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By NerdsAreFun
Some stats on the swinging world. Interesting that a slim majority (50.2%) of men now identify as bi. 65.8% in the 18-39 age group. I think the days of that being a closeted thing in the swinger world are coming to an end. Also surprised me that 80.5% were soft swap only.
https://swingershelp.com/swinger-survey-results-2022/
And they also provide a list of most popular swinging sites in various cities.
https://swingershelp.com/popular-swinging-dating-sites/
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By Fla-swing99
This is the wife half asking this question. Am I correct in the definition of a poly in the fact that it means you believe you can love more than one person at the same time?
If so, I am a little confused on how that can be. I guess I always felt that if you are truly in love your heart and soul is to that one person. How can you love more than one person at once and still feel that it is really love to both or either person?
Please don’t take my question as a negative one, I am just very curious and would love to learn about how it works. I have only recently learned or heard about the lifestyle of polyamores, so I am intrigued and curious to learn a bit more on it. Also how then do you feel that you have met your soulmate, or do you believe there is no such thing or even possibly more than one soulmate for you?
Thank you for any replies that may help me to understand this better.
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By Billygoat
I have always had an interest in the human definition, just who are we? What drives us? Who actually defines us? I know I was never asked....or given the questionnaire.
As always it is those not living how others are or maintain power or try to be that desperately try to define all of us into a box.
I’ve always been curious, always asking why because the bottles, jars and boxes we all get shoved into never hold true.
My take away? Humans are:
Curious
Adventurous
Emotional
Highly social
Desire acceptance
Absolute need for contact, touch
Emotional connection, attachment
Happiness....
....collectively we want to be happy. We want at the end of our efforts, happiness.
So with that in mind why the imposed monogamy question? Maybe a better question is why the varying definitions to adapt to the wide variety of cultures, beliefs countries when in fact we were not made to be mono anything since the beginning of time without being taught, threatened and social outcasts for not taking part in the norm.
Mate sharing, spouse sharing and combined expanded family arrangements have been around since before history. The last 2,000 years monogamy, authority of the one, singular, grew but always had the old ways nipping at its heals.
In my readings I recently came across an interesting article, below:
Why Monogamy Isn't
The death of compulsory monogamy and viewing monogamy as only a social good
Elisabeth A. Sheff Ph.D., CASA, CSE
The Polyamorists Next Door
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/201508/why-monogamy-isnt
As most everyone in this group lives or wants to live a less than monogamous lifestyle you might find it an interesting read.
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By sunbuckus
Back when we dipped our pinky toe 1/8th of a way into the poly pool, we used the term "primary" as a way to show that someone took first priority over any other boyfriend/girlfriend. While I like to have things organized and feel comforted in the knowledge that certain people are important to me...it chafes me to think that I may have used this terminology in a way that may have made others feel like a second-class human being. We also used "primary" as a way to protect our marriage. But as More Than Two's page states--protect it from what?
So is the use of primary/secondary more destructive and/or negative than it is helpful?
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By SW_PA_Couple
From a swingers' hook-up Web site, we receive this message from a couple saying that they seek a polyamorous relationship and ask, would we be interested. This makes me wonder how many different meanings do people carry around in their heads. I am fairly certain that it is not a goal but rather something that might develop; something four people might fall into without knowing even that it is happening until they wake up one day to a realization that it has become a fact. Analogous to two people "falling in love" except more than two people are involved.
Am I correct?
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