Is it ok to go to a swinger club and just watch?

[cassies 50]

OK, so we were at New Horizons yesterday, and we had a great time dancing. This is our second time at a swing club, and we are there more to get a taste of the lifestyle rather than do any actual swinging. We went up to the play area wanting to watch, but not really knowing how to approach it.

 

AT NH there are more public areas and less public areas. We saw an attractive foursome playing in a public area and I did not know if it was alright with them if we watched them. And of course, I thought it completely wrong to ask them while they were having sex.

 

So my question is, if there is a public area of a swing club, how do swingers feel about being watched?

[jdavisauto 73]

That's what public area are for, for the public to watch. When I and my lady in a public area we want people to watch. It turns her on being watch. I can take it or leave it.

[fun4Ds 1,098]

Watching is fine in a public area. Asking if you may join in, might be appropriate if asked diligently

 

Asking them to move around so you you can see the porno shots is well.... kind of rude

[fundove2 15]

Wife and I always play in a public area expecting males or couples to watch or join It is ok for you to watch and even join or masturbate watching if you are inclined. Sex is wonderful and open in a public area.

[VANudistcpl 109]

If it a public area that yes it is ok to watch. As everyone else has stated that's what they are there for. When we recently went to a club, we were given a guided tour and explanation of each area along with the rules, and any questions we had were answered right away. This helped us relax in this new setting.

[realcplub2 513]

We were in a place in Central Florida that hosts regular HOUSE PARZTIES, every Friday and Saturday nite..

 

In this place, Yes there are areas for private play and areaas with a window or curtain, to be observed, or flat out in the open ..

 

The rules were simple, if the door is locked, respect that.. If is a semi public, do not enter unless invited..

 

And public, Look.. Thats what it there for..

 

I would say the same rules apply..

 

Some folks wanna be watched, and others don't ... If they didnt want to be watched they would have moved the fun somewhere else

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

It's ok to watch but do be courteous about it, be quiet, and be together. It's one thing to sit in the room and enjoy each other while watching others, it's another to just sit there like you are watching tv on the sofa at home.

[lustylearning 705]

Depends on the swinger and the swinger's mood at the time. Personally, I don't like the idea of being watched by a non-swinger. It would spoil the mood for me. In the past, when engaged in light play with someone in front of others, I haven't asked onlookers if they were there to play or just be entertained. It never occurred to me because I viewed my club as a sort of swingers brotherhood. After reading all these posts though, I confess I've begun to question the "sanctity" of it, for lack of a better word.

 

Sheesh. Thanks, CBS.

[ownerspet 506]

Asking them to move around so you you can see the porno shots is well.... kind of rude

 

To add to this: Please refrain from conversation, it can be very distracting to have conversations going on around and ruin the mood. It doesn't matter if it's related or not, we know what we're doing so don't give us a play by play.

[des1re06 200]

Yes, we love being watched.

 

Take conversations out of the room though. Extremely irritating to have people standing around talking and/or laughing while you're getting your groove on.

 

Mrs. D

[jdavisauto 73]

Laughing now there a subject in all it's own. About 2 years ago we was at a club in the orgy room and there was a couple on the beds having sex. There was another couple on the couch having sex. There was a man standing in the corner telling jokes to this other couple and they was laughing very loud. The one couple got so frustrated that they just stop and walked out. As they was walking out the guy made a comment to the guy telling the jokes. "Next time you try to get some pussy, I hope an ass-hole like you is there".

[herpob 573]

fun4Ds said:

Watching is fine in a public area. Asking if you may join in, might be appropriate if asked diligently

 

Asking them to move around so you you can see the porno shots is well.... kind of rude

 

fundove2 said:

Wife and I always play in a public area expecting males or couples to watch or join It is ok for you to watch and even join or masturbate watching if you are inclined. Sex is wonderful and open in a public area.

 

As said – it is a public area. If people did not want to be watched they would not be there. If they somehow were there and didn’t want to be watched then it would be their goof not yours. In any of our public rooms we always had notices posted as to what was appropriate. With us you are not allowed to join but you may move around for better viewing, you may masturbate (not on us), have sex with others (just don’t get near us), you can even request for us to position better for your viewing pleasure (that is sort of the reason we are there). As I stated though notices are posted so all onlookers know exactly what is permitted. Watchers not only view but also provide security, if a jerk starts up with the loud distracting chatter, the watchers will call security and have them removed.

 

I was with my husband and three other guys from our group having sex in front of about 12 people. One young couple had never seen this and was all over one another as they watched. We had a watcher directing it us, the scenario was of course a guy’s favorite “husband watching wife get group f***ed.” The watcher had my husband standing fully clothed with his penis in hand while I did and was done every which way by our three friends. The young couple completely lost it and was almost on the liberator pads with us when a few watchers politely escorted them out. After we were done, cleaned up, and dressed, later we ran into the young overly horny couple – lol. The apologized emphatically and went on to explain what had happened.

 

It was their first live experience, though they had watched videos, talked extensively about it for quite some time, and role played all they could by themselves. It reminded me much of my husband and I during the first part of our marriage before we extended to swinging. So we let them talk. Watching us had gotten them so turned on that they wound up having sex after they were escorted out. They lost control while in the room ready to have at it right there beside us. The young wife asked me a zillion questions. They tried to hook up with us but we are exclusive in our group for safety and health reasons and of course no drama. My husband set them up with the perfect young couple we knew, a hot young wife and good looking well built husband. I heard later that they all had a blast and still are.

 

Always know the rules, stick to them, and everyone will have a good time.

[herpob 573]

Laughing now there a subject in all it's own. About 2 years ago we was at a club in the orgy room and there was a couple on the beds having sex. There was another couple on the couch having sex. There was a man standing in the corner telling jokes to this other couple and they was laughing very loud. The one couple got so frustrated that they just stop and walked out. As they was walking out the guy made a comment to the guy telling the jokes. "Next time you try to get some pussy, I hope an ass-hole like you is there".

 

And I soooooo love this one - G/J -

 

THIS is the reason we use the watchers to alert security...

[muycurious 15]

I really like this question. My wife and I are contemplating visiting the same club. I don't think she can handle any swapping at all. But I know it greatly turns her on to watch others and to be watched. The though of having sex with other people in the room having sex excites her.

 

I just don't want to feel like I am infringing on people at the club that are full swap. I would be apprehensive if a majority of LS people found our way of fitting in offensive or anything...

 

Does that make sense?

[2inSanDiego4u 181]

I just don't want to feel like I am infringing on people at the club that are full swap. I would be apprehensive if a majority of LS people found our way of fitting in offensive or anything...

 

Does that make sense?

 

If you go and play, even with each other, you'll fit in just fine. Anybody who is offended is probably just pushy, and should be avoided anyway.

[herpob 573]

I've been a watcher more lately - taking a break, giving my body a time out. Been into watching men doing stuff. A few of our guys had a masturbation party it was pretty cool to watch. My husband didn't go, he doesn't like to watch guys get off all over. There was some bi stuff as well, pretty hot for guy on guy stuff. I like to watch guys do stuff for certain but I still like mfm the best still.

[jjtrindc 142]

We went to a club that had a two-way mirror set up for one of the rooms. That was pretty cool (on both sides!)

[watchem_wiggle 22]

cassies said:

OK, so we were at New Horizons yesterday, and we had a great time dancing. This is our second time at a swing club, and we are there more to get a taste of the lifestyle rather than do any actual swinging. We went up to the play area wanting to watch, but not really knowing how to approach it.

 

AT NH there are more public areas and less public areas. We saw an attractive foursome playing in a public area and I did not know if it was alright with them if we watched them. And of course, I thought it completely wrong to ask them while they were having sex.

 

So my question is, if there is a public area of a swing club, how do swingers feel about being watched?

 

we just recently joined New Horizons ourselves (last week) and are headed back tonight for the pot luck. We are brand spanking new to the lifestyle and enjoyed ourselves immensely...we ended up just finding a very public space in the red room, with a good view and good view of us and enjoyed watching/being watched! No one seemed to mind us there, and they were definitely aware of our presence, as my wife likes to get spanked (and it seemed that noise startled people into looking at us) All in all I don't think anyone minds if you watch them.....now if you want to plop down right next to them on the same bed, I would urge you to just ask, mind if we join...or, if they're in the middle of sex, stealthily position yourself by them and quietly watch I guess...

 

Anyway, gotta go get ready for tonight!

[BiloxiCouple 695]

I would keep a discreet distance if you are not playing with someone else. And I said it that way because I don't want some guy jerking off on top of us:nono: I wouldn't want to be "stealthy" and move in too close for a look, no telling what may happen.

 

There is some etiquette to this. No loud talking. No coaching. No unwanted touching. And so on. Especially from the peanut gallery and sometimes from the participants. And if you break someone's (especially) the guy's concentration there could be performance issues and then someone might.... well be upset?

 

Whoo! Too many negative statements. Get naked and have fun.

[Brian and Jo 344]

We both love to be watched so on the rare occasions we go to a club we always play in the public room. Sometimes we are just with each other, sometimes with playmates.

[Guest screaminggood]

I have to agree with the most of the other posts. Although I do enjoy hearing other people talking about how hot we look, it seems to have a negative effect on many men. Several times, I've started in a public room and then been taken to a semi-private for the guy to perform.

[twohots4u2 188]

We agree that the public rooms are for people who want to be watched. Similarly, the private rooms are for those who do not want to be watched. But, we expect the rest of the folks in the public room to be considerate and to politely ask if they can join us. We have no problem telling someone no and have responded many times to polite folks who asked to join us. However, as in one club we were at, eight guys gathered around us watching us, reaching out and stroking her without asking. We finally stopped, told them to either leave us alone, or we would have the management kick them out. They left, loudly complaining. We told the manager about their attitude and they were gone as soon as they could get dressed.

[PB&J 1,086]

At the last house party we attended, I was in the middle of having a good time with a friend in the group room when all of a sudden some unknown male was beside us, saying "nice ass" and stroking said portion of anatomy. I was seriously creeped out, but didn't want to break the mood with my friend, so just ignored him and he went and left. Phew. I realize that people are going to watch in the group room, but really, touching requires permission.

[Farcanal 32]

In both of our clubs there are private rooms and public playpens. Those in the public area know that people are watching (the playpens have CCTV cameras that transmit the vids to the lounge).

 

I usually get into the action in there but occasionally I just sit and watch the activities and never had any complaints.

 

The clubs have a Singles Night (usually Tuesday nights) and most of the activity goes on in the playpens!

[ktown 15]

We go to the same club you do and have been going for the past 8 or 9 years and we are only into watching and being watched with has never been an issue.We have sex in front of other so I don't feel guilty since we have contributed. NH is a very open place and when most people are having sex they are way into wath they are doing to worry about you watching.

[Adam-n-Eve 223]

cassies said:

 

So my question is, if there is a public area of a swing club, how do swingers feel about being watched?

 

I've always liked being watched. I would think anyone that's having sex in an open area is OK with it. Eve doesn't like it when people get too close, or if she's completely surrounded by onlookers, but if others are doing it around her and there are people looking, she's fine with it too. She just doesn't like it when she feels like she's on stage giving a show.

[MrkLin 393]

As I've said in other posts, it's been our experience that a good percentage of people who go to on-premise clubs are there to watch or be watched, and have no interest in going any further. If it's in a public playroom, watching is generally acceptable. If you find a closed door, leave it closed and move on.

 

And yeah - don't touch unless you're invited to touch, and keep your conversations/comments/jokes/laughter to yourself.

[Mr_n_Dr_Hottie 15]

The place we go to is a little different - it is all outdoors, fully nude, with no private areas unless you rent a room. Playing is allowed, and encouraged, everywhere on the property, and it is always assumed that others are watching. The large public playbed is located on the dance floor, and it can be distracting when people are dancing, chatting, etc. But it is also cool to dance awhile then flop onto the bed and play.

 

At this resort, since there is only the one large bed, you can expect that other couples/groups will squeeze onto the bed with you. It does not, however, mean that they can touch, or join with you, without asking.

 

One afternoon we went in to play together and the room was completely empty. We played for a long time, completely concentrating on each other, not aware of anything else. After we finished and had been cuddling for awhile, I looked around and at least 10-12 people were quietly sitting in the chairs all around us, still watching. We must have been inspiring to watch, because they gave us a standing ovation!

[Guest warrencouple]

The on-premise the Mrs and I went to this past Friday, for a Meet & Greet, had some fairly simple rules for the play areas.

 

Only one room is the "private room" with a simple, door closed, don't knock, don't open policy.

 

The remaining 4 play ares range from what I called the "semi-private" room(s) to the "orgy room." Simple rules. If you aren't invited, don't touch.

 

The semi private area was 3 beds, with sheer curtains between them, and the rest of the room. Curtain closed = no join. Curtain open = OK to ask to join. They were set up so that you could also join 2 or all three of the beds, and still keep closed to the rest of the room.

 

There was also a "public" playroom, seats and ottomans, no view blocks of any type. Still, the same rule, don't join if not invited, but watching is OK.

 

The "toy" room, again, OK to watch, but don't join unless asked.

 

Finally, the "orgy" room. Big, round bed, Love Liberator Black Label Esse (with cuffs etc nearby) This room, the rule is, if there's room on the bed, you can get on, *BUT* you can not "play" with another couple without being invited. I guess the best way to explain would be an example. The Mrs and I decide to go to the Orgy room, and use the bed. We're having fun, but we're a no-swap couple (we are!) Someone else could come in, and seeing as we'd only be using about 1/3 - 1/4 of the bed, start playing on the open portion. Eventually, you could have probably 3-4 couples playing, either separately, or together, or any combination. I suppose, if the couples are playing together, you could get more on the bed, too.