Those who are bisexual - what was your first sign?

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Ok, I think most of us have a defining point where we can say that we figured out we were bisexual. BUT, looking back (gotta love hindsight) what was the first sign that you might have been attracted to the opposite sex?

 

For me, looking back, I'd say it was the fact that I could check out other women with my guy friends and rate them, without ever feeling the least bit odd.

[lustylearning 705]

Although there were later, more obvious signals, I think I got a clue my first lifestyle night when a wonderful woman kissed me, and it felt so natural that it didn't even occur to me until the next day that it was, in fact, a woman who had kissed me

[Tracey2 103]

I got my first clue during high school while looking through some magazines that belonged to my boyfriend. There were some girl/girl porn scenes in one and I was absolutely blindsided by how excited I got looking at them. My boyfriend didn't even know that I had seen them and I never in a million years could have told him how I felt about them.

 

I was able to open up about my bisexual feelings to my husband when I was 18. Like Julie, I've always pointed out hot girls to him all through my marriage. I was still really shy about my feelings, though, really only able to enjoy them while we were in the middle of having sex. Well, it only took us 16!! years until we finally did something involving another woman and well, let's just say I'm no longer curious or shy about how I feel

[Guest screaminggood]

In high school, there was a girl that I had sexual dreams about...kind of freaked me out at the time, but I definitely liked looking at the girls in porn as well. I think I always had the fantasies, but it wasn't until I was on top of my husband one night, and he asked me if I would ever consider being with a woman that I really acknowledged it. As soon as I had my first experience, I knew what I'd been missing!

[Playful1 434]

When I realized I spent more time checking out women than men and had more fantasies involving women.

[NakedInSeattle 159]

Funny how the word bisexual in the title caused everybody to answer the question about attraction to the "same sex" when your question asked about attraction to the "opposite sex." Did you mean to throw us a curve ball or is this a typo?

[CuriousLeo's 19]

I'm not sure I am 'bi' but here is my two cents anyway...

 

I first started to become interested in cocks, and then m/m stuff while enjoying porn during my college days. Never once did I consider liking guys in H.S. And never looked at guys and could even say one was more attractive than another.

 

But during my single days of watching porn I started to realize I liked seeing cock and cocks cumming etc... I repressed it for years, as all good catholic macho boys should, and after big fights trying to hide the porn and thoughts from my wife, it came out, and I am very glad it did.

 

The weight was off my shoulders, I found out she thought it was super hot, we had previously talked about swinging, but this certainly added fuel to our fire. So here we are, broke our cherry a week ago, with swinging, and my first time with a man.

[CXXC 435]

Mrs. CXXC had several fantasies regarding girl/girl play in her early 20's. As time passed, the desire became real and her fulfillment of this desire became a need. At long last she had her experience at 33. To make certain she was doing it for her and not just to please me or put on a show, she had a girl/girl activity on her own without any men in the room. She walked away from that event knowing full well that she was Bi.

 

To her, pleasure knows no gender.

[ShinyHappyGirl 52]

I first realized when I was in the 1st grade.

 

All through kindergarten, all of my crushes were girls. I was hopelessly into girls and didn't even realize that was "weird" until one of my teenage aunts asked me who I liked in my class. When I named a girl she said "no, who do you want to kiss?" Confused, I named another girl. She laughed and said "No silly! What boy do you want to kiss?! You're a girl! You like boys!" I was super confused so I just named a boy and from that point on, I never let anyone know I wanted to kiss girls.

 

But then in 1st grade I developed a crush on a boy and from then on, it was pretty even between boys and girls for me. I thought I was insane and unique until I learned what a bisexual was in 9th grade lol. I didn't even know how women had sex until I was in 10th grade (and I didn't do it myself until I was 18!)

[ALilOEverything 901]

I didn't even know if I knew the term "bisexual" when the signs first started coming around. Like ShineyHappyGirl it was at a really young age. When I started having overnights with girlfriends is when I started having those thoughts, about 3 grade. I would lay in the same bed as my girlfriend and wish like mad I could touch them and make out with them. I never had the courage too until my late teens though.

[june_sugar 40]

In high school, I was part of a really progressive church that had a lot of programming for youth, so in going to a lot of youth get-togethers (sleepovers, conferences, workshops) I started to notice lesbians and bi girls and thought their relationships were very interesting... Occasionally I'd find a couple whose interactions I really liked and they'd almost become a model for something I wanted to have. I got a lot of attention from some of the lesbians at my school and youth group, which of course I liked. Later, after having some pretty decent relationships with guys I realized that I liked being with both and how different the two types of relationships could be. Now, I really like to play with couples because I get both!

[gsu22 187]

When I was a teen (15-16 years old)...playing baseball in tournaments throughout the southeast...and we'd have to share rooms with a team member at the hotels. One day after a game, me and my roommate came back after a hot day of playing baseball all day...he got in the shower first and when he came out and came into the room as I laid on my bed watching TV, he dropped his towel and had a semi-hard cock. That's when mine got rock hard haha

 

I later found out a teammate was gay and decided to "room" with him on a later trip...we ended up having fun and rooming from there on out for the rest of the season!

[biplayfulcouple 20]

When I was a teen (15-16 years old)...playing baseball in tournaments throughout the southeast...and we'd have to share rooms with a team member at the hotels. One day after a game, me and my roommate came back after a hot day of playing baseball all day...he got in the shower first and when he came out and came into the room as I laid on my bed watching TV, he dropped his towel and had a semi-hard cock. That's when mine got rock hard haha

 

I later found out a teammate was gay and decided to "room" with him on a later trip....we ended up having fun and rooming from there on out for the rest of the season!

We were in our 40's and in the LS at the time. we were hot-tubbing with another couple (and very drunk) when the other wife started doing "dares". The girls each ate each other, played, & kissed first. Then the guys had to "taste cock" in order to get a sex reward from the wives. That changed everything for me. I had no clue that I would end up liking it, especially when my wife assists and tells me what to do. It's a huge turn-on for both of us. Crazy huh?

[YZF 8]

Mrs YZF here: I was always taller than all the other girls in my circle of friends so naturally I gravitated toward sports like volleyball and basketball. I was very good at basketball but I excelled at volleyball and early on that was the sport I went with.

 

I was 12 and at a weekend volleyball camp at Campwood. I wound up sharing a room with a girl a couple of years older than me. She was sleeping in panties and a t-shirt, I was sleeping in full jammies. I woke up in the middle of the night and she was masturbating. She had her hand down her panties and was humping it slowly. I stared at her for a while then she looked over and saw me looking at her.

 

I asked her what she was doing and I remember her answer. She said, "You don't know?"

 

Well I didn't know. But it looked enjoyable. She asked me to go over to her bed and watch.

 

It was not too long before we hand our hand down each others panties and I had my first orgasm. We experimented with eating each other that night. I was a straight up, in the closet, lipstick lesbian until my junior year in high school when I gave my first blowjob and wound up knowing I was bi then.

[LFM2 1,482]

I knew I found females "attractive" and actually fantasized about being with other females when I was around 12. I was still attracted to boys at that age, but girls held a certain curiosity.

[walt1961 15]

When I went in military I met this beautiful mature woman who had been my first in sex in like forever. She asked me what would you do for me if I brought another girl over for a threesome and I told her, whatever she asked me to do. The following weekend she invited a close friend of hers that was about 55 years old and said my new classes started and I have been orally bi since and have enjoyed every minute of it.

[Rackir 159]

I'm not sure I am 'bi' but here is my two cents anyway...

 

I first started to become interested in cocks, and then m/m stuff while enjoying porn during my college days. Never once did I consider liking guys in H.S. And never looked at guys and could even say one was more attractive than another.

 

But during my single days of watching porn I started to realize I liked seeing cock and cocks cumming etc... I repressed it for years, as all good catholic macho boys should, and after big fights trying to hide the porn and thoughts from my wife, it came out, and I am very glad it did.

 

The weight was off my shoulders, I found out she thought it was super hot, we had previously talked about swinging, but this certainly added fuel to our fire. So here we are, broke our cherry a week ago, with swinging, and my first time with a man.

 

Mr. Leo

 

Congratulations on multiple fronts. Your first experience, finding someone you can honest with, and being honest with yourself! Congrats!

 

For me, I had suspicions for a long time, but didn’t even think of myself as anything other than straight because it was always women who caught my eye. I didn’t actually realize that I had a real desire to play with other men until my wife and I entered a phase of our lives where we got pretty heavily into drug use (a phase which is now many years past). Say what you will about meth, it does do some really amazing things to a person's sexuality (possible thesis topic there). That’s when the fantasies really started happening. One night while I was alone I decided to see how they translated to reality, met a guy on AOL and invited him back to my place. Yup, completely enjoyed the experience (just oral and hand), and it became a recurring part of my fantasy life.

 

Since then I've had a few (very few really) chances to play with other guys, and though it still almost entirely women to whom I am attracted, I simply cannot deny the joy I get from playing with another guy, so there it is, I'm definitely Bi (Kinsey would feel so validated).

[TheLorax 173]

I hung around with the gay crowd in my hometown when I was younger. Even as I was exploring my sexuality at a young age, I found male erotica interesting, though I was far more interested in heterosexual erotica. Curiously enough, as a child my first sexual exploration experiences when I was 6 and then 8 were with another boy, but that wasn't something I would consider anything other than normal kids seeing what other kids had "down there." Then, shortly before I was 18, I lost my virginity to the woman who would be my first wife. So I knew I wasn't gay, obviously I was straight. We did some swinging and after a few years we split up amicably.

 

When I was in my early 20s I was hiking along with a group and the guy in front of me had taken his shirt off and I was admiring his back while we were hiking. Then I was telling myself, "wait, he's a guy, I shouldn't be finding that sexy (male or female, a well developed back is sexy to me!). That started a conversation with myself as I was hiking along and by the time we got back to the trail head I'd figured out that there was another option other than gay or straight. It wasn't for another two years before I had my first sexual experience with another man. It didn't suddenly make me a different person. I enjoyed it and fantasized about it. Since then I've still mostly been sexually involved with women. But my attraction to someone develops partly from who they are, and partly from whether they are interested in me as well. It's only the fact that the dating pool is far larger for opposite sex mixings that I wound up in a triad with two women.

[Karmickiss 28]

Hi All, great thread,

 

It's so nice to be visiting the forums again....Anyway, jumping in here hope it's okay. I think this is an interesting thread. I remember since being very very young, and throughout childhood having usually one female "friend", that I was close to...and in some way, "dares" or adventurous "games" or even role playing by making up our own "soap operas" would end up in experimenting. Some of this doing all that we could possibly think of to "do" as two girls...even oral sex...and for the longest time after getting married young, I kind of stuffed those memories down, not thinking too deeply about it.

 

Then, in later teen years, and also in my first marriage years I too, like someone here said, started having erotic dreams with females...and after a particularly vivid one, that stayed in my mind for weeks, I had a revelation that I was, in fact was bi...and couldn't believe that I didn't identify as that a long time ago!! I have several gay friends, and always did...it just amazes me that it took me until about 19 to really admit this part of me.

 

Speaking of dreams....when I was very young, and on and off for years I dreamed that I was with a woman, but for whatever reason, I was always a "man" in those dreams...doing things to women....I'd be willing to bet I've probably been a man in maybe most of my past lives (yes I'm one of those...lol, believe in reincarnation)...but perhaps, too, it was a way of staying in "denial" for as long as I did.

 

Now, and for a long time...I've been much more happy and open since the admission. I love being female, and I love other women...it is totally different for me in some ways...but the same in others. Hoping all have a great day today.

[chiswing69 15]

I think I always knew but denied it too. I think this is my first post too? LOL

 

But yeah ever since I was like about 5 or 6 I've had a fascination with my body period, I loved being naked yada yada, which ok isn't so bi-esque. But when I was around 8-10 I decided to have a sleep over and dare my friend to show me his penis or just get naked with me, then slowly I started daring to touch each others penis yada yada. It was weird but I ended up stroking his cock and really really enjoyed it. I wanted to ask him if I can put it in my mouth (YEAH AND I WAS ONLY AROUND 10) but he basically said no that would be gay (lol as if what we were doing wasn't?) Anyway 2 years later around 12, I did the same thing with another friend of mine after I had moved away, no stroking just weird kid exploration... stuff... lol After that, mind you both friendships got weird, then a third time happened when I was around 14? This was just us asking to see each others junk and nothing happened. Now I do admit if a guy is good looking but I have no interest in men like that, I love women and more importantly I love my wife, but I am very interested, especially lately! in sucking cock or stroking one, helping my wife, possibly having sex with a man even... yes I'm getting hard as I type this out and I admit I feel weird about it at the same time I've been enjoying a lot of bi sexual porn. My wife loves the idea, when I told her about it all (she's bi) she was so turned on! We were doing the dirty dirty and had her dildo out and I put it in her mouth then put it in mine and when she saw that she just started going nuts.

 

Anyway, enough of my rambling on. But that's my whole history on my first signs and current fantasies... lol the hardest thing is to find a totally bi couple or bi guy that we can trust. Meh, better safe and waiting then sorry!

[ViSexual 1,008]

When I was about 12 a friend and I were talking about girls, and masturbating together in a tent in his back yard one night.

 

He asked me if I wanted to do each other and my silence must have indicated yes.

 

His hand felt really good on me. It was the first hand, other than my own.

 

But what really surprised me was that his erect penis felt better in my hand than his hand was feeling on my penis.

 

After a long while of just playing with each other he asked if I would suck it.

 

I immediately answered, "no way"!

 

We continued to masturbate each other until we both ejaculated.

 

I, later, wished I said instead..., "you first".

 

It was not until I'd graduated and spent seven years in the military and been married several years that I experimented again. Long story, made short, I experienced my first giving oral on a man. It was interesting and I enjoyed it but not nearly as much as I expected. And not nearly as much as I enjoy giving oral to a woman.

 

I guess my favorite is to have both at once with a man and a woman.

[gsu22 187]

Wow I got hard reading that...definitely hard to find a bi couple. I've always had a fantasy of finding a bi couple where the wife didn't mind if the guy would play alone when she wasn't home sometimes...

 

I've found a few but they're all guys just cheating on their wives and I say no thanks (hence a thread I started a few weeks back).

 

I think I always knew but denied it too. I think this is my first post too? LOL

 

But yeah ever since I was like about 5 or 6 I've had a fascination with my body period, I loved being naked yada yada, which ok isn't so bi-esque. But when I was around 8-10 I decided to have a sleep over and dare my friend to show me his penis or just get naked with me, then slowly I started daring to touch each others penis yada yada. It was weird but I ended up stroking his cock and really really enjoyed it. I wanted to ask him if I can put it in my mouth (YEAH AND I WAS ONLY AROUND 10) but he basically said no that would be gay (lol as if what we were doing wasn't?) Anyway 2 years later around 12, I did the same thing with another friend of mine after I had moved away, no stroking just weird kid exploration... stuff... lol After that, mind you both friendships got weird, then a third time happened when I was around 14? This was just us asking to see each others junk and nothing happened. Now I do admit if a guy is good looking but I have no interest in men like that, I love women and more importantly I love my wife, but I am very interested, especially lately! in sucking cock or stroking one, helping my wife, possibly having sex with a man even... yes I'm getting hard as I type this out and I admit I feel weird about it at the same time I've been enjoying a lot of bi sexual porn. My wife loves the idea, when I told her about it all (she's bi) she was so turned on! We were doing the dirty dirty and had her dildo out and I put it in her mouth then put it in mine and when she saw that she just started going nuts.

 

Anyway, enough of my rambling on. But that's my whole history on my first signs and current fantasies... lol the hardest thing is to find a totally bi couple or bi guy that we can trust. Meh, better safe and waiting then sorry!

[peanut1972 15]

In hindsight I was young probably around 7 I found my dad's porno mag, I was disgusted! How could he do this to my mom! I couldn't stop looking at either the girl on girl action was amazing. Around the same time I had a female friend who I would play doctor with. I liked her and liked her brother two. The age I say is 12 because I really started to think about sex, as sex, then. I loved men but I had this attraction to women and actresses. I didn't think to much about my sexuality because there were no people I found attractive in high school. I knew what I was, I knew I liked both but no one around me did anything for me.

[raleighncnaked 16]

Here's a twist - I'm the male in this couple and my bisexuality developed more as a physiological phenomena than as a psychological one. In my teens, I was never able to masturbate to orgasm. I would masturbate, and stick things in my ass to stimulate my prostate (I later learned) but was never able to cum. I had sex with a number of girls and was able to cum that way but, as you can imagine, it was frustrating to have only that one outlet. Then, when I was 19, I allowed a man to seduce me. He fucked me in the ass and I came without even touching my cock. After that, I learned how to masturbate (at first by sticking things in my ass), and also learned that I could enjoy the company of men as well as women. For me it was that first time with a man that made the difference - I was Pavlov's dog and that man was able to ring my bell.

[MsGoneWild 182]

When I first found myself sexually attracted to a female coworker of BF and I's at an old job... I knew I was legit bisexual.

[PassionIsIn 15]

I grew up and went to school in a very GLBT-friendly area, my best friend in school was a gay guy, and there were plenty of same sex couples at my High School. So while I had a very conservative/strict upbringing, I was still exposed to the idea relatively young.

 

A close girlfriend of mine was quite the party-girl back then, and she talked about her bisexual rendezvous with me all the time, which sparked my interest in exploring women myself. I noticed when she talked about it I would get really hot and start noticing how sexy she was and how intriguing I found that naughty side of her.

 

She came down to visit me after I got married, and one night we all were drinking a bit and being silly. She made a move towards me that night and it ended up being my first sexual experience with a woman...a 3some w/ her and my hubby (I was 19 at the time). After that, I guess you could say I was hooked

 

That experience led us, very quickly, into the lifestyle to further explore our fantasies and desires. My main conclusion about my own bisexuality was in discovering what beautiful beings women are, their skin, their hair, their eyes...their bodies in general are simply made to be touch, teased, and explored!

[billanderin 18]

I had fooled around a bit with boys in high school - guys that played sports knew that to hang around the locker room after others had gone home meant you wanted to play. When I went to the Naval academy, I had several boyfriends. I found that a lot of that activity was considered normal and mostly ignored. I also had many sexual relationships with girls and enjoyed both.

 

My parents were very conservative Catholics and would have been totally shocked if they had known. I didn't tell my wife (also a Catholic girl) until after we married but to my surprise, she was very receptive and was anxious to incorporate it into our swinging. Our son is also bi and we support him totally.

 

It has worked well for us - brought us closer as a couple.

[dr_pepper 25]

As I remember, my first sexual encounter was at age 6 with the girl next door, and our checking each other out. And I found that I really was fascinated with girls. It was around age 10 or so that a guy friend, and I were both horny and couldn't find any girls to play with, so we started masturbating together and each other. He nor I thought anything of this, because we really wanted to explore things with girls.

 

During high school, I had some platonic relationships with girls. Since I was terribly shy I never really got to explore the sexual side. Eventually, I did find a lady who I married and enjoyed that side of life. After a few years, her and I had some problems and during a period of separation, I stayed with a friend from work, who I knew was supposed to be bi, but wasn't really concerned about that. Then, one night I woke up feeling my dick being sucked, and thought, now this is interesting. I looked over and saw my friend busy at work, and his beautiful, hard dick, sticking right out at me. Of course I had to help him and took matters in hand. All of this felt perfectly natural. I wanted to do more for him, but he was afraid of scaring me.

 

Nothing more has happened with a guy since then, but a later marriage found me with a very sexual woman, who learned that she was bi around age 15, when she was very close to another girl and found that she liked it. In time she learned about my experiences and she loved it and wanted me to do more. Sadly, we were never able to do all that we wanted in a sexual vein, with others, but I learned so much from her.

 

Now, I have to say that I have no desire to have a relationship with another guy, but I sure love seeing a hard dick. And certainly I am not afraid of one. But, I love women, in so many ways

[Fantasy01 11]

I wasn't at first at least I didn't think I was...but about 2 years ago...I started thinking what it would be like to suck a man's cock. The next problem, I thought, was telling my wife. But turned out she was totally in favor of me being Bi and told me she would like to watch a man either screwing me or vice versa...Kinda like I was about watching two women having sex...Now we are in search of a She-male.

[Chicup 41]

I wasn't at first at least I didn't think I was...but about two years ago...I started thinking what it would be like to suck a man's cock. The next problem, I thought, was telling my wife. But turned out she was totally in favor of me being Bil and told me she would like to watch a man either screwing me or vice versa...Kinda like I was about watching two women having sex...Now we are in search of a She-male.

 

Why a she-male?

[couplers 4,634]

Hi, this is Petra. Although I didn't know it at the time, my first sign was when I went from being jealous of hubby having sex with another woman to being turned on by it. I wasn't involved with those first girls that hubby screwed, but got a thrill when he got home (or she left and I got back to my house) from hearing about what they did, tasting her when I sucked his dick, and smelling her smell on him. In my mind I justified it as maybe kinky, but still straight sex. After we became involved with Clair and started having threesomes I kept moving along what I thought was straight sex (licking his dick and her clit from underneath as hubby fucked Clair from behind), to eating his cum out of her, to just us girls sometimes.

[Tina and Bob 236]

For me it wasn't until I was 25. I had had other women approach me when I was younger. I actually stopped going to a health club when I was 21 because the trainer was all over me. When I would undress she would come over and give me compliments which at first I thought nothing of it, but when I'd go in to shower after the workout and she came in and started washing my back, that uninvited touching freaked me out. She was way too butch for me.

 

Anyway when I was 25 my boss at the time lived close to our work. She was 35 and was divorced. After a few months on the job she asked me if I wanted to go to her home and eat our lunch in her backyard. We went to her house and sat in the backyard that was private. First thing she did was get totally naked and told me she was a nudist. She coaxed me into also getting naked which I did. One thing lead to another, by the fourth time I went to her house, we started playing and I was hooked. And as they say, the rest is history.

[couplers 4,634]

Anyway when I was 25 my boss at the time lived close to our work. She was 35 and was divorced. After a few months on the job she asked me if I wanted to go to her home and eat our lunch in her backyard. We went to her house and sat in the backyard that was private. First thing she did was get totally naked and told me she was a nudist. She coaxed me into also getting naked which I did. One thing lead to another, by the fourth time I went to her house, we started playing and I was hooked.

 

 

You were fortunate. I could see myself having started playing with girls sooner and had more fun if there was an experienced lezzie to help me along. Instead it was very tentative at first and required sharing hubby between us girls to even get started.

[cupl4fun 361]

I had signs from about the time I hit puberty that I was Bi (the female half here).

 

I would be in swim team and be amazed by all the girls bodies in the showers after practice. Another time I found myself talking with one of my sister's friends and she told me she liked both guys and girls and I was instantly aroused. I ignored these things because of my very strict religious upbringing, it was simply not ok for me to like girls.

 

What's funny is the first time I had hetero sex was motivated by my attraction and desire for women. I was cleaning our house and found some Playboy magazines in my sister's room (they belonged to her boyfriend apparently). I began looking at them and the women in the magazine so aroused me I felt like I would explode. Since I believed women being together was absolutely wrong I went and had sex with one of the neighborhood boys. Despite these "signs" (and there were many others as well) I wasn't able to really accept and embrace the fact that I was actually Bi-sexual until I was 30 years old and married with kids. Much of what led us to start swinging was us wanting me to be able to explore my bisexuality.

[gsu22 187]

I had signs from about the time I hit puberty that I was Bi (the female half here).

 

I would be in swim team and be amazed by all the girls bodies in the showers after practice. Another time I found myself talking with one of my sister's friends and she told me she liked both guys and girls and I was instantly aroused. I ignored these things because of my very strict religious upbringing, it was simply not ok for me to like girls.

 

What's funny is the first time I had hetero sex was motivated by my attraction and desire for women. I was cleaning our house and found some Playboy magazines in my sister's room (they belonged to her boyfriend apparently). I began looking at them and the women in the magazine so aroused me I felt like I would explode. Since I believed women being together was absolutely wrong I went and had sex with one of the neighborhood boys. Despite these "signs" (and there were many others as well) I wasn't able to really accept and embrace the fact that I was actually Bi-sexual until I was 30 years old and married with kids. Much of what led us to start swinging was us wanting me to be able to explore my bisexuality.

 

I remember being on my swim team too as a young teen and being aroused by the guys bodies My experience goes back further into the 12-14 years old range when my neighbor and I started exploring masturbating together. One day he stripped down to his underwear and was hard...I knew then I wanted to see what was on the other side of that underwear and play with it.

 

For me though, it's always been strictly a sexual type attraction. I've never been into being "involved" with another guy. I don't kiss, get emotionally involved, or think certain guys are "cute".

 

Getting horny, jacking, sucking and just getting each other off when women aren't around are what I really enjoy most but it took me nearly till my early 20's before I got a grip on the whole thing (pun intended).

[NaturistWife 16]

In high school, when I found that I was attracted to some girls as well as some boys. I thought the feelings would go away after I got married, but that didn't happen. I told my husband at one point, but he said it didn't bother him. Now that we're in the swinging lifestyle, I have several girlfriends, and I'm very happy about the way things have turned out!

[IvorieManiac 25]

I had a sleepover and my friend slept in my bed with me. We were cracking jokes about girls playing with themselves. When she asked if I wanted to try it, I didn't know what to say! But she just spread her legs and started rubbing herself. Her leg was crossed over mine and it turned me on. I was in shock! Her moans got to me the most, so I relaxed and began to rub myself, too. She started cumming and it made me so hot I got off. We never spoke about this afterward. Ive been interested in regaining that intimacy with a woman again ever since.

[Rakesh_Tiku 15]

Ok, I think most of us have a defining point where we can say that we figured out we were bisexual. BUT, looking back (gotta love hindsight) what was the first sign that you might have been attracted to the opposite sex?

 

For me, looking back, I'd say it was the fact that I could check out other women with my guy friends and rate them, without ever feeling the least bit odd.

 

Mine was an uncontrollable desire to suck cock. Strangely, this happened just after our daughter was born. Namrata (wife) was OK with it and even enjoyed watching me :-)

[rammur 17]

Hi, we have been gone for some time, just getting back into this. I had stayed at a friend's house when I was about 12, woke up during the night with her hands inside my PJ's. I did not stop her or roll over. She kept touching me every time we slept together, we never talked about it, or acted on it any further I just remember I liked the feeling. Well I got married, had kids, and just lately at our winter home is Arizona, got hit on by our neighbor lady. I am often there alone, hubby has to be back home for work. This winter was the Bi winter of my life, even a threesome, so even after a 40 year wait, I am Bi and enjoying it!!

[EvilDoctor 17]

Ok, I think most of us have a defining point where we can say that we figured out we were bisexual. BUT, looking back (gotta love hindsight) what was the first sign that you might have been attracted to the opposite sex?

 

I know what Julie wrote was not what was intended, but for me that was what happened. As a teen I knew I was attracted and interested in guys, so I came out originally as gay. It was my belief at the time that you were either gay or straight, there as no in-between. It wasn't until my early twenties that I realized I was also checking out women as well as men.

 

I was out celebrating my 22nd birthday with friends and I met a woman who had her 24th birthday the day before mine. She and I had some common friends and apparently she was really into gay men. So I got invited to her birthday celebration that was being held tomorrow at apartment.

 

At her party, we flirted with each other all night, and when the party ended, she asked me to stay the night. I said yes, and I fucked my first woman and ate my first pussy and absolutely loved it. I finally realized that sexuality wasn't an either/or situation and had to admit I was bi. The relationship only lasted a month, but it took me down a path to becoming a swinger.

[LoveYourCum 23]

I don't think of it as a disease. I finally purged myself of the hangups that were pounded in me by society. Now I am free to enjoy sex with whoever I want regardless of gender.

 

When sex is recreational the gender of the participants are not relevant. Procreation it matters.

[tattooed2some07 15]

I've not yet had an experience with another woman, so I guess I don't qualify as bisexual per se...more bicurious. But I've always been attracted to certain women, and found a woman's body much more appealing to the eye than a mans. I like boobs...lol. Not to say men are not attractive, they are, my hubby is sexy as hell. But there's just something about the curves to a woman's body that is undeniably hot...

 

I'm actively seeking my first experience with another woman...so hopefully I'll have more to say on the subject then, lol.

[LoveYourCum 23]

I had a best friend Tony who lived across the street when I was young. About 11 we started to think about sex. We'd strip naked and fondle each others cocks. We were too young to cum. Or at least we hadn't started to masturbate yet.

 

I remember once as we were naked together I suggested would could use each others bung hole, he called it a butt flop. We never did it.

 

If I knew then what I know now I would have at least sucked his cock. It sure felt sexy getting naked together.

 

:facelick:

[Titsrfun2 16]

Similar age, must have been around 11 or 12. Had no idea about sex of any kind, but managed to kiss the girl across the street and found that I liked that very much.

 

About that time, during a sleepover at one of my buddies houses, he started playing with my cock. I had no clue what was going on or what to do. It kind of became a game of "I dare you". He started by putting me in his mouth then dared me to do the same with him. I felt those familiar stirrings, but had never cum before, had no idea what it was. I remember telling him to quit because I felt like I was going to pee in his mouth, little did I know. We carried on for months, and if he hadn't moved away, who knows where my sexuality may have ended up, but after he left, girls became my #1 priority.

[rammur 17]

I remember at a sleepover at a friends house about age 12, waking up to her hands in my panties. I was surprised to say the least, but I allowed her to continue. I continued to allow her the opportunity at every sleepover. Even with other girls at the sleepover she would always end up sleeping next to me. We never really talked about it. One time on a high school trip we roomed together and went further than I had ever went with a boy. Well then came college and marriage and three kids. Now as empty-nesters going south for the winter I met a neighbor lady who through a few months of laying around the pool and sunbathing together, she one day kissed me on the lips. That was it, it kissing is so intimate it put me over the edge. We now are playmates while the men watch, we have not done the full swing yet, but I feel it is coming!!

[StewartP 171]

I had always been hetero, and growing up in a very conservative country most of my youth and young adult life I had a fairly homophobic mindset.

 

Escape from religion, atheism and the modern world helped liberate me a lot, and then the past two years of swinging has also helped me lighten up. We certainly wouldn't be able to swing if we still thought we were making the baby Jesus cry every time we fornicate!

 

I accepted the concept of bisexuality when I realized that all pleasures and embarrassments are in the mind, and if, in a group situation I opened my eyes and found it was a man giving me pleasure, why would the knowing of it suddenly stop the pleasure?

 

We went to a multi-couple party in September, knowing there would be a lot of bi people there. During the melée I found myself being caressed by a guy, being sucked of by him and then we did a fair bit of kissing.

 

It didn't freak me out at all, but didn't especially turn me on either.

 

But as time has gone by the experience has been properly analyzed and I know that future bi contacts will be more and more relaxed and more and more reciprocated. I don't think I am "proper" bi because I am not sexually attracted to men in the same way I am women, but as someone has already said in this thread, the point of sex is having fun and sensual pleasure, and in that pursuit, gender isn't all that important.

[waitingforfun00 15]

Although there were later, more obvious signals, I think I got a clue my first lifestyle night when a wonderful woman kissed me, and it felt so natural that it didn't even occur to me until the next day that it was, in fact, a woman who had kissed me

 

Ditto 100%. Our first experience was this past Saturday. Kissing another women was so natural and not forced. It was great!! I check out women with Mr.Waiting. i don't think I ever realized what that meant. I have had dreams about women as well. Now I know for sure. And I told her too. She blushed and so did her guy.

[MechanicalAngel 15]

I always knew I liked girls, but for some reason I just didn't "get it" until I was 15. One of my high school friends kissed me on the lips (in a friendly nonsexual way. lol) and then it just clicked.

[km34 672]

lol I managed to stay in denial until I was 18... In high school, we had "initiation" where any girls who wanted to join our group had to kiss me (not really, but we joked about it, because I made out with most of the girls who joined our group), but I always wrote it off as something we just did because the guys liked it.

 

Finally when I got out of my parents' house, I realized that I REALLY enjoyed those makeout sessions and would love to explore it more. 2 years later I accepted that I could potentially fall in love with women, too, when I developed very strong feelings for a close friend. So... first clue was probably kissing a bunch of girls repeatedly - even though I didn't think about it at the time.

[mauijanedoe 1,414]

My first crush was on the Lauren Bacall of "To Have and Have Not," (I was really sad when I realized she was more than old enough to be my mother) when I was about 10 and my cousin and I both liked looking at his brother's hidden Playboys, but I didn't attach any meaning to any of it until I was 15 and sitting on another girl's lap at a party. She put her arms around me and something inside lit off and my brain rearranged itself.

 

I'm attracted to men too, but my strongest attractions and attachments have generally been to women.