adultfriendfinder/similar site experiences?

[alkylyou 15]

hey guys,

 

I'm new to the lifestyle and had a few questions about getting my feet wet, specifically adultfriendfinder.

 

I'm a young, single male and i want to be introduced into "casual hookups" slowly without full-on joining a swingers club or anything. I'm looking for both single females and couples.

 

I live in Los Angeles and craigslist is a wasteland of scammers and spammers.

 

I'm pretty cautious about where I put myself out, because at this point, I'd like to keep things discreet.

 

Has anyone had positive experience with sites like adultfriendfinder or alt.com?

 

So many of these sites are scams (I've found clubtriplex to be a scam) and like I said, I like to be cautious.

 

The reason I ask about those two in particular is because they seem to be the most legitimate and talked about.

 

I'm not really into paying to get ripped off.

 

Thanks for all your help!

[cplndixie 15]

We didnt stay on AFF very long.

try swinglifestyle.com

We like it.. Good luck

[IvoryTowers 380]

We also switched from AFF to Swinglife for several reasons. First, there are many more poseurs on AFF. We met a number of serious couples, but also a lot of people just looking to collect pictures. Also, we find the people on Swinglife to be friendlier and better about responding.

[red96 17]

We have had success on both sites, we get more responses on AFF. As others mentioned there are a lot of fakes and pic collectors on AFF.

[LFM2 1,482]

We subscribe to both sites. For us, AFF works better than SLS, but we seem to fall into a minority. We haven't ran into any fakes or posers as of yet, but then it might just be our small community of swingers that we deal with.

 

I can't say you'd have the same success in L.A. as we've had here in Idaho. Two totally different places with maybe more of a rough crowd you're dealing with. If I lived in L.A. -- I'd go with SLS.

 

Just my $0.02 worth

[WesternSwing 504]

I think you'll find more single females on AdultFriendFinder than you will on a dedicated swingers site like Swinglifestyle, Swappernet, SwingerZoneCentral, where you'll find more couples and less singles.

 

So based on your criteria mentioned I'd say join both AFF and a dedicated swinger's site.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

alkylyou said:

hey guys,

i'm new to the lifestyle and had a few questions about getting my feet wet, specifically adultfriendfinder.

i'm a young, single male and i want to be introduced into "casual hookups" slowly without full-on joining a swingers club or anything.

 

adultfriendfinder and alt.com are the SAME site just two different names - a marketing ploy to appeal to different market segments.

 

You won't find many single females on dedicated swinger sites, and most that you don't find won't be looking there for hookups with single guys (but rather couples - as that is the majority of what you will find on dedicated swinger sites). To find single females go where single females go - whether it's the local meet market or AFF or some other personals/dating site - you'll find single females open to casual hookups on pretty much any of them (but you'll also find single females who want a lot more than casual), including Match.com, Yahoo personals, etc.

 

To find couples, go where the couples go - which is most often swinglifestyle.com - however keep in mind that when seeking couples you are a dime a dozen (in other words, there are a hundred single guys out there already for every one couple interested in you), so you have to stand out in a GOOD way. Take some time and read through the info on this site, especially the forum for "Singles and Swinging".

[Guest screaminggood]

I also prefer SLS & SDC to AFF....from a bi-fem half a couple who plays with single men

[willyoats 324]

As a side note, if you are interested in the origin of AFF, Google "Andrew Conru". I knew him well about 25 years ago but have lost contact in recent years. He started AFF almost as an afterthought to other websites that he had going at the time. The other sites don't make a lot of money, but AFF was a real winner. I think he just recently sold AFF to another company for $500 million. Not bad, huh? Way to go, Andy!

[WeDive 57]

We are members of several sites; currently AFF is not one of them. We like to meet people and we found that while the number of contact on AFF was very high the ratio of contacts to actual meetings was very very low.

 

We actually meet a high percentage of the people we communicate with on CouplesTouch and other sites. CT does not have a big presence in LA, so SLS or some of the others may work better for you. From our experience sites like SLS are much more reasonably priced than AFF as well.

 

While some others have stated that single males are a dime a dozen in the lifestyle.......nice, nice looking, respectful single males stay very busy and have a great time swinging.

 

Good luck!

[talltim123 69]

I, as a single male have met quite a few single ladies as well as some couples on AFF, but I agree with the other posters comments about there being many lurkers there or insincere members and I have discontinued my paid subscription. On the other hand I have met many ladies on Match.com and on Plenty of Fish who were rather sexually liberated and curious about the LS. In fact, a single male friend and I have satisfied the curiosity of a few ladies from those sites about mfm and a few have also enjoyed experiencing mfmf etc., as well.

 

As a single older male I find that many ladies on "vanilla" dating sites are very interested in sexual interaction. Many however are looking for mates and that is usually evident from the first few emails or phone chats. Many others however, prefer non-committed relationships and have developed a more open attitude about sexual encounters. Many admit to have been curious about multiple person encounters but never had such an opportunity to pursue one. When that is offered as a "menu item" from an experienced male they look at it as an opportunity to fulfill a fantasy. When I started going on singles sites I was somewhat surprised at the number of ladies whose primary motivation was for sex and not just romance.

 

So for singles looking for LS friendly persons do not over look the regular dating wwww sites

[jimbeammm 15]

does anyone know anything about clubtriplex.net.

i never heard of it until recently and was just curious if it is a real site or a scam.

[AskMeOk 148]

We didn't have mch luck with AFF. ALT.COM tends to be more BDSM related.... do depending on your interests...

 

I'd suggest SwingLifestyle.com as a first and best bang for your buck. Also, don't pass up the local swing clubs. In Person, might be more productive that a written profile.

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

 

does anyone know anything about clubtriplex.net.

i never heard of it until recently and was just curious if it is a real site or a scam.

The person who started this thread gave his opinion of that site:

 

 

...so many of these sites are scams (i've found clubtriplex to be a scam) and like i said, i like to be cautious.

 

LM

[jimbeammm 15]

just wanted to see if anybody else has an opinion

[Guest BamaRide]

I used AFF year and years ago.. actually pre swinging... it was back in the before getting married... lots of ladies there... none local for me..but I actually had some good luck meeting people though the service... One in Canada I dated for a while... (tons of miles on the vehicle!!) (and was in Michigan at the time not Alabma)...

 

But AFF did lead me to swing later. So though it isn't the best site for swingers...it does hold some fond memories for the mamories it brougth me in contact with!

 

 

BamaRide

[debby69 15]

A lot of these sites are scams!