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Hubby and I are curious about swing clubs. My biggest thing is, what in the heck do people wear? I know the general "wear what is comfortable" rule, but I guess what I am asking is, what do you wear to a swing club?

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All depends on what you are comfortable with. Sometimes there are themes so it is always nice to go with that. But as a general rule Women something sexy and men dress to impress. Nice shoes, slacks and a nice shirt. Hope that helps some.

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When I'm first visiting a club I typically opt for a short skirt and a top that is somewhat revealing but not too much so (a tank top typically for me). If not a skirt then pants, nice jeans usually. As I get more comfortable my outfits get smaller and smaller. Last time we went I walked in in a nice top that was kind of long and jeans... after we got inside the jeans came off and all I wore the rest of the night was the top.

 

The best thing to do if you aren't sure is wear something you feel comfortable and sexy in, something you would feel comfortable wearing to dinner. But, take a bag with you with a couple of changes of clothing so that if you get more comfortable through the evening and you want to change you can do so.

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I have seen sexy and next to nothing to jeans with harley shirt with the sleeves torn off. It really varies at times. Find out the dress code and go with what you like.

 

I've always felt the clothes help reveal the personality. The first couple we ever swung with we met because of what he was wearing. He was wearing a nice shirt that had a billfish on it. The wife "grabbed" him because of the shirt and I fish. It was an icebreaker. I guess the torn Harley shirt does the same thing.

 

Personally, if I could get away with it all the time, it would be shorts, tropical shirt and sandals. Not my fishing clothes either.:lol:

 

Be yourself.

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Dress to impress. Imagine you are single again and going to a club to get noticed. Would you really wear your sweatclothes? Not likely!

 

Pamper yourself - get a manicure, pedicure or mud wrap so your skin is soft.

 

My favorite store for clubwear is wickedtemptations. I don't think you can ever go wrong with a mini-skirt.

 

Have fun!

 

Mrs. D

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discreetcoup69 said:
I know the general "wear what is comfortable" rule, but I guess what I am asking is, what do you wear to a swing club?

 

My hubby and I dress like des1re06 just described, like we're going to a vanilla dance club to get picked up (dressed to impress). I usually wear lowrise, well-fitting jeans with high heels and a sexy top (this is comfortable for me, it feels "right" to me). My hubby wears a good-quality shirt (I pick them out according to how they feel to the touch), nice jeans, and dress boots. Sometimes he'll wear a jacket over that.

 

What I mean about hubby's shirts: a lot of us women love the way good fabric feels when we touch it...soft, nice. Ladies know what I mean. You want to just keep touching it. :) One of my faves on him has a "sueded" finish. I get him blends like silk/cotton/cashmere. Women always seem to be touching him. ;)

 

Sexy top for me: I like the classy-sexy look, it makes me feel confident. I probably won't be the one in the most revealing get-up, but that's not my goal.

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Tybee Swing said:

...My hubby wears a good-quality shirt (I pick them out according to how they feel to the touch), nice jeans, and dress boots. Sometimes he'll wear a jacket over that.

 

What I mean about hubby's shirts: a lot of us women love the way good fabric feels when we touch it...soft, nice. Ladies know what I mean. You want to just keep touching it. :) One of my faves on him has a "sueded" finish. I get him blends like silk/cotton/cashmere. Women always seem to be touching him. ;)

I was about to post the same thing when Tybee's post appeared. She is so right about the "feel" of fabric, for both men and women.

 

We give this quite a bit of consideration, probably because Mr LM and I are people who like to touch a person's arm when talking, and of course, when we dance with people we are always touching their clothes.

 

There is something so sexy about feeling a man's muscular arms and chest come through his cashmere, or silk, or the sueded fabrics that Tybee mentioned. It doesn't have to be expensive fabrics either, some wonderful cottons and blends feel great too.

 

Mr LM and I have both received compliments on how we feel when we've worn clothes that are especially nice to touch, and we compliment people when we've noticed how good their clothes feel to us.

 

Something I'll add about dressing at clubs, I've noticed that white, bright colors, things with sparkle or patterns stand out more. If you do dress in all black (black is one of my standards) it helps to wear a little bling or sparkle in your jewelry to help you stand out. The more skin you show the more you'll be noticed, but only show what you are comfortable showing. I'm pretty conservative when it comes to exposure and lean towards very fitted clothes rather than skimpy.

 

There is clothing I see on other women that look so good on them, but I know I could never pull the look off. So keep that in mind when you decide what you want to wear. Stick to what you think works best for you. Wear what you feel good in and suits your personality.

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There is something so sexy about feeling a man's muscular arms and chest come through his cashmere...

 

Mmmmmmm! Is it getting warm in here?

 

The more skin you show the more you'll be noticed, but only show what you are comfortable showing. I'm pretty conservative when it comes to exposure and lean towards very fitted clothes rather than skimpy.

 

:ditto: Personally, I think that's sexier. At least, I feel sexier in that, than in something with my ass cheeks and other jigglies falling out when I'm in the main/social area and dance floor. I love to dance and not have to feel self-conscious. The key is to be comfortable, and wear what makes you feel most confident.

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I feel so sorry for you guys in the US, the clubs here in Germany you get changed into something you like as soon as you go in, there's changing areas/lockers so when you enter the club your wearing your nice sexy stuff. Most girls wear anything that's sexy from leather to chain dresses to high heels and nothing else. The guys normally shorts (tight fitting Lycra) but also leather etc and sandals but some are daft and wear nice shorts etc but then put on Trainers and that's looks really gaff...

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Mrs Naked always starts in sexy street clothes. Comfy and easy for a potential partner to get into. And she takes some real slut wear so she can change if the mood is right.

 

As all have said, dress as sexy as you're comfy with and feel sexy in. Go with the flow. Don't be afraid to peel off layers as the evening (and the admirers) cum on.

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Unless it is a theme party, we dress in what we would wear if we were going to any other night club, if that is any help. Mrs. WS likes to look sexy but classy with a blouse and slacks or a skirt. I probably look like a ad for Gap or American Eagle. :lol:

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I will be attending my first party on feb 11th and it has a valentines day theme. This is a house party but apparently will have up to 100 people there. I'm a bbw and have NO idea what to wear. I kind of thought white as a colour would be a good choice. Because I'm a newbie... And everyone else will be wearing black and red I'm assuming...? But how daring/conservative do I have to be? Im a farm girl and avid equestrian so my usual attire isn't complete without mud and manure. I'm just not really sure where to start at all? Other then something I feel comfortable in. Help!

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Can you contact the party hosts? They should be able to fill you in regarding what the dress code is. They'll know what most people will be wearing (type of clothes, not colour probably ;) It will be a good start for making sure you feel comfortable when you get there.

 

White is good, so are black and red :)

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Thank you for the wonderful advice! You put a few good ideas into my head and I'm going to go shopping after work this afternoon! Only five days away! I'm soooo excited!

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I just checked out the club website and their dress code says "collard shirts an dress slacks are suggested attire for men. Sexy Dress to impress for women". To me this leaves it pretty open... Would dress jeans and a sexy top be appropriate? That is how I would feel most comfortable and sexy.

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You might as the host or hostess. Jeans, of ANY type, were not allowed, at our club. The thought being.. "most" ladies dress for the sexy occasion and it's only fair that the men step up as well. Same with "T-Shirts". If someone arrived dressed in those type outfits... there were two choices: 1) go to the dressing area and get a robe or towel and ditch the "Slacker wear", 2) go away, get different outfit and come back, either later, or some other day.

Slacks, dress shorts (although frowned up, were allowed), collared shirts. On more than one occasion (but not very many) we turned folks away for dress. Some were even good friends that had been at the lake boating all day, but "dress for the occasion" was the rule, and if they showed up in "lake wear", they were given a choice at the door. Some got pissed, but they weren't missed. Others respected the intent and just rolled with it. Besides, being in a robe (club supplied) got you a head start.. LOL

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NICE jeans I think would be fine... You know, not the acid washed, pre-ripped or in any other way worn out looking kind. Pair them with a sexy top and some heels, and the look is very nice. "Dress to impress" is vague. As long as you have obviously put effort into your appearance, I would think you'll be fine. And jeans are great for women who have the ass for them. I unfortunately do not, so I wear dresses whenever possible. :D

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