How big does penis need to be?

[Fantasy01 11]

Well Hell I bet this question has been asked before but I would like to know if there is certain, Im about average what ever that is, size that makes a woman want to play with you at a swinger's club, house party or a foursum...

[pervgeeks 119]

This is a male issue for the most part. Unless he's the size of a pencil (or the size of a horse- ouch!), it's really not an issue. A handsome face, nice body, and a stunning personality (and stamina along with skills with other parts of his body as well) are far more important to most women than a particular measurement. Yes, there are "size queens" so to speak, but I'm having sex with the man, not just a penis. If I just want "random giant cock", I can buy that in a store.

[socolais 696]

What can be said here that hasn't already been said so many times in so many ways? For some people, body parts matter more than anything else - but do you really want to be with those folks?

 

I read some of your other posts and I see a pattern that clearly shows a strengthening in your self confidence over the past few months. It's confidence that other people find attractive, and it often over rides appearance. Relax and have some fun with this adventure.

[funfrkycpl 77]

Even though I do have a preference for men that are well endowed to very well endowed, I have never played with man just because of the size of his penis. When we are at a club or party and looking for a single man to join us I have to be physically attracted to him and he has to make a good first impression on me with his personality. Without these two things it doesn't matter how big he is. If he is well endowed, knows how to use it, and has great stamina that is just a plus for me.

[Pensacolapair 394]

The good news is that yes, there is an ideal penis size that is guarenteed to attract playmates in Lifestyle venues... the bad news is that it varies from woman to woman!

 

As an observation, although there are women with definate (sometimes exclusionary) preferences on both ends of the scale.. most women seem to enjoy the variety of sizes that exist - provided that other elements are present.

[LFM2 1,482]

Dave and I are in this type of hobby for fun. We love people who exude confidence and personality. Physical characteristics are so secondary. We don't over think things. We just want to have fun with whomever we're with.

[imsherona2 15]

LFM2, well said and our feelings exactly!

[Fantasy01 11]

Thank you all for your words of wisdom. You have made my expectations of our up and coming swinger's club adventure some thing really to look forward to now... Thanks again. We'll let you know how it all works out. I have complete confidene in my personal abilities but, and even though I have never had any complaints, I've always felt a bit cheated when it came to penis size. I posed this question to all of you that would and could give me a straight answer... thanks

[gnb4u 15]

Let me see if I can put a little perspective on this dick thing. We only have a couple evenings a month we are able to get out and when we are finally able to go to an LS event we usually are wanting to play and go with the intent to at least try and make it happen. It is real hard to find a couple we both want to play with and even harder to find a couple we like where both parties also want to play with us. With everyone doing their little dance and trying to feel each other out and make a decision whether to try and take it to the physical realm can be quite an undertaking at times. By the time we get to a room and the clothes start coming off about the only thing that the mrs cares about when it comes to dicks is does he have one and does it work.

 

The fascination with dick size is really more of a male issue than a female one. Yes, all women probably have a size range that they prefer but female attraction and comfort is so complex and multi-faceted that dick size is probably # 1,262 on their priority list.

 

If you have a dick that is larger than 3" but under 10" and it works you are probably good to go. Your real challenge will be in looking sharp, being charming and flirtatious without coming on too aggressive. It's hard enough to find someone that you are interested in who is interested in you at the same time without worrying about what's hiding in your pants.

[Playful1 434]

There isn't a particular size that makes me want to play with a guy, but there is definitely a size that makes me say "i can't". If the guy is too big (which for me is not much bigger than average), no matter how much I like the guy, I'll say no.

 

if you're average, you'll be fine. Every woman has her preferences, but there is something for everyone too.

[Chicup 41]

Well there was ONE time where Mrs. Chicup giggled about how small the guy was after to me and she was disapointed in that.

 

Shes no size queen, but 4 inches and thin didn't do it.

[Guest screaminggood]

Am I supposed to be questioning or asking to see it before we go to the bedroom? I usually agree to go play before I've opened up the present, so to speak.

[des1re06 200]

I'll be brutally honest here.

 

I look for a fat head. Length isn't an issue, girth is.

 

Since we're normally at a nudist club, I can "shop around".

[sweet_tna 680]

Like Gnb4u said, the whole penis size thing is more of an issue for the guys than the gals. I've played with a variety of sizes, and have yet to be disappointed. For me, it's the chemistry and how the guy uses what he's got that matters.

 

So relax--focus on being yourself and having fun, and you'll be fine.

 

=)

[Guest Pinmonkey]

I believe penis size has less to do with attracting potential playmates than personality size does.

 

Oh and from what I've found doing a simple web search is that the consensus is that the average human penis is approximately 12.9–15 cm (5.1–5.9 in) in length and the typical girth or circumference is approximately 12.3 cm (4.85 in) when fully erect.

[rachan 53]

For my wife I don't know that it's the size but maybe the idea of a big dick. Our mfm partner of several years is very well endowed. Long and thick and my wife really loved it. He also has lasting power and recovers fast.

 

A

[personal416 71]

Dave and I are in this type of hobby for fun. We love people who exude confidence and personality. Physical characteristics are so secondary. We don't over think things. We just want to have fun with whomever we're with.

 

Ding Ding Ding!!!!

 

[imsherona2 15]

What can be said here that hasn't already been said so many times in so many ways? For some people, body parts matter more than anything else - but do you really want to be with those folks?

 

I read some of your other posts and I see a pattern that clearly shows a strengthening in your self confidence over the past few months. It's confidence that other people find attractive, and it often over rides appearance. Relax and have some fun with this adventure.

 

Couldn't have said it better...so ditto!

[lakeluvrs 65]

I'm about 5.5", which they say is average, but to judge by the people we play with and what I see in the locker room, I'd say I'm below average. The funny thing is, swinging has actually taken away most of my insecurity about it. We've played with some couples where the guy was a good 7-8 and the woman has seemed to really enjoy my efforts (even passed on good reviews about me to my wife while they chatted privately.) So I no longer feel that awkwardness when we all disrobe and my little guy makes his first appearence.

 

And the really ironic part of this is that my wife has discovered she really enjoys the occasional large (8") guy. She admits a large one feels different and in some ways better. So now, I'm hoping to see a guy bigger than me when we play!

[willyoats 324]

I have discussed this with my wife, so these are second hand answers, so to speak.

 

She says that she does not consider penis size before deciding to go with another guy. It's the personality, the apparent sensuality and the other physical attributes that sway her.

 

However, afterwards she recalls four memorable penises: the one that was a little too big, and the three that were too small. All of the others were OK size-wise, and the encounter was memorable (or forgetable) for reasons other than penis size.

[Chris&Amelia 253]

Amelia had a large playmate once. When it was done and over, she told me that she really didn't have all that much of a good time. When I asked her why, she was apparently sore because he "stretched her out" and it was not a good feeling for her. I guess he was also "bottoming out" (pushing up against her cervix) which she actually found painful, and she had to tell him to not penetrate her completely.

[it'sso 198]

Here's the scoop. If a guy is smaller than average and he is still in the lifestyle, there is nothing that you can say that he hasn't heard before (experience talking here). Why bother if you already have preconceived notions bout your requirements?

[nicerrtxcple 13]

i am only 6 inch cut but very very thick. but i would like to be atleast 3 inchs more longer than i am right now. My wife says i am the right size and some of the others i have been with like it! but my self i just wish i was longer my self.but thats just me.

[theflamekasters 20]

I believe penis size has less to do with attracting potential playmates than personality size does.

 

Oh and from what I've found doing a simple web search is that the consensus is that the average human penis is approximately 12.9–15 cm (5.1–5.9 in) in length and the typical girth or circumference is approximately 12.3 cm (4.85 in) when fully erect.

 

YIPPIE SKIPPIE I AM ABOVE AVG LMAO!!!!

[Thrax 384]

YIPPIE SKIPPIE I AM ABOVE AVG LMAO!!!!

 

Dammit!

 

DAMMIT!

 

There goes what little self-esteem I had!

 

Where's my lawyer? Phil? Phil? Where are you? On the golf course again?

 

Phil, I might have a class-action thing for you...

 

Thrax

[JustMrJ 178]

ROFL... I'm in that 'average' range too... no complaints to date other than nervous related performance issues in a 'busy' room... gotta work on that.

[theflamekasters 20]

Dammit!

 

DAMMIT!

 

There goes what little self-esteem I had!

 

Where's my lawyer? Phil? Phil? Where are you? On the golf course again?

 

Phil, I might have a class-action thing for you...

 

Thrax

 

seriously, i thougth 6.5 was avg!! that is why i put that....lmao

[3sumff 31]

In response to Chris&Amelia, my gf feels the same way. Although, she hasn't experienced a large dick before. In terms of 7inches and over! She says the thought of having a large member inside scares her. I would say I am avg...damn it to hell with my avg. size...lol. She doesn't care for the thick guys either!

She says I am perfect for her though...bless her heart for saying I am avg...lol! There are times when she says I hurt her though.

[K&JIntimates 66]

I haven't been with anyone other than K (yet) but I'm not going to ask a guy who I'm otherwise into to drop his pants so that I can have a look at his penis. I'll look in the shower before playing but that is more a curiosity thing than an.."I'm not going to play with you unless you meet X requirement."

 

Would it be nice to be with someone who equals K below the belt...sure. Is it a requirement..no. As long as the guy knows what he's about in the bed (or makes one heck of an effort) I know I'll be happy. The only exception I can think of to this might be if the man's penis is shaped really funky. As in curved like a crescent to the side or upward. Having been with someone like that (years ago) it made sex in certain positions really uncomfortable for me.

[theflamekasters 20]

honestly as an avg sized male, i would say i would rather be that size then HUGE, most ever woman i know that hwas been with a guy with a huge wang says it hurts!! I am ok with my size, and woman dont seem to complain about it!! So really i have no hang up on the size of my junk, as long as it will fit in your trunk!!

[SweetandSalty1 18]

This is a male issue for the most part. Unless he's the size of a pencil (or the size of a horse- ouch!), it's really not an issue. A handsome face, nice body, and a stunning personality (and stamina along with skills with other parts of his body as well) are far more important to most women than a particular measurement. Yes, there are "size queens" so to speak, but I'm having sex with the man, not just a penis. If I just want "random giant cock", I can buy that in a store.

 

I feel the same.

[Miss Sunshine 29]

I love a big cock but size really doesn't matter when you are playing with others, in my opinion.

[bryanlee 147]

Well I am 7'' long and just under 6'' around. Funny thing is that for the longest time i thought i was below average. It's funny how guys are so insecure about these things. I would probably not play with someone who was only concerned with size anyway. I agree that confidence is the key and being comfortable and able to use what you've got is more important than size alone.

 

Bryan & Sharon

[funcpl4life 51]

I'm 6.75 x 5.0. Not too shabby, but nothing to write home about. One of our frequent play partners told me that she prefers me to another, larger play partner because I don't bang on her cervix. Mrs. FC4L actually loves playing with that same larger parter because he touches a certain place for her.

Infinite variations in infinite combinations.

Yay.

Mr. FC4L

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Well I am 7'' long and just under 6'' around.

Six inches around? Holy Moses! I have heard that women have a tough time in the carpentry trades because the guys have been telling them that this [hold thumb and index finder at a certain distance apart in illustrative gesture] is six inches.

[bryanlee 147]

Lol, I have heard that too. Pretty funny. It doesn't seem very large to me. I seriously consider myself to be of average size. Maybe I am above average, but i just don't see it.

[theflamekasters 20]

I'm 6.75 x 5.0. Not too shabby, but nothing to write home about. One of our frequent play partners told me that she prefers me to another, larger play partner because I don't bang on her cervix. Mrs. FC4L actually loves playing with that same larger parter because he touches a certain place for her.

Infinite variations in infinite combinations.

Yay.

Mr. FC4L

 

I have been told that as well! I know the misses prefers an avg cock to a huge one

[theflamekasters 20]

Dammit!

 

DAMMIT!

 

There goes what little self-esteem I had!

 

Where's my lawyer? Phil? Phil? Where are you? On the golf course again?

 

Phil, I might have a class-action thing for you...

 

Thrax

 

 

that is rather funny!

[meandu2gether 15]

I think it is a female preference. But my personal two cents is this size matters in a HUGE way. Not to throw in the race factor but being how I have experienced with most races I have to admit when it comes down to it black men on average are above average. My man is thick and long and honestly small men frustrate me in every way. I have grown so accustom to the "horse" I get no pleasure out of average men. So yes to me size matters. I am use to men over 10inches and either I have been blessed or cursed either way I like someone to fill me up and make me fill like my ribs are being separated :-). Length and girth means the world to me and well to avoid repeating myself YES SIZE MATTERS....to me that is. Although I have come across one guy that made me want to run out of the room because he did look un-human as he was bigger then anything I ever came across however I decided to stick around for the challenge :-) glad I did...its a personal thing and well its easy to tell what my preference is.

[it'sso 198]

I think a lot of guys in the lifestyle who sport less than average sized penises probably got into it just so they could see if their SO would be willing to screw ANYBODY.

They are hoping that it will get her motor running, given the possibility that his size was handicapping the process.

moo

[dhm2008 15]

well as a big man being bigger can be a real handicap I have had lots of women tell me no way because of my size and I think it's about a 70-30 split, 70 being the number saying no 30 say yes. so yes size really does matter, the only people that are really interested in me is the guy males keep coming on to me. but this is not to make any judgement, but from what I have experienced myself. thanks

[Thrax 384]

I think a lot of guys in the lifestyle who sport less than average sized penises probably got into it just so they could see if their SO would be willing to screw ANYBODY.

They are hoping that it will get her motor running, given the possibility that his size was handicapping the process.

moo

My experience -- as a single male playing with swingers -- has been on the other side of that assumption.

 

I've been playing with couples and single women in the LS for about eight years now, and looking back on every encounter I can remember, I'd say that I'm the smaller hard-on in over 90% of the encounters I had in MFMs. But, things worked out then, and I got calls for other meetings.

 

Why would that be? Maybe because my boner doesn't hit my partner's cervix when we're slappin' uglies?

 

So, the F in the equation obviously loves hubby, and I'm just a convenient and welcome "tool" (as a single male...and I accept that), but I understand that they both get off on the results. And no one gets hurt!

 

Maybe you can think of other reasons...

 

Thrax

[rajingale 15]

My mom loves circumcised customers.

[jdavisauto 73]

I never really got into that male-ego thing about dick size. I also never took a ruler to my dick to see how big or small it was. I figure that I was just average size and went on with life. It not like I going to have a operation and add more meat to my dick anyway so i,m happy with what I have. I did have several women tell me I have a big dick but that was usually after they follow the instructions printed on the side of my dick (Please inflation to 35 lbs psi). Ok now back to reality, I have been told that I do have a big dick from women but what do they have to compare it to? Size is a personal judgement of the individual.

[Opportunists 17]

well i been with mrs. opps long enough to be able to speak for her on this subject...

 

for her, penis aesthetics is more important than size. i'm not sure exactly what makes for a 'pretty one', but if he has one, she's all over him.

 

it is a big bonus if he has a 'big pretty one'...

 

while above average isn't required, i think below average doesn't turn her on so much.

 

if the original poster and others are really wondering about penis size - average and otherwise, there is always The Great Penis Size Debate, complete with a satisfaction graph:

 

 

it appears i fall about 3/8" thin [girth] of the ideal penis good thing mrs. is okay with 'very satisfying, but not ideal'

[jdavisauto 73]

well as a big man being bigger can be a real handicap I have had lots of women tell me no way because of my size and I think it's about a 70-30 split, 70 being the number saying no 30 say yes. so yes size really does matter, the only people that are really interested in me is the guy males keep coming on to me. but this is not to make any judgement, but from what I have experienced myself. thanks

 

This reminds me of a event that happen to my wife about 4 years ago. We was at the club and we meet a single male. Very nice guy well dress and very respectful to both me and my wife. We talked and had a few drinks and with him being retired Army (So am I) we all hit it off very good. Latter on that night he went to the pool area and me and my wife went into the chair room (she loves the chair). We usually leave the door open for people to watch. Well Bill (We will call him Bill) came by and was watching us and my wife invited him to play. When Bill got undress it's like a horse dick was swinging between his legs. Damn he was big. He scared my wife. Well being a trooper like she is said that she will try him. We closed the door and he try but she was just not able to take all his dick. She could just maybe get half of it and it hurt her so bad. She ended up just giving him a two handed hand job. latter on afterwards Bill said that this was normal for him and he wish that he was not so big. So you see being big is not always the best.

[GoNatural 104]

I believe that there is a size range that can be considered the sizes of "greatest utility", but sure as anything, not everyone agrees with that perspective.

[Mr.Essex 264]

I have a bit of a quandary. I'm just barely in that "ideal size" range. But, and here's the problem, most of my partners have never encountered someone within that range. So, instead of being able to fiddle for a few minutes, then taking a plunge into the depths, I'm forced ( ) to tease and stroke and lick and rub and fondle and probe and I've just figured out why there's an ideal penis range.

[cocpl2007 170]

well i been with mrs. opps long enough to be able to speak for her on this subject...

 

for her, penis aesthetics is more important than size. i'm not sure exactly what makes for a 'pretty one', but if he has one, she's all over him.

 

it is a big bonus if he has a 'big pretty one'...

 

while above average isn't required, i think below average doesn't turn her on so much.

 

if the original poster and others are really wondering about penis size - average and otherwise, there is always The Great Penis Size Debate, complete with a satisfaction graph:

 

 

it appears i fall about 3/8" thin [girth] of the ideal penis good thing mrs. is okay with 'very satisfying, but not ideal'

 

Ok, this scale is probably for a Thorough Bred farm in Kentucky. You have to be kidding to believe that 11 inches is enjoyable... Sure to a MARE!

[Guest rdy46227]

I think they got the axis reversed....