Sex on her period??

[awesomecplmn 21]

So we are scheduled to attend a party this Saturday and my period just started today. Then if I count forward, I am scheduled to get it a couple days before another big party we wanted to attend. Is this the universe's way of telling me it's not liking my new lifestyle??

 

Hubby doesn't like to have sex while I am on my period, but I've heard lore of men who love it. What's the story? Are any swingers getting lucky during that time of the month, and HOW on earth does one approach getting THAT out on the table??

[SecretAsianMan 348]

I know a few gals who've come to parties and have asked the guests not to involve her in any type of intercourse (nor receive oral) because her period showed up. Some choose to simply be voyeurs that night ... or they get involved by doing everything else NOT involving her genitals (giving oral, manual stimulations, having her breasts fondled & played with, etc.)

 

It'll vary from person to person if they want to engage in any type of intercourse during their period. Some guys are okay with it. Some gals are okay with doing it. Some are totally freaked by it and don't want to at all... others like it so much that it's practically a fetish.

 

What are you most comfortable with? ...and simply let the people you're thinking of playing with that night know your circumstances and discuss what y'all would be okay with.

[tribbles 490]

So far, the ladies just say it "I'm on my period" and then conversation of what they are comfortable with is next.

 

The Mr does enjoy playing with ladies on their periods....he even has his 'red wings'. (So he earned the first with me, but he has others now!) I confess, I just can't seem to get mine. But fingers and toys have been fun to use. We just put a towel or two down and play.

 

[jjtrindc 142]

Exact same thing happened to us recently. We were planning on going to a private party when my wife realized that she would be on her period. We decided to cancel. On the positive side, it opened up the evening for her to go to a pole dancing intro class she'd been interested in...lol. A win win in my book!

 

We personally have no problem have sex while she is on her period, but really depends on her mood. Because we have kids, getting out for the night is a pretty major investment of time and cost and she didn't want to risk "not feeling sexy". Had it been an off-premise event the equation may have been different.

 

As you say, lots of different people in the lifestyle. If you are up to playing during that time of the month, go for it.

[Opportunists 17]

Periods happen... doesn't do any good to get frustrated about them. just tell people you are on your period. Wwe would recommend sooner, rather than later.

 

The last two times we went out with couples, they let things progress nicely and then sprung the news on the way home.

 

I know mrs. opps doesn't feel too sexy in any capacity when she's on hers, so we usually find other things to do that don't involve swingers that weekend.

[realcplub2 513]

As a general rule, we don't play with others while the Mrs is on hers.. However, She does enjoy the fun we share together instead.

 

For her its more a issue of how it might be received by others.. Breasts are more sensitive, and verge on painful to be even lightly played with. And then there is the "mess"

[sweet_tna 680]

For me, it would depend on the type of party it was. If it was more of a Meet n' Greet/off-premise party, I'd go and just have fun hanging out & meeting new folks. Any play below the waist would be off limits for me. And of course, we'd let folks know right off.

 

You should do whatever you're comfortable with. Just make sure you communicate your situation to others.

 

=)

[rpu3 630]

Some of the women on the Board have had success using Instead as protection when swinging on one's period.

 

I don't have sex on my period with men other than the spouse and even with the spouse, I'm not doing it until the last couple of days when it's far less of an issue. I'm not interested the first three days whatsoever due to my general crankiness during that time.

 

Good luck with however you proceed!

[sweet_tna 680]

Some of the women on the Board have had success using Instead as protection when swinging on one's period.

 

I don't have sex on my period with men other than the spouse and even with the spouse, I'm not doing it until the last couple of days when it's far less of an issue. I'm not interested the first three days whatsoever due to my general crankiness during that time.

 

Good luck with however you proceed!

 

I totally forgot to mention the Instead thingy's!! I'll use 'em during the last couple days with the husband fixture ONLY, too. (And for pretty much the same reason)

 

=)

[jdavisauto 73]

A nice way of saying that you are on your period is just to say "Sorry but I'm broken". At less that what women and my lady half says during that special time. That just the guy or couple the opportunity to tell you that he can fix you, that is if you are into sex during that time.

Now I had sex with my lady half during her period but most times we just waitted for the 3 to 5 days (I think). I really didn't like to have sex with her during that time. Now we nevr have to worry about that little problem again.

[avid 134]

I'm not so fond of having sex on my period, but it looks like I'm gonna have it for this weekend. Unfortunately, we have a big weekend away planned. I don't have any problems with the guys playing, and I'll just be the "fluffer". I'm still sad, though, because it looks like a fun weekend.

 

 

A nice way of saying that you are on your period is just to say "Sorry but I'm broken".

 

I just want to present another side to this. When I have my period, I'm not "broken" at all. My body is working perfectly, as it should.

 

I feel that sending the message that we're broken does something for the love that we women should feel for our bodies and the way they work. Self-love is vital, ESPECIALLY with this hobby we have.

[sexcupid 809]

So we are scheduled to attend a party this Saturday and my period just started today. Then if I count forward, I am scheduled to get it a couple days before another big party we wanted to attend. Is this the universe's way of telling me it's not liking my new lifestyle??

 

Hubby doesn't like to have sex while I am on my period, but I've heard lore of men who love it. What's the story? Are any swingers getting lucky during that time of the month, and HOW on earth does one approach getting THAT out on the table??

 

I am not sure how long your period normally lasts. Since you started on Wednesday, Saturday would be day 4. Many women's cycles are tapering off by then (even if it's a 7 day period)...so a courtesy mention that you are in the middle of your period, and let potential playpartners access the situation. The first time we swapped the other woman had started the day before. We didn't mind..as her boyfriend was fond of saying, 'I'll swim in that river, but I won't drink from it.' Yeah, kind of a yucky visual I think...but it let us know where he stood on the subject.

 

I guess I got lucky with my first boyfriend and then later, my first husband who had no problems playing during that time...it just meant we threw down some towels or played in the shower.

 

I think for most women, especially if they don't mind playing on their period, it's just easier to say 'No play tonight b/c of this' rather than risk having a potential partner think that playing during that time is the most discusting thing they've ever heard of. I mean, until the situation is presented you never know if your're getting a 'eh, just throw some towels down' kind of guy or an 'ew yuck yuck yuck' kind of guy.

 

Do what you are comfortable with. What does your hubby think about you playing during your period? If you do play, remember to use lube.

[jdavisauto 73]

avid said:

I'm not so fond of having sex on my period, but it looks like I'm gonna have it for this weekend. Unfortunately, we have a big weekend away planned. I don't have any problems with the guys playing, and I'll just be the "fluffer". I'm still sad, though, because it looks like a fun weekend.

 

I just want to present another side to this. When I have my period, I'm not "broken" at all. My body is working perfectly, as it should.

 

I feel that sending the message that we're broken does something for the love that we women should feel for our bodies and the way they work. Self-love is vital, ESPECIALLY with this hobby we have.

 

Sorry that you took this the wrong way, your body being broken was NOT what I said. What I said was "A nice way of saying that you are on your period is just to say "Sorry but I'm broken"." Most swingers would say I understand and leave it at that. You can say whatever you want to say. Hell one girl I met a while back just came right out and said "Not tonight, I'm on my period and bleeding like a stuff pig". If that works for you then I guess that's ok to say also. It's whatever works for you.

[sexcupid 809]

jdavisauto said:

Sorry that you took this the wrong way, your body being broken was NOT what I said. What I said was "A nice way of saying that you are on your period is just to say "Sorry but I'm broken"."

 

Ok...but technically it is what you said. "Sorry, but I'm broken"....yes, I've heard others use it and we all know what they are implying without having to come right out and say "period", "bleeding", or the ever scientifically correct "menstruation" (although to be honest, I've yet to actually hear someone say that word or any derivative thereof ).

 

But in saying that it does imply that you are not functioning correctly or are damaged in some way...and I believe the point that avid was trying to drive home is that women aren't damaged or functioning incorrectly, quite the contrary.

[rpu3 630]

Sorry that you took this the wrong way, your body being broken was NOT what I said. What I said was "A nice way of saying that you are on your period is just to say "Sorry but I'm broken"." Most swingers would say I understand and leave it at that. You can say whatever you want to say.

 

I wouldn't say that Avid took it the wrong way; she just didn't view it the same way you do. Doesn't make her wrong any more than a period makes her broken.

 

I am not fond of "I'm broken" either. I'm not broken; I'm just doing the same thing most women have been doing every 22-60 days since Eve ate the apple so why say something that isn't true. I just say it's that time of month or period.

 

To each their own as to terminology. However, it doesn't mean that 100% will like a particular word or turn of phrase.

[jdavisauto 73]

Again I am sorry if I offended anyone, that was not my intentions. When I said that, I did not mean to implied that a lady was broken because of a natural function of the female body. Not as in the sents of my body being broken with two froms of cancer which is now starting to effect my eye sight. Ok I will just go over here in the corner of the room, sit down and keep my mouth shut.

[awesomecplmn 21]

What does your hubby think about you playing during your period? If you do play, remember to use lube.

 

Okay, this is interesting. Hubby and I don't play during my period (his deal, not mine)....so I never knew lube was important. I guess I always figured the blood would make things nice and slippery. Not so????

[fun4Ds 1,098]

Again I am sorry if I offended anyone, that was not my intentions. When I said that, I did not mean to implied that a lady was broken because of a natural function of the female body. Not as in the sents of my body being broken with two froms of cancer which is now starting to effect my eye sight. Ok I will just go over here in the corner of the room, sit down and keep my mouth shut.

 

Well, its just a figure of speech..... thats all, its cool .

[two4youinswva 3,068]

Again I am sorry if I offended anyone, that was not my intentions. When I said that, I did not mean to implied that a lady was broken because of a natural function of the female body. Not as in the sents of my body being broken with two froms of cancer which is now starting to effect my eye sight. Ok I will just go over here in the corner of the room, sit down and keep my mouth shut.

 

Mrs two4you uses the term when referring to herself.

Even though it isn't accurate, it's a figure of speech that is common at least in this corner of the swinging world.

 

I think most of us understand enough about biology to know she isn't really broken.

 

Hell, on the occasions I've struggled to achieve an erection, I've made the comment "My dick is broken", even though it's just a little bit tired.

[sexcupid 809]

Okay, this is interesting. Hubby and I don't play during my period (his deal, not mine)....so I never knew lube was important. I guess I always figured the blood would make things nice and slippery. Not so????

 

Well, initially it does make things pretty slippery...however, with the motion and any air circulation (fans, ac vents in the room ect)...it starts to dry and is very sticky/tacky feeling...it can be uncomfortable after a while. And in the instance of playing with others and condom use...yeah...been there, done that, broke the condom because they thought the need to lube wasn't there either. Live and learn. lol

[GoNatural 104]

Hubby doesn't like to have sex while I am on my period, but I've heard lore of men who love it. What's the story? Are any swingers getting lucky during that time of the month, and HOW on earth does one approach getting THAT out on the table??

 

I've been in two long-term relationships, and I really liked the fact that both of those women still desired sex while on their period. Maybe breaking the taboo is just slightly fun, but I really admire when a woman still craves sex during her period and isn't turned-off by her period.

 

I would be willing to have sex with a swing partner while she was on her period, but I'd prefer that I've built some level of trust with that partner before hand, and that both of us were previously tested.

[quivers4me 49]

I went to a LS party this past weekend, one that I had been really looking forward to a couple of months. My period started that afternoon. I have a single male partner that I attend these parties with and I let him know on the way to the party that I would be out of commission for sex. As this was away from home we did get a hotel room. I told him that he should do whatever he wanted as far as hooking up with others. (Not that he needs permission from me to have sex with others, just wanted him to not feel obligated to limit his activities due to my inability that night) We did meet up with a single gal that he wanted to take back to our room with us, which I was OK with. We explained to her I was on my period but was really OK with watching and a little participation. This gal was awesome and she & I did play with each other while he had sex with her. The next morning, she left after sex, he & I did have intercourse. Since we know each other & play together quite a bit I was comfortable having sex with him.

 

Bottom line, I've never had a problem having sex with a known long term partner while on my period I am very uncomfortable with someone I don't know as well. As far as a group encounter (even a 4some), not going to happen. The mess alone screws me up.

 

Needless to say I had a great time as the party, seeing old friends and making some new ones. I would let my period stop me from attending it would just limit my activities after the party.

[J&D 15]

My wife even when we were just dating loved to have sex during her period. Sometimes maybe not the first day or so but it never stopped her from wanting it and of course I just couldn't turn her down.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I haven't encountered a woman yet who wants to play (swing) on her period.... I have encountered a few guys who say they don't care. if it's at the end of my period where it's very light I will have sex with hubby... but beyond that ...not my thing.

 

We will still go to socials, clubs if I'm on my period, we just let people know that we aren't playing that night. If nothing else it gives you a chance to meet people there and get to know them then make arrangements to see them again later when mother nature is more agreeable.

[PlayfulSeniors 15]

We do not have this problem any more because of our age. But, we do have play partners that are still facing the problem. Many women get very passionate during their period. I love having a partner that is excited and if their period is causing this, so be it. Just add a few towels and have fun.

[Guest screaminggood]

The Southern saying is "Aunt Flo is visiting me," if you'd like a nice way of bringing it up.

[avid 134]

The Southern saying is "Aunt Flo is visiting me," if you'd like a nice way of bringing it up.

 

We say that in the north, too.

 

And the french Canadians call it "ma Tante".

[howie1222 33]

Since you posted your original question 8 days ago, I'm sure the first instance of your problem is over. However you say you have another function coming up at the same time that Aunt Flo is due to visit. You can postpone her visit for several days or for as long as you like--with your doctor's help. First let me say, since I am a physician, that it is unnatural (I didn't say "abnormal") for a woman to have a period every month! (I can explain that statement later if anyone is interested.) But if you can start taking birth control pills (they should be the kind that are all the same strength) immediately and if you take a pill containing the hormones every day until after your next event is over (you will need to use the first 21 pills out of two separate packages), you can then delay your next visit with Aunt Flo until after the event. But be sure to see your doctor (or if you know her/him well enough, maybe she/he would be willing to prescribe just a couple of packages with only a phone request from you--just tell him you have a family event coming up) and start the birth control pills ASAP! Have fun.

[avid 134]

First let me say, since I am a physician, that it is unnatural (I didn't say "abnormal") for a woman to have a period every month! (I can explain that statement later if anyone is interested.)

 

Yes, please, I'm curious.

 

But if you can start taking birth control pills (they should be the kind that are all the same strength) immediately and if you take a pill containing the hormones every day until after your next event is over (you will need to use the first 21 pills out of two separate packages), you can then delay your next visit with Aunt Flo until after the event.

 

Do you think it's okay to take these drugs for recreational purposes? What if you're over 40? How long can you take them for?

[rpu3 630]

Actually, Avid, there is a lot of research about using birth control constantly, and even have a few formulas out there for such a purpose. Seasonale is one of the menstrual suppression formulas, etc. Search Yahoo, etc. using menstral suppression and you'll get a bunch of hits from universities, planned parenthood and city/county health departments talking about continuous use. I know the main point of their talking points is that the "period" one gets during the placebo week isn't a period at all, etc., but withdrawal bleed.

 

My MD allowed me to go on the pill continuously to avoid a cycle during my vacation next month, and prescribed 4 months continuous use of a low hormone formula and we'll see how it works out before continuing on.

 

Oh, and I'm about to turn 40, so my that's why my MD picked a low dose, and told me I absolutely cannot smoke, not even one puff, because of the age. But he wasn't averse to me using the pill continuously for the next four months.

[avid 134]

I'm really a big believer in research. My concern about research surrounding pharmaceuticals is that "he who pays the piper, calls the tune". I haven't seen a bunch of research that WASN'T funded by the pharmaceutical industry.

 

The Cochrane Library reports six randomized controlled trials that were worth including in their analysis of continuous oral contraceptive use. Their summary states: "The studies were too small to address efficacy, rare adverse events, and safety. Continuous pill-taking (for more than 28 days) appears to be a reasonable approach to oral contraception."

 

Here is another quote I found:

 

"When you tamper with the way the body works naturally you can't predict long-term outcome until you study long-term outcome. And right now we don't have that data."

 

I just like to be careful around these things. Might it seem a little over the top to tamper with our hormonal levels so that we can go to parties to have sex with strangers?

 

Believe me, when I planned my weekend away last weekend, I was holding my breath I wouldn't get my period. I'm SO happy that I didn't get it, and I had a FANTASTIC weekend! As an aside, we went to Hedo North.

[awesomecplmn 21]

I really appreciate all the comments and advice. We went to our party and I wore a tampon, then before going to the after party I put in an instead. These work great when the flow is low. I find they can slip and make a big mess if the flow is heavy.

 

In any case, it turns out that we didn't even play. All that worrying for nothing. LOL.....But good news is that we met a couple we are having a date night with in a week and a half. So I won't be worrying about my period that night.

 

I think for the future I'm going to just use the instead and see if it works for me before trying hormone birth control.

[sweet_tna 680]

Again I am sorry if I offended anyone, that was not my intentions. When I said that, I did not mean to implied that a lady was broken because of a natural function of the female body. Not as in the sents of my body being broken with two froms of cancer which is now starting to effect my eye sight. Ok I will just go over here in the corner of the room, sit down and keep my mouth shut.

 

I'll be sitting there with you, since I use the phrase, "broken," too. I know it's a natural function of my body and all that, but when I'm cramping like all hell I sure feel broken . . .

 

(I said I'd be in the corner, but no promises to keep my mouth shut)

 

=)

[Vjklander 138]

I believe it might just be that is why showers were invented.

[quivers4me 49]

"When you tamper with the way the body works naturally you can't predict long-term outcome until you study long-term outcome. And right now we don't have that data."

 

I just like to be careful around these things. Might it seem a little over the top to tamper with our hormonal levels so that we can go to parties to have sex with strangers?

 

In my younger years I tried many methods of birth control for the obvious reasons. While some were effective at preventing pregnancy I never liked the effect on my body and system. I had a tubal 19 years ago and after the first year or so my cycle regulated to the point of being able to predict when I started almost to the day. It was nice to not mess with the hormonal stuff that comes with the pill and to let my body do what is natural. Now that I am older I'm finding I am less predictable in when I start. I'm just putting that down to peri-menopause and hope it happens soon. It will be nice to be done with that aspect of my life.

[rpu3 630]

I just like to be careful around these things. Might it seem a little over the top to tamper with our hormonal levels so that we can go to parties to have sex with strangers?

 

I don't disagree with your comment on big pharmaceutical sponsored studies or wanting to be careful with one's health and well-being. Actually, I should thank you for the reminder of who has actually sponsored the studies. I hope long-term studies in all three conditions (no pill, "normal" pill use, "continuous" pill use) will happen. I'm curious as to what will be found, as I have to wonder what the difference is in taking 7 more pills a month, and what the usefulness of the withdrawal bleed during the placebo week. But that's probably turning into a whole 'nother thread in a different forum.

[avid 134]

rpu3, I betcha we'd have a great conversation over lots of aspects of female sexuality if we were in the same room!

 

Thanks for taking my post as it was intended - just another point of view.

[howie1222 33]

Yes, Avid. First, nothing of what I say below is to be used or understood as medical advice! I would like to answer your second question first. It is not known how long any particular woman can take birth control pills (BCPs) continuously. Thank you RPU3 for mentioning the brand of BCPs called Seasonale. Yes, it is designed for the woman to take 84 hormone pills, one every day, and then skip 7 days. That comes to exactly 91 days. The woman using Seasonale has four periods per year. I suppose that she could take BCPs for four or six months if she wanted without doing any harm. For twenty or thirty years I have prescribed regular BCPs for a few patients so that they can take them in that fashion. I did this even for some patients in their 30s and 40s who (because of their religious faith) were still virgins and who certainly didn't need the BCPs for contraception. Some women have very painful cramps during their periods, and the cramps can be reduced by the use of BCPs. However, for a small percentage of women the BCPs cannot completely eliminate the cramps. (I strongly suspect that many women who have especially crampy periods actually have the condition called endometriosis, in which there is tissue outside the uterus which is pretty much identical to the inner lining of the uterus.) So I told them that they can take the pills so that they have their periods and cramps only four times a year instead of thirteen times a year. Yes, all women are strongly advised not to smoke if they are taking BCPs. Non-smoking women can continue to take BCPs until after they are past menopause. Well, enough of that.

 

Now a question for you. In the totally natural setting, how often would the average woman have a period? I'll give you the answer below. First, in order for me to explain what is natural, I need you to take a trip with me--using your imagination--back through time. To get to the natural existence we need to travel to prehistoric times, before people domesticated animals and came to understand what caused pregnancy. Prior to the development of religion and the institution of marriage people probably began sexual activity at about the same age as our youngsters today develop that interest--during their teens. The average woman needs about four months of exposure to sperm in order to conceive (25% chance each month). So after four months of sexual activity by the fertile female she would be pregnant. IF she survived pregnancy and childbirth she did not have Enfamil or Similac to feed her baby. She did not give her toddler Gerber or Heinz. She breastfed! And she breastfed. And she breastfed some more! Even today there is a tribe of Africans, the !Kung (that exclamation point represents a clicking sound at the start of the tribal name) who live essentially that same type of existence I just described. The mothers and their babies have been observed by the anthropologists, and they found that the women breastfeed their babies for about three years. The tribe is so remote from modern civilization that the only contraception they have is that provided by breastfeeding. Breastfeeding the way the !Kung women do it actually has a fairly good success rate at preventing pregnancy, although some breastfeeding women can and do get pregnant. So now we can put together the pieces of this puzzle. The prehistoric women or the !Kung women get pregnant after four months of sexual activity, the pregnancy lasts 9 months, after which they breast feed for about three years. When they wean the baby the mother will have another four periods and be pregnant again. So once every four years the women have about four periods, an average of one period per year. That is the Natural course of events. I have a strong suspicion that those women probably don't ever develop endometriosis.

 

I hope that you enjoyed your imaginary trip through time with me and that I didn't ramble on too long. Isn't the human body absolutely Amazing?

[avid 134]

Yes, I agree, lactation amenorrhea can be an excellent way of preventing pregnancy.

 

On the other hand, though, it's not "unnatural" for a woman to menstruate monthly, if she is not having intercourse.

[howie1222 33]

Quite true, Avid.

[gatorvol64 216]

Ok, when I had periods the first day (maybe 2) were hell. Cramps and heavy bleeding. However, once this 1st or 2nd day was past, I found myself being in a well...bluntly...a horny mood. My husband and I always had sex during my period. I'm strange in more ways than one and I guess so are my hormones.

 

Now,as to why I don't have periods any more. It isn't "natural". Gator has had a vasectomy and I didn't need birth control. However, before swinging even entered the picture, I was having even more problems with my periods. Nothing on a regular basis and more painful than ever when they occurred. I talked with my doctor for a couple of years. He suggested BCPs to regulate them and help with the pain. I wasn't interested because I thought they were unnecessary. He finally convinced me and I started using them. A period once a month was actually welcome since they were lighter and less painful. I then heard about Seasonique (later Seasonale) and we discussed those. If I was regulating them, I was willing to regulate them to less frequent. I now use Lybrel. They are continuous, year round. I don't have a period as long as I take them. I feel better, in regards to my hormones, than I have in years.

 

I'm not advising anyone to take BCPs of any kind. That should be decided between you and your doctor. I'm just telling my experience with the topics of this thread. Oh and I'm 44 now. We all take risks in life and this is one I'm willing to take. Benefits are multiple for me.

 

Vol

[prettylady 221]

I know this thread is taking a slight left turn from the OP.

 

But I would like to ask, has anyone heard of or had the laser surgery that is suppose to stop periods altogether?

 

My periods are painful and heavy the first two days as well. I am interested in this procedure, but like Avid said research is paid for by someone and I find first hand opinions suit me best when it is time to make the final decision.

 

By the way after day two Dog and I will have sex, but we won't play.

[JustMrsJ 15]

I don't play when I am in the middle of my period at least the first couple of days. When it is near the end, I will.

[Curiosity0725 15]

Ugg, that's actually one thing I can not stand. I've done it before and each time it grosses me out. Makes me feel like I just raped someone.

 

But, yes, I have heard about many guys liking it... Whatever floats their boat I guess.

[SexyBitch&Him 15]

Hmmm....guess I have mixed feeling about this. I know that my hubby didn't like that whole sex and the period thing only very occasionally in the shower near the end. I have had a hysterectomy so it is NO problem that we have to deal with now. I don't think that I would partake in a woman on her period but I would touch and play a little I guess. I also remember that when I was on mine that actual intercourse felt great!!! So I would go with what ever you are comfortable with, you can let the others know and take it from there I have heard that some don't mind so maybe its not a complete loss.

[Babysteps 63]

avid said:

I'm not so fond of having sex on my period, but it looks like I'm gonna have it for this weekend. Unfortunately, we have a big weekend away planned. I don't have any problems with the guys playing, and I'll just be the "fluffer". I'm still sad, though, because it looks like a fun weekend.

 

 

I just want to present another side to this. When I have my period, I'm not "broken" at all. My body is working perfectly, as it should.

 

I feel that sending the message that we're broken does something for the love that we women should feel for our bodies and the way they work. Self-love is vital, ESPECIALLY with this hobby we have.

 

I don't think that jdavisauto's intent was to LITERALLY imply that we are "broken"......I think he (?) only meant this as a more delicate way to get the point across......and he DID mention that it IS a "special time"......as it is!

[daisy girl 34]

I used the pill to adjust the timing of my period. I only get it during the week and only for two days

[howie1222 33]

Ah, yes. I had forgotten to mention that little trick in my earlier comments about using the pill to postpone a period. When I start a patient on birth control pills, I almost always recommend that she start the pills on a Sunday. That way she will take her last hormone pill three weeks later on a Saturday. She usually doesn’t start her period the first day she goes without a hormone pill (Sunday) but the second day without a hormone pill (Monday). Her period will end Thursday or maybe Friday. The same thing will happen every four weeks, and, as I tell her, she will have all her periods beginning on Mondays and ending on Thursdays or Fridays. That way she will have all her weekends free to party with her boyfriend or husband.

[justdoitasu 21]

For the record.... I love having sex during my SO's period. LOVE IT!

[Mr.Essex 264]

I've never had sex with a menstruating woman, but I decided to post here for a different reason.

 

Women (physiologically speaking) weren't designed to undergo multiple menstrual cycles per year. Period. The menstrual cycle was designed to facilitate reproduction, which means that the female body is expending large amounts of energy to provide a welcome environment for a new life. This, of course, means that it has to divert important nutrients (proteins, fats, minerals such as calcium and iron, etc.) on a larger than average scale to a relatively minor portion of the body. And, for my engineering swingers out there, what happens when a pipe/switchboard/beam is overrun by large amounts of particulate matter and detritus? Rupture, weakening, structural compromise, and other delightful things. Or, in physiological terms, endometriosis and fibroid tumors, among other "delightful" afflictions endured by the ladyparts.

 

A pregnant woman's body endures a lot of stress, but (for the most part) womens' bodies contain their own pregnancy-recuperation properties (lactation amenorrhea, among others). OTOH, a period is essentially a set series of "Much Ado About Nothing", wherein the body does a substantial amount of build-up, then release. Every month, for years and years. As stated by one of the prior posters, a well-managed parturite female body can receive 9+ months of non-menstrual related physical stress, plenty of time for recuperation and reinforcement of tissues used in the formation of the child.

 

(For example: The calcium needed for the growing baby's bones has to come from somewhere. If she isn't drinking enough milk and eating her leafy greens, it's coming from her {or for our female posters, your } bones. And you wonder why Western women have a much higher percentage of osteoporisis sufferers than their more rural counterparts?)

 

A period, as I've typed, is a mini-pregnancy. Do the math, it doesn't change.

9 months of pregnancy and 9 or more months of recuperation, versus 18 months of a quasi-pregnant state. I'm not trying to advocate a year-long regimen of birth control for all women, but the hormones in BCPs mimic the hormones released during pregnancy. And I'm all about making women happy, even if it means spending a thousand dollars to find the right pill and having to take the lumps caused by the mood changes triggered by the wrong pill.