Is there a secret swinger handshake?

[curiousinca 15]

I was browsing SLS this morning and found a very interesting question posed in one of the profiles. It went something like this:

 

"Is there a secret handshake or possibly special bracelet that swingers use to signal others, letting them know they play, while they are out in public?"

 

So, is there? We have never met a couple or single form anywhere but a swingers website or at a meet-n-greet. It would be a huge thrill to actually meet someone while at a club or out to dinner.

 

Anyone know of such a thing?

[good times 991]

No, not that I am aware of.

 

Here are some links to previous threads on the subject.

 

Decoder Rings & Secret Handshakes.. lol

 

Swingers Universal Signal

[BiloxiCouple 695]

No, not really. This question comes up every now and then.

 

The closest thing is the NASCA apple. Different groups want to get one symbol (usually theirs), but it hasn't become universal yet.

 

No secret handshake, no special bracelet. No dolphin, toe ring, ankle bracelet or piercing that I know of.

 

You could always get a Swingers Board t-shirt and let everyone know. I like the one with the porch swing and "wanna play with us", but I don't think there are anymore left.

[The Grove 15]

There are actually a couple of differnt companies that make jewlery for swingers to recognize each other. There is a watch company, earrings and necklaces and there are also a few that make pins and temp tattoos. Hope that helps!

[Menage_a_Trois 182]

There are actually a couple of differnt companies that make jewlery for swingers to recognize each other. There is a watch company, earrings and necklaces and there are also a few that make pins and temp tattoos. Hope that helps!

 

Any chance you have the links to these sites?...........thanks!

[BiloxiCouple 695]

google swingers lifestyle jewelry. Plenty of links.

 

Some jewelry is less discrete than others.

[rpu3 630]

Well, swinger ID bands do exist, as well.

[fun4Ds 1,098]

I was browsing SLS this morning and found a very interesting question posed in one of the profiles. It went something like this:

 

"Is there a secret handshake or possibly special bracelet that swingers use to signal others, letting them know they play, while they are out in public?"

 

So, is there? We have never met a couple or single form anywhere but a swingers website or at a meet-n-greet. It would be a huge thrill to actually meet someone while at a club or out to dinner.

 

Anyone know of such a thing?

 

there is a secrete hand shake;), but if we tell then it wouldn't be a secrete anymore:lol:

[sexcupid 809]

The only problem I see with the s-bands...only one designates 'activites'...the black band=anything goes. Most of the rest are for couples and are just different colors. I think a color coding system would be too difficult to remember (I think that has been mentioned in previous threads)...it's just easier to ask. lol

 

As for knowing who's who...just go to a party or club, chances are everyone there is a swinger...I wouldn't entirely recommend propositioning someone in the produce aisle at the grocery store...but I guess it works for some.

 

 

Maria

[cpl36996 91]

my wife has on her ankle a bracelate with three charms two male simbol and one female simbol on her right ankle and she love it

[ShellyM 0]

I'm like the cats; if I bend over and stick my ass in the air that means I want to play. LOL

[BiloxiCouple 695]

I remember a color band system was used at a club one time to let everyone know their level of play. A chart was posted at the door. It didn't last long. The bands were voluntary.

 

The MFMF or FFM type of symbol is great if you are not worried about discretion.

 

Remember, people will ask you about your bands, bracelets, or rings. Make sure you have an alternative story ready for them, especially if it someone who doesn't need to know about it.

[Sico_tiko 17]

I don't know if there is something like this or not but I wish if there is, and why not as we are in a swingersboard we could set here some signs to swingers like any necklace or bracelet or anklet with a special symbol, so we could know each other if we met randomly somewhere.

[lovinher 505]

The only way for anything like this to work would be if all swingers knew what the symbol, jewelry or whatever meant. It will never happen because if that were to occur, the vanilla world would also know and discretion is out the door. If there was such a thing, I could or would never wear it even if it made things much easier. To an event is one thing, but in public, no way.

[ShellyM 0]

Yeah, it is not feasible to me for there to be a mass one. However, I think that at clubs or house parties it would be nice to have a generalized one. Like one color for full swap, another for moderate, another for soft and then the voyeurs. Not one for MFM or FMF or couples because that can change at will. But I would think the color bands would be neat. Like last night for instance lol...we were at a house party (AND HAD A FANTASTIC TIME, BTW) and one couple was there. Its not that they have issues. She was in the ls before she met this man and now they are married and she is introducing him to the ls. And he is very, very hesitant. Like there was a massage therapist there doing free massages and since he was a man she was not allowed to get a massage. So they are voyeur at this point, which is cool. But she is very friendly and very sweet and flirtatious...and here comes JAY. LOL. And he is doing his thing, being a flirt....and my eyes get about as big as pop bottles LOL and I'm thinking OH SNAP her hubby is going to spazzzzz...lol. She went downstairs (wonderful girl) and I discreetly pulled Jay to the side and whispered about the situation. Of course he was cool and we had a fabulous time, as did they. But a voyeur band would have helped I think.. LOL.

[sexcupid 809]

ShellyM said:

Like one color for full swap, another for moderate, another for soft and then the voyeurs. Not one for MFM or FMF or couples because that can change at will.

 

This would be good I think. Not overtly complicated...but still enough that everyone would have a vague idea of what the couple they are approaching is into...even if you have forgotten, it can be a topic of conversation...'soooo, I see you are wearing a yellow band...what does that mean? oh, that's your livestrong bracelet? whoops...'

 

Maria

[WesternSwing 504]

There are some jewelry as others have mentioned. There are also all sorts of urban myths like white landscaping rocks in the yard, certain types of grasses planted, hot tubs... all false. Well, maybe except the hot tub.

 

As others have said too, with the exception of just a few, not many swingers want to be publically identifiable as swingers. Not many like to publicize their sex life in any way shape or form.

 

Plus, again as others have said... there would be no way to keep a secret handshake secret and still let all the swingers know. LOL

[sexcupid 809]

WesternSwing said:

There are some jewelry as others have mentioned. There are also all sorts of urban myths like white landscaping rocks in the yard, certain types of grasses planted, hot tubs... all false. Well, maybe except the hot tub.

 

I have to laugh at this b/c I was watching house hunters one night and the couple looked at this house and the lady said, 'I don't think we're hot tub people...are we?' rotflmao....

 

Maria

[BiloxiCouple 695]

I work at a casino doing table games. I was dealing craps/dice one night and a guy walked up wearing a HEDO shirt. Cool I thought and mentioned something to him about it. Nothing negative, but can't remember the comment now, its been years now. But it was nothing overly "outing", the guys eyes got big and it seemed like he got upset that I knew what kind of shirt he was wearing. Duh....

 

Then there was the day this year that we got together for lunch after work and I wore my Swingers Board shirt.... That story is real. I got some good laughs. These guys know me.

 

My mom saw my NASCA apple on my necklace one day and asked what it was. I told her it was an apple with a bite out of it. She didn't ask anymore questions. I wonder if she googled the net later?

 

So whether it is jewelry or a t-shirt, there are no secrets.