His cock was HUGE, hubby's isn't - now what?

[Tia Vampire 167]

This couple came over to introduce themselves to us last night. They told us that the age difference was obvious, but would make it worth our while if we were interested. I was turned toward the wife trying to let her know that we usually don't play at house parties when I felt something heavy lay across my lap. I thought it was my SO trying to signal me that he was not wanting to be with them. I went to grab what I thought was his arm when, OH MY DAMN! Her husband had his dick laying in my lap. That man was very blessed, but way too big for me. If this is what he was working with, I'm not sure my baby could do anything for this woman. He's only 6 inches long. This guy had to be every bit of about 10 inches long. NO joke ladies.

 

How many of you other women have turned a couple down because you thought that your husband/SO would be too small for the female half of the couple?

[sexcupid 809]

Well...we haven't run across that problem yet. But I don't think this is 'having his back'. It would feel like me doubting his abilities (which I don't).

 

However, going into the LS most women know that their chances of finding partners packing exactly what their SO isn't great...unless that is something that they screen for (specifically asking for men of size).

 

On one hand, does your SO know why you passed on this couple (beyond the fact you don't play at parties)? I know mine would be pissed. I mean, some men would go into the sitch thinking just what you did ('how am I going to do her any good if that's what she normally deals with?')...however some might think, 'I'm gonna rock her world! Show her that you don't have to have 12 inches to be awesome...'

[Tia Vampire 167]

Maria, this was a couple that I know my SO would have passed by in a heart beat. He's more into thick women with a shape. He loves a set of big thighs and a nice round ass. Not to mention he like for the couple to look to be around our age group. So to signal me that he was not interested in this couple would not have been a surprise. He is the one to tell me if he is interested or not. I just go out to party. He is so damn picky that eveyone that I have pointed out has been shut down, so I gave up on trying to find couples. It's all up to him.

 

I do not doubt his ability to satisfy a woman. I do doubt a woman who has a man with a 10 inch dick to be satisfied by my SO.

[cocpl2007 170]

It has happened, only the opposite. He was significantly smaller. However that certainly wasn't an impediment to my fun, nor did he lack any capacity to please!

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Ouch! Did you really turn him down because you were worried about your husband's inability to please his wife? Or because he was more than you felt you could handle? I've only seen one dick that was soo big I didn't want it in me, but I will tell you this, I've had some big cocks and I've found that overall guys with smaller cocks know a lot more about how to please a woman.

 

I could definately see a GUY feeling worried about going in "after that' and actually being able to feel anything (let alone her feeling him), but it does seem to me that by saying that you turned them down because you were worried about your man's ability to please HER is a bit of a slap in the face to him.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

Ok, we've never had to deal with a 10 incher, but if we were attracted to the couple, I don't think it would discourage me. I would just have to stick to the "Avis plan" ("We try harder").

 

Now, to comment on the part of the post that really intrigued me

 

I was turned toward the wife trying to let her know that we usually don't play at house parties when I felt something heavy lay across my lap. I thought it was my SO trying to signal me that he was not wanting to be with them. I went to grab what I thought was his arm when, OH MY DAMN! Her husband had his dick laying in my lap.

 

Now that is classy!

 

I've always wondered how to make that extra special first impression, and thought to myself, "How can we close the deal with this couple?".

This guy has it all figured out! What a player! [/sarcasm]

[Tia Vampire 167]

He didn't want to be with this couple either. Yes, I was more worried about her being able to feel my SO and vice versa.

[sexcupid 809]

Maria, this was a couple that I know my SO would have passed by in a heart beat.

 

I do not doubt his ability to satisfy a woman. I do doubt a woman who has a man with a 10 inch dick to be satisfied by my SO.

 

For the first statement, no biggie on passing them by if it was a couple he wouldn't have given the green light to anyway.

 

As for my comment on doubting abilities, I'm not saying you do doubt his. To clarify, if I can, is that I wouldn't turn down a playpartner with a big(ger) dick just because I was worried about him not being able to do her any good. She has to realize that the odds are not in her favor to randomly find well endowed partners. IME, most small to average sized men put more effort into making it an enjoyable experience. Whereas some (not all...but some) well endowed men think that you are supposed to immediately orgasm from just being presented with such a big dick and don't put much effort into it at all.

 

In my own experience, my sense of what constituted an average sized dick was skewed for the very reason I just seemed to get lucky to pick partners that were endowed with 8-9 inches on average. Some bigger, some smaller than that...but for the most part I was blessed in my radar. Now, having had more partners (apparently my radar for these things has been on the fritz for a few years lol ), I realize what really is average.

 

My sweetie falls into the 6-7 inch range, and I have yet to meet a dick I won't try...the deal breaker for me would have been the introduction to his member. Did you happen to catch sight of his balls? He would have to have pretty big ones to do that....rotflmao That would have been the deal breaker for me.

[fun4Ds 1,098]

I don't see anything about inadequacy on this matter. Mrs.fun has had the big 10 inch. I personally was not intimidated by his dick, He wasn't all about me and my big dick either.That might have turned us both off. While I was with his wife I guess the thought of her size wasn't an issue with me as well, I never looked at it like that.

 

The thing is, yes Mrs.Fun would have my back. Had someone put me in the spot of embarrassment or as I usually can sometimes put myself there. She would be graceful of getting me out of the potential situation, if she felt it could end that way. I'm o.k. with that and should be thankful she would.

 

I suppose when she encountered the (big one) she was concerned if it intimidated me being smaller. That was already discussed we just really never thought about (her) size. And no she wasn't big in there.

 

I'm O.k. with that. Am I seeing this in the way you mean it Tia ?

[des1re06 200]

The other guy having a larger cock wouldn't deter us because I'm confident in hubby's ability to please.

 

The large cock would deter me because they hurt if not used properly.

 

 

The fact that he pulled it out and placed it in my lap uninvited would bother me alot. Not good manners.

 

Good luck and have fun!

 

Mrs. D

[intuition897 2,179]

At one time this would've been a serious confidence issue with Mr. intuition. He went through some "figuring out" a while back, worrying to death about the bigger-is-better theory. He's actually got it resolved in his head now: He actually LIKES the idea of me wrestling with a huge cock, trying to figure out what to do with it. He's not into cuckolding or anything; it's just that he's decided that his ego isn't going to play into our relationship - sexual or otherwise - anymore.

 

Now, for the record, he had nothing to feel inferior about! He's on the upper end of average and more than well-equipped to make a girl happy. He just needed to believe that. If it was us in that situation, he'd probably want to go for it BECAUSE the guy was hung like wooly mammoth. He wouldn't have been concerned about his ability to please her because he knows that, regardless of her husband's physical attributes, she has grown used to him. It's not size that is important, it's the fact that it's someone different in her bed. A different way of moving, a different way of sounding, tasting, smelling...everything! And if she really needed a huge penis to satsify her, then I'm sure Mr. intuition could've improvised somehow!

 

I would trust my hubby to tell me if he was uncomfortable with it and let him decide. If, as you say, they were a couple that you wouldn't have had sex with otherwise, and especially if he was not attracted to her, we would probably pass them up. Huge cock and all.

[sweet_tna 680]

I'd have said no to that couple just based on the way the guy "presented" himself. It's never occurred to me to worry that my honey couldn't please a woman who's SO is well hung. And we have played with such couples--with no complaints.

 

=)

[LFM2 1,482]

I'd have said no to that couple just based on the way the guy "presented" himself. It's never occurred to me to worry that my honey couldn't please a woman who's SO is well hung. And we have played with such couples--with no complaints.

 

=)

 

I think some guy just laying his cock in my lap would have been a huge turnoff. Manners are so important in this lifestyle.

[Mrs Spoomonkey 118]

Well I have to say as some of the others here have...whipping out your cock and laying it across my lap wouldn't get you to a room with me bad form.

 

We always have each other backs so to speak but I have never felt the need to protect Spoo's feelings from cock sizes. Spoo is adequately endowed and has many talents in the bedroom. We usually don't know the "actual size" of a playmate until we get to the room. We go on attraction and personality during the "pre-sex" conversation. We got into the lifestyle for variety...how boring if I only played with men who had the exact same size cock as Spoo's or him with women who had the same cup size, height and hair color as me.

 

I've had close to 10 inches and I've had below average and to be honest it's all in whether or not the guy knows what he's doing with it as well as everything else in his bag of tricks Spoo knows what he brings to the table and has never been intimidated by another man's size.

 

So I guess in answer to your question while I always have my man's back...I don't feel the need to turn down a couple because of the guys cock size. There are too many variables...length, girth and techniques. You may miss out on something by turning down just on size, as well as cause the other woman to miss out on your SO since I'm sure there is more to him then just the number of inches between his legs.

 

Mrs Spoomonkey

[VanHlebar 187]

From the husbands side of this, man would it have been a conversation on the way home had I found out that MrsVan turned down a couple because she felt sorry for me. Yea I know that the couple was also outside of your strike zone and if that was the only reason she said no to a couple I would be fine with it, but if she told me that she said no because she didn't think we liked them AND because the guy was 10 inches and she felt sorry for me being...well let's say a lot less than that. WOW!

 

It isn't all about size, yea when I was younger I thought it was, but I can tell you that as a guy there is a lot more to pleasing a woman than just my cock. I think that this choice should be left open to the husband and the other wife. If she isn't interested because I am smaller than her husband, well her loss not mine.

 

On the other hand, this guy was an ass! What makes a guy think that just because he is hung like Mr Ed that he has a right to flop it out across a woman's lap!?! Had I been your husband and I saw that, I would have been pissed and well it would have ended right there and not because he was huge, but because he had no class and well my wife deserves much better than that!

 

-Van

[TNT 1,155]

I do doubt a woman who has a man with a 10 inch dick to be satisfied by my SO.

 

That's the wonderful thing about the vaginal canal....it's designed to stretch and then snap back to it's original size...if it didn't, any woman who had ever given vaginal birth would never be able to feel a man again. The thing about a woman who has a husband with an above average size cock is that she has learned or is use to being able to relax her muscles and accommodate him. Unless he has just vacated the premise she will feel any cock smaller than her husband's. Hell, a finger feels good at times so why wouldn't a smaller cock than you might be used to feel good?

 

 

As to the statements a few have made about the rudeness of the way the man presented his cock....

 

Well, guess I'm an odd ball here, it wouldn't offend me. I'm usually in a fairly good mood when we're in a party situation and I'd probably just laugh about it then,...depending on my mood (if I was interested in playing or not) I would have done one of two things...looked at it, said nice cock, lets find some place for me to try that out or...looked at it, smiled, said nice cock, then went back to whatever conversation I was in the middle of.

 

As far as worrying about what Ted might think...he'd probably give me a good slap on the ass if I was to turn down a big cock...we've played with some very well endowed men and he has never once felt inadequate.

 

 

Teresa

[Tybee Swing 286]

Yes, I was more worried about her being able to feel my SO and vice versa.

 

Do you believe that a woman who is regularly with a man who has a large cock would be all stretched out and "too big" for a regular guy? I've never heard of this one.

[Tia Vampire 167]

Yes I do Tybee. I was once dating this guy that was well endowed. I found out he was cheating on me, so of course I cheated too. The guy that I chose to cheat with was much smaller than him. I could not feel a thing.

I am talking about a woman that's with a well endowed guy regularly. I'm not talking about a woman that only get with a well endowed guy once in a while.

While I was dating the bigger guy, I went to the doctor with stomach aches. The doctor told me he could not stop me from dating the guy I was with, but he would advice me to stop having sex with him because he was too big for me.

[sbjr3 17]

JR is very well endowed and has to be careful with me at times. I find being with a smaller man a nice break because I can enjoy many positions that I am unable to do with JR due to discomfort.

 

As for the cock in my lap, I probably would have started laughing my ass off and told him "no thanks".

 

Cheryl

[safireblues 106]

Why not let your husband make the call?

 

Maybe she wanted anal or something, which she could probably never have with her enormous hubby.

[Spoomonkey 421]

If she isn't interested because I am smaller than her husband, well her loss not mine.

 

Personally, I think as a culture we put too much emphasis on penis size...

 

And after that big bit of "duh" I'd like to add that I agree with Van that it is her loss. But it would also be quite revealing about her too. Apart form simply being a size queen, she would be showing herself as rather uncreative sexually.

 

It has been said too many times to count around here that a woman is responsible - ultimately - for her own orgasm. Mrs Spoo has had a good time with many different sized men - from below average to well above. If a man focuses only on his size, either thinking that his size alone is the show - or that his size alone is going to guarantee that his playmate leaves unsatisfied - he is going to be lousy.

 

The same can be said for a woman - if she focuses too much on size - as if that is the only thing that makes a man fun in bed - she is going to spend her life in a constant funk of disappointment.

 

And in the bigger picture, it really does take two people to make a sexual experience pretty amazing - and parts play a much smaller role than we allow ourselves to admit. If a playmate has a lousy time with me, I don't worry about it much, because it is just as likely that it was her fault as mine...

 

A lack of communication, unrealistic expectations, a "please me or else" attitude... Those are hurdles even Carl Lewis couldn't jump...

 

Mrs Spoo knows that what I am looking for in a playmate is chemistry. If there is chemistry and she has tossed water on it just because she thinks I don't "measure up" I'd be pretty pissed about it - and we'd be having our first fight. Fortunately, she's experienced enough to know that the penis doesn't make the man.

 

Spoomonkey