How young will you go?

[jarioso 15]

We've been married for 10 yrs now and both are 35 yrs old; We mainly enjoy full swap couples (preferably not older than 40 yrs) and MFM encounters

FMF is something we really want to experience just like a lot of couples do

 

We have received e-mails from younger couples (20-24 yrs old) that would like to meet us but we just never met couples that young except for one single guy that was 21 but really cool and mature for his age and my wife had an awesome time in our MFM encounters with him

 

We are now thinking that we might be missing out on some fun if the chemistry is right.

 

Any thoughts?

[red96 17]

We prefer to stay with guys close to our own age but it is not a set rule with us. For us it totally depends on the person. Maturity, respect and wisdom does not always come with age. Our youngest playmate was 27, we are both in our late forties. If there is some chemistry why not go for it.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

You might find this thread to be interesting.

 

Young and younger

[toycple 19]

Well for us we are in our mid to late thirties. We tend not to go below 25, because you never know what their maturity level is. Our top limit tends to be in the lows 50's. We have bent this rule in the upper and lower range before.

[MrsHidalgo 25]

We're early 50's, and anything under 30 really doesn't interest us. Not only maturity levels, but EXPERIENCE is important to me. After all....good sex is one of the main objectives, right?

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

We are about the same age as you guys. In general, we've found that those young (20-25ish) couples that we've encountered are way too immature and more likely to lead to drama. That said, I was 20 when I started swinging. The exceptions I've seen (including myself) tend to include couples where one partner is in that age range but the other is 7-10 years older.

[MrkLin 393]

I'm 47 and Lin is 56. Having said that, we don't really have a cut and dried age limit. Not many younger couples are interested in old poops like us to begin with, so it's not like we're turning down people left and right.

 

I would prefer to meet people at least old enough to go into a club without being hassled about ID or being underage, but other than that, we don't have any problem with meeting couples in their twenties.

 

I think if there's an attraction between us all, we all hit it off well, and we have some things in common, at the end of the day, age is just a number. Some younger couples will meet those criteria, and some won't - just as some older couples will or won't.

 

But, as I said before, there aren't a lot of twenty-something couples beating down our door to begin with, so it's kind of a moot point.

[good times 991]

We don't have any age limits either and unlike some of the others experiences, we have had experiences with a quite a few couples in the 20-25 range without encountering any maturity, drama, or insecurity issues. We are in our upper 40's (Ok, I'll be 50 tomorrow) . And we just had a great time with a couple who were young (her 22/him 23) a couple of weeks ago.

 

Actually, in our experience we have had the most drama with late 30's early 40's couples. My guess though is, when it comes to drama and insecurity, it has more to do with state of mind than age.

[Tia Vampire 167]

him-18 to 21

her-25

[jarioso 15]

Thank you guys for all your feedback

We feel better now, we'll meet them and take it from there.

It should be fun

[shymxcpl 71]

Age to us is not an issue. Maturity is much more important.

That said...

he - usually likes them post 1980

she - usually likes them pre 1963

 

Which works great when we find an old rich dude & current SO!

[Pensacolapair 394]

...there aren't a lot of twenty-something couples beating down our door to begin with, so it's kind of a moot point.

 

Agreed..twenty-something is definatly out of our range..another reason is admittedly because of my unreasoning aversion to being sexual with anyone my daughter's age.

 

Although there have been exceptions, we normally don't find ourselves interested in anyone under 35. It's rather annoying when casual references made in conversation have to be explained because of a generational difference.

[SecretAsianMan 348]

As someone in my mid... well, I guess it's starting to get to be LATE-30's now (*sigh*) ... I would probably "play" with someone in their early to mid-20's - but I probably wouldn't get involved (relationship-wise) with anyone less than 28 - 30 nowadays.

[MrkLin 393]

shymxcpl said:

he - usually likes them post 1980

she - usually likes them pre 1963

 

and they said there would be no math.....

 

[MrkLin 393]

Agreed..twenty-something is definatly out of our range..another reason is admittedly because of my unreasoning aversion to being sexual with anyone my daughter's age.

 

Although there have been exceptions, we normally don't find ourselves interested in anyone under 35. It's rather annoying when casual references made in conversation have to be explained because of a generational difference.

 

I know what you mean - there are times I wish I had a t-shirt that said, "If You've Never Played An 8-Track, We're Too Old For You..."

 

By the same token, we can't be sure of that, can we? I mean we all know of some sweet young thing that wants an older man or woman, and they'd just love to meet you...

 

Well, I can dream, can't I...?

 

That's why we don't base anything on age. We base everything on our meeting, or the couple in question's reputation within our community.

 

If we hit it off, we'll go from there. If we don't hit it off - well, we're going nowhere...

 

Don't matter to us whether you're 21 or 71 - if the spark is there, it's there - if it ain't, sorry....

[Cerberus 16]

me 42 wife 26 other couple 18 and 21.It was a very fun night. I really enjoyed the young lady

[Hotwallabies 90]

We are both 33 and prefer our playmates to be our age or older. We don't even look at anything under 21 and are very hesitant with people under 25. We just prefer not to be somebody's regret later in life. We much prefer people who have lived a little have been togehter for awhile and have decided this is really what they want. But that's just us.

[gsu22 187]

I started out when I was 22(hence my 22 in my screen name haha) and found couples up to 25 years older than me. Once I had a few experiences, I think my high level of maturity helped a lot.

 

For some reason I like to find couples in their early to mid 30's...seems to be my fav. Being 27 now, I'd go with a 20-21 year old couple as long as they weren't too much drama for that age.

[nhcpl1968 18]

We try not to go below 24 as this is to close to our kids ages it just doesn't feel right.

[WesternSwing 504]

We take everyone on a case-by-case basis and age is not really a consideration as long as they are of legal age. Two women I play with solo are both 20 years younger than me. Mrs. has a 24-year old toyfriend. It also seems that many of the couples we play with are 10 to 20 years younger than me, however that might be because Mrs. is 10 years younger than me.

[interested-05 135]

in our low 50's here. generally we prefer to play mid 40's up , however everything depends on chemictry cpl to cpl. however the youngest we've considered, she was 22 and he was 45. we think they swing but not sure, so we arent going to push it

[LFM2 1,482]

We don't have a set date, but since our oldest daughter is 27, we prefer not to play with anyone younger than her. I'm 46 and Dave is 51. We do have a youngster who is 23 that keeps emailing us. He wants to experience an older couple. I don't think so. That's the age of our youngest daughter.

 

It really creeps me out to think of us with someone that young. Basically, we'd be more comfortable with couples or singles at least 30-35 on up.

[lustylearning 705]

We use the "must be old enough to legally buy a drink for" rule of thumb.

[bbarnsworth 2,637]

We agree with the maturity comments. Maturity does not always track with age, but age is an easy to use metric. Our general rule of thumb is no one less than 30. But, we're willing to consider people under 30 if they show sufficient maturity. We're in our early 40s.

 

I see new profiles come up sometimes where one or both of the people on the profile are 18 or 19. I just can't imagine playing with someone that age in a swinging setting. People at that age barely even have a clue what a relationship is, what love is, what they really like in sex, much less have the maturity and depth of self understanding to engage in swinging. If it works for them, great. I'm happy for them. But, we won't play with someone that young.

[twoforone100 45]

We use the "must be old enough to legally buy a drink for" rule of thumb.

Sooooo in on vacation in Aruba the age would change? LOL We feel the person matters more than the age ....we give everyone a chance......but Mostly we agree with Julie...

[NealnAnji 30]

The age makes no difference to us. The couple who introduced us to swinging was at least 10 to 15 yers older than we were. We met at a vanilla party where we chatted and got to know them. They said they were "swingers" when we had no idea what it meant. Anyway, we were invited to their home for a party and they asked us to stay overnight. To make a long story short, they asked us if would like to hot tub, and, we said fine. Turns out they were both nude as they entered the tub and asked us to shed our clothes. Rest is history. The guy was athletic with an awesome penis. We played with each other's partner and soon he had Anji sitting on his lap as his wife played with me. His penis was hard and erect and he maneuvered to enter Anji's pussy while we watched. Well, he was fucking Anji. His wife sucked my dick and then straddled me, guiding my erect cock in her pussy, and we fucked to orgasm. So much for older couple. We had a great time with fucking each other's spouse.

 

Recently we met a newly married couple at least ten yesr younger than us. The wife was virgin until she dated her would be hubby, who had fucked the gals he dated, and, also had a threesome with a couple where he fucked the wife. We suggested that we get together as a foursome for some fun. We swapped partners and fucked each other's mate and the sex was great.

 

The point is that young couples are often intimated by older swingers. The key is how one handles the randevouz for sexual swap and intercourse where you fuck each other's mate. We find older couples are as great fucks as are the younger couples. Just depends upon how you meet, mate, chat and fuck.

[ncmd_couple 597]

We are 50 & 52. On our SLS profile we have 30 and 60 as our strike zone. Our oldest kids are 28 and we don't want to go there. But now that I think about it, we need to up the high end of our strike zone.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

twoforone100 said:

Sooooo in on vacation in Aruba the age would change? LOL We feel the person matters more than the age ....we give everyone a chance......but Mostly we agree with Julie...

A very cogent comment and I finally figured its meaning. Some days I'm a little slow. . .

 

Anyway, the idea that a circumstance might make you work outside of a stated criteria: At a house party, I got intimate with a woman thirty-two years younger -- way out of the range showing at the on-line profile. At a club, my sweetie coupled up with a university grad student -- had she see him in the grocery store, she would have called him a "kid". We were both invited into a home for a private meet-up. I'm in the hot tub with the woman and she tells me, "I'm really 73 years old." All I could say was, "Your Honor, she didn't look 73. Honestly, she looked 50."

[erotic_wishes 15]

My wife and I are both 35. As a general guideline, my wife and I feel that 10 years younger is the absolute youngest we would go. We are more open about couples who are older however.

[SW_MS_CPL 15]

Age and maturity don't always go hand in hand. While we wouldn't automatically turn down someone we were attracted to just because they were under 30 or over 50, we've found that we tend to have more in common with people within about 10 years of our ages. I'm 46, and wifey's 41.

[siren52 15]

Well, when we started three years ago D and I were 24 & 27 respectively, so we were the young ones at M&G and clubs. We were more concerned with someone being too old rather than too young. Our swinging friends are in the 30s, and that works fine for me.

 

As far as for how young we would go, I'd prefer to stick to mid 20s, and anything below 20 would just weird me out. More than ten years younger would be like playing with a kid to me.

[2plus2fun 143]

Typically we try to stick to the "If they are young enough for us to have parented them... it no go..." but I have broken that rule on a couple of occasions... we soft swapped with a couple that were 21 once (we are both 39) about 6 months ago... When I was single, a couple that I played with regularly and I picked up a 19 yo girl at the bar. That was a little over 4 years ago. Neither of those occasions were they super young looking... I couldn't do that.

[swinger5 31]

We are 45 and 42. We have the nobody under 35 rule. The husband would not have any restrictions if it was up to him. We will break the rule if there is some awesome chemistry, but its rare. We also don't go over 50. The age goes higher while we age.

[Speed & Trixie 163]

Well, I am 31 and Trixie is 30...

I think we will go as low as 23... NO lower than 21 FOR SURE. We learned that one the hard way... We need a certain maturity level to be happy with the woman we choose to swing with us. I think that is more important than actual age.

[2inSanDiego4u 181]

NO lower than 21 FOR SURE.

 

Ditto that! Gotta be able to buy 'em a drink -- legally!

 

Officially our age range in the profiles is 25-49. We've never gone below the lower limit but have gone above the upper limit on one occasion. At this point we feel that this age range is just sort of a rough guideline of what we're looking for. It is not written in stone!

[jdavisauto 73]

We usually stay with couple around our own age. My lady half is 40 and I’m 46. We have in the past play with younger couples but as a rule stay away from them. We have found that younger people are full of them selves and are very immature. We have also found that younger people are very clinging and once that they find out that age and experience always overcomes youth and speed, they just will not leave you along. You have to tell the guy and girl to please stop following (stocking) you. Stop trying to get with my lady half and the girl just will not leave me along….. Sorry got side track. Anyway we try to stay with our own age group.