Pictures that turn you off!

[twotocum4u2 16]

We all know that a picture in your SLS or other site profile is a great benefit. However, I was wonder if there are certain types of pictures that turn one off for what ever reason. For example I was approving pictures for another web site I belong to and I rejected several pictures because the person in the picture was “flipping” me off and had a really “mean” look on his face. Another I rejected had the subject holding a sign/note saying “let’s F**k B*t*h”. Is anyone else offended by pictures like this.

 

Am I wrong?

[sexcupid 809]

Honestly...I may have just approved those photos if I were you.... But I'm a little evil like that. I mean, if that's your attitude (Let's fuck bitch or the flip off pics)...then I would like to know up front. It would probably keep people from contacting them, and maybe they would figure out why. Or if not, they could come here and ask for a profile review.

[sweet_tna 680]

Oh man, and them pitchers woulda' been soooo sexy, too! (she says, with a most unladylike snort)

 

=)

[twotocum4u2 16]

Honestly...I may have just approved those photos if I were you.... But I'm a little evil like that. I mean, if that's your attitude (Let's fuck bitch or the flip off pics)...then I would like to know up front. It would probably keep people from contacting them, and maybe they would figure out why. Or if not, they could come here and ask for a profile review.

 

That is a very good way to look at it. I was simply offended by them and did a knee jerk reation. Thanks for pointing that out.

 

 

Too bad we fall outside you age bracket , we'll be heading down that way around the end of April.

[fun4Ds 1,098]

Did their profiles match their pictures ?

[VegasLee 1,486]

I agree, the pictures you deleted would have turned us off but I would not have deleted them if they had been submitted to a profile on one of our sites. Just because I don't like something does not mean the person on the profile does not have the right to put it up there. I would have thought to myself how stupid they are but that is their choice to show the world they are that way.

 

Other big turn offs to us are close up pictures of their "parts" and pictures on Swinger sites that have their kids in them.

 

People forget when making screen names and putting out pictures, on the Internet you get one chance to make a first impression.

[LFM2 1,482]

Like Lee, I would have approved them for the site. I don't like what they have to say, but people I guess would see what they're really like and would probably base their decisions to write, or in our case, not write them based on those pictures.

 

Pictures that I absolutely abhor are those with close up genital shots and kids. Kids have no business being in any sort of swinger shot.

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

 

Like Lee, I would have approved them for the site. I don't like what they have to say, but people I guess would see what they're really like and would probably base their decisions to write, or in our case, not write them based on those pictures.

 

Pictures that I absolutely abhor are those with close up genital shots and kids. Kids have no business being in any sort of swinger shot.

I think it would be beneficial to other swingers to see those flipping-you-off and "let's fuck bitch" pictures left in a profile; they DO let people know something important about those swingers that will help them decide if they want anything to do with them.

 

I review SLS profiles in the "Couples Profile Reviews" forum of this Board, quite a few in past years, and doing this has taught me NOT to suggest certain changes. I realized - after one particular review - that some of my suggestions certainly would make them more approachable, but likely at the expense of the people contacting them; they'd discover something they weren't expecting, which would probably result in a terrible outcome.

 

If you have the ability to read a profile AND see the pictures you can get a fuller take on people; the profile can help you understand the reasoning behind the pics, and vice versa. That finger pic may be hilarious when you read the person's profile, or it could let you know this is an angry dude! - it depends on how one supports the other.

 

Regarding pictures that include children, as far as I know, no swinger ad sites allow those. If those popped up, I would not approve them.

 

LM

[two4youinswva 3,068]

I approve pics on SLS fairly regularly.

 

The only ones I don't approve are any that have kids (even in the background, site's rules), scat, pee, bestiality (yes I've seen this), or anything illegal.

 

Now, when approving some of these, I think to myself "You are so going to strike out on here with that pic".

 

Of course, there's someone for everyone, so I could be wrong.

 

 

Personally, I just love the pics where the guy holds a can of Coors Light next to his erect shlong so everyone can see just how big it is in relation to his favorite adult beverage. [/sarcasm]

[SCcpl40 74]

Does the old saying, one man's junk is another man's treasure. We each have our own idea what is sexy. We're not complex people, so a simple pic of the couple together, G rated is enough to explore the possibility of meeting.

[EnchantedBiLove 30]

We prefer to see pics that show a person's eyes over their genitals anyday--I mean, there is a lot more to be told by ones eyes then their hoo-hoo anyday lol. The pics that need to be looked for more closely are ones that, appear to be "fake" or set up for promotion of something other then the sites intent. Also, ones that have girls with questionable age and can't show proof they really are old enough.

[Hot Raleigh Cpl 164]

We know not everyone has access to studio quality photos for their profiles, but when they think we're so naive they can foist off any of the following, it's a turn-off.

 

We get concerned when it's a pic we've seen floating around the Web for years, or one that's previously been associated with a different handle. (whose pic are you using?)

 

Also pics where it's obvious someone has been cropped out.

 

And pics that are from a context that REALLY doesn't match swinging (e.g., pics from the kids or grandparents birthday party just aren't a turn-on)

 

And pics that were obviously taken without the subject's knowledge. (guys, you may tell us your wife is hot to do this, but when the only pic you have is her changing her underwear in a dark room taken from a camera hidden in the closet...)

 

OR if they've obviously doctored the pic to enlarge or reshape body parts (ahem! guys, we've seen a lot of them, and we KNOW that thing doesn't actually dangle below your knee)

 

Just our $.02

[sexcupid 809]

We get concerned when it's a pic we've seen floating around the Web for years, or one that's previously been associated with a different handle. (whose pic are you using?)

 

Depends...there are a few couples in our area that started out as singles, so many of the pics on their (now combined) profile are ones that used to be on their singles profiles.

 

Also pics where it's obvious someone has been cropped out.

 

I don't mind these so much...mostly because I just assume that they've cropped out a friend, kid, other family member.

 

And pics that are from a context that REALLY doesn't match swinging (e.g., pics from the kids or grandparents birthday party just aren't a turn-on)

 

Most of the pics on our profile are not 'swinging related context' pictures. I just uploaded some that I took of myself that are sexier. If you think it's a good or flattering picture, I don't quite care where it came from (although, I'm not enamoured of wedding pictures...sure they are good pics, done professionally...but hey, that's just one of my peeves). But then again...this falls under the picture cropping issue....if it's a good picture from your great-grandmother's 100th birthday party...crop out other family members, etc.

 

And to the comment about the hard on next to a can of their preferred beverage...rotflmao...those just make me laugh.

[Additude 457]

I say it's not for you to decide or censor photos unless they do not meet the sites criteria which is typically any children, beastiality, do-do, etc.

 

Someone flipping a bird or heading a picture with "Lets Fuck Bitch" will be censored personally. If someone else looks at those pics are are offended by them then the pic originator is doing nothing but hurting themselves.

 

So I say for those kinds of pics, let each viewer decide what they see as offensive.

 

Personally, if I saw a picture with a heading "Lets Fuck Bitch", I'd just move on. But I don't need you or someone else to censor that for me.

[newlythree 34]

This is the Mrs., since most women are not a visual as a man I prefer G-rated photos. If your personality turns me on then I am interested. A pic of your d*ck doesn't do it for me. To be able to touch it different story.

mrs newlythree

[ownerspet 506]

Other big turn offs to us are close up pictures of their "parts" and pictures on Swinger sites that have their kids in them.

 

I agree with Lee on the above totally, but I have an additional request.

 

I've also grown weiry of seeing profiles that only have pictures of an ass, not much of a back, not much legs or anything. I would really prefer a picture with an entire body (g-rated or r-rated, no preference), and it would even be better if I could at least get a head shot with a blurred face at least. But just an ass, come on. I have an ass, my wife has an ass, and I'm pretty sure everyone we've played with has an ass. I saw one profile that had a half dozen pictures, and everyone of them was an ass. In my opinion, that sort of displays a lack of diversity and creativity.

 

Can you tell, I'm tired of looking at only asses? I like a nice ass, but I'm all about the total package.

[JustMrJ 178]

I'm in with ownerspet... I like to see some personality as well as some near to full body shots... I don't need to even see your birthday suit, but give me a glimpse of your shapely figure and I'll figure out the rest.

 

My wife goes with newlythree on this one... picture of the junk don't do it... personlity does... now... pulling the handle for service... THAT she can do...

[bill_n_lana 16]

I must be a perv ! haha! I the female half like the cock pictures. I like to have an idea what I am getting in to. Full body shots even with a blurred face are nice as well.

My husband just likes to see a full body shot even if they have clothes on. He doesn't like the naked pictures nearly as much as I do.

[cupl4fun 361]

For me the ones that really bug are the ones that show someone's face but they look pissed or totally disinterested. That I just don't get. At least with body parts it's about something sexual so I can understand why it's there, but if in your picture you or your partner looks angry or like you don't care at all what message are you trying to send? The message I get is to move on.

[ohash01 20]

I have a lot of picture turn-offs, actually.

 

1. Pictures that show a really dirty/cluttered/etc. house. Atleast pick up the dirty socks if you're taking pictures of yourself for posting.

 

2. Dis-embodied cock-shots. I do NOT want to see JUST the man-bits and nothing else. It's creepy.

 

3. Anything on an adult/swing/dating site with your kids in it. Not the place for family photos.

[sunrise_sunset 16]

People who flaunt their wealth in their profiles. Ex. multiple pictures of a pick-up truck with a christian fish sticker on the windshield parked in a driveway of a oversized McMansion.

[3sumff 31]

I have a lot of picture turn-offs, actually.

 

1. Pictures that show a really dirty/cluttered/etc. house. Atleast pick up the dirty socks if you're taking pictures of yourself for posting.

 

3. Anything on an adult/swing/dating site with your kids in it. Not the place for family photos.

 

I agree totally! Dirty house and kids in the pics is a big turn-off. Actually, there is one more bone I have to pick. I am very surprised by some people who post pics that actually think they look good in. I mean I am no model or anything, but I would choose the best looking pic where everything just seemed perfect to me. Dirty house, kids, dirty clothing or a picture of yourself where you look a little up kept. C'mon, post something that makes you look the most appealing.

[lovemonkey#1 48]

i'm not a big fan of pics where you can tell that the people just aren't even trying at all. i mean, you don't have to dress up and be someone you're not but at least have pictures where the both of you aren't sitting on the couch while watching tv in your dingy work clothes, laundry all over the place, and your baby with an obviously dirty diaper crawling on the floor. at least TRY to be SOMEWHAT sexy and enticing.

 

i also dislike the ones that you can tell were Polaroids from 1982 or that are so small that you can't even see them.

[SexyRedmondCpl 128]

i also dislike the ones that you can tell were ... from 1982

 

Yeah, I tried those for a while with no real luck. I must've been making a weird face in my ultrasounds

[Swing*8701 887]

Susan here--It's been a while since we had a profile, but when we did it, the first photo was of us as a couple, at a charity dinner. The second was a full body 'cheesecake' photo of me sitting on a counter in a simple dress with heels. We got good responses from that. We always used current photos, good resolution and quality.

 

But I have to admit, the raunchy photos were never in profiles that we contacted. Also, when the photos were only of the wife. That always struck me as the guy trying to whore out his wife. Lastly, photos where no one is smiling.

[lovemonkey#1 48]

Susan here--It's been a while since we had a profile, but when we did it, the first photo was of us as a couple, at a charity dinner. The second was a full body 'cheesecake' photo of me sitting on a counter in a simple dress with heels. We got good responses from that. We always used current photos, good resolution and quality.

 

But I have to admit, the raunchy photos were never in profiles that we contacted. Also, when the photos were only of the wife. That always struck me as the guy trying to whore out his wife. Lastly, photos where no one is smiling.

 

agreed. i'm not into the wife-only profiles or the ones where people look like they're not having fun or taking the pictures against their will. i once saw a profile on SLS that absolutely floored me. i can't remember what the profile actually said but what i do remember is that the guy was a complete waste of oxygen. he was one of those super egotistical, body builder types and he couldn't have been more chauvinistic and bigoted if he tried. the thing that got me though is that he had one picture of himself up (naked and flexing his muscles of course) but the rest were of his girlfriend who was obviously not into at all. she almost looked scared in all of the pics and in many of them she was holding a sign that said "property of" whatever the guy's handle name was. according to the profile she was also like 20 years younger than him (he was in his 40's). it was just really sad to me and it turned my stomach. poor girl.

[jdavisauto 73]

If I run across a pic I don't like, I just don't look at it. it's that easy for me. One man trash is another mans gold. As long as the pic is not illegal, then it should be their choice as what then want to put up to represent them. Like I said, if I don't like it I don't look at it.

 

I remember when I was a kid that my great grandfather used to wear long sleeve shirts to cover a tatoo up on his left arm. When I asked him why he said that he don't want people to see it. Then I asked what the tatoo mean? He said that it was censorship of a race of people. It was not until years latter that I found out the history behind the tatoo of numbers on his arm. None of the books in school told the real story like my grandfather did.

[jccuriouscouple 15]

This was a great thread to read through. As newcomers here, I was curious what kind of photos people like to see. This helps give me a better idea what direction the wife and I need to go.

 

We are both professionals and don't want to attract the wrong crowd if you know what I mean.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

This was a great thread to read through. As newcomers here, I was curious what kind of photos people like to see. This helps give me a better idea what direction the wife and I need to go.

 

We are both professionals and don't want to attract the wrong crowd if you know what I mean.

Won't pretend to speak for others but JoAnn and I prefer pictures showing a man and woman together, dressed nicely, posed portrait-style, smiles on faces. One of the reasons that we use SLS exclusively is that they do not allow lewd or explicit images as "public" pictures.

 

~Michael

[Malachista 170]

Yesterday I came across a profil on a couple who just started out

I had to give them the advice that it would be helpfull not to post pictures of them in underwear that has gone grey and out of shape over the years....

[N8ture Girl 318]

My biggest peeve regarding profile photos are the ones that only have the wife in them. To me that can be awkward when the wife looks attractive you start talking, things go well and then you see a pic of the hubby ! Then what do you do? If your listed as a couple then show everyone your a couple. And the other big thing is those profiles that their default pic ( the one that everyone sees first) is of one BIG boob. It fills the whole picture! Save that for your private gallery or your default gallery. Oh and there is another, a ton of spelling and grammer errors. This is a big turn off. If you have to read it several times to understand it, its too many. ( I would by no means win a spelling bee, but there is something called "spell check")

 

The whole idea of a profile is all about marketing yourself. This is your way to send a positve first impression.

 

Sorry to ramble on.

[Pensacolapair 394]

My biggest peeve regarding profile photos are the ones that only have the wife in them......

 

Yeah, we find the 'hot-wife-as-bait' profiles annoying too. They also are the ones that tend to have a line attempting to explain that "he is very well-known in the community" as the reason why. Um... if he is that well-known in the community, wouldn't it stand to reason that folks in the community are probably gonna recognize his wife too?

 

We also scratch our heads at a lot of the same things that others have mentioned - messy backgrounds, body parts only, etc. However, we agree 100% with those who say let them put up what they want (kids being the hard and firm exception)... it's just another piece of information about them that each individual can interpret based on their own preferences.

[bbarnsworth 2,640]

Yesterday I came across a profil on a couple who just started out

I had to give them the advice that it would be helpfull not to post pictures of them in underwear that has gone grey and out of shape over the years....

 

Oh geez...the visual

[bbarnsworth 2,640]

Oh and there is another, a ton of spelling and grammer errors. This is a big turn off.

 

You notice people making Kelsey Grammer errors in their profiles? I haven't seen that.

 

Perhaps you meant gramm_a_r errors

[SandJinVT 23]

We don't actually get "turned off" by pictures so much as it is a lack of a "turn on".

 

Dirty backgrounds, messy homes are a definite "no no" for us. Pictures of only one member of the couple. Rarely, if ever, will we write to those profiles, and if they write to us, we will ask for a pic of the "missing spouse". After that, we're usually told they are "far too well known" to have a picture posted. lol Apparently some people think others were just born yesterday, AND in the dark.

 

We don't get turned off by cock shots or closeups, we just don't contact them and they will get a prompt no thanks if they write to us. I'm with the poster who wanted the folks together, nicely dressed, and facing the camera (as in a studio type of photo). All we want to see is that 1) its a couple, 2) they are appealing to us, and 3) they aren't either of our exes, lol.

 

To the poster who didn't want to approve the finger pics? Go right ahead. Mostly everyone we've ever met in this Lifestyle has the same feeling about those pictures, and in most cases, they are used as avatars in the forums, and are done just to be able to flip someone off without actually doing so - kid stuff, lol. :-)

[N8ture Girl 318]

You notice people making Kelsey Grammer errors in their profiles? I haven't seen that.

 

Perhaps you meant gramm_a_r errors

 

 

LOL, I admit it I cant spell either. I usually use Word, but don't think it would have caught that one!

[jccuriouscouple 15]

I've noticed some of your replies regarding spouses not being shown. I'm a member of the military in my fairly small town and do not want my face on any of the "matching" sites like AFF. I'm only willing to exchange face pictures after a friendship of some sort has been established.

 

What would you guys consider to be acceptable pictures in this situation?

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Though no specifically disallowed by the one swingers' direct-contact Web site where we still maintain a membership, we find "composite" pictures to be suspicious --- the kind where somebody has combined two pictures to make it appear as if a man and a woman had posed for the same picture. It speaks loudly of "fraud".

[Chris&Amelia 253]

I just approved some pictures on SLS of some guy dressed in women's underwear while he had a vibrator shoved in his nether-regions.

 

I wish I was kidding.

 

Kind of killed any trace of a libido I had for the night.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

I just approved some pictures on SLS of some guy dressed in women's underwear while he had a vibrator shoved in his nether-regions.

 

You do just ONE LITTLE FAVOR for your wife, and everybody's a critic.

[sweet_tna 680]

You do just ONE LITTLE FAVOR for your wife, and everybody's a critic.

 

Two4youinswva for the win!

 

=)

[Chris&Amelia 253]

You do just ONE LITTLE FAVOR for your wife, and everybody's a critic.

 

Might I suggest.... purple leopard-print.... well, it just doesn't go with your skin tone....

[Pensacolapair 394]

I've noticed some of your replies regarding spouses not being shown. I'm a member of the military in my fairly small town and do not want my face on any of the "matching" sites like AFF. I'm only willing to exchange face pictures after a friendship of some sort has been established.

 

What would you guys consider to be acceptable pictures in this situation?

 

There's nothing wrong with not putting face pictures up that can be seen by all... quite a few people have the same concerns you do. However, most sites allow you to have private pictures that you control the access to. Keep in mind though - when swingers go 'window-shopping' if there's nothing in the window there's a good chance they won't bother to go inside the store.

 

A good full-length 'G' rate pic in a neutral setting with the face blurred out, covered, or cropped out using the many available programs out there is acceptable to most of the folks we know. If there is interest in what they see, they can contact you, then the choice is yours whether to share your face pics with them.

 

Good Luck!

[Mr.Essex 264]

I've noticed some of your replies regarding spouses not being shown. I'm a member of the military in my fairly small town and do not want my face on any of the "matching" sites like AFF. I'm only willing to exchange face pictures after a friendship of some sort has been established.

 

What would you guys consider to be acceptable pictures in this situation?

 

You should do what I did. Take a body shot, crop off the head and add enough spice to the picture to make it stand out. It's not that effective in a smaller town, but it's astonishingly effective for larger city contacts.

[BiloxiCouple 695]

I hate blue tooths.

 

I see them around and really dislike them and just saw one in a profile picture.

 

Go figure.

[Chris&Amelia 253]

I hate blue tooths.

 

I see them around and really dislike them and just saw one in a profile picture.

 

Go figure.

 

Do you mean "wireless cell phone headsets" or "really bad dental habits"?

[BiloxiCouple 695]

Do you mean "wireless cell phone headsets" or "really bad dental habits"?

 

 

Both:lol: Saw that cell phone thing with a picture of a couple together and the guy had it in his ear.

 

Hate bad teeth too. I understand if one is missing, but a mouthful of decay?

[AdamInEve 28]

Like many others here we volunteer to approve pictures and profiles on SLS as well. As long as its legal and within SLS standards we approve it, all the while shaking our heads and saying to ourselves, "its your profile dude....good luck".

 

As far as us, we prefer to see full body shots. Face pics aren't necessary. The faces can be blurred but a full body pic gives us some idea if your along the lines of what we are looking for. We have face pics that we have in our private folder that we will open up if there is an interest. We have no personal folder showing us doing the nasty because we feel they are just not necessary in order for you to make a judgement if you are interested in us or not. Its a dating site, not a porno site.

[PB&J 1,086]

We just received a key from a couple that had posted a pic of themselves with all three of their teenage kids. Yikes!! I got in touch with site admin at once, and they'd deleted it within half an hour of me seeing it. Now, what are the odds that we would want to meet up, let alone hook up, with a couple that showed such a stunning lack of judgement?

Oh and the crotch shots- dear lord. If they don't scare me they disgust me. And a woman has so many more attractive angles than that between her legs. And what does one learn from an upended ass, aside from, well, she's got a nice ass? I find those shots particularly creepy, for some reason. Some ass shots are very tasteful and actually convey personality, but the ass sticking out of a hot tub? Ummmm no.

Public pics of the people, faces optional, preferably clothed (although I must admit that I use a discreet rear view of my naked hubby on a couple of sites because it IS his preferred state of dress) get our attention. Extra points for style.

[2Playing4Fun 15]

The pics are your doorway. If they are tasteless, you click your mouse and leave.

 

I do agree that they should be approved, tells you who you are dealing with.