Question for Big Beautiful Swingers (and those who prefer them)

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

For those of you who consider yourself BBW or BBM do you prefer to swing only with other BBWs and BBMs? My reason for the question is that I came across a website that is geared strictly to BB Swingers and I'm wondering if people would really use it. I can see where some would say well anyone could sign up even if they aren't B&B but are attracted to B&B, so if that is you, would you sign up? Or would you prefer to keep your options open on a site that is open to everyone?

[sexcupid 809]

Well as someone who falls into the BBW category....it would depend on how the site is geared.

 

Before I met my current sweetie, one of my friends and her SO tried to set me up with this guy he worked with. (not a swing situation) We weren't hitting it off greatly or anything, but figured I would be ok meeting up with him again for a lunch or dinner date so we could actually chat and get to know each other a little better (the original meeting was basicaly a 'double date' with my friends and we went to a pool hall, which is ok...but felt a little too high pressure for me to give a positive response if that makes sense).

 

Then he spoke the words that drove the nails in the casket. He was standing behind me and sort of running his hands down my sides to my hips and back up and says something like, 'I love girls like you that have some meat on their bones...' or some similar sounding tripe. Yeah, totally shut me down. Not that I'm ashamed to be someone's 'type'...but if you can't see past my size, hair color, boob size, etc...then you aren't seeing ME, you are just fixating on something about me and that is a total turn off to me.

 

So guess who didn't get his calls returned? lol

 

Personally, I will stick to the all inclusive type sites. Partly because I don't want to be singled out as a 'type'. Now, do I feel more comfortable being naked in the same room with a female that is of a similar build? Sure on some level. Would I want to be stood next to Pepper or Tybee or Mrs. Spoo (who are all totally smokin' hot )? Possibly not. lol But would I want to exclude myself from being potentially contacted by them by not even listing on AFF or SLS (or whatever 'all's welcome' type of site)? Nope. We've met and played with some great folks (HWP and some that weren't).

 

Maria

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

I prefer to hang with the "I like everybody" crowd both a Web sites and at social occasions. I used to have words in the on-line profile, ". . .have no hang-ups about age, race or dress size." Too many people took this to mean, "I like big girls." I removed it.

 

Like Maria, JoAnn is put off by the, "I really like big chicks" remark in whatever of its many forms it is delivered.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Well as someone who falls into the BBW category....it would depend on how the site is geared.

 

 

This is from the main page of the website in question:

 

THE place for well rounded swingers to come together! BBW, BHM, SSBBW, and FA get to meet sexy new friends and playmates for sensual adult fun, in an atmosphere of size acceptance.

 

So I guess the people who put this site together felt that other sites promoted an atmosphere that did not accept people of size?

[sexcupid 809]

So I guess the people who put this site together felt that other sites promoted an atmosphere that did not accept people of size?

 

Quite possibly. I mean, there was a rumor floating around on NYE that one of the clubs here was screening for size during the inital contact/phone call to the club. So I emailed the owners and asked just to verify. And they were/are not doing that.

 

I can see how on some of the sites or with rumors like that, the swing scene can be construed as 'size unfriendly'.

 

Thanks for the info from the site you were referencing.

 

Maria

[JasonHauck30 13]

I *L-O-V-E*, *L-O-V-E*, *L-O-V-E*, voluptuous / big beautiful women. If they're thick, chubby, fat, pregnant and / or breastfeeding, or just have a little extra padding. It's all good. No-one's perfect.

 

Personally, I prefer NOT to use "pro" web-sites as I've set-up my own database of amateur people-next-door contacts at my own Yahoo Group for a variety of reasons, such as the "see who has a crush on you" / "you have one bootycall invitation" scams at Alt.Com & Adult FriendFinder, etc.

[ncmd_couple 597]

SSBBW, and FA

 

Uh... don't want to sound stupid, but what do those two mean?

 

But back on topic...

 

My baby is a BBW. And she hates it. But it is what it is and I love her for the wonderful, sweet, loving woman that she is. Beauty glows from within. For some, being B & B is more like a fetish just like those that love women's . I might check out a B & B oriented site, but I probably wouldn't spend a whole lot of time there. God blessed the world with a wide range of lovely ladies for us to enjoy. Short, tall, thick, thin, light, dark, in all the variety of life.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

SSBBW = Super Size BBW

FA= Fat Admirer

[Chicup 41]

This sounds like something that plays on peoples fears to a large extent.

 

Very common question here...

 

Am I to fat to swing?

 

My guess is a lot of people are afraid they don't fit the body types for swinging, and if they go to some sites like LL they will feel very out of place.

 

So this creates a 'safe' place for people.

 

Not sure if its good thing over all as I get more of a 'fetish' feeling from it.

[sexcupid 809]

Not sure if its good thing over all as I get more of a 'fetish' feeling from it.

 

Agreed. Not necessarily in reference to this site...but there is plenty of BBW/chubby porn out there that is pretty demeaning...and I thought a bit odd. Rolling in food/flour/ect. Of course, I was offended by it back when I was considered thin...so maybe it's just me. lol

 

Again, the fact that you are being singled out for just one particular physical characteristic tends to give it that 'fetish' feel...because they aren't looking beyond that to who you are, just that you fit their kink.

 

Personally mine is men that are taller than me, generally a few years older (altho I guess I can just pick 'em...don't ask for a drivers license or any thing lol), and I'm a sucker for blue eyes and usually facial hair. But would I have the guts to tell someone that's why I 'homed' in on them...prolly not. lol

 

Maria

[crazycatz 17]

I would have no interest in those sites. I guess I'm what you would consider a BBW...esp by American standards.

 

I would hate the thoughts of someone only being interested in me because of one physical characteristic - i.e. they treat my size as a fetish. I find it highly offensive....in the same manner I find it offensive that people see out black men to fulfill some fetish.

 

I am who I am. You either find me attractive on the whole or not! But don't come knocking on my door just because you want to fuck a fat girl!

[katsgoods 10]

Where, and how does a couple with a BBW find other Women to play with?

Is seems hard to find? Any suggestions? Web sites? Clubs in IL that have single women access?

[NumbskullsX2 24]

Or would you prefer to keep your options open on a site that is open to everyone?

Definitely be on a site that's open to all. We have our preferences like everybody else, but the only real absolute deal breakers are attitude, personality,and morbid obesity. (I don't want to get sucked into orbit around somebody)

 

Somethng else you did't mention is "what happens to people who identify themselves as BBW when they want to change that image?" One of the biggest probelms people have when dieting is learning that they're not "just" a fat person, but a "skinny" one too, and that change comes only when you're as comfortable being slim as you were being fat. If people are only around other fat people, then "Fat, but not as fat as them" becomes the new "skinny" and there is no motivation to want to improve themselves.

 

If a person really has a problem, whether it's food or drugs or alcohol, the answer is NOT to hang around with people who have the same problem, only WORSE.

 

 

If I weighed like, 275 or more, I'm sure I'd be happier around people that all weighed as much or more than me. But I'd be much happier (and healthier too) if I said -

 

"Screw this! I'm tired of being "the fatty" everywhere I go. I'm going to start eating responsbly and exercising several times a week until I'm down to a reasonable weight. (not skinny, just reasonable)

 

Also, I don't like the idea that my husband has to "warn" people before we meet them that I'm a BBW. That always makes me feel like I'm a piece of damn farm equipment being moved down a country road. ("make way for my wife, please, she's a BBW! BBW, everybody, comin' through!")

 

Yes, screw it! And if my husband also happens to be obese (oops, I meant he's a "BHM") I'm going to make sure he either gets his ass on board and supports me 100% with this, or he gets left behind."

 

I don't know if I could do that, but if I did, I think it would have a better result in the long run than trying to find people fatter than myself to hang out with.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Somethng else you did't mention is "what happens to people who identify themselves as BBW when they want to change that image?"

 

That's a very good observation as well. One of the things that bothered me most about this site is when I actually looked up those Acronyms that someone asked about... when you look at those terms it basically turns the entire idea into a fetish more than anything related to swinging. And while there are people out there for whom that is ok, I daresay that most people don't want to be WANTED because someone else has a fetish for whatever they happen to have... whether it's their hair color, skin color or size. I think most people want to be MORE than just one attribute or aspect of themselves.

[ncmd_couple 597]

Numbskulls,

 

That was probably one of the most personally offensive posts that I have read on this board. You are an opinionated young pup and I’m going to give you a little touch of reality here.

 

I am male, just a hair under six feet tall, and according to the Doc last Thursday I weighed in at 207 pounds. Not bad for an old geezer like me huh? Only 2 pounds over what I weighed when I got out of the Navy in 1986. I can’t leg press 700 pounds like I could back then. But I’m in pretty good shape and can handle an 800 pound motorcycle at 80 miles an hour with a 175 pound passenger and pull a trailer with two weeks of luggage and junk for 1,100 miles in a day. I actually match up with your skinny healthy fit person don’t you think?

 

What you don’t know is that I weighed 335 just a couple of years ago. I didn’t get that big in 24 hours, it took 20 years, and it was not intentional! It wasn’t bad choices or not being in control. It is life. And I didn’t have medical challenges such as diabetes or a host of other medical ailments that caused it.

 

You don’t have a friggin clue what it is like to be that big. Nor, do you have a friggin clue as to how to lose the weight. You can type your BS as a young in your prime pup and make statements that are the kind of things that PREVENT people who are overweight from getting control of things. And the type of statements you made really piss me off. Go live in your Vogue Magazine world and leave people who have their own challenges alone. Because you don’t have a clue and your rude ugly comments are a major part of the problem.

 

All of the diets and all of the gyms and all of the multi-billion dollar exercise equipment industry is there to fleece people of their money and they don’t really give a rats ass if they lose weight or not. They are making their 16 payments of $35.95 for a piece of junk that is an oversized paperweight in their basement, and that is all that they care about. They are paying for “diets” of all flavors that don’t work worth a damn because they don’t address the problem or how to solve it. They just take advantage of people’s low self esteem until they get to frustrated and quit until they pick up the next patent medicine program and start paying out the ass chasing a dream that you don’t and can’t understand.

 

Stepping off my soap box now. I appologise if I violated the board's rules in this post, if I did, I'm sure a moderator will let me know.

 

Have a nice day.

 

S

[Chicup 41]

 

What you don’t know is that I weighed 335 just a couple of years ago. I didn’t get that big in 24 hours, it took 20 years, and it was not intentional! It wasn’t bad choices or not being in control. It is life. And I didn’t have medical challenges such as diabetes or a host of other medical ailments that caused it.

 

It was bad choices and not being in control. I'm not sure why you are so offended.

 

Right now I'm about your height and a few lbs heavier, when I started to get up there I hit the breaks at 232 and said enough is enough and started to put less food in my pie hole. It worked wonders.

 

It was my bad choices and not paying attention that I wasn't a kid anymore who could eat and eat and eat without consequences.

 

It doesn't just 'happen' on its own.

 

I'm also not sure that kind of post prevents people from losing weight.

 

A while ago someone came to the board with the usual 'I'm over weight will I still be able to swing' typical post. He got the usual 'it doesn't matter' responses, but I had the audacity to mention he could always diet with some advice. This was of course 'offensive' to some but the poster decided he would be happier if he lost the weight.

 

Interestingly I have gotten PM's from frequent posting board members who don't want to seem 'mean' about weight issues but have been glad I made the posts I've made.

 

So while numbskulls isn't reall delicate in posting style, I don't think anything there is inherently offensive.

[baller72001us 15]

I'm bbm, 240lbs. turning 60 this month, not happy, sperm count bad, want some he kp

[NumbskullsX2 24]

That was probably one of the most personally offensive posts that I have read on this board. You are an opinionated young pup and I’m going to give you a little touch of reality here.

 

I am male, just a hair under six feet tall, and according to the Doc last Thursday I weighed in at 207 pounds. Not bad for an old geezer like me huh? Only 2 pounds over what I weighed when I got out of the Navy in 1986. I can’t leg press 700 pounds like I could back then. But I’m in pretty good shape and can handle an 800 pound motorcycle at 80 miles an hour with a 175 pound passenger and pull a trailer with two weeks of luggage and junk for 1,100 miles in a day. I actually match up with your skinny healthy fit person don’t you think?

 

What you don’t know is that I weighed 335 just a couple of years ago. I didn’t get that big in 24 hours, it took 20 years, and it was not intentional! It wasn’t bad choices or not being in control. It is life.

I am sorry if you took ofense to what I said. I take not make my comments to offend, I mad them to encourage people who are NOT happy with their weight not to give up too soon on diet and exercise.

 

You said you got up to 335 "because of life", but that you only weigh 207 now. How can that be? If it was "life" that brought you up to 335, how did you get back down to 207? Did you "die"?

 

Of course not. You probably did what I suggested, ate responsibly and exercised. It WORKS, spread the word!

You don’t have a friggin clue what it is like to be that big.

That would be true. But I do know what it is like to be heavier than I would like. And when I am, I don't look for fatter people than myself to hang out with so that I look "skinny" by comparison. I start hanging with people who inspire me to do better. There are some very hot couples in there 50's, 60's and older, but they're "hot" mostly because they choose "responsible eating, healthy diet and lifestyle, and being HOT" over "eating whatever they want, sitting on their asses, and making excuses"

 

Whichever one you choose won't make you a "bad" person, but one WILL make you a "large" person. Back to you, my friend.

Nor, do you have a friggin clue as to how to lose the weight. You can type your BS as a young in your prime pup and make statements that are the kind of things that PREVENT people who are overweight from getting control of things. Because you don’t have a clue and your rude ugly comments are a major part of the problem.

I beg your pardon! How do MY comments keep YOU from "getting control of things"? Words don't have calories. Unless your paralyzed and on a feeding tube, YOU are responsible for what goes into your body, not me, or "life"

 

The biggest thing that keeps people from losing weight is believeing that they can't.

All of the diets and all of the gyms and all of the multi-billion dollar exercise equipment industry is there to fleece people of their money and they don’t really give a rats ass if they lose weight or not. They are making their 16 payments of $35.95 for a piece of junk that is an oversized paperweight in their basement, and that is all that they care about. They are paying for “diets” of all flavors that don’t work worth a damn because they don’t address the problem or how to solve it. They just take advantage of people’s low self esteem until they get to frustrated and quit until they pick up the next patent medicine program and start paying out the ass chasing a dream that you don’t and can’t understand.

When you pay your money to a gym (or for a diet plan), your not paying them to "care" about your health. Your paying them for tools YOU can use to improve YOUR health because YOU care. Don't blame THEM for your failures. Blame Twinkies, Budweiser, and Big Macs, and "whoever" that rascal is that keeps opening YOUR mouth and putting those things in it.

 

I'm going to the gym right now, in fact. I'll spend about 30 or 40 minutes on the nordic track (watching television, go figure, ) and the rest of the hour doing resistance. (today is arms and upper body. I already did my crunches this morning while I was listening to "The View" on TV). Who knows, maybe I'll catch an eyeful of some hard bodies or offer a word of encouragement to some young mom who's trying to lose a few pounds or tighten the tummy. I'll be home before the kids.

 

What are YOU doing for the next hour?

[havefuninsun 122]

I am sorry if you took ofense to what I said. I take not make my comments to offend, I mad them to encourage people who are NOT happy with their weight not to give up too soon on diet and exercise.

 

You said you got up to 335 "because of life", but that you only weigh 207 now. How can that be? If it was "life" that brought you up to 335, how did you get back down to 207? Did you "die"?

 

Of course not. You probably did what I suggested, ate responsibly and exercised. It WORKS, spread the word!That would be true. But I do know what it is like to be heavier than I would like. And when I am, I don't look for fatter people than myself to hang out with so that I look "skinny" by comparison. I start hanging with people who inspire me to do better. There are some very hot couples in there 50's, 60's and older, but they're "hot" mostly because they choose "responsible eating, healthy diet and lifestyle, and being HOT" over "eating whatever they want, sitting on their asses, and making excuses"

 

Whichever one you choose won't make you a "bad" person, but one WILL make you a "large" person. Back to you, my friend. I beg your pardon! How do MY comments keep YOU from "getting control of things"? Words don't have calories. Unless your paralyzed and on a feeding tube, YOU are responsible for what goes into your body, not me, or "life"

 

The biggest thing that keeps people from losing weight is believeing that they can't.When you pay your money to a gym (or for a diet plan), your not paying them to "care" about your health. Your paying them for tools YOU can use to improve YOUR health because YOU care. Don't blame THEM for your failures. Blame Twinkies, Budweiser, and Big Macs, and "whoever" that rascal is that keeps opening YOUR mouth and putting those things in it.

 

I'm going to the gym right now, in fact. I'll spend about 30 or 40 minutes on the nordic track (watching television, go figure, ) and the rest of the hour doing resistance. (today is arms and upper body. I already did my crunches this morning while I was listening to "The View" on TV). Who knows, maybe I'll catch an eyeful of some hard bodies or offer a word of encouragement to some young mom who's trying to lose a few pounds or tighten the tummy. I'll be home before the kids.

 

What are YOU doing for the next hour?

 

 

What she said. Her post wasn't to slam anyone or their size. No where did she smack folks for being BBW or whatever. But -- it's true. To lose weight:

 

1. You've gotta want to (I say every day I want to lose 10 pounds. Then I eat a donut. Actions speak louder than words. Maybe that 10 pounds doesn't bug me too much??)

 

2. You've gotta eat less.

 

3. You've gotta stop eating processed food and eat some fresh stuff.

 

4. And, as terrible as it is, you've gotta exercise. And the older you get, the more you've got to do it (god knows I hate it).

 

If you don't want to lose weight; if you're happy with your size, etc., then don't do these things. It IS a choice. I know what you mean about it being "Life" -- my life gets very busy too, and it's very convenient to drive through Wendy's and pick up burgers for dinner to save time. But, it's still a choice. I try to choose NOT to do go through the drive through, ya know?

 

Sorry you were offended ... that wasn't the purpose. Congratulations on being healthy now, because that is the choice you chose to make.

[good times 991]

Ditto what Chicup said.

 

I had a similar situation myself several years ago. Over ten or fifteen years my weight went from 180 lbs. up to 229 lbs. and I just didn't feel good about myself or had the energy I needed. So I decreased my intake of groceries and dropped down to a more reasonable 200 lbs. (I am 6' 3").

 

I think NumbskullsX2 made some very good points.

[olycouple 62]

Thank little baby Jesus, pussy is calorie free

[NumbskullsX2 24]

ncmd_couple

 

I am sorry. I went off on a complete rant, and left out the most important part, my congratulations to you for going from 337 pounds down to 207.

 

I DO know how hard it is. Almost everybody I know either has a weight problem, or knows somebody who has a weight problem. And I know how that can affect a persons self esteem, especially a womans.

 

One more thing occurred to me - you said before that "your wife was a BBW, and she hated it" I don't know you guys so maybe I'm speaking about something I shouldn't, but..............

 

Here's HER, who isn't happy with her weight and would love to lose some, and then there's YOU, who loves her and (I assume) does everything with her, and who's already lost 130 pounds.

 

Do you see what I'm leading to? Your probably the best person in the world to help her lose the weight. You can be, and should be, her inspiration.

 

Better yet, be each other's inspiration!

 

How did you feel when you lost all that weight? How do you think your wife would feel if she lost 20% of hers?

 

I can see how signing up on a board exclusively for BBW women might make a woman feel good for a while, but it doesn't do anything for how she feels when she's in public, buying a dress, or having her picture taken.

 

Just don't be in too much of a hurry to get on the short bus, that's all I'm trying to say.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

The biggest thing that keeps people from losing weight is believeing that they can't.When you pay your money to a gym (or for a diet plan), your not paying them to "care" about your health. Your paying them for tools YOU can use to improve YOUR health because YOU care. Don't blame THEM for your failures. Blame Twinkies, Budweiser, and Big Macs, and "whoever" that rascal is that keeps opening YOUR mouth and putting those things in it.

 

 

Amen! Gyms and diets don't care what you do with them, you are right people sell memberships to make money but as with anything in life it what YOU do with it after you sign up or buy in.

 

And don't blame the twinkies or the Big Macs either, blame yourself for choosing to eat the damn things.

 

In 2003 I went from 140lbs to almost 180lbs... how did I do it? Popeyes, Krystals, and lots of alchohol (too often way too late at night) and it wasn't until my best friend had the balls one day to be a good friend, look me in the eye and say "Julie you need to lose weight, you're not HEALTHY" that I did something about it. Until then I just ignored the fact that none of my pants fit anymore I was living in sweats for the most part. So what did I do? I got off my ass and bought a treadmill and I joined a gym. And I used both the treadmill and the gym membership (and the personal trainer that came with the gym membership) and over the next 6 months I got myself back down to 155, which is where I continue to flutter mostly because my treadmill now sits upstairs unused and I rarely go the gym. In fact I had cancelled my membership at one point. We (both Pet & I) feel that we want to lose weight so we rejoined the gym back in November. Neither of us have gone nearly as much as we like, but we are working on it and we are making an effort, not as much as we can or should, but an effort nonetheless.

 

Wow this thread had gotten totally off topic I may need to split it. I get really annoyed at times at how the slightest mention of "weight" in a thread sends people off taking things personally that were not remotely aimed at them. It bewilders me.

[olycouple 62]

Thank little baby Jesus, pussy is calorie free

 

I love my husband...but he sometimes forgets to take credit for his own comments.

[ncmd_couple 597]

Everyone is in different places in their lives. And they grasp reality differently. The reason why I was offended was of the “hey fatty, get off your ass, exercise, and stop eating so much” approach from Numbskulls post. I turn 50 this year. I grew up with “don’t get up from your plate until it is clean.” The old “there are starving children in . That made me fat as a young man.

 

Then I went into the Navy, while I was in they started the “Weight Control Program.” I volunteered for it. Not because I was overweight, but because I wanted to not get fat again. Even though I volunteered for it, I got fucked over because I did. I was honor graduate from the school in California where I volunteered, and I got a 2.9 evaluation just because I was in the weight control program, and that is just about the worst evaluation that you can get out of a school. Though, I was not out side of the weight height standards for the Navy.

 

A couple of years later a Senior Chief used that against me and instead of my staying in the Navy and retiring, I got out at 6 years because he had me ruled “grossly obese” even though I was not and I conformed to the Navy standards. His comment that started that was, “how can a fat lazy MF get a 4.0 evaluation!!!” That asshole didn’t know what I did and when I challenged him to work side-by-side with me, he could not pick up the 150 pound piece of equipment that I routinely carried every day.

 

I served honorably and I was not fat. I could leg press 700 pounds and I was strong as hell back then and I met all of the height and weight standards. But he got me branded with “grossly obese.”

 

So, years later, after not being as active as I was when I was in my 20s, I was still eating the same way when I was hauling equipment on and off ships 18 hours a day. That made me gain weight. It happened slowly over time.

 

Your right, it is about lifestyle changes. But most people that are over weight don’t know that! They are living the lifestyle that they have been taught since the day that they were born.

 

You want to know how I lost all that weight to go from 335 to 207? Well, it took a number of years. I made a decision to make a lifestyle change because I wanted to. Instead of the 16oz steak, I got the 9 oz steak. I don’t go and eat the huge plate of pasta and what ever, I eat one third of it and put the rest in a to-go box for two lunches.

 

I also threw out my scales. Diets and you people that make fun of fat people talk about how much you weigh. That places unrealistic expectations on how much weight someone is supposed to lose in a specific period of time. Someone’s weight is going to fluctuate. A person on a diet is looking at that damn scale, and if their weight goes up, they get discouraged. And then they quit and fall back into the same bad lifestyle that they grew up with.

 

Yes, it is all about lifestyle changes, and changes in habits. But someone who is way overweight doesn’t need your ugly comments. They need support and advice on how to change their lifestyle.

 

What I was offended with was your cavalier attitude that “You’re fat.” “Get off your ass and lose weight.” When you said that, I heard Senior Chief Thompson, who ruined my naval career, “How can a fat lazy MF like you get a 4.0 eval.” And that 5 foot 8 inch marathon runner who weighed maybe 145 pounds used to be MUCH bigger than I EVER was (I know that because I know someone who knew him in London back in the 60s) at one time abused me emotionally and professionally because he could not hang with me, and his pin sized ego made him ruin my life.

 

S

[nicerrtxcple 13]

We a BB couple and we actually prefer couples our size it just makes it easier for us since we are big but we are changing that,(weight loss) we have meet with smaller couples too.cause we have meet people that are smaller than us who like us.if you wouldn't mind giving the web site your talking about.

[crazycatz 17]

We a BB couple and we actually prefer couples our size it just makes it easier for us since we are big but we are changing that,(weight loss) we have meet with smaller couples too.cause we have meet people that are smaller than us who like us.if you wouldn't mind giving the web site your talking about.

 

There is such ignorance on the topic of weight and such judgment. It turns my stomach! Why don't we bump that thread from about a year ago shall we? Just so we make sure to ostracise all BB people all over again

 

God American culture is so fucked up.

[havefuninsun 122]

There is such ignorance on the topic of weight and such judgment. It turns my stomach! Why don't we bump that thread from about a year ago shall we? Just so we make sure to ostracise all BB people all over again

 

God American culture is so fucked up.

 

Who's judging?

 

The post you quoted wasn't judgmental at ALL ... they simply stated they're BB, prefer to play with BB; they're losing weight and are comfortable meeting folks of other sizes, then simply asked what the site was Julie was originally referring to.

 

So ... who's fucked up exactly?

[crazycatz 17]

i pressed quote instead of reply by mistake...

i was responding to the likes of chiccup and numbskulls

[NumbskullsX2 24]

There is such ignorance on the topic of weight and such judgment. It turns my stomach! Why don't we bump that thread from about a year ago shall we? Just so we make sure to ostracise all BB people all over again

 

God American culture is so fucked up.

There are many things about American culture that are "fucked up", but we are also making some changes for the better too, like our commitment to better health.

 

In the last 20 years there has been a large increase in the number of health clubs and diet centers in this country. It used to be that health clubs were in strip malls and diet support groups (like weight watchers) met in somebody's homes. Now, it's big business, and businesses only succeed because somebody is paying them. Most restaurants and drive throughs here offer healthy alternatives to greasy, high calorie, high carb dishes. You can still order a triple-whopper with cheese of you want one, but you can't blame burger king (or what your mother told you about cleaning your plate) for your heart attack or the fact that you have to buy your clothes from "special" stores.

 

Another thing in case you weren't aware, here in the U.S. we've also banned smoking in many public places. We haven't told people they can't smoke, onloy that they can't discharge their smoke into the air that the rest of us have to breath. (we have similar rules about factories discharging pollution into our air, soil and rivers)

 

Some states are making motorcycle riders who ride without helmets carry extra insurance, so that taxpayers don't have to pay for long-term care for riders who wind up brain-dead because they weren't wearing one.

 

We are still a very tolerent society, but we are becoming less tolerant of people who make bad lifestyle choices and of those who force the consequences of those choices upon US.

 

Our culture may be "fucked up", but we're becoming a much healthier fucked up culture.

 

Oh yea, BTW, if a "large" woman posts her picture on a "BBW" website, is she being ostracized, or is she ostracizing her own self?

[BiloxiCouple 695]

There is such ignorance on the topic of weight and such judgment. It turns my stomach! Why don't we bump that thread from about a year ago shall we? Just so we make sure to ostracise all BB people all over again

 

God American culture is so fucked up.

 

 

Yep. American culture has it's issues. It also has alot of good points.

 

How about... God Irish culture is so fucked up. Not so pretty?

 

Leave my country out of this. It's not yours.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

This topic has already gone sooooo off topic it's not even funny. Can we please get back to the original question of how those who are BBW (or seek BBWs) feel about using sites geared only to BBWs.