and she referenced herself to being female by saying "Having a vagina....." I tweeted back in reply to he post and also said I am sure you have a beautiful vagina. Well the numerous comments back from men and women with derogatory terms such as "creep" and many other awful things. Why can being open about something like that cause someone to be verbally abused and slandered like some kind of creep etc. Why does anything to do with a body part or anything sexwise cause others to totally trash them and call them a creep, etc.
Also even this, 3 days ago while out at a amusement park a good looking lady had a short skirt on and was on a ride and due to the position of the ride she was unable to cross her legs. I happened to notice and she happened to notice me notice. She looked very annoyed like I was some kind of creep and immediately put a jumper in between her legs. Same thing happened a couple of weeks ago when a woman with a low cut top of leaned over in front of me and she noticed that I noticed I could see a good view of her breasts in a bar that she got annoyed and put her hands over the top of her shirt to block the view. Not like I was leaning over with my tongue out or anything I just looked.
Why does it seem like anyone who talks about anything sexwise, or looks at something a woman is revealing, i.e. like above, called a creep or made to feel like dirt? Of course there have been the odd times when this has happened and the lady has been flattered that obviously I found her attractive and if anything revealed a bit more. But for some women to go to the other extreme of calling you derogatory terms or giving you a very dirty looks, I just think why???
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By Billygoat
I have always had an interest in the human definition, just who are we? What drives us? Who actually defines us? I know I was never asked....or given the questionnaire.
As always it is those not living how others are or maintain power or try to be that desperately try to define all of us into a box.
I’ve always been curious, always asking why because the bottles, jars and boxes we all get shoved into never hold true.
My take away? Humans are:
Curious
Adventurous
Emotional
Highly social
Desire acceptance
Absolute need for contact, touch
Emotional connection, attachment
Happiness....
....collectively we want to be happy. We want at the end of our efforts, happiness.
So with that in mind why the imposed monogamy question? Maybe a better question is why the varying definitions to adapt to the wide variety of cultures, beliefs countries when in fact we were not made to be mono anything since the beginning of time without being taught, threatened and social outcasts for not taking part in the norm.
Mate sharing, spouse sharing and combined expanded family arrangements have been around since before history. The last 2,000 years monogamy, authority of the one, singular, grew but always had the old ways nipping at its heals.
In my readings I recently came across an interesting article, below:
Why Monogamy Isn't
The death of compulsory monogamy and viewing monogamy as only a social good
Elisabeth A. Sheff Ph.D., CASA, CSE
The Polyamorists Next Door
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/201508/why-monogamy-isnt
As most everyone in this group lives or wants to live a less than monogamous lifestyle you might find it an interesting read.
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By littleredhead
Alright!
So about two weeks ago, my boyfriend and I for the first time ever visited a really great swingers club. We haven't had any other experience swinging wise, but we have been interested for a while.
So on this night when we went to the club, we found a couple. The female half of the couple and I (also female) really clicked and were dancing and kissing most of the night. At some point we got disconnected with them, and later we found them by accident in one of the erotic rooms. We asked if we could take place next to them. We had told them already before that we are still new to this and weren't really sure how far we were willing to go this first evening, that we weren't really ready yet for any type of swap, but having sex next to each other and the females touching is okay.
Which is what happened, but at some point, it felt like they really wanted more (but of course, didn't try to push us into anything, they were very very respectful) and we started to feel bad for not wanting to give more at this first time.
Anybody else have any experience with this? I almost felt like we were too boring for them.
Tonight, we are going to the same club again, and don't want to have this repeated situation. Would you all suggest to just move on fast to another space and don't spend too much time with the same couple because it will bore them?
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By cplnuswing
Society has made some progress in how it views people that identify as bisexual. If someone is in a hetero relationship, and say they are actively bisexual, then logic dictates that there is some sort of non-monogamous something happening there. What is strange to me though is when you read of a celeb or someone in that situation, while the coming out as bi may be accepted and even praised for it's courage and honesty, no one on the receiving end of that information seems to want make that next step to holding the same feelings about the swinging, poly, or whatever situation is involved that is making the bi possible.
Is consensual non-monogamy still a bridge too far for society so when it comes to someone in a relationship saying they are bisexual, people just avoid making that next logical step in their mind? Anyone found themselves in a similar situation?
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By SW_PA_Couple
This is not a poll; just a question. Do you think that open marriage is more likely to work for a couple in mid-life (or even older)?
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