SLS vs Adult Friend finder

[oakridgecouple 15]

We were just wondering if one site was better than the other for finding a male for MFM. We have someone we have been playing with, and he is great and gets it. However, she is starting to really open up and would like to look for new experiences.

 

Or if there is another avenue anyone could suggest we would appreciate it.

 

Thanks in advance.

[tittietwister 126]

My experience is that most (not all) on AFF are all talk. A lot of time is wasted with people who have no intention of following through. I became so fed up with time wasted on AFF that I terminated our membership with time remaining. AFF is also expensive and slow.

 

SLS is the best value out there. I paid $129 for a lifetime membership when other sites are that much for 3 or 4 months. The only real complaint I hear and observe is about the behavior of the free members. Most aren't serious. The site does permit paid members to block contact from free members and many do or simply ignore or discount messages from free members. If you're serious, pay.

 

There are several other good sites out there but if I had to choose just one for nationwide coverage it would be SLS.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

The AFF vs. SLS question arises here at Swingersboard fairly frequently. But your question gives it a new twist. You are looking for single men rather than couples.

 

Our experience has been the same as tittitwister. A lot of time is wasted at AFF trying to distinguish the picture collectors and pretenders from the people who are engaged in an earnest search. We, in fact, found only one genuine couple at AFF during our 2.5-year membership. But we were never looking for single men. You might do well there. In spite of the fact that we made no suggestion in our AFF profile that we were looking for single men, we would routinely receive two or three e-mail message a week, i.e. "Hi, I know you are not looking for a man but I just thought I would tell you want a great guy I am in bed." I can only imagine that if we had said we were looking for single men we would have been deluged with offers.

[oakridgecouple 15]

Thanks for the replies, we do like SLS and think we'll stay put.

 

We get lotsof messages from "the type", the guy who is hung like a horse, super orally talented, a complete gentleman and can go for hours.....

 

Anywho, we will keep searching.

 

Thanks again,

Jim & Rebecca

[WesternSwing 504]

We haven't had much luck finding another man on Adultfriendfinder that "gets it". We find allot that don't, however. What I mean is those that don't understand the whole "a threesome is a couple activity". Many on AFF want to meet Mrs. WS alone, or are freaked-out by her having permission to have sex with another man but are turned-on by her "cheating". AFF seems to be the McDonalds of adult dating sites. In our opinion SLS is a better choice for finding another guy. You'll still get some that "don't get it", but in our experience allot fewer.

 

Mr. WS

[At.Both.Ends 19]

I would stay with SLS as well

[Guest screaminggood]

I agree that I'd trust SLS more than AFF, but I do my shopping in person at the clubs. It's much easier to "see what you're getting," and the club has done the pre-screening to ensure the guy at least knows the basic rules.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I agree that I'd trust SLS more than AFF, but I do my shopping in person at the clubs. It's much easier to "see what you're getting," and the club has done the pre-screening to ensure the guy at least knows the basic rules.

 

Have to agree with you there... although I can't say the clubs really do much pre-screening nor would I guarantee that the guys really know the rules.... but at least you have help on getting rid of them if can't seem to grasp them.

[SandJinVT 23]

We've used them both when looking for a single guy for an MFM. All of them ended up being on AFF, not SLS. I don't know that the same thing would apply for other parts of the country though. We have a very small swinging pool up here, so what worked for us might not work for someone in another geographical area.

 

The single guys we contacted on SLS were ALL no shows, every single one, for the first two years. We did finally find a gem, but for the most part, we got no answers from our emails, and they didn't show up when we made a "vanilla" date to meet. S

[magiriano 84]

We live in Calgary, Ab Canada, also known as "the Bible belt".

 

We tried both and while AFF is full of shy people, or people that are not serious about meeting, SLS doesn't seem to have enough members close to our age in the area. There's only about 10 active profile around us and none that interests us.

 

So far we only met in person a couple of couples off AFF and we didn't played with either, because one is still new not sure of what they're comfortable with and the other is too experienced to let us take our time and get a bit more comfortable.

 

Since we're still new and we only had one full swap experience that was bad - First time experience was a bad one. - Newbies preyed on at club

 

we decided to keep going until we find a couple that we're comfortable with but for now keep it soft swap. That's unacceptable to some more experienced couples who feel teased to do oral, same room sex but not go all the way.

 

Just our 2 cents...

[realcplub2 513]

Personally, why limit yourself to just one site or the other?

 

You can join AFF for free, and do get to do SOME things.. but this is the key, the more detailed you are with your profile and if you place a picture, blurred out or whatever you will get replies and responses..

 

There are also plenty of other sites that are just as good, but dont get as much mention on here.

 

It all depends on what you wish to do, and how quickly you wish to do it, Hell, Yahoo still has the groups open, and plenty of people still using them.

 

We are members all over the place, with email notifications to one main box, so if we get a message we know where it is easily. The other key is to use the same screen name if possible for each of the sites.. This is an easy carry over and the places where you are members if the same people see the name then they can check you out where they can.. meaning where they might have a premium membership

[cocpl2007 170]

Our experience with both is a mixed bag. We have met as many folks from AFF as we have on SLS. There is an abundance of males on both systems. Most in our experience are just playing on the internet, without a partner. Which may be just what you are looking for, it is not our twist. There is much more $$$ pressure on AFF it seems. Although we are free members on SLS our contacts (when they initiate, or we initiate) are more communicative, AFF is more voyeuristic.

 

Advertising being what it is today in the vanilla world we are convinced that the hype both SLS and AFF folks are able to generate with their online ads, has little in common with who they are in-person.

 

Like Julie (and many others on this board) suggests, if you want to meet real people, you have better odds at a club or party.

 

Best of luck and success.

[twoforone100 45]

realcplub2 said:

Personally, why limit yourself to just one site or the other?

 

You can join AFF for free, and do get to do SOME things.. but this is the key, the more detailed you are with your profile and if you place a picture, blurred out or whatever you will get replies and responses..

 

There are also plenty of other sites that are just as good, but dont get as much mention on here.

 

It all depends on what you wish to do, and how quickly you wish to do it, Hell, Yahoo still has the groups open, and plenty of people still using them.

 

We are members all over the place, with email notifications to one main box, so if we get a message we know where it is easily. The other key is to use the same screen name if possible for each of the sites.. This is an easy carry over and the places where you are members if the same people see the name then they can check you out where they can.. meaning where they might have a premium membership

 

Agreed... most couples are on 3 to 5 sites... Aff works We have met some great people there. Mostly couples though. But we do have single female friends who do well there as well.. The area you are in affects which site is best as well.

[red96 17]

We have had good luck finding guys for MFM on both sites, and have come across men that don't "get it" on both sites as well. It is somewhat time consuming but we chat on line with our new prospect before ever deciding to meet (usually a couple of times). We figure if they are respectful chatting on line then they are worth at least meeting in person. So far it has worked out well this way for us.

[closere3533 2]

My husband and I have been a part of the SLS website for just over 9 months and have met some great and not so great people on there. I think there's going to be a mixed bag of people you find, no matter the website you use. I agree with the other replies that your successes will depend on location, effort put into your profile, the quality of your messages to others, etc. SLS is the only website we've used to find other swingers and don't have any complaints. If anything, you can try out a paid membership for a month or two and then extend on to a lifetime if you're so motivated. Good luck!

[kellimc 227]

SLS has always been much better than AFF.  I don't use web sites anymore, but if you want to use one, it has always been SLS as the gold standard.  The best is meet 'n greets though.  You get to do in one evening what it takes weeks or months to do on a web site.