How big a penis is too big?

[cathy&neil 15]

OK. I have heard stories about how great the sex is for women when the man has a very large penis. But according to my wife, this just isn't true. She has had big and small and says that usually the bigger ones are the worst for her because they think that all they have to do is enter inside her and that is all.

 

So, is big really that good for other women? I've seen her orgasm very easily with a normal size guy but when a man who is rather large enters inside her I can tell from her face that she is in pain and even if he goes slow, she just doesn't like it but will go along.

[rpu3 630]

I think this is going to depend on the woman.

 

I don't appreciate big as in long length. I like my cervix where it is, thankyouverymuch. I orgasm just fine with the 6 inch or less variety. Width is good, to an extent. Too much is too much, though.

 

If the other person is considerate of my limitations, one can find compromises in positions, etc., so that all have a good time. But if they don't know how to use what they have, it's going to be pretty miserable for me. My spouse is a bit bigger than the average, and some positions are not comfortable for me at certain times, and that is taken into account and we get along just fine!

 

For me, bigger is not better.

[BiloxiCouple 695]

Elaine says a penis is too big when they are doing it doggie style and it tickles the back of her throat.

[MRSfun 152]

I think anything over 7 inches is too much. So take it easy there Mr. man.

[des1re06 200]

I think it depends on the position and what you're used to.

 

With really large (8 plus), I prefer cowgirl, so I'm in charge.

[xxoticangel 99]

More than 7 inches is usually more pain than pleasure. I much prefer thick. I've been with guys that were in the 8-9 inch range and was ok at best.

[LFM2 1,482]

When it starts to feel more like pain than pleasure, it's too big.

[willyoats 324]

So many guys think bigger is better. So many women know better. When will guys wise up?

 

Obviously, with big guys, the position is important to avoid discomfort.

 

For my wife, like we read above, with anybody over about 6 inches needs to be treated with care. 5 or 6 inches is best because all positions are possible without any worry about discomfort.

 

So, all you "studs" out there who are so proud of your big equipment, know this: lots of women don't think you are as hot as you think you are. You may think you are scoring points in the locker room, but you are bombing in bed.

[2inSanDiego4u 181]

Every woman is different physically. Some can handle very large easily, and some can't. Position can make a difference too, as stated by the OP. We'd say that it is too big if it hurts, and before giving up, try a different position that does not maximize penetration.

[jdavisauto 73]

Elaine says a penis is too big when they are doing it doggie style and it tickles the back of her throat.

 

This happen to my lady half one time, I didn't have the heart to tell her it was my fingers lightly touching the back of her neck trying to removed a fuzz ball out of her hair.

[jdavisauto 73]

I never got into the male-ego about the size thing. I never took a ruler and measure my dick (so juvenile). When we got into the swingers lifestyle I knew that there would be bigger ones and smaller ones. As long as they are clean, my lady half enjoys them she is happy.

[realcplub2 513]

We ran into a situation, purely by accident years ago, A friend that we decided to enjoy a threesome with as it turns out was "well endowed" roughly 8.5 inches, and fairly thick.. And yes it was a great night, the pain associated with it, and the extreme pain afterwards, sort of like bruising came from the fact that, while he was fully cocked, he didnt have any, shall we say finesse.. He had to modes.. Get it in, then slam it back and forth..

 

After those expereinces we made a decision, AVERAGE cocks only.. nothing over 6.5 inches..

[JustMrJ 178]

I think that size is not so much a factor with some women as the "Angle to the dangle"... I'm average and my wife has had larger than me and at those times she was in positions I can't get her in because she starts to get pain in her lower tummy. Like I'm hitting a wall or something.

 

My penis tends to point upwards a bit more than the average guy, straight as an arrow almost, but the wrong 'Angle' to enter her in the same positions.

 

Go figure...

[VANudistcpl 109]

I agree with the ladies above. It really depends on the ladies - every women is different and it really does depend on the position.

 

Too large is definately not worth the pain and a female won't be able to thoroughly enjoy herself if she is trying to work through the pain.

 

Big guys - sorry to deflat you, but bigger is definately not better

 

K

[sweet_tna 680]

I've really only encountered two guys I would consider big, and neither presented a problem for me. While I do think position makes a difference, so does the fact that I rather like it when the guy "bottoms out" . . .

 

That said, I'd chose a thicker guy over a longer guy any day of the week--and twice on Sundays.

 

=)

[tribbles 490]

It's too big if I look at it and say "it won't fit, sorry"

[GoNatural 104]

I've really only encountered two guys I would consider big, and neither presented a problem for me. While I do think position makes a difference, so does the fact that I rather like it when the guy "bottoms out" . . .

 

That said, I'd chose a thicker guy over a longer guy any day of the week--and twice on Sundays.

 

=)

 

You see, all women are different and have different preferences.

 

Aside from the guy's skill, which is more important than size, size can make a difference.

 

Now, vaginas come in various sizes, as most of you know. Not multiply that by the fact that not all women prefer exactly the same amount of pressure or friction. Taking that into consideration, it is possible to see all of the various "opinions" about size that come up in real life.

 

I belong to a large forum, similiar to this one, where members are devoted to manual penis enlargement. Most members shoot for an 8" x 6" penis, when measured from the pubic bone (press the ruler firmly to the pubic bone) to the tip, straight out and perpendicular to the body. That would mean that a guy would appear to have 7 - 7.5", as most women would measure, depending on the guy's level of bodyfat. It is the general concecous on the forum that over 8" bone pressed may be too long, unless you're in a long-term relationship, and know that your lady can enjoy more than 8". Maybe that can give you a reference as to where the limit of "too big" is when considering the population as a whole.

 

If anyone doubts that "some" women don't enjoy being completely filled, at least by thickness, they should be reminded that a number of les, bi, and straight women enjoy vaginal fisting.

 

 

 

If two men, equally very skilled with sex were to be presented to a group of women, yet one had 5" and the other had a thick 7", the guy with the thick 7" would likely get a higher rating.

 

Not all well-endowed men are completely inconsiderate and void of talent with a woman.

 

Comparing 5" to 7" is totally different than comparing 6" to 9"+. Sure, many women would choose 6" over nine, but most women would choose 7" over 5", and 7" is above average and at the verge of --big.

 

Yet, as we all know, when choosing a life-partner, there are more iportant basis to access a man. I'm speaking strickly about recreational sex and fantasy fulfillment with my cenarios.

[SecretAsianMan 348]

... (*sigh*) ... sadly, I've never had (and probably never will) have to worry about being "too big" for any of my partners.

 

 

(*chuckling*) ... Ah well...

[lubeteck23 15]

... (*sigh*) ... sadly, I've never had (and probably never will) have to worry about being "too big" for any of my partners.

 

 

(*chuckling*) ... Ah well...

 

 

I have to agree with this one. My thing, is it normal for a penis to be little when not hard. I am about 6.5 hard, limp it is about 2:blush:

[JustMrJ 178]

Yep, that's my size too... but I haven't had any complaints.

[it'sso 198]

The generosity of some women never ceases to gain my appreciation. Since my dimensions wouldn't even be large enough to be mentioned in the lower numbers of this conversation, one is left to wonder just how I ever manage to get laid, at all.

[SexyBitch&Him 15]

I would have to agree with most everyone here, but then again I have a husband who is "big" and enjoy him very much. I have also been with those who are average or below so to speak and enjoyed them as well. Its not the size that matters its how you use it. If you are not built to take a bigger buy than position can fix that. I have sometimes where he does feel too big so I take the control{top}and it works out just fine.

[JustMrsJ 15]

I have dealt with big cocks and when it is too big I tell the playmate to be gentle. I am pretty small down there and I do feel pain when I get play with a man who has a big cock.

[lotsoffun201 175]

The other night we had another MFM and he was about 10" by about 4" around by my estimate. I guess he knew how to use it since she came 5 or 6 times! Trouble is she didn't walk straight the next day!

[Thrax 384]

This is one of the great things about SwingersBoard: we get to find out how different the world is.

 

Sometimes the difference is in expectations, sometimes experiences, sometimes attitudes, but at least we get a forum to hash things out about swinging in particular and sex in general.

 

ANYWAY...

 

...with regard to the "How big a penis is too big" question...as a "holder" of a 2-inch softie and barely 6-inch hardon-type organ I think I have a moderate view of all of this.

 

Frankly, I think any erection more than a half-inch larger than mine is much, MUCH too big for 90% of the world's vaginas. It's more likely to cause pain, as well as psychiatric -- and social -- problems, in addition to skin diseases and socially-repugnant yearnings for other species, at the very least.

 

 

Don't claim that I didn't warn you!

 

Thrax (Just lookin' out for everyone...)

[Markspurangel 15]

Geeze, you guys talkin about how big you are, are making me jealous.

 

Most times mine is just the size of a shriveled up head, rarely extending unless I stretch it out to pee.

 

But it does grow. I look at it this way - why carry around extra baggage if I don't need to? Fully erect (when she's stroking it) it's about 6 to 6.5 inches long, about 2.5-3 inches in diameter. She's the only woman I've ever been with that I don't have to guide it in (and she doesn't have to grab it & guide it either) It's just a natural fit. And her Vajayjay is small too.

 

My other experiences were with women were larger in size down there & I learned most of the other techniques to make sure they were satisfied.

 

 

(I also have a 3 inch long tongue when extended - about average. I do know how to use it to touch the special places)

 

I wish I were a bit larger around, but it's good to know most women don't really care what the size of the equipment is, as long as the driver knows the route to get her there.

 

M

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

OK. I have heard stories about how great the sex is for women when the man has a very large penis. But according to my wife, this just isn't true. She has had big and small and says that usually the bigger ones are the worst for her because they think that all they have to do is enter inside her and that is all.

 

 

This has been my experience with really large guys as well. That said I prefer average size guys, not guys whose penis isn't much bigger than.... it's hard to describe too big or too small.... but I know it when I see it.

[Guest screaminggood]

I have enjoyed a huge man. He literally took my breath away in doggiestyle. He did ask if he was hurting me, but I didn't have enough capacity for any words at that point--I just moaned, and didn't want him to stop!

 

He has a friend that's even bigger than him, but I haven't been brave enough to try him out yet!

 

For the smaller guys, I have an agreement with my hubby that when we run into a smaller guy--it's time to try the DP. Y'all will just be given different access in my book!

[Pl00r 39]

What I find wonderful about the swinger community is we can have this type of discussion with straight faces (for the most part). Can you imagine trying to have a discussion like this with your vanilla friends/coworkers?

 

I have known ladies that like big and that like average and we have always been able to talk openly about it. Myself, plain average, but like others, no complaints.

 

 

Screamingood... next time I am in Dallas can I apply for that DP?

[Guest screaminggood]

"All applications will be considered," but I do my selecting in person, not via computer.

[bbarnsworth 2,640]

"All applications will be considered," but I do my selecting in person, not via computer.

 

This makes me think of an image...

 

The Terminator Goes Swinging, a Diary

 

Day 1: After coming into the past without a stitch of clothing, I headed into a swinger's bar looking for some action. Using my computerized vision assessment system, I identified a nubian princess with a large chest and a pussy likely able to take my monster cock. I told her, "You are perfect. Take off your clothes and spread your legs. " For reasons SkyNet has yet to inform me of, this approach did not work.

 

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This is one of the reasons why my wife and I don't send face pics, regardless of how adamant people are that we send them. If it is THAT important to you, you've got problems that run far deeper than whether or not you think you'll find us attractive. Profiles and pictures do very little to demonstrate what a couple is really like.

[Greg & Sheryl 368]

So, is big really that good for other women?

It all comes down to personal preference. Indeed, there are some "size queens" out there who enjoy the challenge of taking on an extra large cock, but most of the women we know seem to prefer average-to-slightly-above-average dicks. The feeling of fullness can be pleasurable, but there is a breaking point.

[Fox n Hound 16]

I had the opportunity to sleep with a gentelman that had one of the nicest pieces of meat that you have ever seen, he was over 8 inches long and very thick. The problem was he thought that was all there was to sex. It was not even close to the best sex I have ever had. I prefer average size because I love to be pounded long and very hard. So my vote is for average size or smaller. So you men with average size organs be not ashamed or envious of guys with large dicks, but feel sorry for them instead.

[strathmore 20]

I had the opportunity to sleep with a gentelman that had one of the nicest pieces of meat that you have ever seen, he was over 8 inches long and very thick. The problem was he thought that was all there was to sex. It was not even close to the best sex I have ever had. I prefer average size because I love to be pounded long and very hard. So my vote is for average size or smaller. So you men with average size organs be not ashamed or envious of guys with large dicks, but feel sorry for them instead.

 

I have a friend who is about 8" long and I'd guess about 6" girth in the flaccid state. It is real impressive in the locker room, but unfortunately he finds it very difficult and infrequent to get and maintain an erection. You'd have to say he pretty much defines a SHOWer.

[Cpl2share 147]

Mrs. Cpl always told me that I was plenty big for her. I had to take it easy soemtimes as I would bottom out, but I just wrote that off to her not being aroused enough. As it turns out, she would actually prefer a smaller penis than what I have. I am not huge, but it would appear that every woman has her own opinion as to what is too much. kind of liek every man (and bi/lez woman) has thier own opinion as to what size breasts are just right. Go figure.

[Miss Sunshine 29]

I love to run into a huge penis every so often. I love the feel of it in my hands, mouth and pussy. But I also like my man's 6 incher, I get mucho pleasure from him, butttt, mmmm that huge cock!

[Miss Sunshine 29]

I meanto add, one night my man and I meet a couple, we hit it off and we get naked, he is huge, I am drooling, during the night my guy is helping this man get into me and he is touching him, very unusual, later, my guy says, he didn't know what came over him, he was meserized by the huge thing and needed to keep touching it, the other man didn't mind.

[Trace Ekies 186]

Mrs. Ekies has had the pleasure of sampling some average, medium and big cocks and loves them all.

 

What's interesting is that she's had some lovers from all three size ranges who were great lovers, some who were average lovers and some who were bad in bed.

 

Like most women, she can stretch a good bit for width but she is relatively shallow and needs to be in control with the long ones to protect her somewhat sensitive cervix.

 

She hasn't run accross an extremely large penis (9 x 7 or larger) yet but is looking forward to the day.

 

Trace

[rachan 53]

My wife says it's not a big thing but she did say that she likes a thick one. One of her friends is long and thick and she seems to enjoy it.

[cocpl2007 170]

This is one of the reasons why my wife and I don't send face pics, regardless of how adamant people are that we send them. If it is THAT important to you, you've got problems that run far deeper than whether or not you think you'll find us attractive. Profiles and pictures do very little to demonstrate what a couple is really like.

 

Amen!

[hubnher 15]

My wife has only "had" 2 in her life, and they have both been husbands. We're in discussion for that to change.

 

She likes my sixe, roughly average. I say that instead of a "package" I have a "packet"