How long can men have sex before they orgasm?

[rachan 53]

We've been in the lifestyle for quite a few years and I see a lot of e-mails and posts from men who claim that they can go for hours on end before they cum. I've had a lot of sex partners and I think the longest term of continuous thrusting may have been 30 minutes. My best partner usually cums in less time than that but it's enough to give me a great orgasm. Actually my favorite thing is foreplay, kissing, oral and fucking and changing positions. But I usually don't watch the clock. I just try to enjoy the experience.

[partyof2ormore 62]

If you are talking about strictly penetration, it is usually somewhere in the 15-20 minute range.

 

If you are talking about from the first kiss until the last kiss, with all foreplay included in the "time", it could be just about as long as we want. It's all about pacing yourself.

[rachan 53]

I was just curious to hear from others. My husband usually doesn't last but a couple of minutes after penetration before he cums. The boys that fucked me when I was a teen didn't last much longer either. The men I have sex with now like the kissing, foreplay, oral and intercourse and the whole experience is great especially when it's with more than one man.

[strathmore 20]

I assume we are talking penetration. With me it all depends on the situation.

With my wife it can be 30-45 minutes — the result of years of practice and familiarity.

The first time with a stranger, it can be 5-10 minutes; but if I have already cum and after the refractory period, it can be an hour or more.

The shortest had to be with a stranger who asked for anal. I actually came on her ass trying to get in — so zero. LOL

Like I said, it all depends...

[Cajunlovers 15]

With my wife I can lose it every now and then. When we are swinging and we have been swinging for 5 years. I have never climaxed with another women and we have fuck from 10 minuets to an hour. We ever the other "party" is satisfied I finish with my wife finishes me off in about 5 minuets.

[des1re06 200]

Depends on the situation, but he is a repeat performer, which is great for me.

[sexkitten1203 15]

I usually can last over an hour (we seriously timed it once), but whenever she says "cum in me baby!" I can bust within 5 minutes, lol. If we are really in a hurry, I went from start to finish in about 2. I am very adaptable, lol.

[ownerspet 506]

I have to admit that I'm jealous of my 20 yo stamina, because it was excessivly long, so it sort of felt good to know I could go that long. But it is probably a good thing that I don't last a couple of hours anymore, because I think after a while it gets to be really awkward. No I don't and probably aint capable of going for an hour. But I last long enough to satisfy the Mrs.

 

[magnum 78]

rachan said:

 I've had a lot of sex partners and I think the longest term of continuous thrusting may have been 30 minutes. My best partner usually cums in less time than that but it's enough to give me a great orgasm.

 

That depends on several factors for me.

 

I have in the past taken a product called Ogoplex...Which is said to increase "ropes" which is a European term I guess, it helps the sensation of sex and it helps me go longer before I cum. I love it "Ogoplex" for both of the reasons.

 

The other way I can go "longer" before I cum is if I part take in a little 420 action before sex. That seems to really prolong my play before I cum. Not sure how or why but it does.

[Trace Ekies 186]

20 minutes???? An hour???? Wow!

 

I'm the screw for a bit, eat her monkey for a bit, play with her tits for a bit and whatever else I can think of for a bit to break the cycle and prevent a mess.

 

With the right amount of alcohol (read relaxed...not drunk) and condoms I'm good for a long damn while. Sober up and take off the condom and minutes MAY go by before the mess.

 

Mrs. Ekies can elicit a two minute response from me at will.

 

Trace

[nicerrtxcple 13]

Hate to say it but I am a short cummer. I can only go 5 to 10 minutes on the first round. Wish it was longer, but I have never really had any bad complaints yet...knock on wood.

[mervsmom97 15]

My hubby will go until I come, and he will seriously work at it. He went for an hour last night, but let me tell you, it wasn't long after I was done (meybe a minute) and he was ready to blow! That comes with 10 years of practice together I guess:facelick:

[mervsmom97 15]

The other way I can go "longer" before I cum is if I part take in a little 420 action before sex. That seems to really prolong my play before I cum. Not sure how or why but it does.

 

I have to agree with you on this one. Not only does it make every touch feel AMAZING, but he can last as long as he needs to

[LFM2 1,482]

It could be these guys who can cum in 30 minutes would seriously be too long for me unless they mixed in a little fun play in between, but I can't imagine being fucked continuously for 30 minutes. Sorry, but I would just be too sore. My partners are usually good for 10-15 minutes and that's just right. I'd run from someone who boasts they can last for hours. **Good for you and I hope you find a lady who wants to be banged that long** If they mean from start to end they can go a couple of hours, including foreplay, then that's not too bad. We're not clock watchers either. We just want to have fun.

 

Foreplay seems to be one of my new favorite things. Sometimes I get so worked up by just thinking about it that I can't do foreplay. Dave makes me go through foreplay to where I'm actually BEGGING for penetration. I actually cum much faster that way and he cums soon after.

[theflamekasters 20]

For me it all depends the position. I can go for as long as needs be when she is riding me. Can pace my self on top, but doggy style i come quick. Partly for me to is how stimulated i am. If i get great head, then i come quicker, but if i just start and get hard on my own i last longer!

 

I think the longest session i had from start to finich was about 2 hours. about 45 min was actually penetration, but i have gone about an hour of just penetration!!

[willyoats 324]

My wife seldom likes penetration and thrusting for more than 5 minutes. Good thing, because that is just about how long I like it. She has had a couple of guys who went on and on, but it was not pleasant for her. It's the foreplay, including at least one orgasm manually or orally, that really excites her, not the screwing itself. Actually, she has said more than once that she could do without the screwing altogether provided the guy did great foreplay. That's quite a compliment that I am the only one she cares about screwing.

 

Only a very small fraction of my swinging partners like penetration more than a few minutes either. For most, it's the time spent in foreplay that counts, including the forementioned orgasms.

 

Fortunately for both of us, there seem to be plenty of people around who are pretty much like us.

 

There are a couple of exceptions. One woman likes it at least two hours but then only with many guys cumming in her during that time so there is lots of lubricaiton. The other occasionally likes the gangbang, but again with many guys (with condoms) and lots of lubricaiton.

[des1re06 200]

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Good for you and I hope you find a lady who wants to be banged that long

 

One guy bragged he could go for 4 hours, and I said, "not with this girl, you won't". Not non-stop anyway.

 

Mrs. D

[Avril & Dec 108]

With penetration Dec usually cums in 2-3 minutes usually because the foreplay is so good. It is unusual for me to cum with just penetration only.

[Willing29 66]

That's fine, but we would have expected his SO to step up if penetration was needed to finish since it was mentioned many times that this was only to be SOFT. With that being said, and since it didn't happen that way we don't feel leaving him hanging was in poor taste. Since 'SHE' didn't want to step up for whatever reason. Anyway we mailed them back that it was the first and last time, in a nice way.

[it'sso 198]

Sort of telling my age, here, but now that I'm older, I often don't cum at all unless there is some oral sex for me. We usually start out, making out. Then progress to oral on her with sometimes 69 involved. My lady usually orgasms in less than five minutes of this play, then can no longer tolerate the clitoral contact. She insists that I then enter her .If I haven't had enough work up, I often last much more than twenty minutes and have had to stop after she has had her second or third orgasm with me in her.

 

It is just the way it is.

[Jstbcz 27]

Mr. Jstbcz can go up to about 3 hours before he has to either cum or take a break (bc he's not as in-shape as he once was) for sheer exhaustion. To clarify, that would include about an hour of foreplay (oral included) and an hour or more of penetration. Of course, with him, foreplay doesn't stop when penetration begins. He can sustain an erection for even longer with a good video to watch. lol. His rule is the woman cums first, so he may go 5 minutes or 2 hours depending upon the woman he is with. I regularly plead with him to cum within 30-45 minutes of penetration because he has usually given me at least 4 (and as many as 8) orgasms by that time. He's the only one who has ever been able to do that to me...

[SexyNSingle 15]

I have found that when I play with couples (i am single) that some of my past partners, have not cum with me, but have with thier spouse, and some of cum with me. I think it just depends on the person and familiarity. I have had some play times that went on for an hour or more, it just depends on what everyone is feeling at that time. Great foreplay will get me horny and wet every time!

[lovinher 505]

The more foreplay there is the longer I can last if doing other things in between. Too much foreplay makes it hard for me to finish sometimes. I know the older I get, the more control I have. A quickie can be 5 minutes or we can go on for hours. I could easily go an hour with penetration alone but it might kill me trying. I don't have that kind of will power anyway. Especially with my wife who likes it hard and fast.

 

IMO, any guy who says he can continuously fuck for hours is lying or has a medical problem.

[Jstbcz 27]

Mr. Jstbcz can go up to about 3 hours before he has to either cum or take a break (bc he's not as in-shape as he once was) for sheer exhaustion. To clarify, that would include about an hour of foreplay (oral included) and an hour or more of penetration. Of course, with him, foreplay doesn't stop when penetration begins. He can sustain an erection for even longer with a good video to watch. lol. His rule is the woman cums first, so he may go 5 minutes or 2 hours depending upon the woman he is with. I regularly plead with him to cum within 30-45 minutes of penetration because he has usually given me at least 4 (and as many as 8) orgasms by that time. He's the only one who has ever been able to do that to me...

 

OK, I should probably clarify the above sometimes includes cumming and keeping on with the fun. Ms. Jstbcz didn't mention that... For some reason, I am blessed with little or no need for recovery time. However, I can usually go for a good 45 minutes of penetration before the first pop, and sometimes a lot longer.

[Guest screaminggood]

My hubby has been training himself to last longer....we've made it to an hour before....and no, we're not "lying" and he doesn't have any "medical problems." There's a book, Male Multiple Orgasm, that I gave him as a Valentine's Day gift because he wanted to be able to last as long as he's seen other men do. The book has techniques that men can use to last - and I love doing homework with him!

[twohots4u2 188]

It usually takes me 15- 20 minutes. Several guys we have been with did get more than 5 strokes before they came because Tina is very tight. But, one guy we were with took an hour in each of the three sessions we had with him one night. Unfortunately, she was sore for several days from that. Guess it all what you are used to.

[pervgeeks 119]

My husband has amazing control. We were at a house party once and he had sex with three of us (not quickies) before he was done. Part of it may be the desensitizing aspect of condoms. Frequently because of that (though not always), he wants to finish with me.

 

He says, "As long as I don't drink too much, I'm fine for a very long time." No Viagra or Cialis, just him. I'm a very lucky woman. He's such a laid back, respectful, almost innocent looking guy, that most people wouldn't guess that about him. Definitely NOT the type to consider himself a big stud or brag about his skills (I'm his biggest cheerleader though!). In my experience, the kind of guys who do brag about themselves are the guys who have trouble lasting and sometimes even working at all.

[stu 25]

rachan said:

We've been in the lifestyle for quite a few years and I see a lot of e-mails and posts from men who claim that they can go for hours on end before they cum. I've had a lot of sex partners and I think the longest term of continuous thrusting may have been 30 minutes. My best partner usually cums in less time than that but it's enough to give me a great orgasm. Actually my favorite thing is foreplay, kissing, oral and fucking and changing positions. But I usually don't watch the clock. I just try to enjoy the experience.

 

Thought this kind of stuff only happened in porn..turns out I am wrong.

 

For me...even if I could last the 30 minutes of continuous thrusting, without cumming...I would run short on the physical stamina lol

 

However, we indulge in foreplay...for as long...maybe a couple of hours..and then the actual penetration is only for a few minutes...of course.foreplay may include penetration for short durations in different positions..

 

...and we have loads of fun .... never had any complaints

 

... honest

[tankman101 15]

IMHO that all depends,

If I haven't had an orgasm in a few days, I'm only good for the 5-10 minute range.

Now thats not a problem with me and the miss because we know how to push each others buttons and we both walk away satisfied.

 

If we are meeting another couple, I have an issue (or fear) of "cumming to quickly" for my playmate. My wife thinks its silly but I don't want to be the guy who sticks in for a few minutes then its all over. So when we make a playdate, we have sex every night for 3 to 4 nights before. Then when we meet our friends, I put on a condom then I can last about on hour of penetration alone (not counting fourplay)

There have been a few times I have thought to myself that maybe I'm over doing it...but no one has complained yet. (I suspect the other male halves we play with are doing something similar because no one is cumming in under half an hour. We play with 3 other couples on a somewhat regular basis - not all at the same lol, I wish...all separate unfortunately but we get a different flavor roughly every month sometime a little longer)

 

The way I feel about it is this. When I am with playmates, it is about the sex so yes, it needs to be out of the ordinary.

 

It varies from time to time but I really try to last as long as possible. The only real problem I have with this is that I am only good for one orgasm but at that point we have usually been going for a couple of hours so everyone is generally "done" and worn out.

 

(ps - I would encourage males to "hit the gym" in order to get the rest of your body up to speed, an hour of straight pumping is not an easy thing to do if you are out of shape. I'm 40 so being in good physical shape is important anyway. All of your partners will love ya for it! I'm 210lbs and 16% body fat, nothing delights a female peer playmate then a guy who takes good care of himself and looks good without a shirt at our age...and can fuck her for an hour! Trust me on that.)

[couplewanting50 65]

rachan said:

We've been in the lifestyle for quite a few years and I see a lot of e-mails and posts from men who claim that they can go for hours on end before they cum. I've had a lot of sex partners and I think the longest term of continuous thrusting may have been 30 minutes. My best partner usually cums in less time than that but it's enough to give me a great orgasm. Actually my favorite thing is foreplay, kissing, oral and fucking and changing positions. But I usually don't watch the clock. I just try to enjoy the experience.

 

One advantage of advancing age is a sort of physical maturity that allows control. Yes, there can be highly erotic moments or sensations that can cause a partial or total loss of control, but fundamentally, with control you can go as long as you want.

 

Understand, I am a man who has greater imagination than to think that making love is just mounting the woman and thrusting like a railroad locomotive. Very long periods of time can be spent coupled, inside of her. Occasional pullouts and insertions. The women who say they don't want it long are thinking of the thrusting piston performance that goes on like dogs breeding. That would literally damage delicate tissue.

 

To answer your question, it can be as long as you want. It can be hours. It can be all night. Mix into this the idea of the male not having orgasms and you can see how this works. There are advantages to rarely having an orgasm. It is an extended, delicious period of sexual agony and pleasure. You are hard for her easy and often and perpetually. There is some Asian philosophy that can be read on this very subject.

 

Several decades ago I had a male friend tell me about this book he was reading, some Asian literature, and he asked what I would think about not coming when making love. I couldn't conceive of it. I wanted my orgasm that bad when I was young, and managed to be selfish because of it.

 

A few years later I was to abstain from ejaculating for a fertility test. In my relationship at that time we were highly sexual. We wanted play. I said I would not come. I was not honestly sure I could do it at first, but it is possible. We made love several times a day for about four days straight, for extended periods of time, and I did not come. I admit to being pretty crazy, but it was marvelous.

 

There will be the woman who will say, oh, I could not be happy if he did not come. That woman has never experienced what this thinking brings to her. She would change her mind when she saw it was more pleasurable for her and the man. Especially for him, if he was selfless enough to embrace that gift to her.

[crazi429 16]

Before the ED thing came into my life. If I was with the right lady I would usually cum very quickly and as long as we kept going then I could go till my partner had enough. I would end up going to bed with a hard on still. I took me a few years to figure this one out but once I did it was great. It was very uncomfortable for a short period after I would cum since my dick would be so sensitive. But once past that point I would be harder than ever and really last. I couldn't do this every time but was getting better with it all the time till the Diabetes came along and then the meds finally the dreaded ED. I hope to go to the specialist in near future to see what we can do to get past the ED. Hopefully what ever it is will give some good staying power again.