Single Males, would you consider soft-swinging with a couple?

[K&JIntimates 66]

Any feedback from couples who've had experience with this is welcome.

 

Recently K and I experimented with single males. We were in an area open to all and were joined by two men. It was a baby step as we were open to them caressing me while we were err....occupied, something I enjoyed very much.

 

My question is....

 

If a couple approached you (a man), explaining that the wife would like to touch and caress (and maybe a little more) your parts under the towel but made it clear this was their first time and didn't know where the threshold of comfort was would you be willing to play?

 

~J

[Chicup 41]

This is a question only a woman would ask.

 

Woman: Hey guy wearing only a towel, can I touch your penis a bit, but I don't' want to do more?

 

Man: Yes.

 

You would have to make it clear how far you are looking to go but other than that, I rather doubt a single male at a swing club would answer no.

[good times 991]

I agree with Chicup, as long as I find a woman attractive, I am all for her playing with my private parts. Granted, I am sure I would want to take it all the way, but I can't imagine any guy saying no even if their were limitations to how far it could go.

[BiloxiCouple 695]

I would be negotiating. If you touch me there, then can I touch you here?

[Mr.Essex 264]

I'd be ecstatic.

[maniaco333 29]

That should be a new experience and a turn on for any single guy. You got to remember that guys will spend a lot of money buying girls drinks just for the hope of getting some making out or sometimes just a phone number. Why would would any guy turn this chance down when they know that if they play cool they would be on the short list of candidates whenever you guys are ready to progress to the next step and go all the way.

 

Mr Maniaco333

[eurotrash 15]

I get numbers and can take girls home without even buying them drinks... even in China.

 

That being said, if the girl was cute, I'd consider it, but I'm into that sort of thing. A vanilla guy might get freaked out.

 

That should be a new experience and a turn on for any single guy. You got to remember that guys will spend a lot of money buying girls drinks just for the hope of getting some making out or sometimes just a phone number. Why would would any guy turn this chance down when they know that if they play cool they would be on the short list of candidates whenever you guys are ready to progress to the next step and go all the way.

 

Mr Maniaco333

[jdavisauto 73]

I am a male half of a couple but was single a while back. Yes I did have limited play with ladies half of a couple but only if we click. I did respected the limits that was place on me and never violated those limits. Now if the lady half change the limits during play and all agree then yes we move ahead. Now as a x single male in the lifestyle I found out a long time ago that if I follow the limits of a couple that soon the limits would be lifted and then we could get more involve. Rules of a single male. Respect both male and female of the couple. Respect the limits set down by the couple. Include the male in the conversation with the female.

[crazi429 16]

I it would be fine with me but I would hope it went futher.

[fun4Ds 1,098]

Any feedback from couples who've had experience with this is welcome.

O.k. I cant say we have experience with this. Are you just wanting to cop a feel ?

 

Recently K and I experimented with single males. We were in an area open to all and were joined by two men. It was a baby step as we were open to them caressing me while we were err....occupied, something I enjoyed very much.

So they were touching you but you didn't touch them ?

My question is....

 

If a couple approached you (a man), explaining that the wife would like to touch and caress (and maybe a little more) your parts under the towel but made it clear this was their first time and didn't know where the threshold of comfort was would you be willing to play?

I cant say how I would feel. I mean, suppose you had fun and left me sitting there with a hard dick and then left I know me, I would be thinking why did you leave That would probably bother me... I would be wanting more.

 

I think I would definitely want to be let in on this touching play and know you just wanted to feel a dick before hand. (pun intended)

 

One of my stumbling blocks I found in swinging was knowing for sure if a woman has definite interests in me sexually. Mixed signals happen. Soft play has its difficulties understanding where the limits are. Letting me know for sure where to stop would be a good thing before hand. I have to admit, Mrs fun wouldn't stop with a feel, there would be more.....

 

Personally, I like to be touched. It shows me a woman is interested.....Touch me anywhere. Touch my face,shoulders, chest and we would have to talk. Spank my ass and I will presume you know how to get wild,and want to.. I would think if a woman had my dick in her hand there would be more....

 

I would be careful giving a signal like this, without communicating that this would be all... Now if you approached me and said "I have never felt another mans cock and just want to get a feel under a towel". I would say NO. I don't want to get worked up and then just play with my own thing. Some guys will take anything, and jack off in the crowd. I'm just not that way....

[maddog92307 15]

I'd be fine with it.

[DominicanPapi 15]

If it happened to me i think Ill just go with the flow, if they asked to be played with then thats what ill give them, i really don't think any guy would reject this request...

[K&JIntimates 66]

I guess I should have added that what I have in mind is stroking said cock to climax (with lube!). It's a huge turn on to watch and feel a mans responses to someone else stroking his stuff. Depending on how he behaves he would have a good chance for being invited for more.

[K&JIntimates 66]

So they were touching you but you didn't touch them ?

 

It was a Sunday night and pretty dead. We had gone into one of the big playrooms without a door and it was just us for a long time. It was when I was on top that two guys came and joined us. I was okay with them touching me but was a little nervous about doing likewise. I wasn't sure how far I wanted things to go and I wanted to talk to K before just leaning over and sucking the guy closest.

 

To date a MFM has just been sexy pillow talk. It's hot to think of two men at once but, I'll admit, the reality makes me a bit nervous.

 

That's why I'm interested in baby steps see related post.

[Chicup 41]

 

Ok so what you are really saying, is how will a single male respond to you giving him a hand job to completion at a swing club?

 

Now I know without a doubt you are really a female posting, only a woman could ask such a question. It wouldn't even occur to a male posing as a female to post.

 

Is water wet?

Is grass green?

May I give you a hand job single guy?

[absingleman 178]

I must be the exception to the single male stereotype. I was at a bar and an attractive woman just came up and asked me if I wanted to have sex and I said "Not tonight". I must have stood out or she saw me as a challenge because she suddenly became a regular and kept at me until I said yes. It was only two weeks (the bar was around the corner from my apartment so I went there everyday after work before returning to heat up ravioli or Chinese leftovers) but I actually got off on this woman (who I found out was a local radio DJ) pursuing me. Since that time, if a woman makes the first move, I look at her breasts. If I see nipples, I flip a coin. Heads is yes, tails is no. If I don't, I say "No, but lets talk", because I know she will be back sooner or later.

 

Conceited? Maybe, but thats been my experience.

 

Oh, this was about a swing club? well, in that case, I think I would still do the "Not right now, but lets talk." In that environment, I know she can have sex and she SHOULD know she can have sex with little effort, so if I have to be on my best behavior and make the best impression I can, she should too.

 

Hey, I believe in equal sexual rights for women. They need to work just as hard as I do (yeah, right hahahahaha).

[CoupleReady2 15]

I'd be fine with that..We're a couple, and that would still be exciting for me and for the wife also.

[fun4Ds 1,098]

It was a Sunday night and pretty dead. We had gone into one of the big playrooms without a door and it was just us for a long time. It was when I was on top that two guys came and joined us. I was okay with them touching me but was a little nervous about doing likewise. I wasn't sure how far I wanted things to go and I wanted to talk to K before just leaning over and sucking the guy closest.

 

To date a MFM has just been sexy pillow talk. It's hot to think of two men at once but, I'll admit, the reality makes me a bit nervous.

 

That's why I'm interested in baby steps see related post.

Oh wow, I see what your saying.....

 

One thing I have to say is. At times like this, you actually have power and controll. How does that make you feel ? Do you feel like you have controll of the situation ?

[exhibi 15]

I'd certainly be 'up' for it, I would hope that she'd like what she finds and decide to go the distance.

[Frankie 18]

Wow I wish I had an offer like this offered to me,Yes it would be a huge turn on for me.

 

Frankie

[K&JIntimates 66]

Oh wow, I see what your saying.....

 

One thing I have to say is. At times like this, you actually have power and controll. How does that make you feel ? Do you feel like you have controll of the situation ?

 

In the situation I described, part of the appeal is knowing that the control is mine. My nervousness with jumping right in with another male is the fact that I don't know him well enough to know that he'll be a good compliment. I want to know that whomever we have our MFM with can be trusted to play at my pace.

[gdjohn48 15]

I would be willing to play, No matter how far it went. I think it would be a compliment to me and God knows, Im not shy. Thanks G

[magnum 78]

Any feedback from couples who've had experience with this is welcome.

 

Recently K and I experimented with single males. We were in an area open to all and were joined by two men. It was a baby step as we were open to them caressing me while we were err....occupied, something I enjoyed very much.

 

My question is....

 

If a couple approached you (a man), explaining that the wife would like to touch and caress (and maybe a little more) your parts under the towel but made it clear this was their first time and didn't know where the threshold of comfort was would you be willing to play?

 

~J

 

I would probably play, if I was attracted to her, since she wanted to "touch" me, I assume she is attracted to me...

[Guest ENCRYPTEDTX]

K&JIntimates,

 

I am a single respectful single male in the lifestyle with a fair share of experience with couples and in club settings.

 

I dont have to tell you that anything you do, you must be fully comfortable doing. You must also remember that your fantasies, and your play are for you. It is your comfort and your fantasy that matter.

 

Any respectable single male understands his role. His role is what the couple (particularly her) desires. At any given time, should your comfort be compromised, the gig is up.

 

That being said, you should also convey somehow that you only want to touch, and not be touched back. Its very simple. You are in said act, guys approach, you reach, you tell them you are only comfortable touching them.

 

GROUND RULES ESTABLISHED.

 

Players may choose to continue said game, or take bats, balls and go home or to a different venue.

 

By not communicating, you are sending a mixed signal. I always ask before touching, and yes it can be a chore to shift focus from the "game" to heckler on the sideline, but its necessary for permission and leads into the ground rules.

 

I am also a pleaser. I enjoy seeing the couple happy. Heck if you want me to stand in the corner and do a naked yoga pose, thats your prerogative.

 

What a lot of single guys fail to understand about couples and the lifestyle is that the couple sets the guidelines and is in total control.

 

To answer your question, I would love to play. Its about the enjoyment of others and not just my own.

 

Kyle

[funn 15]

My wife and I decided to soft swap with a friend of mine. She was never interested in full with other men. My friend was more than happy just to do soft with her. After our first soft MMF with my wife she decided to go full with him. I guess his patience payed off. Now he's a regular fuck buddy for my wife.

[sahajacpl 95]

If a couple approached you (a man), explaining that the wife would like to touch and caress (and maybe a little more) your parts under the towel but made it clear this was their first time and didn't know where the threshold of comfort was would you be willing to play?~J

 

We would love to work out the limits of play and enjoy a quid-quo-pro, whereever it leads, just foreplay or a good session fucking the wife, if they (husband and wife) agree.

 

[SecretAsianMan 348]

As a single guy - I'm usually pretty open to whatever limits a couple sets when they invite me to play with them... taking cues from them & letting them "set the pace"

[rahul4sex 15]

Single guy's would be ready for sure any time ...

[DarkVoyuer 15]

I must be the exception to the single male stereotype. I was at a bar and an attractive woman just came up and asked me if I wanted to have sex and I said "Not tonight".

I know several men who have shot down attractive woman who asked for sex. Perhaps this annoying male stereotype is not as strong as it is projected. Did you want to have sex with her?

 

 

 

 

I must have stood out or she saw me as a challenge because she suddenly became a regular and kept at me until I said yes. It was only two weeks (the bar was around the corner from my apartment so I went there everyday after work before returning to heat up ravioli or Chinese leftovers) but I actually got off on this woman (who I found out was a local radio DJ) pursuing me. Since that time, if a woman makes the first move, I look at her breasts. If I see nipples, I flip a coin. Heads is yes, tails is no. If I don't, I say "No, but lets talk", because I know she will be back sooner or later.

Conceited? Maybe, but thats been my experience.

You know I have had sexual fantasies of rejecting beautiful women by using the same game you are playing. I guess I get annoyed at the stereotype that men can not have sexual power in that manner. Gender stereotypes just annoy. Perhaps I do not like to be viewed as simple. Ironically, I conform to many of the female stereotypes. I know some men who play this type of game. It's a little bit naughty, but it shows that men can leverage sexual power as well.

 

Oh, this was about a swing club? well, in that case, I think I would still do the "Not right now, but lets talk." In that environment, I know she can have sex and she SHOULD know she can have sex with little effort, so if I have to be on my best behavior and make the best impression I can, she should too.

I hate to say this, but men who know they can have sex with little effort are more likely to be called egomaniacs. Perhaps they are more blatant in their confidence. However, I am sure there are women who are as arrogant because they think or now they can have sex with little effort.

[DarkVoyuer 15]

This is a question only a woman would ask.

 

Woman: Hey guy wearing only a towel, can I touch your penis a bit, but I don't' want to do more?

 

Man: Yes.

 

You would have to make it clear how far you are looking to go but other than that, I rather doubt a single male at a swing club would answer no.

 

I can see several single males who would say no. If they do not find the woman attractive, all bets are off. If she is brutally stuck up, for some men, all bets are off. I am not saying many men would say yes. However, there will be men who are not attracted to the woman who said it.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

I can see several single males who would say no. If they do not find the woman attractive, all bets are off. If she is brutally stuck up, for some men, all bets are off. I am not saying many men would say yes. However, there will be men who are not attracted to the woman who said it.

 

I believe chicup was referring to a towel shark, not some guy in a bar.

BIG difference.

[DarkVoyuer 15]

I believe chicup was referring to a towel shark, not some guy in a bar.

BIG difference.

 

Correct me if I am wrong, but I thought his scenario concerned a woman offering to stroke a guys penis. If that was the case, there are guys who may decline. If this is not the case, my bad.

[dr_pepper 25]

I will happily participate in anyway that she would like.

[EroticGent 76]

A hand job is a pretty intimate act. I would need to feel some level of connection-- physical attraction, personality, etc.-- and comfort with the lady. My first response would be to thank the lady for her interest and start a short conversation--- perhaps talking about fantasies around a hand job to get a feel (no pun intended) for each other. If the lady approaches me with her husband, I would want to chat a bit with both.

 

If some comfort and attraction is there, I would say that I would be honored to get a hand job from the lady. As a single male in the lifestyle, I am here to help couples fulfill their fantasies (while fulfilling mine at the same time) and would want to make myself available to the lady of the couple to fulfill her desire to give a hand job.

 

I should say that the above would apply in the case of being approached out of the blue by a lady or couple. My response would be different if I were already part of a group sex situation and am already into the group play and relaxed and hot. In that case, if a woman just smiled and somehow communicated an interest and asked for permission with a look or nod, I would just let her go at it... and enjoy the group energy with a delicious hand job thrown in!

 

Ok... I know I am a weird male perve...