Any regrets having tried swinging?

[Guest Sexy Poll Taker]

Just wondering what kinds of regrets people have after..big or small.

Mine would have to be agreeing to being video taped and now, no longer being on speaking terms with the couple who owns the tape...

[Jessie B 16]

Regrets for opportunities missed may outnumber regrets for opportunities grasped but 'tis better to pass up a dozen golden opportunities than to take one bad one.

Ted's and my policy of no full sex on a first date has left us with a few regrets for missed opportunities but even they have mellowed into exciting fantasies of what might have been.

[Mike and Jan 20]

On the "regrets" side of the question..., well, sure wish I could take us back to the few encounters we had years ago. Maturity sure would have made them better. A couple of our "adventures" would have been passed on, and the others would have been a little different. On the "missed Opportunities" side..., well, two come to mind immediately: 1. A friend and fellow worker of Jan's made a comment about her being allowed to "shake it" when I asked to use her bathroom once. She was cute, single, and I think very interested in us. Sure wonder what might have happened if I'd said "sure"! Jan and I have talked about that several times since. 2. Doug! He was a friend we made at the first, and only, swinger's club we've been too. We later got together with him and one of his girlfriends a couple of times. I remember him divulging that he had been with couples, by himself, a few times and that he'd had sex with the man. Doug was very considerate, intelligent, nice looking (middle-eastern ancestry), and just fun to be around. Sure wouldn't mind hearing from him again now that my curiositiy has expanded about MFM threesomes. Mike

 

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[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Since you've been swinging have you done anything that you regret?

[LYTD 15]

My biggest regret ever in this regard was one of the first threesomes I was ever involved in. It was with a girlfriend of mine and a very close friend (it was a MFM). We were all drinking, one thing lead to another and you can all pretty much figure out the rest.

 

I have no regrets about the actual sex, nor anything towards my friend (he and I are still very close to this day), but what got me then and still gets me now is what I found out later about her. Turns out that she was very possessive and didn't like the attention that was taken from her when my friend was around (any diversion of attention from her was a no-no in her book as I found out). So getting my friend involved with us sexually was her way of attempting to drive a wedge between us.

 

She thought that she'd do the deed, drop a few ill-timed comments and watch the jealousy and hostility set in. What she didn't anticipate was that I was into it, enjoyed it and was more than happy to do it again. I even told her that I would be happy just kicking back and watching the two of them go at it.

 

Curses. Her master plan was foiled. Needless to say the relationship went south from there and came to a merciful end not much later.

 

The only regret I have is that the entire act (which was quite enjoyable) was nothing more than an attemt to separate me from someone who's been a lifelong friend. Something about that has always bothered me and probably always will.

 

Ah well, at least I know he & I had a good time.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I thought this was an interesting question that I was really surprised to find had not come back up in a new thread.

[Texasfuncouple 69]

Our only regret:

 

Being too eager to please when we first entered the lifestyle, and not excusing ourselves from a situation we could see blowing up in front of us. Turns out we got stuck witness the whole fireworks show as a couple with some issues aired all their laundry in front of us.

 

It taught us really quick. No matter what and how much of anything has happenned prior to a moment, at anytime it no longer is our desire to go further we are not afraid to say Thanks, but No Thanks!

 

~Texasfun

[intensity_too 16]

Getting into swinging in the first place.

 

I'm NOT against swinging, so no flaming me. I just got into it under the wrong circumstances.

[celtic239 297]

My only regret was not stumbling across this forum earlier in life.

[Doc433 15]

Just wondering what kinds of regrets people have after..big or small.

Mine would have to be agreeing to being video taped and now, no longer being on speaking terms with the couple who owns the tape...

I regret not having been more exposed to the lifestyle with a better partner. Started with my ex wife and she was more concerned about HER needs than anything else. She was not the mature type to be a part of it like most of the people who are openminded enough. Now I am with a woman who is honest, open, sexy as hell, and thank God Bi! now all we gotta do is find a woman or couple..dang where are those fun fun people!! lol

[ncmd_couple 597]

I regret not being honest with myself or L years ago. If I had been, we would have opened up sooner and lots of grief would have never have happened.

 

S

[Cpl2share 147]

For us it would have to be NOT telling our swing partners what we wanted, and making sure that we got it. That makes for a "not good" playdate. Not bad, but not what we were hoping for.

[DBL D 120]

Not being more thoughtful, sensitive and understanding.

 

M.D.

[sweet_tna 680]

Waiting too long (on a particular couple) too hook up at a party. Lesson learned.

 

=)

[rpu3 630]

I've regretted a couple of the choices we have made in partners, but live and learn - and learned a lot, actually, so that portion isn't exactly regrettable.

[Tia Vampire 167]

Our only swinging regret has just been some of the partners we have chosen.

[cubnamy1995 124]

I regret trying to mix peppermint shnapps with orange juice at that last party.

[JP51 40]

Just some of the partners we have chosen.

 

 

ditto., and letting it get to close that when the "break up" came it was very hard on us...

[havefuninsun 122]

I regret trying to mix peppermint shnapps with orange juice at that last party.

 

oh my lord! That would be regretful!!

 

 

I had one wiggy moment that I regret. Fortunately, everyone is wonderful and no one locked me in the closet for it.

[LFM2 1,482]

Dave and I talked about this and we couldn't think of one regret... then we remembered the first couple we ever played with. Even though they were great to play with, they kind of turned into stalkers. *EEK*

 

Holly