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I don't get "naturists." Nudity is sexy!

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I have heard many naturists claim that "nude isn't lewd" and "nudity is not about sex." All I can think is, you sad, jaded, passionless people. My wife and I are routinely nude around our house, around the kids, around family. We have a pool, and in the summer, my wife spends the vast majority of her time at home wearing just a thong bikini bottom, including family dinners, TV time, etc. Now, is that all sexual activity? Of course not. But even in our forties, I still easily get erect just watching her skim the pool or load the dishwasher nude or in her thong. And unlike naturists, I don't WANT to separate nudity from sexiness!

 

Our friend Anna (triad lover) spends a lot of time at our house, and she's a size 16-18, so she's a bit self-conscious of her body. She usually lounges in a one piece swimsuit, and wears some sort of lacy lingerie during sex. I think she looks hotter than hell in the things she wears, but I sometimes wish I could get her to loosen up and go nude more.

 

Personally, I love being nude, and for all the "nasty" reasons! As often as I have gone nude in life (a lot) stripping off my clothes, especially in front of other people, still gives my balls a tingle without fail. I love having my package on display, and if I start getting stiff, all the better. So I don't get "naturists" endorsement of nudity and aversion to erections, either. To me, one leads naturally to the other!

 

When nudity stops being sexy to me, I'll consider myself half dead.

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I personally view it as a sign of sexual maturity and control that just seeing someone naked, where sex is not an immediate issue won't trigger a sexual response.

 

I control the penis, not the other way around.

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I tend to ride the fence on this. I recently learned an appreciation for going to nudist places and being around other nudists, and the freedom one gets is fantastic. On the other hand, my wife and I also go to several house parties and clubs were I see a number of naked women and still get aroused. Is it the same feeling as a teenager getting a look at a forbidden set of boobs, no. I think it leans more to the fact that in a swinger environment when I see naked women it is like, hey they are naked and I could maybe have sex with them. When I am in a nudist environment it is a totally different mentality.

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I'm really old and still get hard when I see my wife nude.

Maybe those of you who don't have the problem just lead cleaner lives? :D

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We have vanilla friends who are nudists, and there is no doubt that they are not thinking SEX when we get naked with them. Maybe I am thinking SEX when I see her, but I know they are not.

 

We have a daughter who is a self proclaimed naturist, and I know she is not thinking SEX when she is with her other naturist friends. She is not into monogamy, but her sexual friends are not from the naturist community. She clearly differentiates between the two.

 

It's pretty clear to me that naturists get nude just for the fun and good feeling of it (as do we when we are at the naturist resorts) without any preoccupation with sexual thoughts. Most naturists we know are not swingers, and some swingers are sometimes just naturists.

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It all depends upon your mindset. If you look to nudity as a natural and non-sexual expression of self, then, you are a naturist. If you look to nudity with the strong undertone of sexuality, you are a perv! Just kidding on the perv part!

 

Naturists are, by and large, people who enjoy being nude without the trappings of sex. They feel free and alive sans clothing. I have even seen a T-shirt at a Swingers resort/clothing optional resort that stated boldly, "There is nothing erotic about nudity!" I had to do a double take as I could not understand why the individual wore that there. But then again, different strokes.......(No pun intended there).

 

One of my favorite experiences at a nude beach in Miami was the day my wife and I were sitting next to a little family. Mom and Dad were nude but the little 4 year old daughter was in her little one piece. I have to laugh and even comment, "Isn't it next to impossible to keep 4-year-olds in their swim suits on the beach? Here we have the complete opposite." It was a laugh the four of us shared. They were not swingers but naturists.

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For me I think it is just habituation.

 

I've been around the block too many times and done to many things that 'just' being nude is going to get me a stiffy.

 

I could see the most beautiful woman of my dreams nude, and I would instantly think I'd love to have sex with her, but just seeing her nude wouldn't have me walking around with an erection. There needs to be real intent involved too.

 

I aesthetically enjoy seeing attractive nude females. That hasn't changed. What has changed is that I don't have an obvious involuntary response to them.

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To quote the movie The Bucket List - "Never waste a hard-on!"

 

That being said, getting an erection while looking at people prancing about in the nude would be a colossal waste of time and effort, unless there is actually payoff in the end.

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I am not a naturist, so I can't really comment from that perspective. I don't get wood just from seeing a woman nude either, haven't in a long time. In fact, I have to admit, I have seen more women naked that would have been more sexually appealing with their clothes on, than those that were hot naked. One of the things I always admired about my wife is that she is one of those rare women that looks better naked than dressed.

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Ok, stupid question... what is the difference between a naturist and a nudist?

 

I'm going to venture it is about the same as saying a swinger versus 'The lifestyle'.

 

My guess is only if you are in it can you tell the difference ;)

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Ok, stupid question... what is the difference between a naturist and a nudist?

 

Wikipedia defaults to "Naturism" if you put an inquiry in for either Nudism or Naturism.

 

Naturism or nudism is a cultural and political movement advocating and defending social nudity in private and in public. It may also refer to a lifestyle based on personal, family and/or social nudism.

 

 

Dictionary.com defines a naturist as a nudist.

 

Guess it's two sides of the same coin.

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Ok, stupid question... what is the difference between a naturist and a nudist?

 

The way I've understood it (browsing a nudist / naturist forum), is a naturist only goes nude in certain situations (nude / CO campground), while a nudist goes nude everywhere they can (at home, etc)

 

As Chicup said, sort of like swinger vs lifestyler, really just a matter of degrees.

 

BTW, my thoughts on the whole nudist / naturist insisting nude isn't sexy, is more due to the fact that they're trying to get the general public to accept nudism. It tends to annoy them (a lot) when a favorite nude beach (whether it's a legal nude beach, or a secluded stretch everyone knows is nude, but the local PD looks the other way) due to someone complaining about "illicit" sexual activity (whether it really happened, or not) Which is also why, it seems, almost *any* physical contact between men and women at nude recreation sites is frowned on. One comment I saw seemed to indicate that "if you do it clothed, it's OK," but quickly devolved into a heated argument, due to what some people feel is OK clothed, others did not think would be "appropriate" nude.

 

Jason

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Sorry, but I'm with the OP on this one. Nude women do get me all in a bother - and yeah, you can tell time by this sundial...

 

Bare tits give me fits, and tight butts drive me nuts. I know it, I love it, and I deal with it...

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Personally, I love being nude, and for all the "nasty" reasons! As often as I have gone nude in life (a lot) stripping off my clothes, especially in front of other people, still gives my balls a tingle without fail.
Is this just in the confinement of your own home? Do you do this in public?

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Is this just in the confinement of your own home? Do you do this in public?
Obviously, not in front of strangers, or people who have not explicitly allowed me to do it. I'm not a trench coat flasher, if that's what you're asking.

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If I (mrs tadahiko) can weigh in here...

 

Todd is a horndog, dirty old man, whatever you want to call it. You can call that sexual immaturity, I call it a lust for life and a youthful attitude. If he's in a state of arrested adolescence, I hope he never progresses any further in life. I love the fact that I still turn him on without trying. He's funny and enthusiastic and easy going and that's all part of the same personality.

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We have a very simple perspective: We just hate clothes.

 

Well, OK, half serious...

 

We live in rural nowhere. I'm currently unemployed (laid off a couple months back; it's a dreadful time to be looking for new work) and I've got lots of time being spent at home...and there's been remarkably little laundry other than more towels. :)

 

Most folks who know us know our preferences. We had a play party here in early May, when it wasn't all that warm yet. I was wearing shorts and nothing else, and yet I went inside to get a shirt at one point. Someone commented when I came back out to the patio, "It must be cold, Karl put clothing on."

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On one hand, I agree. But that hand is the one that loves sex and everything about it. It's hard not to get hard just thinking about anything related to it. On the other hand, however, I'm a member of a "Clothing Optional Resort" in North GA, and it's a big deal if someone can't contain themselves hormonally in front of others. I can support that. If I'm walking around and get hard, I'm gonna get thrown out and lose my membership. If anything, it just takes a lot of the social tension off of meeting new people, and new potential playmates. But ultimately it's important to know where that balance between those two hands is. It's great to be able to be sexy and free, but at the same time respect that others just want to be lazy about picking out a wardrobe for the day. Bottom line, it's all in your angle of perspective.

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I love to be nude when ever I can, my wife likes to be topless but only goes bottomless rarely.

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Been watching this thread for a while and as a nudist it is time to answer. Nudity is sexy, just not sexual for nudists. While many might not admit it openly we all enjoy and appreciate seeing the sexy nude bodies. We all look. But the difference is we look to appreciate rather than eyes bugged out and playing with ourselves oogling. Our primary focus though is the freedom we feel when nude. Enjoying the views is just a bonus.

 

The interesting thing I have found for me is that I find any woman comfortable enough to bare it all sexy, no matter what size or shape. This has made me much better at looking at women personalities to see where the true beauty lies. There are many women at our resort who have bodies that are perfectly my type but I wouldn't ever want to be with them because as a person they do nothing for me. Yet many women who I would have ignored before becoming a nudist I would be willing to try. Too bad being a nudist doesn't automatically mean you're a swinger.

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I too have been watching this topic... and it's all about location - location - location!

 

We consider ourselves naturalists; we go nude camping many times during the summer, and visit nude resorts whenever and wherever we can. We have great sex there, usually just between ourselves, and that's fine.

 

We also go to Hedo, where we are just like most of the other naked people there, but with a sexually charged atmosphere like Hedo, the nudity takes on a different attitude. Things that are not OK at most naturalist places are just fine at Hedo.

 

We have also been to a naturalist campground, where their Saturday night dance was very Hedo-esque in attitude and slut wear dressing, yet the daytimes were as vanilla as could be...

 

Location - location - location... go with it !

 

Val

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Most folks (if not nearly all) find partial nudity to be sexier. Among naturists, nudity just means no clothes.

 

You'll be half-ready for the undertaker when a negligee does nothing for you...

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Nudity (IMHO) isn't sexual. Intent is. I've patronized a few nude saunas (during my time in Germany) and there were only two times in which I found myself aroused. Once, during a post-bender visit, I lucked up on "Zaftig, Schlank und Mittel", three very attractive 19 year old women with measurements of 42E-30-41 (Zaftig-AKA-Juicy or "Fat" :rollseye: ), 38D-25-37 (Mittel-AKA-Middle) and 34C-22-35 (Schlank-AKA-Skinny or "Bony" :rollseye:). Those three women could make a dead man rise, especially when they made the mistake of teaming up on any unattached (single or unattended by his SO ) man. And no, it was a public and non-sexual sauna. They just had this thing about barraging people with questions, without taking into consideration the fact that they were/are 3 attractive and pulchritudinous women. The women were nonplussed, we men were ashamed and tempted.:blush:

 

The other time was during a session in a high-temperature sauna. I caught the eye of an out of town couple, and the wife had never seen a naked black man in person before. So, for the entire session, she rubbed her foot against mine and exchanged glances with her husband. I'd never wanted to be naked as much as I did after 3 minutes of her footplay, but I was in public. Eventually, I had to :surrend:, even though my FWB was trying to get me to talk to the wife.

 

Any other time that I visited the FKK, I was essentially boner free.

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It would seem to me that "naturists" separate nudity and sex in the same way we as swingers separate love and sex.

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I agree. In fact it is a big turn-on for me/us.

 

One of our naughty activities is that on a warm moonless summer night once the kids are in bed and it's late and the neighborhood is quiet we go outside and spread a blanket in the middle of the lawn and have a quick screw. It's just dangerous enough to make it very very exciting. We live in the burbs and if one were to look at the yard in daylight the idea of screwing there would be nuts. But when it's dark and rare for anybody to be walking around the sidewalk or streets it's a very erotic thing to do. And heck it's right in our backyard. My land, My wife. Heck it's a free country and "I are a mountain man damn it!"

 

I would hate to become too comfortable with nudity. We like certain things to feel naughty.

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Trace Ekies, you may have hit the nail on the head!! That being said, nude can be sexy and it can be non sexy. It just depends on the circumstances. Nudists understand that. But if you are a constant horn dog who just likes being nekid too, I get that the original poster doesn't get it. Actually I think you do get it because it would be pretty bad if you feel it is sexy to be naked with your young kids wouldn't it!! It's just that for long term nudist who are frequently around lots of people naked, you just get so used to it, it's really is not about sex or sexy, you hardly notice unless the right circumstances arise. Not any different from being clothed.

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@ GreatCoupleNY…that sounds like fun! Having had family in the Syracuse area, Im assuming your lawn evenings don't occur after about Oct 1st or before Memorial Day

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