ktimephoenix 156 Posted July 30, 2008 Hey all, just a quick one... we were playing with a couple last Friday night, and she was giving me a great BJ after we'd had sex. The type that you know she's trying to make you cum. Now I didn't want to cum in her mouth without making sure she was fine with it. Or pull it out and cum on her without finding out the same. But I was also a bit unsure of how to "approach" the situation How do you guys bring this up? Quote Share this post Link to post
two4youinswva 3,068 Posted July 30, 2008 "I'm about to come" is what I usually say. Might as well be straight up about it. It works both as encouragement to those ladies that want you to, and as a warning for those that don't. Quote Share this post Link to post
SJK977 15 Posted July 30, 2008 I would probably just ask her where she wants it. Aside from that, we usually communicate those types of things before things get going, like when we're discussing likes and dislikes. Quote Share this post Link to post
NakedInSeattle 159 Posted July 30, 2008 "If you keep that up, I'm gonna cum"...how she responds to that tells you whether she wants you to or not. Quote Share this post Link to post
realcplub2 513 Posted July 30, 2008 Umm... if none of the above offered statements work.. Ask... Something simple like, I'm gonna cum, where do you want it? If she redoubles her efforts... the answer is obvious. Quote Share this post Link to post
SecretAsianMan 348 Posted July 30, 2008 Usually I'll pull her off for a second and let her know, if she keeps that up - I'm going to cum. Then I figure, the ball's in her court and she can keep on going or what at her discretion. Quote Share this post Link to post
Rockon 19 Posted July 30, 2008 I often say " you got me close... Where do you want it?" She is happy and I am happy, just as it should be Quote Share this post Link to post
Greg & Sheryl 369 Posted July 31, 2008 "If you keep that up, I'm gonna cum"...how she responds to that tells you whether she wants you to or not.Precisely the same approach we recommend. Quote Share this post Link to post
realcplub2 513 Posted July 31, 2008 Of course there is always the silent approach.. Let em keep going til you explode, then if they freak.. just tell em.. Hey its like a hand grenade.. play with it long enough its gonna go off.. LOL Quote Share this post Link to post
fun4Ds 1,098 Posted July 31, 2008 :rolleyes:Were you holding on to it or was she ? If she had ahold of it and had the controll..... like above just say "I'm cumming." Don't grab the back of her head and hold her on it. Unless you talk about it before head..... I mean before hand. Quote Share this post Link to post
Opportunists 17 Posted July 31, 2008 I know it's best for Mrs. Opp when the guy asks where she wants it... she usually likes it on her face or neck/chest. However, if we're at a club and she thinks she might be playing more, she'll take it in her mouth or somewhere less messy for the next boy/girl. A little word of advice... when you ask her, find a clear voice. Last night she was with a new boy who was fucking her missionary and when he was ready to cum, he rubbed her stomach. From my chair next to them, i heard him grumble 'do you want it here', and she said yes. Later I asked her why she wanted it on her stomach instead of her face/neck as usual. It turns out she didn't understand him and thought he was asking if he could put it on her stomach... not if she wanted it there as opposed to somewhere else. So just ask audibly... she will tell you what she wants either verbally or physically. Quote Share this post Link to post
Thrax 384 Posted July 31, 2008 It usually takes me a while to get off from oral, even after much previous stimulation, but sometimes the "feeling" is there at unexpected times. So, whenever I get to the point that there's going to be no "point of return" I warn her that if she continues with that oral motion I'm going to cum. Once she knows that, it's her choice, as far as I'm concerned. And if it's someone I haven't been with before, I give that warning, plus the couple of seconds before, "I'm gonna cum...aaah...aaah...," type of warning. I try to be polite. Thrax Quote Share this post Link to post
cocpl2007 170 Posted July 31, 2008 we're with everybody else, just a s k! Quote Share this post Link to post
ktimephoenix 156 Posted August 1, 2008 :rolleyes:Were you holding on to it or was she ? If she had ahold of it and had the controll..... like above just say "I'm cumming." Don't grab the back of her head and hold her on it. Unless you talk about it before head..... I mean before hand. Lol, she was holding onto it. i don't get the "holding the back of the head" thing... i much prefer to let them show me their technique Quote Share this post Link to post
NumbskullsX2 24 Posted August 1, 2008 Hey all, just a quick one... we were playing with a couple last friday night, and she was giving me a great BJ after we'd had sex. the type that you know she's trying to make you cum. Now i didn't want to cum in her mouth without making sure she was fine with it. or pull it out and cum on her without finding the same. but i was also a bit unsure of how to "approach" the situation how do you guys bring this up If you have to ask THAT question.............WTF?????? Quote Share this post Link to post
iapr 24 Posted August 2, 2008 "If you keep that up, I'm gonna cum"...how she responds to that tells you whether she wants you to or not. agree with the above. as long as you "alert before you squirt" you have done your job and what she does with it when it blows is then up to her. Quote Share this post Link to post
jdavisauto 73 Posted August 2, 2008 Usually I say "Oh God I,m About To Cum" works for me. But most of the time in the per-sex talk I ask them how they feel about blow jobs, anal, and being with other ladies (my girl is bi). Get the information before hand makes for better play. Quote Share this post Link to post