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So I guess I'll start this off with a little background information: I go by the name Ave Satanas, and I've been a semi-active member of the swingers board since April of last year. At the time that I joined, I was only curious about the lifestyle, but I soon realized that it was perfect for my SO and me. Things were tricky for us, since both of us are under 21, which meant no clubbing, and we were reluctant to engage in any activity with anyone we didn't know. More problems plagued us, but we made the effort and think we've done pretty well considering we both live with our parents and it's still under wraps (hey man, it's tough being a college student!).

 

Now if you haven't read any of the threads I posted, let me give a quick update: we had engaged in our first group sex activity, a MMF threesome, with a friend of ours. It went fairly well, but since then we have come to the conclusion that the particular friend involved, while a great guy, isn't particularly well suited to swinging. We went on the hunt for a female, since that's what my lady was interested in. In my last post, which was quite a while ago, we were preparing for a threesome with her.

 

Long story short: the whole event crashed and burned. Drama ensued. Thankfully it's over, and I've learned a lot.

 

So now we get to the meat of this blog... A coworker of my girlfriend had piqued our curiosity, and we were considering throwing out the idea of playing with her. Not a minute after we resolved to, the girl's previously unknown boyfriend comes into town for winter break from his school in Alaska. We were pretty disappointed, but my girlfriend met him and said that I would like the guy anyway. She said she had even made a joke about the four of us having an orgy, which he half-jokingly agreed to. So I sent the guy a text message, and we agreed to meet up. (I should probably mention that my girlfriend works at an arena for our cities hockey team with this girl, and since I'm a rabid hockey fan, I attend every game). After the game was over, we met them outside.

 

Sure enough, me and this guy hit it off. Really, REALLY well. It was like he was me in a different skin. Being so immediately comfortable, I figured 'what the hell' and said "So, foursome?".

 

To which he responded, deadly serious "Well, what are you two doing tomorrow?"

 

So we agreed to hang out the next night. We were unsure if the two were serious or not, but we prepared for a good time regardless. The next day, we met them and we all enjoyed a nice dinner. We went back to the guy's house and proceeded to go out to the hot tub. Well, it wasn't long before the two of us guys were able to convince the ladies to undress and get some kissing action going.

 

And right then, we hear his family pull into the driveway. We were all pretty disappointed, and exited the spa. We decided to go grab a coffee, and near the coffee place, we see a cheap hotel. He jokingly says that we could get a hotel room, and so my lady and I take a gamble and say "well, we'll pay if you're interested".

 

Next thing you know, we're in a hotel room, calling our parents to say we're staying with friends. We push the two beds together, and start having fun.

 

First predicament: in all my plans, I had never thought that I would be NERVOUS. Thankfully, he was two, and it became the running gag of the night between the two of us. Eventually he's having sex with his girl and we're doing the same.

 

However, we had yet to swap, and my girlfriend and I were pretty anxious too. So to give the whole situation a kick-start, i suggested that she go over and try getting a little intimate with the guy while he was giving his girlfriend some oral action.

 

Things were looking good, and at some point or another his girl ended up over with me. We got pretty occupied, and soon enough she's on top and we're having fun. That is, until we look over and notice that his nervous problem has come back.

 

Now, I don't have to recount the ENTIRE story, but in the end, my lady never actually had sex with him. Not that he didn't give her any attention, and there were no hard feelings in the end.

 

So the next weekend, I ended up house-sitting for some people I know and ask this guy if he and his girl want to hang out. We don't mention a foursome specifically because we didn't want to make him feel as though that's all we want. But thankfully, he and his girl suggest it again and we end up at this house.

 

Now, a little more background: This is basically the last night we have a shot with the two of them for a while because the next day he's due to go back to Alaska for school. So we've got big plans for the night.

 

Things start off similar to the last time, and we all end up in the same bed (we started out in separate rooms to quell the usual nerves). However, he and his lady seem pretty busy and we're reluctant to ask him. However, we're not really having too much fun because we're growing more and more disappointed by the second. His girlfriend seems to get the idea, but him... not so much.

 

So his girlfriend decides that she needs to leave the room for a little while and heads out, and I suggest to my girlfriend that she attempt to get some action going while I leave the room.

 

Now, before I continue, some more background: his girlfriend is incredibly sexy. Gorgeous. Now obviously I don't think she holds a candle to my girlfriend, but my lady doesn't share my opinion.

 

So me and his girl start getting something going, and we decide to go to a different room while my lady seduces the other guy. We sneak a peek in their room before we go into ours however, and are greeted with a disappointing site: he's laying there, facing away from my dejected looking girlfriend. His girl goes to talk to him, while my girlfriend comes with me to another room.

 

In the other room, she informs me that when she attempted to try getting him to do anything with her, he casually mentioned that he was just waiting for his girlfriend to come back so that the two of them could cuddle.

 

Basically, he very politely told my girlfriend that he didn't want to do anything with her. Now, cuddling wouldn't be such a problem, except that a moment later, we hear the sound of the other two going at it again. Right around then, my girl starts to tear up. She doesn't take any sort of rejection well, and I don't take to seeing her cry well.

 

I hold her for a minute, my blood boiling.

 

In retrospect, it WAS his last night with his girlfriend. But he HAD been the one to suggest a foursome, and it seemed like that plan was out completely. I was starting to feel like I was just there to give them a place to fuck, and on top of that my girlfriend had tears streaming down her face. So I did what I figured any good boyfriend would do in my situation, regardless of how much they liked the other dude.

 

I pulled on my jeans, left the room ("oh, I've just gotta pee, babe. I'll be right back."), marched into the other room, step right up onto the bed, pull the blanket back, and punched him in the head. Hard. Full-on. In the face.

 

He gave the expected "what the fuck", to which I responded "that's for making my girlfriend cry, you fucking dick." I pulled back for another blow and he says "wait, she's crying?"

 

"well of course she's crying, you stupid idiot, she feels like you rejected her. You just shot her down"

 

Now, I know i had just punched this guy, and I know that it wasn't as honorable as I would have liked it, but if you ask either one of us now, we'd tell you that even at that moment, even RIGHT AFTER I hit him, we were still friends, and good friends at that.

 

So, in lieu of hitting him again, I let him and his lady rush into the other room to console my girlfriend. He apologized profusely, saying that he didn't mean to hurt my girl's feelings, he just was caught up in the moment with his girl.

 

I thought things were getting better, but as we all lay in that bed, he starts talking. Normally not a problem, except basically everything coming out of his mouth was "isn't my girlfriend so pretty, I love her more than anything, she's everything to me", etc.

 

My thoughts: 'hey, if I wanted to hear this, I'd have rented a Hugh Grant movie. I signed up for a foursome, goddammit'

 

But, against my better judgment, I put up with it. For a good hour and a half. To that point that when he left the room for a minute, even his girlfriend remarked at how sickeningly sweet.

 

Now, and I'm quoting this from a friend, I'm cool with love. But not this chick-flick-gay-love.

 

In the end, my lady and I went to our room while they went to theirs. So far, still no foursome. We're kind of pissed still, and my girlfriend says "well, he said he didn't mean for me to feel rejected... but I mean, nonetheless, I was". And we just start complaining to one another about how disappointing our night has become.

 

So she goes into the other room, where they've started back up again. And she asks flat out if the foursome is going to happen or not. They dance around the question for a good five minutes, going on tangents and talking about just being 'so caught up in the moment' etc. My girlfriend tells them after all this that they've yet to answer, and he finally says "so you're asking if we're going to swap partners tonight?"

 

I'll give you a moment to let it sink in.

 

We nod, and he answers "tonight, honestly, probably not"

 

So we go to bed, fuming angry. A few minutes later, they come in, and proceed with basically the same thing they did with my SO the first time. Sure, the apologies are nice, but in the end, things are the same: nothing has happened and he's still in gay-love.

 

After they leave, my girl and I at least had a little fun with each other before going to sleep. The next morning the other two come wake us up super early, because I've got to take him to the airport.

 

No problem, I had agreed to that. I even sat through the half-hour long, chick-flick-style goodbye between he and his girl.

 

Mind you, I'm feeling a little better now that I've had some sleep. I'm less angry at him, and having talked to him a little, I'm convinced that a foursome is still possible the next time he's in town. So he leaves, and there are absolutely no hard feelings.

 

His girl, my girl, and I head back to the house. We grab some breakfast, and all decide to lay down for a nap. Yes, all of us in the same bed.

 

Hey now, we're all fully-clothed the entire time. Don't give me that look.

 

In conclusion, here's what I'm thinking:

 

1) A foursome isn't out. The two of them were just really trying to enjoy their last night together for a while.

 

2) He's a good guy, it's just situations like this made me dislike him some. But in the end, he's still a great friend of mine.

 

3) His girlfriend, having been much more open to swapping that night than he was, is still awesome. In all honestly, my lady and I both harbor the fantasy that one day she'll leave him and come be our live-in girlfriend. She's a great girl, and we'd do a lot for her. Of course, we've known her longer, so...

 

We have cut them out, but we're keeping an eye out for new playmates. I've written this whole lengthy, terribly unstructured blog to basically see what my friends here on swingers board think of the situation. So: comments, advice, feedback, flames, anything?

 

Thanks for reading this far, if you have. I appreciate any feedback.

 

-Ave Satanas

 

P.S. This started out as a blog but became too long, so I apologize if it reads weirdly due to that.

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My question for you is what made you think of trying to make swingers out of friends? That is one of the biggest no-no's in swinging. At least it is in our swingers handbook.

 

Secondly, we avoid drama like the plague. You're asking for more drama, my friend, if you're wanting to try another foursome with this couple.

 

If you're serious about this lifestyle -- get used to the rejection. You can't go around punching everyone that rejects your girlfriend. IMO, your post screams of immaturity on your part (punching someone is never in good taste).

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Please please please if you put up a profile anywhere use this same screenname so we know who to avoid!

 

In my two years in the lifestyle, I have experienced a few times where the male half had anxiety or performance issues. It's not uncommon and it's not a big deal. You can't take it personally. And to make a big deal about it is not nice and certainly not a good way to treat "friends".

 

And god forbid I'm ever in a situation where some guy decides to punch my husband in the head while we are in the middle of a good time simply because his gf decided my husband was rejecting her. I can guarantee that that would not end well.

 

While I agree with the poster who said that trying again with this couple is drama, I also think that the OP is pretty high up on the drama scale as well. I can't understand why someone would take an issue in a play session so personally.

 

My take on the situation is that while you are angry at their seeming selfishness, you and your gf have displayed quite a bit of selfishness and immaturity. I think you need to do a good bit of introspection on this one.

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I guess you stepped over reading the part that No means NO and no one has to do anything with you, or your girlfriend that they don't want to do.

 

We have a rule at our club that people have to be 25 to come to it. You are the reason why we do this. "You stepped up and punched him in the head." Real mature guy. What did that prove besides that your a fool? Mark up another perfect example whey we won't be changing that age rule any time soon.

 

Now you want her to leave him and come be your play toy. Something else that no one in this Lifestyle wants to hear. You need to spend more time reading the forums and less time trying to destroy relationships and most of all you need to grow up.

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Well, I can clearly see where you guys made a few mistakes, but I think those are going to be pointed out by the other members of the board. I think it's important not to get too self-righteous about thinking that us "experienced" swingers would do it so much better than you. I've certainly met couples who've easily done things just as silly - and they definitely should have known better!

 

I think you've been brutally honest in your retelling of the story, and that's where I wanted to comment. You're a great writer, and in truth, you cracked me up with your story.

 

What you need to always keep in mind is that every ingredient in the recipe for a foursome is a human being. They have their own objectives, their own fears. Something to remember: It's not about you. Nor is it about your girlfriend.

 

Why don't you just keep looking for someone else to get your swapping jollies? I suggest finding someone you don't need to have a friendship with. That way, if things go south, you don't have to have all the drama, you just move on.

 

Good luck.

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My first thought after reading this is that you are way too immature to be swinging. What happened here had nothing to do with the other guy or couple but with your own immaturity. When it comes to swinging there is no such thing as a sure thing. It doesn't matter who brings it up, if someone says no, it means no (kinda like dating).

 

If your gf felt rejected and you got upset because you saw her crying that is NO REASON to punch a guy (in the head or otherwise). If anything you could knock on the door and say "hey my gf is feeling rejected because we were really hoping to have a foursome and now she's crying, do you think you could help me out?". As for the guy going on and on about how great his girl is, I'd hope he would, I wouldn't want to swing with a couple where they didn't really appreciate each other.

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First off, hitting the other guy was way out of line. You said yourself that it was his and his girl's last night together. It's perfectly understandable he'd want to be with her. They may have thought the foursome was an exciting idea, but weren't ready for the reality. Or he could simply not have been into your girlfriend. The reason is irrelevant. The tears are irrelevant. If you really want to swing, you have to accept that it won't always go the way you're hoping for. To find four people who are all attracted to each other isn't easy. Add the reality of having sex together with each other's SO is even tougher.

 

And no offense, but you really don't sound like you're quite ready to be swinging. Not just because you hit the guy, but because of your approach. NO means NO. Period. Even if it's someone else's suggestion to play, the moment any person says no it's over. Yes, rejection smarts. And your girlfriend getting so upset about it shows she's not really ready either.

 

Everyone makes mistakes, and as long as you take it on the chin and learn from them, there's hope. Best of luck to ya'll.

 

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It felt like I was reading a screenplay, and a very well-written one. Punching the guy out is like something from a movie afterall, funny in the theatre, but not at all funny in real life.

 

I glanced over some of your previous posts, they're all long - although good reads - and you've described yourself as jealous, overly protective and have a problem with anger. I'd say you have the three main ingredients for a loser swinger.

 

Swinging isn't going to work for you if you can't overcome these personality obstacles. Maybe it's your youth, let's hope so, but if you hold on to these same traits as you grow older you're unlikely to run into guys who'll take a couple punches to the noggin' as nicely as the "chic-flick-gay-love" guy did. You don't know how damn lucky you were in that situation.

 

I don't think you've read enough on the Board about the rules of swinging. You don't have the basics understood.

 

You're 21, or there abouts, and you probably don't want to hear me say "wait until you grow up" and then give swinging a try again (maybe in 5 years), but that's all I can suggest.

 

Ave, you need to grow up and mature - learn a lot more about swinging - if you ever hope to handle the complexity of swinging.

 

LM

 

Edit: Since I love creative writing, I think if ever you decide to become a screenwriter this story would be great to include in a movie. I think Hugh Grant would be perfect for the guy you punched out, Brad Pitt could play you, and your girlfriend I picture as Mira Sorvino...all in their younger years, of course. I don't have a pick for Hugh's girlfriend, but she would be a brunette. :D

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I remember you. You write very well and generally sound very mature for your age. You knowingly selected a path less traveled and discovered for yourself WHY it's less traveled. Take some time and really think about what happened and perhaps why it happened like that. It sounds like everyone contributed somewhat equally to the drama (and your role is especially noteworthy). Think about how the outcome could have been different if you had been in control of your emotions and behaved differently. You're not easily deterred from your objective, so I think there's a high probability you'll give it another try. With the lessons both of you can learn from this encounter, you MAY enjoy success in the future (or you MAY crash and burn, again).

 

My guess, based on this chapter is that neither of you are really ready for this kind of activity - and that's quite OK. Keep it as a fun fantasy until you're both ready for the next level. Explore some alternatives that are less likely to invoke unpleasant emotions (not only for yourselves, but for the others too).

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Punching a guy is not a bad thing so long as it is done for sport, and not out of anger. I'm in a club that deals with that, but I'm not supposed to talk about it...It's their first rule.

 

Seriously, there is no possible way my wife or I could have had the maturity in our early twenties to swing. I am not surprised it turned out like it did. There is a reason why most of the swingers you encounter are in their 30s +. They have worked past their own personal drama. You should do the same before you mess with anybody else.

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I can certainly see that mistakes were made on all sides. However, I don't see you as a lost cause for swinging. In fact, Kermit and I started out here at a very young age. (I think I was 21 and he was 22 or 23.) It's possible that we could have ended up in some messes in the first couple of years. I think we were just lucky with our first couple. They were older than us by about 10 years and they really had themselves figured out. They showed showed us an excellent model of how we should go about this. You do seem to be communicating well. The next step will be to keep your reactions to the unpredictable behaviours of others in check. As has been mentioned, others are fully within their rights to reject you for whatever reason. There is no reason to automatically assume that the rejection is your fault. You just have to pull up your confidence and roll with it.

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I can certainly see that mistakes were made on all sides. However, I don't see you as a lost cause for swinging. In fact, Kermit and I started out here at a very young age. (I think I was 21 and he was 22 or 23.) It's possible that we could have ended up in some messes in the first couple of years. I think we were just lucky with our first couple. They were older than us by about 10 years and they really had themselves figured out. They showed showed us an excellent model of how we should go about this. You do seem to be communicating well. The next step will be to keep your reactions to the unpredictable behaviours of others in check. As has been mentioned, others are fully within their rights to reject you for whatever reason. There is no reason to automatically assume that the rejection is your fault. You just have to pull up your confidence and roll with it.

 

I don't think age is an issue here so much as maturity. I also started out very young (21 maybe).

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So I had expected to be told that I shouldn't have hit the guy, that it was bad behavior, immature, etc. I agree there were better paths I could have taken. But at the time, there was no straight 'no' that MEANT 'no', only a shrug off after being put under the assumption that a foursome is exactly what we were there for. And like I mentioned, on my end things were heading that way.

 

I suppose deep down I knew that this guy and I were (and still are!) good enough friends that the hit wouldn't be a huge problem. I suppose that might be because we're younger and will hit one another half the time just for the hell of it. And anyone who knows hockey guys knows that fighting isn't a HUGE thing for us. In the end, the guy later offered to take another hit, saying he himself felt like he had it coming. And I should probably mention to everyone that regardless of what I did that night, odds are that I would never, NEVER hit a member of another swinging party just because they shot down my girlfriend. Had it been someone else, the circumstances would have been different.

 

But as for appearing in good taste, mature, etc... I did not care, and am not sorry. Maybe I'm just stubborn like that. But where maturity might be my problem, some of those who have pointed this out might want to look at ageism as THEIR problem. Sure, bad taste is never good. But neither is a condescending attitude...

 

However, I respect everyone's opinion and appreciate the feedback I've gotten thus far. Especially since it seems like most everyone read the damn thing. That deserves a thank you in itself.

 

So to clear up some individual facts:

- we never MADE swingers of friends. From what we had been led to believe, they were swingers already. As for swinging with friends and all that... Eh, it's what we do and I don't think we're changing that.

- When we got a straight NO that meant NO, we were actually much better. That's when we went back and just enjoyed sex with one another and were honestly not angry. Everything angry happened before they gave us a straight no.

- We don't actually intend to steal this guys girlfriend away, that was actually a joke. I respect the hell out of this guy and would do a lot for him.

 

And with that I've got to go pick up the lady from work. Thanks for the feedback, the cast list (God that was funny. I could use more of that. Every guy likes getting compared to Brad Pitt), and the Fight Club reference. Can't wait for more.

 

I swear I'm more mature than you might be taking me for.

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I go by the name Ave Satanas
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why?... please do tell.. if you woudnt mind.

 

it seems important to you, that we know who you are. before we hear what happned in your thread.

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Actually, mentioning that I go by that name was more of an introduction than anything else, it wasn't really relevant to the thread.

 

But if you're curious about the name itself, it is a term used in a religion I practice. I don't name it too much because doing so is akin to trolling anyone who is Christian, and I don't want to alienate myself or anyone else. Suffice it to say that it is written in my bible that practitioners of my religion are welcome to engage in all manner of sexual activity, be it heterosexual, bisexual, homosexual, asexual, or polysexual (which I know isn't a word but should be, because it describes swingers pretty well).

 

I should also take this moment to address something I had missed, which was LikeMinds mentioning that in some of my older posts I had described myself as a jealous, temperamental, and so on. I assure you that this has changed pretty dramatically for the most part. Did I mention that we engaged in MMF activities prior to this current situation that went pretty well. The only reason those stopped is we felt that we were hindering the third party from ever getting a steady girlfriend, and chose to stop for his benefit.

 

I've actually gotten over jealousy completely. The whole protectiveness and temper thing... Look guys, I know I shouldn't have hit him. There were better things to do. I made a bad decision because I was seeing my girlfriend cry, and thankfully got out of it better than I could have. But there are a couple of issues I have, because there seems to be a lot of focus on my maturity because I hit a guy. First, I wouldn't have hit any guy in that situation, but circumstances were different here. I'm still great friends with this guy, I can't stress that enough, and I'm not going to hit him if the exact same thing happens again. Maybe the hitting thing comes with youth and being stupid kids, but I never had any intention of beating him to death or anything. It was a frustration thing, a stupid thing to do, but I refuse to believe that I'm the only guy on Swingers Board who's given another guy a punch in the noggin.

 

I'm having an issue, because while the anonymity here means that's I can safely ask for good advice from everyone, it also ensures that none of you TRULY know me, and I think that it kind of skews your opinion about me and my behavior due to this situation. Honestly, I don't hit dudes every day. I actually spend a lot of time breaking up fights (I work at a middle school), and if it had been any one of you I was swinging with in this situation, I can promise I wouldn't have hit you. It was a friendship thing.

 

I've just now become paranoid that I'm persona non grata because of what I did, and the whole fact that an hour later we were playing video games and everything was cool is being ignored. I want to made sure I'm not thought of too badly.

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i think you should worry more about growing up, and having a good healthy relationship with a woman you love, and respect, before you pursue the swinging lifestyle.

 

feel free to post how things go the next time.

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I'm having an issue, because while the anonymity here means that's I can safely ask for good advice from everyone, it also ensures that none of you TRULY know me, and I think that it kind of skews your opinion about me and my behavior due to this situation.

 

Sad fact of message boards. We don't know you and you don't know us. It also means you get what you get outta it.:)

 

You have had no drama, good MFM's but you have also had drama with a single female? And now a couple?

 

Go thru, in your mind, how each situation turned into drama and issues and consider what you and your g/f could do different to stop the drama...you can not change others but you can alter how you two view things and lessen your and her distress.

 

Do not blame any of your responses on the others, take full responsibilty for how you act and react and figure out what you could think and do different.

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Punching anyone for an imagined slight is immature no matter what YOU want to believe. Swinging should be (at least it is for us and anyone that we socialize with) about enhancing our sex, not replacing it. If we are in a siuation (as we have been on occasion) where things do not work as we want or expect we just adjorn to each other. That is where things have started and where they will end. I get pissed if someone slights Mrs. Cpl, btu I also would be MATURE enough to realize that if he had "issues" the night before, he may have them this night too, and Mrs. Cpl can always get me where I need to be even if someone else can't. I don't care how old you are, but grow up.

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You said you just met the guy and then you talk about how great friends you are. Enough to hit him, but yet you guys are so close that you understand each other and he forgives you.. ahh ok..

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This is the most terrifying thread I have ever read. You don't swing with co-workers, you don't expect foursomes, you don't call people who love their girlfriends and express that "gay", you don't make fun of someone for feeling weird and missing his girlfriend, you DEFINITELY don't ever punch someone...

 

I don't even know where to start with this except you and your girl should come with a warning label and huge amounts of caution tape.

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The next morning the other two come wake us up super early, because I've got to take him to the airport.

 

No problem, I had agreed to that. I even sat through the half-hour long, chick-flick-style goodbye between he and his girl.

 

Dude, the primary reason that he was even there was to see his long-distance girlfriend. They only had a little time. They live very far apart, and I'm guessing they spend very little time together....right?

 

Couples in long-distance relationships, missing each other and obviously in love, aren't going to be primarily looking for outside hook-ups in their brief time together. In fact, due to their circumstances, I'm surprised they spent that much time with another couple, at all. Most couples in that situation would be more in "honeymoon" mode, looking to be alone together.

 

You seem to have little tolerance for what you call "chick flick gay love", but babe, these people are madly in love and spend precious little time together. Yeah, they shouldn't have been wishy-washy with you about whether swapping was going to happen or not, but it sounds like you could have picked up the cues (their love, the long distance thing, the brief time to see each other), and let it go.

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Please take 15 years off and give a call in the morning. Serious maturity issues here.

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People don't change overnight. You are who you are. You're history will probably repeat itself.

 

 

Whether someone says "no" or just shrugs you off or walks away, it is still a "no".

 

I would like to see where you are at in 15 years in the lifestyle also. Should make for another good story.

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Youth, yes, were we different many years ago? Yes we were. Did we fuck up? Yes we did. Damn, I wish that I had this communications path even one year ago. We all live and learn. He will do so as well, and where he is 15 years from now means nothing to him now. Give him a break.

 

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Question: the hubby noticed you said 'foursome' and then turned it into swapping in separate rooms...which isn't exactly 4sum it's two 2sums.

 

Any chance the other couple would have been happier with all four of you doing stuff..where he would still get to be with his love and you with yours and sometimes with each others? Or even trade off FMF or MFM?

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no apolgies here, this is why we don't play with early 20 somethings, that we don't know very, very well. You may have learned one lesson, but it will take many more before you mature enough to play with.

there are a few 20 somethings out there ready, but knowing which ones are ready takes time.

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Since I’m kind of being attacked from all sides, I think that after this last post I’m going to do my best to just avoid speaking anymore. What began as a search for advice has become a bunch of people chastising me for being something that I honestly am not.

 

 

Yeah, I hit him. And things are cool. I just talked to him a couple of hours ago, and he assured me that everything was fine. If there really isn’t another guy who has ever seen a friend of theirs hurt another friends feelings and given him a punch and a ‘what the hell, dude?’ as a way of showing said friend the error of their ways, then there is a much bigger generational gap than I thought.

 

I don’t go around punching everyone who has ever hurt my girlfriend’s feelings. I don’t think I’d hit any other swinger on the off chance I ended up in that situation again. The fact is that at that particular moment, it was acceptable, and he thinks so too. I’m not sorry.

 

As for them being in love and me being such a dick for ruining what precious little time they had… there’s more to the story than you know. They had only recently gotten back together after a bad breakup involving her cheating on him. I’m not going into any more detail because it’s not really relevant anyway, but it’s sufficient to say that their relationship isn’t nearly as romantic or ideal as many people seem to think.

 

And despite all this, just to clear up a fact that I think might have been lost in the rat race to condemn me: I never once hassled him in ANY way for being so outspokenly in love with his girlfriend. Not even jokingly. But I have mentioned before that he had left the room at one point and his own girlfriend complained that she was getting sick of him being in love with him in the same way that a 2nd grader might profess love for his teacher.

 

And for the record, my own sister is a lesbian, and I love her regardless. Don’t try and make me out to be prejudiced towards homosexuals when they themselves use the term ‘gay’ in the exact same manner that I have.

 

The fact is that this isn’t going to stop me from swinging because I honestly don’t think that I’m wrong here, and whether you want to believe me or not, I’ve never had a problem admitting when I’m wrong. Maybe it’s the medium in which this information is being delivered, but the fact is that no one who can really, honestly say that they know what kind of person I am. Instead, I am made out to be the biggest asshole imaginable.

 

And just as a note to miss Safire, my girlfriend did nothing more in this whole predicament than cry. If you intend on making me anathema to the entire forum, then I beseech you to at least do her the courtesy of not lumping her into the same category as me, whether I’m an asshole or not. She’s a much better person than I think I could ever be.

 

On final notes, I’m not going to defend my friendship with this guy, nor am I going to admit being in the wrong, nor apologize for my actions. I’d like to note that the whole idea of separate rooms was instated with the intention of helping to quell his nerves. I appreciate the help that I DID receive from some people on this board, and while I disagree with many, I respect your opinions. I’d also like to that ncmd_couple for being the one person I can note who gave me even the slightest benefit of a doubt. Their little bit of defense is appreciated more than they could possibly imagine.

 

Thanks for your time.

 

-Ave Satanas

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Ave Satanas has some things to learn about swinging, but didn't we all when we started out?

 

We've been swinging 4 years and we're still learning.

 

I think we should keep in mind that he is 21 years olds. He has handled the criticism he's been given here better than some members in the past who are much older, more experienced swingers. I think that counts for something.

 

I like reading what he has to say and it is rare to have someone his age involved on the Board.

 

Ave, I hope you will stick around and continue to contribute your thoughts and experiences in the forums.

 

LM

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I for one found that story pretty damn entertaining! At any rate, my advice is:

 

Take things slow and easy, and try not to have expectations at all. The more expectations you have, the more disappointment you're setting yourself up for (and I speak from experience there). Rejection is also something you're going to have to handle from time to time, so keep that in mind.

 

Violence is no big deal to me (actually I think the whole world should go back to seeing it as no big deal :lol:), and actually a good thing in more than a few circumstances, but in a swinging situation? Whew. No way. I know your situation was unique here, so I won't chastise you. Do be aware, though, that most swinging couples will avoid that sort of thing like the plague (fun and drama don't mix for most people), and that what most people are after is either a. a very light-hearted playful sexual encounter, or b. a very erotic sexual encounter.

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I don't know this person nor do I personally agree with how they went about things but it seems like everyone has started attacking him on the fact of his age and his mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes especially being new in the lifestyle. I find it hard to believe that everyone of you who is so mightily casting those first stones didn't at one point, especially in the beginning, yourselves have some problems/ predicaments/ something out of the ordinary happen. You might not agree with what happened but theres definitely no need to attack as most of you have been doing. He has also been taking everyones criticism very well might I add. Better then most people "His age" would do. Even if everything you all have been saying is true there is such a thing as constructive criticism. If you don't have something nice to say then keep it to yourself.

 

As for how things went down Mr Ave Satanas. No I don't really agree with how you handled things and the punch being unnecessary ( its never ever good to handle things physically Like that) . Next time just tell them things aren't working out and ask them to leave. If you have to drive them the next morning go and pick them up. Don't react heat of the moment. thats when things you will regret will happen. It sounds like from your last comment that they don't have the best relationship which is usually big drama in this lifestyle so you might just avoid them all together and make better choices next time. Good luck and hope you have better times in the future.

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Is it being critical, though, to say (with LOVE), that this kid is smart, has lots going for him I'm sure, and will have a great life...but maybe the pressures of multiples sex with different people and different partners is not prudent at this juncture due to his current maturity level and perspective?

 

I mean, surely not everyone is ready for swinging with their first partner at 20 years of age. A (precious) few are, but for most, they are just diving into the shark tank. I'm not going to judge the person, but I am certainly fit to judge the behavior. If someone is punching another person, calling someone "gay" for being in love and wanting to be with a long distance love the night before they leave, and has such a callous approach to sex that he or she is ALREADY jaded in love and pushing for multiples, that person doesn't need a pat on the back. They need a bit of tough love.

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Oh mY god! just reading this now!! You sound like a total nightmare - violent, homophobic, hyper-macho! Yuck! You need to wise up! You would be my worst nightmare if I encountered you in a swinging situation.

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Oh your God. I must be a total nightmare... violent because I hit a guy for my making my girlfriend cry... Homophobic despite having a lesbian sister and girlfriend who had played with the girl from this situation... and at 6'2" and a STARTLING 130 pounds, WOW am I hyper-macho or what?

 

Yep. I'm a nightmare.

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AVE

 

Have you considered placing an ad on some of the sites. From your post you stated that you couldn't afford a cam corder because of the financial crunch from college. i understand that,I've been there myself. Personally i like to check the profile (here) and on sls just to get a better feel of who we are corresponding with. Maybe if you posted a profile on swinglifestyle.com (they offer a free membership) it would show that your sincere about what the swinging lifestyle has to offer. There are many younger people your age and (school of higher education bound) now days. Be honest, tell about your lady as well and maybe a pic of you and your lady together,it would be nice. how would your lady feel about something like this, what are her thoughts.

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It's one of those things that we mean to do, but honestly just never get around to. Between both of us working and going to school, when we get time together in which we could take decent pictures of ourselves, we usually have sex instead, honestly.

 

We do have older pictures of the two of us, but they're all of when she was underage (hey now, we've been together for a couple years now!)

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homo phobic? no, i doubt it.

 

violent, last time i checked punching was considered assault and battery. definitely a violent act. so yes you are currently considered a violent person. go ten years w/o any violent actions, aside from self defense, then I will reconsider.

Hyper-Macho? macho is all about attitude not size. lets face it whe you are sitting a bar,and a fight breaks out, it is more often than not, a little guy, with a macho attitude, who thinks he has to prove something to his woman, that throws the first punch.

Immature, yeah, you have a long ways to go.

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I honestly don't think I'm a violent person at all. Yeah, I hit a guy, but I just think I'm different in the sense that hitting a person can sometimes be worth the hassle. I'm not going to get involved in every fight I see, and this is the first time in a good 6 or 7 years that I've been the one to throw the first punch, but I'm not afraid to hit someone. I considered the consequents and deemed it worthwhile.

 

As for a macho attitude... I don't think so, but it doesn't really matter because it's not convincing coming from me. I have a confident attitude, maybe, but not macho.

 

As for maturity... my views on this have already been stated, I'm not going to repeat myself every time someone new questions it.

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I honestly don't think I'm a violent person at all. Yeah, I hit a guy, but I just think I'm different in the sense that hitting a person can sometimes be worth the hassle. I'm not afraid to hit someone. I considered the consequents and deemed it worthwhile.

 

AVE, I don't feel your getting what you said here, I don't think you really thought about the consequences, If your over 18 in your area, Throwing the first punch would have, in a different situation had a different outcome.

 

1.That is assault and battery, weather the police were involved or not you still committed assault and battery.

2.You were, according to your chain of events, house sitting for someone at their own home.

3.Sometimes even a soft punch, could be lethal. You said yourself you didn't know this guy, (you don't know his medical history)

4.What if at any time because you did in fact, commit a crime, that you felt in control of, involved the police?

 

Your at someone else's house having to explain that you did this because he wouldn't fuck your girlfriend. What about every one in your whole town knowing you have been arrested for battery (and possibly sexual deviance)? The middle school you work at,or any Future Employer.Violent acts never leave your record...ever.

 

Those are thoughts about considering the consequences. I don't need a reply to any of the above at all, EVER. It is something I would hope you think about every day, for the rest of your life.

 

Enough about the punch.Lets move on to how you feel about this lifestyle.This all started with a fantasy for you.We all have them. Many people start for different reasons.But here is a major difference between what you have going so far at your age, and what we have being older.(not saying your to young,just our differences)

 

We seek like minded people,(couples) in solid good relationships that we share our sexuality with. We have an understanding that in those relationships we make sure that everyone is emotionally prepared for any misunderstandings.We practice good communication first, with the couples or singles we should encounter.That let us fully understand each other. Your not doing that Thus Far.

 

What I see here,from you. From your own words.(ill copy and past here if need be, from other posts) Is you CONTROLLING every situation. The last one being, you said 4 some when you first met. He and his girl went along. You and maybe both girls were on board with this experiment, but this guy didn't have a clue before he came home from school.This is being PREDATORY.

 

All throughout you posts everything says your following a predatory sexual behavior. Not once,not one person or couple have you considered anyone's feelings but your own.Before acting on your own desires.

 

I'm really not trying to bash you.. You have said all along you wanted our thoughts, our replies, our opinions as long as we don't tell you that you are too young bla, bla , bla. In this lifestyle we share our sexuality with others that are all open and understanding of how we feel.Your being deceiving to others, your girlfriend, and to yourself. You said that you are going to continue with swinging, I'm not telling you to grow up. I'm saying STOP.Think about this. Think about what WE AS SWINGERS think.Then you may take a better road than the one you are on:cool:.

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wasn't questioning your maturity, just stating you simply dont have any. stop pretending, you are only fooling yourself, and reminding everyone why young swingers aren't worth the hassle

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One more point that we seem to be overlooking: You knew that they had just recently gotten back together after breaking up because she cheated on him? I will be the first to say that suggesting that she have sex with you (based on this fact) was just plain stoooooopid. This would be one more example of how you need to get a little maturity under your belt and figure out what is and is not a smart or mature move. Thank god you live no where near us!!!!!

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I'm an attorney, and I have to reiterate what Fun4ds said...no punch is worth the trouble that could come from it. I actually had a case where a bunch of pro-hockey players similarly thought there was no problem in punching people, I mean that's what they do on the ice. Except it got out of hand and someone almost got killed and a bunch of them wound up in jail with a variety of lawyers pursuing them, there money and their futures.

 

If you deal with your problems by striking other human beings, especially in intimate situations, you are setting yourself up for a world of hurt.

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I suppose deep down I knew that this guy and I were (and still are!) good enough friends that the hit wouldn't be a huge problem. I suppose that might be because we're younger and will hit one another half the time just for the hell of it. And anyone who knows hockey guys knows that fighting isn't a HUGE thing for us. In the end, the guy later offered to take another hit, saying he himself felt like he had it coming..

 

HUGE hockey fan, I married and divorced a hockey guy. Never saw him or his buddies fight in anger or fun...unless on the ice.

I am a competitive kickboxer and my SO is a boxer. I give him gut shots all the time. But I would never hit a friend and Dog would never lay a hand on his buddies.

Kids get in fist fights and get over it. Adults talk about problems and decide whether to stay friends or continue on.

 

In alot of ways you may be very mature. But when it comes to relationships and swinging you still have alot to learn.

I like to think when it comes to swinging I am fairly mature. I still have my moments of complete childishness but I don't hide it under some weak excuse like being a "hockey guy". I use the excuse that I am still new and have alot to learn, then I back that up with appologies for my actions.

 

Your friend,

Prettylady:kissface:

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Personally, I think the profile name "Ave Satanas" alone shows a certain level of immaturity and an overall willingness to "Start Some Sh*t". And that's coming from an atheist. You'll note that our username makes no reference to that point. Maturity would dictate that you don't throw religion out there unless you want it thrown back.

 

I agree with the others. You are simply too young of mind. Of course you think you aren't, we all thought that before life smacked us in the face. And oddly enough, that happens around 25-26 years of age.

 

You punched a guy because you and your SO hadn't the life experience to notice when to stop. One day, he'll return the favor in one fashion or another. I'm sure he was grateful for your understanding and thoughtfulness as a friend. If ever in doubt in any situation, just remember this....WWJD? That was a joke by the way, you can laugh now.

 

Vade Satanas

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Dude you are a dirty dog. I wouldn’t piss on you if you were on fire. This is the last night that this guy is going to have with his girlfriend because he has to go back to Alaska and you butt hurt over the fact that they just want to be together the last night that he is in town. You sound like a selfish clown. You know damn well that your woman if you were leaving town for a long time and not being able to see her, your woman would not want you to be messing around with another woman but just be with her, that includes this nasty cuddling that you seem to not like. I’m just surprised you didn’t jump up and smack you after you punched him. He explain to your girlfriend that he just didn’t want to do it but isn’t it obvious if he’s leaving the next day and he’s leaving his girlfriend for a long time. Are you that obtuse. Are you that clueless just at heartless over the fact that you get butt hurt and now you’re talking about trying to cut him up from his girlfriend because he’s out of town. You are a ass clown in a one-man circus

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      A few days later I met up with Bruce for an after work drink. As we enjoyed several drinks we talked a lot. Soon I steered the conversation towards my wife Beth. I asked  Bruce to be honest and tell me what he thought about Beth. He admitted he thought Beth was smokin' hot. She had a killer body and was just gorgeous, always was friendly, and liked flirting with him when they were together. I asked him if he' ever had the chance would he consider having sex with her? He looked a bit concerned by my question but answered yes, he wouldn't hesitate to take advantage of such an opportunity. So I told him that Beth really wanted to have sex with him, and that I was okay with them hooking up. I explained that was my kink watching her get fucked by other men, it really turned me on. Bruce considered it for several minutes then said okay sure, he'd love to fuck Beth. Just give him the details when we're ready to make it happen.
       
      When I got home I told Beth about my conversation with Bruce and what he said. She looked startled and said she couldn't believe I did that. So I asked her if what I did was so wrong and did she still want to go through with it? She excitedly said Oh hell yes she did, and no I wasn't wrong! So we made plans and set a date for Beth's first cock. 
       
      The night arrived finding Beth both excited and hot with anticipation. She was dressed to kill showing off her sexy body wearing no underwear. When Bruce knocked on the door I answered it and escorted him into our house. Beth entered the living room and gave Bruce a big hug pressing her chest and pelvis into him and then kissed him on the lips. Bruce kissed her back and he sat down pulling her on to his lap. Nether one of them wasted any time, tongues going everywhere, hands exploring and groping each other, clothes coming off. Soon they were both naked and Beth got a pleasant surprise, Bruce was very well hung. She giggled with delight.
       
      Beth took Bruce's hand and led him to our bed. She pushed him down on the bed and went to work on Bruce's big cock giving him an enthusiastic blow job. After a while Bruce flipped Beth on her back and went to work on her pussy and clit. Beth orgasmed in minutes, fully enjoying Bruce's skilled tongue. I stood in the background watching the show.
       
      Soon Bruce moved into position between Beth's legs. As he rubbed his cock against Beth's open pussy and clit she responded with loud moans and started pressing her pussy against Bruce's cock. As he slid his huge cock into Beth's pussy she had a big climax. As he went deeper he increased his speed and Beth climaxed again. She was enthralled with his big cock pumping her pussy, she was moving her hips and swearing, telling him his cock felt so good. She looked over at me and said she loved how good his big cock felt inside her. She told Bruce to stretch her pussy good, to fuck her hard. She was in sexual ecstasy, a place she'd never been before. Her facial expressions showed pure bliss and the sounds she was making were hot as hell. I never seen her so turned on, she must of had a dozen orgasms, many of which were huge.
       
      They fucked each other hard for a good twenty minutes then Bruce erupted into Beth's pussy, filling her with his cum. This gave Beth another climax. Afterwards he laid on Beth for a minute then rolled off her. He'd destroyed her pussy, it gaped open with his cum dripping out of her. They kissed and he got up to dress while Beth laid there spent. She looked at me and smiled big time. She said, "Your turn!", so I took sloppy seconds and enjoyed it beyond belief. Bruce watched us have sex then commented that watching real sex was so much hotter than any porno ever could be. He understood my enjoyment of watching my wife fuck other men. He said he'd like to do it again and Beth was all for it. So they made plans to hook up again. Then Bruce left.
       
      Beth and I talked about how well things went, and how she wasn't prepared for how much she enjoyed his big cock. It was mind boggling! She thanked me profusely for asking her to do this, the opportunity to experience such awesome sex. She says she'll never be the same again and is looking forward to more big cock sex. So our new lifestyle began.
    • By Falcon88
      My wife and I have been together for almost 25 years. Through out the years sex has been fantastic. No complaints on either side. We are very faithful and never cheated on each other.
       
      Then one day two years ago we were having a few drinks and watching porn. We watch all kinds of porn. That night we were watching some really good gangbangs. Curiously, I turn to my wife and asked her if she ever thought about swinging and group sex. If it ever crossed her mind. Surprisingly, she looked at me and said she’s been thinking about it for while. So we ended up talking about swinging and group sex for hours. We got online and read stories on experiences about swinging and group sex. The pros and cons. It turned me on taking about it but at the same time I got a crazy feeling in my stomach. Nerves I guess.
       
      So to make a very long story short we ended up having an open marriage and took up swinging. We both decided to have (safe) sex with other people until we felt comfortable on having our first group sex. All this took very long planning and preparing, especially mentally.
       
      Finally last November we planned out her first group sex. We carefully selected three familiar friends to join in the fun. Of course they decided to do it and agreed on our rules.
       
      So, it finally happened that November night. I really enjoyed watching my wife get screwed by more than one man. She had the time of her life. She had multiple orgasms one after another. The crazy feeling never left my stomach but I really enjoyed watching though. After the guys left we kicked back and talked about our experience. Then we go back about agreeing on what we’re doing and never to do it without the other knowing. We keep an oath of trust. Every time we have a date with someone we let each other know. It’s always planned out days in advance so it will never interfere with our personal lives. We have a great understanding.
       
      Since last November she’s been involved in several group sex averaging 3-4 guys each time. Of course I joined in most of the time. Lots of lube is needed. But now she wants to go a little further. She wants to do a gangbang of 6-8 guys. Seriously.
       
      Lately she’s been playing with large toys to get her vagina ready. She wants to try double-vaginal penetration. I’ve been preparing her by inserting a dildo in her while I’m inside. Very carefully with lots of lube. We practice every time we have sex. She even carefully inserts a large thick toy in her vagina while watching a movie and keeps it in there. Yes, our sexual curiosities has increased tremendously. My wife wants to explore even more and I’m all in.
       
      Well the day we both have been looking forward too occurred this past weekend. We managed to round up 7 guys for an all night gangbang. It involved a lot of planning and phone calls. We’ve noticed that guys will be all in at first then drop out later. But eventually we got things going. That night when everyone arrived she was kinda nervous but excited to have that many cocks at once. Most of all, she finally had double penetration in her vagina from two guys for the first time. The strange thing I seemed more nervous than her. Lol But she absolutely enjoyed it as much as I enjoyed watching her. She came hard many times. She doesn’t like anal so that wasn’t attempted.
       
      So after joining in all the fun and after almost two hours of great sex we had the grand finale. My sexy wife knelt down and we all gave her an awesome bukkake. Her face was drenched with cum. It was one heck of a hot night. After everyone left we took a long shower and stayed up almost all night talking about it. We were both so turned on that we were already making plans for the next one. But we are gonna take a break for about three weeks. It’s just going to be me and her for now.
       
      Yesterday she mentioned about having a messy cum sex in the near future after watching a great creampie movie. I was like, a messy cum sex? She asked me what I would think about her having a messy gooey bukkake and creampie night. Having about 4 guys cum all over her face while 4 guys cum inside her. Then rubbing the cum all over her breasts. Man, just listening to her drove me crazy. My wife was willing to be explosive. But that would take lots of planning because we are very cautious. My wife cannot get pregnant anymore so that’s really something we don’t have to worry about. It’s about the unprotected sex. We do know many cool friends well enough that we can trust but still we must remain careful. Yet, I’m sure it’s gonna happen very soon.
       
      I’ve been asked if we have taken it too far. If there’s actually any sign of regrets. Some close friends wonder about my wife wanting too much now. Our answer is no because we enjoy it and have a deep understanding and trust. We are responsible adults and are having fun. We first talk about what we’re going to do and have to both agree 100%. Any sign of doubt from either side we will not do it. We are friends with our sex partners but no feelings are involved or ever shared. We have proven that to ourselves already.
    • By AdamGunn2
      It was a fairly typical night at D.J.s Island, an early autumn evening. Mary and I hadn’t set anything up in advance, we’d decided to go almost at the last moment. From the second we entered the door our radar was beaming across the club, searching for a couple that might be searching for what we were also interested in - an enjoyable tryst.
       
      Mary took a few minutes to change into what she called a ‘trolling outfit.’ As I remember, that night it was a black babydoll with a loose bodice, thong, low heels. Many men admired her legs as I checked the forty or so women, many as scantily clad as my wife. None of our regular playmates seemed to be in attendance that evening, but we had our customs, we weren’t concerned. Perhaps an hour and a half later, I sat at a table next to the dance floor, Mary was on her feet, on the parquet, moving her body, seeing if anyone would move in. A slow sequence of men approached her, danced with her. Some would take liberties such as moving their hands under her garment, feeling the small of her back, perhaps place their palm on the roundness of her ass.
       
      I’d seen this many times before, I waited for one of two reactions.
       
      The first was that she’d spin away from the man; it signified she wasn’t interested in what he had to offer.
       
      The second was that she’d get closer, I’d watch her whisper in his ear. I knew the question, “Where’s your wife?” Some of them would shake their heads, they were attending as one of the few single men the club allowed, and when they received Mary’s response, they’d move away - that’s not what we were looking for at the moment.
       
      But the man might indicate where his wife was dancing a few feet away. When this kind of thing happened, Mary would glance to me and give our special signal - she’d put one hand on the back of her head, one on her stomach. When I got the cue, I’d come out, we’d dance as a foursome.
       
      As I approached, a man grasped the elbow of a tall attractive lady who was more modestly dressed, at least for the club. There was no conversation on the dance floor, the heavy volume of music and the thumping of the bass wouldn’t allow for speech. But I could tell the woman was interested in me, the four of us paired off and I often found myself facing this vixen. It was obvious they were as interested in us as I was in them, I could tell by the way Mary was rubbing against the man that she felt the same.
       
      After a couple of songs, Mary led the way off the floor, holding his hand, leading us off into a corner away from the speakers. As we sat, the man said, “I’m Ed, this is my wife, Marilyn.”
       
      Marilyn and I softly shook hands, I believe she raised the hem of her skirt to give me a view of her upper thighs. Ed had no problem seeing Mary’s legs, or where they met - she was sitting so that the babydoll was gathered to her side, leaning forward so her globes were exposed to his view.
       
      “Do you come here often?” Ed asked.
       
      “Every few weeks,” I responded, “you?”
       
      “This is our first time here.” Mary gave him a look that asked for further info. “We’re just starting this,” he admitted.
       
      Marilyn picked it up. “We’ve only had one time with a couple of friends. We liked it, heard about this place, decided to see if we could get into more trouble.”
       
      “Trouble’s our middle name,” I joked.
       
      Our conversation continued, where do you live, what movies have you seen lately, etc. It was a screen, of course, we were all calculating if the four of us would be pleasurable bedmates. I paid my attention to Marilyn, my wife had told me numerous times not to worry about her, she can take care of herself. My hand found Marilyn’s knee, she smiled at me, encouraged me to reach a tad higher. We bent towards each other, our mouths met.
       
      Marilyn opened her lips to me, the kiss was ardent, her mouth moist. She licked at my upper lip, her hand fondled the back of my neck. Our tongues clashed, promising cupidity, mimicking what I presumed our bodies might be doing in a few scant moments.
       
      We broke for a moment, Marilyn invited, “Would you guys want to go to one of the rooms?”
       
      I, of course, was all for it, but then I heard Mary. “Uh, not right now. But thanks.”
       
      We’ve always had the guideline that if one person doesn’t want to do something, she speaks for both of us. Regretfully, I pecked at Marilyn’s lips a last time, we stood, went separate ways.
       
      “You’re not upset, are you?” Mary asked me.
       
      “Of course not, not at all. You’re not in the mood?”
       
      “Oh, I’m in the mood all right, just not with Ed.”
       
      “Something wrong with him?” I asked.
       
      “I tried to get him interested,” Mary revealed, “but his kiss was a little cold, indifferent. I put my hand on his leg, he was too busy watching you and Marilyn, he never responded. My guess is that if we went into a room, he’d be watching you two, I’m not even sure he’d get hard for me.” It was a reasonable thought, it had happened to us a couple times before. “Hope you don’t mind, bet she’d have been a firecracker.”
       
      “Maybe. But you’re a firecracker too.”
       
      We headed back to the dance floor, in search of another couple.
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