Do you keep a swinging diary or journal?

[LFM2 1,482]

Do you keep a diary of your swinging life?

 

Do you blog it anywhere online? On a myspace page?

 

Do you keep it private of just wonderful memories?

 

I was browsing somewhere and was interested how many people keep diaries of their swinging sexcapades. I was really curious how many of you guys do.

 

We don't. It's not because we're afraid someone would find it, but just too time consuming probably. We don't even keep notes of people whom we've met and thought we'd really like to know better or those whom we wouldn't want to know at all. I guess we keep a mental list.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Started to jot down our memoirs. We never had a concern that someone would find it. It simply became boring after a while. So the answer is, no, we don't.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I post some of our experiences in my blog here.... the really good and the really bad.... or whatever happens that makes me feel like writing something down.

[Greg & Sheryl 368]

The last two years of our swinging lives are pretty well-documented in our blog, which is public. Our primary blog is now on Blogger, but we can also be found on LiveJournal. In fact, it was a fellow member of the Swingers Board who turned us on to LJ in 2003 and got us blogging in the first place.

[ViSexual 1,008]

I wanted to keep the memories, even though I don't think I could ever forget, and be able to share them too.

 

But, I wanted to be annonymous to anyone other than those I wanted to share with.

 

I found this site;

 

The Online Diary - Join today, it's free!

 

You can even make your diary private to only you if you like.

[TravlParty 87]

The only thing we do is keep a spreadsheet of screen names and real first names (to help us remember). We add contact numbers and a little bit of information about them, especially notes about a great time we had.

 

We've thought about a blog, but were a bit nervous about doing that. Maybe someone we were with would see it and be offended.

[Guest screaminggood]

Just memories and only talked about when we're alone.

[fun4Ds 1,098]

I keep a personal work related journal/diary. Hand written, from 1990-2000. That's when I got a separate work computer. That journal runs current. That's really personal/ business/life related, so I never mix business with pleasure.(hence separate computers, separate diary). That business/life Journal, does have personal notes about certain people, places or an event for the day. I started this in 1990 from a respected gentlemen who at that time, was 91 years old. We raised (30) Sorrel Belgian Draft horses crossed with a Sorrel mammoth Jack-ass, to get what is known as a Draft Mules..(Animal husbandry) I digress, but that's how it got started for me personally. I asked him how he remembered so much stuff about his life. (he had many stories and recollections) He showed me from going back many years and just touching base with a few thoughts for the day, one could actually recall (the day) It actually works And just for the record, he told me, "Never write the self incriminating stuff"... Its accountable in a court of law

 

"Just keep that shit under yer hat". That's what he said Smart man.

 

I have had a look at Live Journal and visit occasionally but I can't seem to keep up, let alone get one going. I started my own blog here. But, most of that personal conversation, gets talked about over breakfast with Mrs.fun.

 

I do enjoy reading the blogs here. But even so, I get behind and post later or at least feel what I read is from a friend. It is nice to feel like someone can share their personal thoughts.... with me. That's how I see it...it's personal/private.

 

As far as our swinging journal. Mrs.fun I have a little (big) BLACK BOOK. We, or I should say, SHE. Keeps a record (hand written) of screen names matched with a little notes about who we meet. Screen names with First Names only. No addresses. But, we like to get a feel for someones first names. Last names are really not important to us when swinging. I can't think we have ever asked anyone. It does happen in time, but we don't feel the need to keep those names/numbers/addresses, associated in the black book. When we do become close enough to have a last names or numbers. We keep that in our regular address book with no reference.(we know who they are) Plus, we have the swinger hotline with first names and phone numbers stored in that phone. There again, those numbers are logged in the book in case the phone dies.... Along with a few cd's of all the folks who have shared pictures via yahoo. Hey, we like to review a few naked pics. Along with porno.

 

Without sounding freaky, our adult children know there are certain personal things, in our safe at home. Those things would, upon our death, be viewed and burned. They have no interest in knowing anything more about our swinging, other than, that we do. They cringe at the thought of our sex lives. Its an adult(living will) agreement we have.

[willyoats 324]

We never kept a diary, per se, but I know at least two of my swing partners who do.

 

Our first experience was with the owners of a swing club in Florida. Sometime after we made love, she told me that she was keeping a diary of experiences with her lovers in hopes of someday writing a book about swinging. I was entry (approximately) number 300 for that year. This was mid-summer, mind you, so she was a pretty active swinger! We met again about 5 years later at a swing convention. She didn't recognize or remember me at all. No surprise there, but I wonder if I am still in her diary.

 

Today is the 10th anniversary of the first time my favorite swing partner and I made love under the full moon in Mexico. Last night she wrote that her little book has an entry saying "Made love to (willyoats) on 11/18/98." I knew all along that she saves every love letter I write, but I didn't know that she also kept a diary.

 

I never had a diary, but for many years I did note, on a well hidden piece of paper, the names of all of the women I have been with and the number of encounters with each. I don't need to make notes for what each session was like because I have quite vivid memories of almost all of them going back around 20 years. The memories of the really good times are like they happened yesterday, as are the memories of the few that were true disasters. The ones in the middle are still with me to a greater or lesser degree.

 

There are times that I wish I had kept a diary so that I could compare my impressions as recorded then with what I think I recall now. Just for fun. But, that kind of reality check might ruin some of the fantasy that I now enjoy in "the camera of my mind" (as my above-mentioned favorite swinger calls memories). In truth, I am glad I don't have any hard copy because I'll bet that my memories are better than reality, and I like it that way.

[LFM2 1,482]

I wanted to keep the memories, even though I don't think I could ever forget, and be able to share them too.

 

But, I wanted to be annonymous to anyone other than those I wanted to share with.

 

I found this site;

 

The Online Diary - Join today, it's free!

 

You can even make your diary private to only you if you like.

 

Thanks for the link to that site. It would be wonderful to those who would like to keep a diary, private or otherwise!

[LFM2 1,482]

Greg & Sheryl said:

The last two years of our swinging lives are pretty well-documented in our blog, which is public. Our primary blog is now on Blogger, but we can also be found on LiveJournal. In fact, it was a fellow member of the Swingers Board who turned us on to LJ in 2003 and got us blogging in the first place.

 

Greg and Sheryl, I did peruse your one on Blogger. Very nicely done!! The other one on LJ seems harder to follow, but both are nice. Thanks for sharing those!

[LFM2 1,482]

Just memories and only talked about when we're alone.

 

This is pretty much Dave and I. Great (and not so great) memories where we either or

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Started to jot down our memoirs. We never had a concern that someone would find it. It simply became boring after a while. So the answer is, no, we don't.

I will re-state this. Our swing experience, would anyone have the time and inclination to document it, would most assuredly not be boring. What I meant to say is that we lost interest in writing the story.

 

Per the several suggestions made here, I am, in effect, documenting at least part of our story by posting messages at this bulletin board. A startling realization as I seem to have posted about 616 thus far.

[CXXC 435]

Hey folks. As many of you know, I am your classic Type A. I'm not so much a control freak as I am an individual who wants to keep things in order and organized. Sex is just not one of those things that can be kept in order or organized and I am happy with that. No! Really! I am!

 

When I get home after a play date or event, I like to write out the details and as much information as I can recall from our adventures. It helps me remember things clearly as well as enables me to formulate plans for future events.

 

Anyone else as strange as your favorite Geek, Mr. CXXC?

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

I am wondering if there is another soul out there who keeps a journal of the events, activities, lovers, playmates etc...

Have you ever seen the opera, Don Giovanni? Leporello, Don Giovanni's servant, keeps track of Don Giovanni's conquests on a scroll. In one scene, Leporello rolls the scroll out on the floor and begins to sing the long list of names while recounting the highlights of each "good time".

[Speed & Trixie 163]

Oh Mr. CXXC.... I, (Trixie) too, keep a journal but not so much for "encounters" as for general everyday life. It helps me to write things down because I really have to slow down and think about EXACTLY what it is I'm feeling.

 

Now, about those plane tickets ...

[talltim123 69]

A looooong time ago (1960's) I kept tract of lover's initials on a 3 x 5 card and it was lost. For many years I kept no records except for pleasant memories! For the past few years I have logged my "social encounters" in my Palm PDA with only initials as well as date, time, and location. When one of my friends asked me when the anniversary of our first meeting was, I able to tell her when we first met. This was for get a "acquainted brunch", as well as the date a few days later that I met her and her and her husband at their home for the beginning of a great long term poly relationship that evolved from a swinging relationship. He and I are both straight. The three of us have a limited number of mutual intimate, swinging based friends, as well as friends we do not share in common but, whom we know about.

 

It is of note that the husband of that couple was a high school classmate of my current main lady friend and she is quite mono. She was a long term professional and very platonic friend of mine that I had lost touch with after we both retired. The husband of the couple saw her at a high school reunion at a time after her husband died and asked her if she know me and she replied, yes, and, she told him it would be nice if he would ask me to contact her, which I did.

 

Early in her and my renewed relationship, she asked me how I knew the couple, as they live in a neighboring town about 30 minutes away. I truthfully told her we had met online and had some mutual (unmentioned) interests! It should be noted when our friendship was renewed I told her up front that I was not monogamous and very poly minded and while she did not share those values she accepted the fact that I did.

 

After she and I had dated for sometime, the subject of how I knew the couple in question would keep arising. Because of my respect and caring for her and wanting an honesty based relationship I felt it wise to inform her of "the rest of the story." When she next asked me again how I knew them I told her I would tell her if she really wanted to know and be able to deal with the consequences of such knowledge. She replied affirmatively, and, so I laid it all out for her. She expressed great surprise and shock that I had that relationship with the couple. She had known and accepted that I was poly and not at all monogamous. The real surprise was that she now had a specific name and face to associate with my non monogamy and had to confront it in fact, and not just in theory. After a few rough days for her to digest her knowledge of my relationship with the lady of the other couple, our relationship continues to thrive. Her expressed response and working hypothesis is she would rather have 95% of me than none of me.

 

She would be most welcome to join me in my other social "activities," however, she has no such current inclination, and the issue is not a focus of our ever stronger relationship.

 

Sorry for rambling away from the topic of this posting chain!

[willyoats 324]

A long time ago, the wrong person got a hold of sexy stuff I had written. The priest got involved and made a big fuss to my family about what a sinner I was. I didn't feel like a sinner then and I sure as hell don't feel like one after all these years in swinging. But, the SOB did teach me one thing. He told me that it is never wise to put anything in writing that you would be embarrassed to see on the front page of the New York Times.

 

Surely, I am breaking that rule by writing on this board. But, I would never have hard copy in the house of anything that I don't want my heirs to find if I get run over by the cement truck tomorrow.

 

I have a Canadian lover, with whom I trade love letters regularly. She keeps a copy of everything. I used to, but I burned them a while back along with a diary about the swinging partners I had been with. I feel safer.

 

A diary is a lot of fun, but there is risk.

[CXXC 435]

Have you ever seen the opera, Don Giovanni? Leporello, Don Giovanni's servant, keeps track of Don Giovanni's conquests on a scroll. In one scene, Leporello rolls the scroll out on the floor and begins to sing the long list of names while recounting the highlights of each "good time".

 

OK! Who told you that I was a Mozart fan? In fact, Don Geovanni is my favorite opera of his! And that story is priceless!!!!!

 

Thanks for the note. It made me smile!

[CXXC 435]

A long time ago, --------------

 

A diary is a lot of fun, but there is risk.

 

I keep my files very secure on my laptop. You would be hard pressed to be able to get to them.

 

That being said, I keep the names out of it to protect the "NOT-SO" innocent!

[CXXC 435]

Tim

One of the best things that I have gotten from my journal is the ability to read back through our history and correct misinformation or add new found items to the individuals info. Like you, I can tell anyone we have met, just when and where and why. and my wife just thinks I am being romantic when I recall things. HA! I need to remember. I hate forgetting a thing!

[CXXC 435]

Oh Mr. CXXC.... I, (Trixie) too, keep a journal but not so much for "encounters" as for general everyday life. It helps me to write things down because I really have to slow down and think about EXACTLY what it is I'm feeling.

 

Now, about those plane tickets ...

 

I generally keep a journal for encounters and then place specific information in my outlook calendar for life in the vanilla world. Keeping these two separate makes viewing the Vanilla one easier when at the office.

 

Plane tickets....Hmmm....Lets see....Denver International to Atlanta, Atlanta to Savannah. Should take you no more than 6 hours of flight time, add 2 for airport transport crap and then the 20 minutes from the airport to our house. So, say you leave early on Friday and you should be here for some great steaks, drinks and an eventful evening beginning with the hot tub!

[ViSexual 1,008]

I have the events of our, rather few, adventures on my-diary.org.

 

Some people keep photos, but I prefer the text. But, for me, it's like looking at old photos and I enjoy the memories at times.

[CXXC 435]

I looked at my-diary.org. Not so sure I feel all that comfy with anyone else having access to that info. Like I said, I keep this journal under lock and key. All Password protected and such.

[MrkLin 393]

If you've written it down, it will be read sooner or later. If you have anything you want kept secret, for God's sake, don't write it down, don't type it into the word processor, and, heaven help us, don't post it online on some 'secure' site. IT WON'T STAY SECRET!

 

I don't do journals, diaries, or anything else of the like. Nope - I don't keep a record of anything, other than e-mail addresses. Never write down anything you don't want read aloud in church while you're standing next to the one doing the reading.

 

We've all heard stories about someone's secret diary coming out, or unpublished papers leaking to the press. Unless your name is Anne Frank, just keep it to yourself. You might not care what others think of you, but try to respect the others in your life. Why screw up their lives because you had to jot down some notes?

 

I don't care how safe you think it is - it isn't safe. Don't write it down - it will be read by someone, sooner or later. If you really must write things down and feel that confident in your security measures, put your SSN and active bank account number at the top of every page you write. If you're the least bit hesitant to do that, you shouldn't write anything.

 

Still, it is your story - go ahead and put it down on paper, along with your SSN and bank account info, and prove me wrong.

[rpu3 630]

I don't care how safe you think it is - it isn't safe. Don't write it down - it will be read by someone, sooner or later. If you really must write things down and feel that confident in your security measures, put your SSN and active bank account number at the top of every page you write. If you're the least bit hesitant to do that, you shouldn't write anything.

 

Still, it is your story - go ahead and put it down on paper, along with your SSN and bank account info, and prove me wrong.

 

Eh, I think I'll save myself the trouble of a personal financial fiasco and leave the SSN off my various computer-based musings. Just because I'm hesitant to put my SSN, etc. on top of a journal entry doesn't mean I "shouldn't" do it.

 

There's a difference between having my journal looked at versus having my identity stolen along with my hard-earned 401K, savings account, checking account and my good credit record. Not that my SSN is safe in this day and age, of course.

[The Fuse 1,012]

It's a coincidence for me that this subject should come up now, because I had been in the habit of writing my personal stuff in a notebook that I also used for work. I work at home, so this is not normally the issue it might be otherwise.

 

However... after returning from a business trip, I appear to be missing my notebook.

 

Now I am trying to remember if there's anything in there that could link me to it. There are no last names in there, including my own, or even my first name. Mostly it is engineering notes that would make no sense to anyone but me. But if someone were to leaf through it, they would find my musings on things that were meant for no one's eyes but my own. Things I would not want anyone to see, that would cause problems for me in my personal life. I often write about things that bother me, and I don't sugarcoat in my own journal.

 

It seems to me the best course of action is to do nothing. It is possible I left the notebook at my client's site, but more likely I dropped it at the airport gate after taking it out of my laptop case for some reason.

 

I say do nothing because if anyone found it but doesn't know whose it is, I would rather it stay that way. If they find in and connect it with me, I'll find out about it sooner or later anyway. And if I start anxiously asking questions, and someone does find it, they will be more likely to look through it. If someone finds it, say at my client's site, they are more likely to throw it away before connecting it with me if they don't know I am looking for it.

 

I am posting this in case anyone has a better suggestion, and also to illustrate what *can* happen when you keep a journal. I've been writing on and off since I was in middle school, and this is the first time anything like this has happened.

[Speed & Trixie 163]

Oh man Mrs. Fuse, I totally know how you feel! I left my journal in a classroom once (WHAT was I thinking....), but fortunately when I returned a few hours later it was exactly where I'd left it. No one ever said anything, but I can't help but wonder if anyone read it.

 

In middle school, my little brother used to proudly quote my journal entries to me after finding them -- also very traumatic LOL.

 

I'm a writer by nature, and I'm not gonna stop anytime soon. The journal stays safely at home now, but if you don't wanna be in it, then don't be memorable!

[Chicup 41]

Eh, I think I'll save myself the trouble of a people financial fiasco and leave the SSN off my various computer-based musings. Just because I'm hesitant to put my SSN, etc. on top of a journal entry doesn't mean I "shouldn't" do it.

 

There's a difference between having my journal looked at versus having my identity stolen along with my hard-earned 401K, savings account, checking account and my good credit record. Not that my SSN is safe in this day and age, of course.

 

I think he had a good point though.

 

If you are super sure no one will read your journal than you might as well put your SSN on it too, if you won't then obviously you are not super sure.

 

Personally I don't see a problem with keeping a journal, as long as you know that there is a good chance someone will one day read it.

 

For example part of me would not mind if say 50 years from now when I'm safely dead, if my son were to find my journal as perhaps it would help him understand his old man a bit better and he would be old enough to understand the swinging part. On the other hand I would not want him finding it 10 years from now when he has no life experiences to understand our odd little hobby.

 

I think there is a lot of value in keeping a journal. Over all I'm just too lazy.

[CXXC 435]

Did anyone miss the parts of my blogs and threads that I am a computer geek? If you knew the measures I have in place to secure my network, I don't think you would fear my journal.

Add the fact that no names are used. Initials are all that I need. I have the names in my phone and in my E-mail.

 

Add another safety feature....It is only Mrs. CXXC in my house. No one can get to my personal computer unless I invite them into that specific room.

 

I understand and agree, be careful where you host your info. Don't include the names of the individuals and don't give access to the system.

 

Thanks for bringing this up tho! It may be a good point for those who keep them to consider.

[rpu3 630]

I think he had a good point though.

 

If you are super sure no one will read your journal than you might as well put your SSN on it too, if you won't then obviously you are not super sure.

 

Nah, I wouldn't put it on even if I were sure. It doesn't belong. And I don't need to increase the risk of damage if I'm wrong about the security. It's probably one of those YMMV issues, coupled with me responding more to MrkLin's "If you're the least bit hesitant to do that, you shouldn't write anything. " I tend to react to the "should" and "shouldn't" conditions/imperatives given "should" and "shouldn't" tend to impose or imply a duty or obligation or condition on another.

 

Anyway, I'm not sure about anything in life. I could lose my job tomorrow, my spouse could dump me, my house could be foreclosed on due to a bank error, or my laptop could be stolen and the Lojak system in it will fail to work and my musings and my compromising photos could be gone. So no, I'm not super-sure, and I will never be super-sure. In the meantime, putting my SSN or another sensitive piece of data on my journal-like documents isn't going to help me out one iota if indeed something happens, except I gave out even more information than I wanted or intended to.

 

Back to the OP's Topic: I do keep a kind-of, sort-of journal, but not of the sexual variety, just regarding life in general. No lists of partners, except in my head. My e-mails are my personal smoking gun with current/past/potential partners, and of course I'd prefer not to be out there for the whole world to see, given sometimes my e-mails are kind of journal-like, depending on the recipient. Those e-mails are probably more at risk than my computer (I don't keep a handwritten journal), given I use a web-based service about 80% of the time.

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

 

If you've written it down, it will be read sooner or later. If you have anything you want kept secret, for God's sake, don't write it down, don't type it into the word processor, and, heaven help us, don't post it online on some 'secure' site. IT WON'T STAY SECRET!

 

I don't do journals, diaries, or anything else of the like. Nope - I don't keep a record of anything, other than e-mail addresses. Never write down anything you don't want read aloud in church while you're standing next to the one doing the reading.

 

We've all heard stories about someone's secret diary coming out, or unpublished papers leaking to the press. Unless your name is Anne Frank, just keep it to yourself. You might not care what others think of you, but try to respect the others in your life. Why screw up their lives because you had to jot down some notes?

 

I don't care how safe you think it is - it isn't safe. Don't write it down - it will be read by someone, sooner or later. If you really must write things down and feel that confident in your security measures, put your SSN and active bank account number at the top of every page you write. If you're the least bit hesitant to do that, you shouldn't write anything.

 

Still, it is your story - go ahead and put it down on paper, along with your SSN and bank account info, and prove me wrong.

Well MrkLin, you're doing plenty of writing here. It may not be details of your sex play but people will know enough of what you do when you post on a swingers site and have a link to pictures on your Swing Lifestyle profile.

 

You might as well add your SSN and active bank account number in your signature line here.

 

If anyplace, the internet is the easiest way to expose yourself and you've done just that. Your Swing Lifestyle profile has plenty of public pictures that any relative, neighbor, co-worker or friend could identify you and your wife by. The fuzzy face thing doesn't keep you anonymous from those who already know you. So I'll turn your question back to you, You might not care what others think of you, but try to respect the others in your life. Why screw up their lives because you had to jot down some notes?

 

You are definitely a notetaker, a journal keeper, and thousands of people who visit the Board each year have read what you've written and will continue to do so for years to come.

 

A journal under a mattress has less significance or chance of affecting your life than your present exposure on the internet.

[MrkLin 393]

Well MrkLin, you're doing plenty of writing here. It may not be details of your sex play but people will know enough of what you do when you post on a swingers site and have a link to pictures on your Swing Lifestyle profile.

 

You might as well add your SSN and active bank account number in your signature line here.

 

If anyplace, the internet is the easiest way to expose yourself and you've done just that. Your Swing Lifestyle profile has plenty of public pictures that any relative, neighbor, co-worker or friend could identify you and your wife by. The fuzzy face thing doesn't keep you anonymous from those who already know you. So I'll turn your question back to you, You might not care what others think of you, but try to respect the others in your life. Why screw up their lives because you had to jot down some notes?

 

You are definitely a notetaker, a journal keeper, and thousands of people who visit the Board each year have read what you've written and will continue to do so for years to come.

 

A journal under a mattress has less significance or chance of affecting your life than your present exposure on the internet.

 

Everything you've said is 100% true, with one exception - if we are outed, we're the only ones hurt by it. We're not naming names or giving details in our Swing Lifestyle profile, anything I've written, or any picture I've posted. That's what I meant when I said, "You might not care what others think of you, but try to respect the others in your life. Why screw up their lives because you had to jot down some notes?" I name no names at all. Heck, I send party invites via blind copy so that I'm the only one who knows exactly who all was invited. While that might seem a bit extreme, there are some of our friends who don't want their e-mail address shared - even with other party guests.

 

My point remains - I do write a lot, and I know it - but if anyone were to identify us or track us down due to anything I've written or any picture I've posted, we're the only ones hurt by it. The same can't be said for that journal or diary if it should fall into the wrong hands. Stuff gets stolen every day - and not necessarily the most valuable stuff. Computers are hot commodities, and are one of the most stolen items in our homes. While most of us tend to think that home burglaries only happen to the other guy, just remember that to everyone else on this board, you are the other guy.

 

Now maybe I shouldn't have been as pedantic as I was in my first post, but I've seen what happens when a mother gets hold of a kid's diary, and if a tell-all journal gets put into the wrong hands, it'll make the firestorm I witnessed look like an Easter egg hunt. Not only would you be outed, but so would everyone you wrote about in your journal. I refuse to do that to other people. That's what I meant.

 

Nope, sorry - I maintain that you shouldn't write anything down that you don't want used against you later - and info like this would certainly be used against you. I just think it's foolish, but to each his/her own. We obviously disagree on the subject, and that's fine. Please understand that I meant no disrespect to anyone, and have no animosity toward anyone. If you take nothing else away from either of my posts so far, know that you can rest assured that I consider everyone's privacy to be first and foremost - always. Anyone we've ever met in the lifestyle will NOT be outed by anything I say or do. Period.

[Malachista 170]

I have a wall calender full of stickers and codes.... while some stuff is rather basic (like laundry day) there are also symbols for different sexual things.

It's in plain view for everyone coming to my home, but it's just as useless if you don't know what each symbol means (and since I use this for years now, I don't have a written a guide to it anywhere)

[CXXC 435]

You know, there is an interesting thought. Photos on one's profile. I have made it a point not to post photos from my vanilla life as my LS profile photos. I have also done all that I can to ensure body modifications are not in focus or readily viewable. Add the fact that no one can view my personal photos unless I give them permission.

 

GOOD Call there!

 

Back to the diary.

 

It would be irresponsible to have other peoples full names in my diary. More over, it would be a big mistake as that would put them in harms way if someone were to find the diary.

 

Simple initials (one) is all I use. The event is not named by location, address or title. I think I have covered my basses pretty well!

[MrkLin 393]

Back to the diary.

 

It would be irresponsible to have other peoples full names in my diary. More over, it would be a big mistake as that would put them in harms way if someone were to find the diary.

 

Simple initials (one) is all I use. The event is not named by location, address or title. I think I have covered my basses pretty well!

 

You, sir, get the gold star. My entire rant was not so much about being outed ourselves - it was directed toward accidentally or inadvertently outing someone else. I refuse to do that to someone else with my words, photographs, or videos. Nope - your privacy is paramount to me.

[The Fuse 1,012]

... after returning from a business trip, I appear to be missing my notebook.

 

It is possible I left the notebook at my client's site, but more likely I dropped it at the airport gate after taking it out of my laptop case for some reason.

 

A short update... I did leave my notebook, which contains some journal entries as well as my work notes, at my client site. Ugh ugh ugh. My main point of contact guy, the one who gives me my assignments and with whom I work on a regular basis, found it. Ugh ugh ugh. I mentioned I'd misplaced it because I was asking him for some information I'd written in it, and he said he had found it. I just fucking hope he hasn't read the parts that were not work-related.

 

All he wrote was that he had located it and that he could mail it if I would like. If he did see anything, he is being discreet. I am just going to say nothing until and unless someone says something to me. I may have left it in the lab, which means he's not the only one who could have looked at it.

 

I suppose I could get all worked up about it, but the thing is that whatever has happened, has already happened. I can't do anything about it now and drawing any attention to the notebook could not make the situation any better.

 

Lesson learned: Remove journal entry pages from notebook immediately after writing. Put away in a safe place.

[gatorvol64 216]

I keep a journal. About life in general but mostly about our journey through our poly relationship. If you've read any of my blogs here, you know I work things out through writing. The journal holds nothing back. Whether good or bad. I "think" better when I write it all out.

[Meetussoon 68]

I spent a summer away from Mrs. Meetussoon for work in 2003, 3 months. I met a very cool, sexy, young woman and we started to hang out a bit. The flirting was increasing, and I knew two things - I didn't want her to think of me as a cheating married man, and she was hesitant because I was married. So, Mrs. Meetussoon wrote her a letter, not that hey were swingers -its ok, but in the grain of, its a long summer, she (Mrs. Meetussoon) is bi and has a girlfriend, so if you and Mr. Meetussoon want to enjoy the summer- go ahead. Man I love my wife.

 

I got the letter, opened it in the post office, and then lost it. I did not know if I left it in the post office, or the apartment or what, and I didn't want my summer roommate - an old friend of ours - to find it. The envelope also had a letter from the mrs. about her adventures while I had been away. For awhile I was worried.

 

Eventually - it was back in the mailbox taped closed- I had left it on the counter in the post office.

 

But, it does illustrate - as does many of the stories, if its written its possible to get exposed. As for online pictures -- in the modern world don't believe any picture is "copy protected" despite a websites claims of security. If you post it, it can be used, edited, photoshopped, etc.

[MrkLin 393]

As for online pictures -- in the modern world don't believe any picture is "copy protected" despite a websites claims of security. If you post it, it can be used, edited, photoshopped, etc.

 

An excellent point. Everyone with a computer has all of the tools needed to capture, save, edit, print, and repost any picture on the internet - even pictures posted on so-called 'secure sites.' All of the necessary tools come with the computer right out of the box. You might not know how to do it, but you literally have everything needed at your fingertips. My point is to be careful what you post, as well as what you write down.

[CXXC 435]

Truly, anything you post on the web can and probably will be seen by people you would rather not have see it. Remember, some people who are not in the lifestyle just perv the sites looking for porn of any kind. How funny is it to run into a profile of someone you know but didn't know was a swinger? I have met a few people in our area that I never set up meetings with. We have laughed like we had a little private joke. The most uncomfortable situation was when people ask how we knew each other. Fast thinking there!