What is your greatest difference in age for a sex partner?

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

What is the greatest difference is age that has ever separated you and a sex partner -- an encounter or relationship either within or outside of The Lifestyle. Just curious.

[NT69 15]

Before Mrs.N was my missus, she used to date a guy roughly 15 years older then her...

 

On another note - I must say that last year we were shocked when a couple we were going to play with declined due to the fact we were too old....

 

We are both in our thirties and the other couple around 20-22.

 

Love to hear from them again once THEY are in their thirties!

 

So I was actually also wondering if age difference is a problem within the lifestyle.

[BiloxiCouple 695]

22+ years

[Opportunists 17]

I have to say we don't play with many couples older than us either... Mrs. Opp is 31 to my 39... so a couple, say 45 would be well within my age range, but probably too old for her liking...

 

That said, we have a couple of playmates [we're meeting tonight btw] where he is 42 and she is 39.... so that would be 11 years difference for her on the older side.

 

on my end, we have another couple we play with regularly where she is 23 and another we've played with a couple of times and i think she may be 22 but i'm not sure... so 16 or 17 years younger for me.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

I guess about 12 years younger for me, and 16 years younger for her.

 

There's one couple that's about a dozen years older than us that we've wanted to hook up with (the feeling is mutual), but it just hasn't worked out... yet.

[cocpl2007 170]

many a play partner in the 24~35 age range. Never any over 60...for no particular reason, other than never met one who wanted to play.

[good times 991]

Youngest was 22, the oldest was 65. We are in our mid to late 40's. Widest age spread for me so far is 26 years, but I am still working on it, their is this cute 20 year old that I understand is interested.

[gatorvol64 216]

13 years older for me.

 

Vol

[ktimephoenix 156]

Mrs P is 18, i'm 25, and we've played with a couple that were 46. so that's 28 years between them/her, and 21 between me and her. needless to say, we learnt a little about the meaning of the term "naughty 40's"

 

youngest we've played with was 36... so still 18 years different from Mrs P.

 

not planned that way, they're just the people we clicked with. just had an awesome weekend with a couple in their early 40's.

[dodgechevy 149]

Lets see, I was 21 and she was 22. They were in their early 50's so it was at least a 30 year difference. I think they said we were actually younger then their kids.

 

We didn't actually get to completely full swap but we did do oral.

 

By the way I am 23 now, she's about to turn 24 in a week.

[red96 17]

We usually look for guys in our age group thinking they would/should be more mature and understand what we are about, that is not always true though. Recently we were contacted by a guy 20 years younger that actually gets it. We are in our late 40's, he in his late 20's. Normally we do not even consider anyone that young, but the initial message he sent made us re-think our age requirements. He was very polite and respectful and amazingly mature for his age in our opinion. We found out through chatting and e-mails that he was "coached" by a couple similar to us as to how to act in an MFM encounter and he took it to heart. He prefers to be with couples our age because in his opinion there is less chance for jealousy and drama to develop. He feels that couples our age are secure in their relationships and he is there for her enjoyment only. We set up a meeting , had a few drinks and talked for a couple of hours and were both very impressed. We decided that he would be a good playmate and set up a date to get together, it turned out to be our most erotic and enjoyable experience so far. I guess what it all boils down too is the attitude of the individual involved. We realize now that sometimes age is just a number and not to discount someone based solely on their age.

[tribbles 490]

30 years....

[two42lovers 273]

Good timing on this question. We're in our mid-fourties. Last night we played with a couple 24 years younger than us - we all had awesome fun. Until these two hotties, the biggest difference was 18 years younger. We also play with couples 15 to 18 years older. Feels like we are the perfect age for swinging - we have many friends in their young 30's to late 50's.

[2inSanDiego4u 181]

We tend to partner up with younger couples and singles. This is not really intentional - just how the chips have fallen so far! The biggest age difference so far has been 12 years younger, but that gap may be increasing very soon.

[Chicup 41]

The older I get the more upward my strikezone is.

 

When we started swinging and I was just barely 30, 36 seemed too old and was a turn off.

 

Now that I'm pushing 40, I don't pay attention to age but how they look. In my line of work I get to see peoples real ages and I'm always shocked how someone 10 years younger than me can look so much older. Likewise I know one woman at 58 who I wish was in the lifestyle (hell who knows maybe she is).

 

I think the oldest would have been about 10-15 years older than me. I didn't ask and I know they try to hide their true ages out of fear of being rejected based on age.

[talltim123 69]

A single male here who was once contacted on AFF by a 26 yo lady and her 40 yo bf. She had a thing for older gentlemen and we met twice. She was great in bed but had few conversational skills and I decided two meeting were enough. She was 44 years younger than me at the time!

 

I do often play with a couple who are 15-20 years younger and most of my dates with single ladies are in the 50 to 75 age range. Many of them are curious about mfm encounters and I have a single male friend who helps me with this educational process. The only expressed regret by these ladies is waiting so long to experience 2 guys and an encore is usually requested by them!

 

In my experience older ladies are more adventuresome and open to exploring their fantasies

[wetpanties 5]

We played with a couple fifteen years youngerthan us, we all had a goog time and age was never an issue.

[vegaskid 7]

Well we are in our 60's and we went to a party and the oldestt was in there mid 40's and others were younger and no one wanted us.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Wow! The answers to this question revealed much more than I could have expected. Swinersboard in a never-ending fascination.

 

Now I will admit. I am not really, "just curious." This question was triggered by a relatively recent event. My wife and I made contact with a couple 30 years our junior. Similar to what another poster related to us, they have a maturity beyond their years. It was an encounter at a house party many miles away so another opportunity has not presented itself with this couple. All I can say is that it is an exceptional vanity for an old man like me.

[sweet_tna 680]

We're in our mid-thirties, and while it's not deliberate, we seem to end up playing with couples close to us in age. The biggest difference so far is a guy who was 11 years older than me.

 

=)

[Pepper & Drew 384]

When I was 27, we played with a couple where the guy was 50...and built like a brick shithouse. He had children older than I. I'm 32 now, and we regularly play with a couple where the guy is 51.

 

In fact, of the couples we regularly play with, the youngest one is 5 years my senior.

 

Pepper

[toycple 19]

Well we normally like to stay within the 10 - 15 year range but we have gone beyond that on occassion. I (Mr.) many years ago at a house party was with a woman almost 30 years older, maybe closer to 25.

[it'sso 198]

I have been approached by a gal who is thirty years younger than me. I haven't taken her up on the offer, since she is only wanting an affair, without her husband's knowledge.

 

As far as actual age difference, twenty years was the greatest, and that was quite some time ago.

[JTcamp05 9]

30 years older.... age is not something thats a deal breaker...its all about the person...

[SecretAsianMan 348]

I was in my early 30's when I got together one night for a MFMM foursome, she was in her early 50's and wanted to feel "airtight"

 

I think that's been the greatest age-gap I can off the top of my head think of. There might have been incidents where I was with someone significantly younger or older... but we didn't talk about specifics in regards to everyone's age (it was at a party)

[mr_n_mrs_oz 15]

For us age isnt an issue every situation and couple is different, If we feel something with another couple then we go for it no matter the age difference, My husband is 7 years older than I but still here we are. Its all in the chemistry for us

[iapr 24]

over 20 years younger to around a dozen years older (I'm mid 40s). Both the oldest and the youngest were smokin' hot and wonderfull lovers and both were great people on their own merits and age really didn't have anything to do with it. In fact that is what is so great about passion, when you take the clothes off and make an erotic connection the experience is ageless and timeless.

 

Where age comes into play is during the dance before the decision is made to actually make it happen. Often times people are just more comfortable interacting and flirting and schmoozing with people of their own age group but when the attraction, chemistry and comfort are there it all just boils down to hot sex and hot sex is all good:facelick:

[LFM2 1,482]

I can't remember the youngest we've ever been with, but our oldest I think was about 15 years older than me.

 

He was a good one, too!

 

Holly

[willyoats 324]

Like many others, we never asked ages before swinging. With some that we remained friendly with for years, we finally did reveal all the ages. For me the spread was from 3 years older to 15 years younger. For my wife the spread was 8 years older to 21 years younger

 

Among those we didn't discuss age with we can only guess. For me it was about the same. For her there was one guy who was at least 30 years younger. He was very up front about only liking sex with older women.

 

Puts us in mind of the old Ben Franklin saying about "they don't tell; they don't swell; and the're grateful as hell."

[jdavisauto 73]

We have no age limits and age has never been a issued with us. There are many factors we look for in a potential play couples or singles. Personality, hygene and dress. They must be respectful of both me and my spouse, Must be clean, and must dress nice. Don't have to be in a suit but no holes in the jeans. Also we all must click together.

Now the youngest that I have been with has been a 19 old lady (outside the club) and my wife been with her boyfriend who was 20. The problem with younger people is that they don't know what they are doing let, she could not give a decent blow job to save her life and my wife cause him to cum with-in 2 minutes (we all have or off days but...). The oldest I been with was a 56 year old lady and my with been with her husband (age unknown). There are some very great looking older ladies and gentleman in the lifestyle. We don't want to limit our experiences by limiting our minds.

[SFl_Bi_Couple 37]

At 60, we were playing with a 29 yr old guy and now at 64 we regularly swing with a 45 yr old. But we also see others close to our age too. Just doesn't make a difference.

[oc1234 435]

We have soft swapped with a couple that were around 20 years younger than us, and hard swapped with a couple that were 12 years younger than us.

[ackjae0 16]

me 16 her 24

[Malachista 170]

my oldest guy was 40 years older then me

[Mr.Essex 264]

I met an older woman at a swinger's club in Manhattan. As one of three black males in attendance, I stood out like a spot of jam on a napkin, so she started chatting with me. One hour later, she was on her back and grinding against me as hard as possible. But, during the proceedings, I looked up and saw one of the "unicorns" in the corner, watching and smiling. So, I asked my partner about that turn of events and she said something along the lines of "She's glad to see that even a woman of my age can get the attention of younger men."

 

When we finished, I asked her about her age, and she said, "I'll tell you when I leave." So I walked over to her companions (a pair of men, 62 and 64 years old IIRC) and I asked about her age. They declined to comment, so I talked to the single woman and she said, "Thanks for the show, but it isn't my place to give out that information.", and she gave me a kiss on the cheek. I waited , and at an hour before closing time, my paramour walked over to me, fully dressed, and told me her true age, using her driver's license for proof.

 

She was 82 years old. We spent the last hour of the night talking about her experiences in the lifestyle during the 1960's, 70's and 80's. She told me about Plato's Retreat, key parties and swinging on Fire Island. She told me about her children and grandchildren (who knew that swinging was genetic ), her passion for running marathons and her appreciation of my efforts. And I would have never learned about those historical facts if I hadn't wanted to experience an older woman. so, long story short, I fucked a woman who's grandchildren are older than I am, and I'm the better man for it.

 

If you decide to quote this story, feel free to remove the massive space. I added it for suspense purposes.

[aster 20]

that is an AWESOME story.

[lurkergirl 47]

Ditto to what Aster said!

 

I was feeling a little sad over finally hitting the age where I'm automatically screened out of search preferences, but that story gives me hope and a reason to keep fighting the dreaded middle age bulge! Thank you for sharing it, and what an amazing woman she must have been!

 

Back to the subject, oldest for me was 20 years older (his oldest son was my age), youngest was 16 years younger (very recently, no, I've never robbed the cradle). The honey's was 19 years younger, and I'm not sure about older ones, but I'll be sure to ask immediately.

[Mr.Essex 264]

Ditto to what Aster said!

 

I was feeling a little sad over finally hitting the age where I'm automatically screened out of search preferences, but that story gives me hope and a reason to keep fighting the dreaded middle age bulge! Thank you for sharing it, and what an amazing woman she must have been!

 

Back to the subject, oldest for me was 20 years older (his oldest son was my age), youngest was 16 years younger (very recently, no, I've never robbed the cradle). The honey's was 19 years younger, and I'm not sure about older ones, but I'll be sure to ask immediately.

 

Don't feel sad. Younger isn't always better, and I've learned that older women are better at accomodating me than the younger ones, so I'm far more partial to 35+ year old women.

[Playful1 434]

I think I played with one guy who was about 23-24yrs older than me. To be honest, I don't ask the age of most of my partners, so most of the time I have no clue, lol. Average age difference for me though is probably about 10-15yrs older than me. I don't play with many people my age.

[quivers4me 49]

I have a regular partner who is 17 years older than I am. I have a loose cut off with younger partners of about 30. Of course this is very dependent on the person. I'm 45 and not really interested in a young partner unless they really know what they are doing. I know, hard to tell if you haven't been with them, but I don't want to be the *teacher*.

 

I've found that not only do *older* folks ( close to my age or up) have more experience with sex but they tend to not have the drama some young ones do. With couples it seems to me the older ones are more secure in their relationships, have a better idea of the expectations of this lifestyle, and are generally more fun to be around. While I am looking for NSA sex I want to be with people I can be friends with and that means folks who have had similar life experiences.

 

Just my opinion.

[SexyNewCouple08 16]

The wifes largest age difference is 12 years older and mine is 22 years older. Now when it comes to meeting up with another couple we would probably stay in the age range of 20 to 30 since she is 23 and I am 27.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

I'm bumping this thread because it has happened to me again. At an out-of-town social gathering, I hooked up with a woman thirty-one years younger. I find it difficult to describe the ego boost it gives me. All of the people at this gathering were new to my wife and to me. I felt like a lion looking over a herd of gazelle deciding which to run down (lions of female gender hunt but I do not feel this analogy is strained). The other "lions" were milling around talking about baseball, cars, trucks and golf. So I acted on an impulse. I approached a woman with whom I had chatted earlier in the event with a smile, offered a kiss and whispered into her ear that I wanted to plant kisses all over her body. She eagerly agreed. The truck-talking guys glared.

 

What a ride. When this woman and I emerged approximately forty-five minutes later, the common room where we had left two dozen people was empty -- everyone had taken the hint and had turn the conversations away from baseball, cars, trucks, golf and had moved upstairs to play rooms. The young woman and I dunked our pink and white bodies into the hot tub and chatted about this and that. She cared not that I recognized few cultural references of her age group. We were communicating on a different level.

 

My wife feels uncomfortable with the idea of hooking up with men much younger than her age. She's puzzled that I am able. Do not have concern, dear readers. I did not leave her in the dust. She and an older man whom she had led by-the-hand were the second couple up the stairs. It's not unusual for us to be the two who start the party.

[angelkin 1,326]

My first husband was 24 years my senior.