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To say size doesn't matter is being polite, if you're presented with a present that is in a large box, only to find out after seeing what's inside, it doesn't measure up to your mental expectations, there's a little dissapointment for sure. But what it really boils down to is the person you've met that you want to be, face it, it's not all about the sex. What's more rewarding actually, is the relationship of your new friend.

 

Not a lot is said about the size of a woman's clit. They vary in size as well.

 

I knew a woman once with a clit the size of your thumb. Fun to play with... ;)

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I would disagree with this. We... have yet to run across a guy that actually was intimidated enough to refuse to play.

 

I agree with this. Mrs Spoo has been with men who are bigger. I am very comfortable with my size and have been called "big" before, though, by strict measurements, I am only slightly above average.

 

I've never been intimidated by bigger men since they have their own unique issues to deal with that makes their size a blessing and a curse. You have what you have - just learn to use it and you'll be fine ;)

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I think by and large,(no pun intended) most will find that average will be somewhat larger with body parts possessed by people who enjoy the lifestyle than one might find in the general population.

 

Whereas 6.5 inches might be average amongst swingers, reality causes the numbers to drop lower than six inches overall.

 

Most guys under five inches would never consider sharing their lady with average sized men, let alone with men with what are considered, here as being "well hung".

 

Of course exceptions do exist.

 

Hell, if this were true, our group would never play together. There's small, medium and large, and frankly, I have no interest in large. I enjoy the difference in size because different dicks are better for different types of play.

 

Pepper

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but we have yet to run across a guy that actually was intimidated enough to refuse to play.

 

I have only run across one... and I he didn't intimidate me enough for me to refuse to play at all... just enough for me to refuse to have sex with him. The guy is as big around as my wrist and about 9 inches long. That is the biggest I've seen, and I've run into one or two others that were definately on the larger end of the scale to the point that while I did have sex with one of them, once I had cum it was very hard for me to continue to have sex with him. What I have found with the extremely large guys I've encountered is that they rely solely on their size and never really learn how to use it properly.

 

On the other end of that spectrum I have encountered guys (both in and out of the lifestyle) who were quite small, but usually knew how to use what they had to the best of their ability so that size never seemed to be an issue.

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I have only run across one... and I he didn't intimidate me enough for me to refuse to play at all... just enough for me to refuse to have sex with him. The guy is as big around as my wrist and about 9 inches long. That is the biggest I've seen, and I've run into one or two others that were definately on the larger end of the scale to the point that while I did have sex with one of them, once I had cum it was very hard for me to continue to have sex with him. What I have found with the extremely large guys I've encountered is that they rely solely on their size and never really learn how to use it properly.

 

On the other end of that spectrum I have encountered guys (both in and out of the lifestyle) who were quite small, but usually knew how to use what they had to the best of their ability so that size never seemed to be an issue.

 

I can't resist.

 

You can use a baseball bat and beat them half to death with it or use chopsticks and orgasm the hell out of them.

 

Just made it up right now!!!

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What I have found with the extremely large guys I've encountered is that they rely solely on their size and never really learn how to use it properly.

 

One of my friends and I talked about this one day. We were kind of comparing notes....and she said something like, 'when I finally got to play with so and so, he was HUGE! but he just laid back and didn't do anything. but this other guy...well, he was kinda average, but DAMN!'

 

I think some of the big boys (if they realize they are 'above average' or large) expect us to go into the throes of orgasm by just presenting us with such a large dick....rotflmao ;)

 

OP,

 

How's it been going since removing the bit about hubby's size from the profile?

 

 

Maria :kissface:

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My husband doesn't really pay attention to the size of the other man's package. Only if we are looking at BBC or something does it matter.............

 

DJ is pretty happy with his so I suppose insecurity is not an issue with him. He just knows I can't take TOO much and that would be the only reason he would have an objection........

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Hi Ladies, Im new to the site.. seen your post. I can say I do not like anything more than maybe 7inches anymore than that is not enjoyable to me. When I was single I had an encounter with a well endowed man and it was not pleasurable at all.. I know now how much I can handle..guess its not just the size that matters.

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I was reading Harry Potter and the Deathly Harrows and I was reminded of this thread. I will quote from page 415 (first edition, July 2007), "Wands are only as powerful as the wizards who use them. Some wizards just like to boast that theirs are bigger and better than other people's." I wonder what J. K. Rowling had on her mind while she was writing these words.

 

Michael

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sexcupid said:
One of my friends and I talked about this one day. We were kind of comparing notes....and she said something like, 'when I finally got to play with so and so, he was HUGE! but he just laid back and didn't do anything. but this other guy...well, he was kinda average, but DAMN!'

 

I think some of the big boys (if they realize they are 'above average' or large) expect us to go into the throes of orgasm by just presenting us with such a large dick....rotflmao ;)

 

OP,

 

How's it been going since removing the bit about hubby's size from the profile?

 

Maria :kissface:

 

Maria..I'm sorry for taking so long to answer...I've really gotten behind. Actually we've not had one question about it since the removing it from the profile! I am really grateful for the advice.

 

I'm going to post a thread..when I get the chance...because our one "close couples" have been, a little more than what I'd call, hinting about going to full swap. Perhaps since we've known them for months now and Hubby has always, for lack of a better term, "handled her with extra care" she has reconsidered. I don't mean "handled" in a bad way, I just don't know how else to explain it. Perhaps treated her very carefully or tender?

 

Thanks a bunch for asking! Thanks to all for the advice!

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Only time it bothers me is when a gal says "I want nothing less than 8 inches"

 

Guess I don't measure up to her needs, but an average size condom is simply too tight on me.

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Well...I'm not average; but if I was a couple of inches longer I could be. Sure, I've benn self conscious. I'm a guy with a small dick.

 

One time at a party a guy who was endowed far more abundantly than I, saw my dick of "modest" proportions. He laughed and said, "just who do you think your going to satisfy with THAT?" I was trying to think of something witty to say when the woman he had been interested in answered. With a beautiful smile she said, "Oh, that would be ME!" (I admire her class.)

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You can use a baseball bat and beat them half to death with it or use chopsticks and orgasm the hell out of them.

 

:lol:

Very funny!

I'd give you a fortune cookie for that one if I could. ;)

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Well...I'm not average; but if I was a couple of inches longer I could be. Sure, I've benn self conscious. I'm a guy with a small dick.

 

One time at a party a guy who was endowed far more abundantly than I, saw my dick of "modest" proportions. He laughed and said, "just who do you think your going to satisfy with THAT?" I was trying to think of something witty to say when the woman he had been interested in answered. With a beautiful smile she said, "Oh, that would be ME!" (I admire her class.)

 

And hopefully you did just that :)

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