By
Billygoat
I have always had an interest in the human definition, just who are we? What drives us? Who actually defines us? I know I was never asked....or given the questionnaire.
As always it is those not living how others are or maintain power or try to be that desperately try to define all of us into a box.
I’ve always been curious, always asking why because the bottles, jars and boxes we all get shoved into never hold true.
My take away? Humans are:
Curious
Adventurous
Emotional
Highly social
Desire acceptance
Absolute need for contact, touch
Emotional connection, attachment
Happiness....
....collectively we want to be happy. We want at the end of our efforts, happiness.
So with that in mind why the imposed monogamy question? Maybe a better question is why the varying definitions to adapt to the wide variety of cultures, beliefs countries when in fact we were not made to be mono anything since the beginning of time without being taught, threatened and social outcasts for not taking part in the norm.
Mate sharing, spouse sharing and combined expanded family arrangements have been around since before history. The last 2,000 years monogamy, authority of the one, singular, grew but always had the old ways nipping at its heals.
In my readings I recently came across an interesting article, below:
Why Monogamy Isn't
The death of compulsory monogamy and viewing monogamy as only a social good
Elisabeth A. Sheff Ph.D., CASA, CSE
The Polyamorists Next Door
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/201508/why-monogamy-isnt
As most everyone in this group lives or wants to live a less than monogamous lifestyle you might find it an interesting read.
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