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My wife is going on a date later with a new fella; this happens maybe every couple months or so. I usually get some combination of giddy/nervous/horny whenever this happens, so I feel I need to program things to keep my mind occupied or else I'll probably snap and call or text her or otherwise be bouncing off the walls.

 

Any suggestions?

 

I know when she gets back she'll want to play with me, so I'll do some date-prep (shaving, fresh sheets, mood music), but I'm wondering what others do to keep occupied minds.

 

Maybe I'll try the chat room this evening after 7 Pacific. :-)

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It looks like I am about to figure this out as well! My wife is planning her first solo date after much discussion and agreement on the issue. I am 85% excited for her, 5% nervous, 5% going to be missing her and about 5% unsure. We both definitely want this to happen, no questions about that. It's unchartered territory, so we'll just have to see how my mind handles it. I am very confident it will all go well, but you know the thing with the unknown! LOL

 

I will be patiently waiting on her to be back in my arms. I may use the time to work on a few prospects of my own as well! :D

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Mrs. CXXC has been out on several solo adventures in our history within the lifestyle. Like both of you, my excitement, horniness, and various emotions always rise to the occasions.

We both speak of the activity a day or so before and that generally gets our blood racing. This promotes some of the greatest sex we have. We profess our love and commitment to each other often. We communicate on a near constant level before and after. The sex we have upon her return is extremely hot and passionate. It is our reclamation of each other and our re-connection.

 

Here are some of the things we have established as a rule(s) to make things easier for us both. She will text me the address, room number, full name of her lover and that she has arrived in the room. If there is ANY change in venue, she will text me again with that information. We do this for safety reasons. Also, by sending me this information, I know exactly where and who she is with. That is the last bit of communication we have until she calls me on her way home.

 

What do I do to keep from thinking about what she is doing etc..?

 

I tackle the honey-do list or complete a task that I have been holding off.

I contact people I have not spoken to in a long time. Calling a family member is probably the best way to occupy ones time as they are always willing and ready to talk for hours.

Failing conversations on the phone, I also take to going out with a buddy for drinks or to take in a show.

A movie will take no less than three hours.

I have also been known to pick up a good book and read it until she calls. I often get lost in the world of print.

Organizing ones photo collection is also a great way to take up hours of time.

If you have a great DVD collection, create a catalog of your movies in alphabetical order. This will take quite a bit of time.

If it is a daytime play date, go outside and work in the yard. If you dig a hole, you find that you have to fill it with something. That will start a chain of activities for you.

Take a nap!

Write a great sex story for her detailing what you think they are doing.

Go on a date as well. Unless your relationship is against both of you playing solo, there is no reason you can’t find a girl toy.

Wax and wash the car.

Wash the dog/cat

Take the kids to the park or to the mall.

Go shopping for new clothes or sex toys.

Clean the house for the entire time she is away. She will be REALLY appreciative of it when she comes home.

Take a pottery, photography, creative writing, woodworking, auto-mechanic, DIY (Do-It-Yourself), class and have her schedule her dates on those nights.

Join a bowling, pool, dart, softball or shooting league and schedule the nights out accordingly.

 

There are always things to do to keep your mind occupied. I do quite a bit of the list above. Not only does it keep me social and active, on the nights she is playing, it keeps me from the thoughts of sending her texts.

 

Hope this helps in some way.

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I have to ask one thing, though. Of course I understand human nature and missing your spouse and the natural jealous tendancy human beings (yes even seasoned swingers occasionally have to fight the good fight LOL). However, I wouldn't think I would have to ACTIVELY seek out things to do while my wife is playing. Honestly if I can't sit back and enjoy the thought that my sweetie is having a great time and feeling the excitement and pleasure of another man or woman, I have to wonder why she's doing it in the first place. Don't take that as criticism in any way, though. I'm just saying if it's so hard for me to take that I have to invent things to occupy my time, maybe deep down I'm not really so enthused about her playing alone.

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I'm just saying if it's so hard for me to take that I have to invent things to occupy my time, maybe deep down I'm not really so enthused about her playing alone.

 

I submit this thought to you as I feel this is my reasoning for my need for activity.

 

We have all been children on Christmas Eve. Each of us can recall that sleepless night when Santa was to slip down the chimney and deliver our gifts. We would lay in bed pondering what he would bring, hoping against hope one of the items would the that one that was so desired. We would envision ourselves playing with it, running through the house with it. We could feel it, taste or smell it even tho we had hours to wait before we could rush to the tree!

 

Try as we might, most of us took quite a while to fall asleep that night. Even now, when we are expecting something wonderful or looking forward to an event or activity, our minds race the night/hours before. Although we are more controlled and able to maintain our composure, we still feel the excitement and for a period, inability to concentrate upon anything else.

 

The excitement I feel for Mrs. CXXC’s activities stems from the knowledge that she will be experiencing pleasures from another person. This excitement is elevated by my knowledge that when she returns, we will share the entire night as she relays, to me, all the dirty little details. I do it for her, she does it for me.

 

I also become extremely excited with the knowledge that Mrs. CXXC and I are going to engage in very hot and heavy sex. It always happens. Once the details of our adventures have been shared, we are lucky to take one breath before we are all over each other.

 

You see, the temptation for me to call or text Mrs. CXXC is more a matter of, “What are you experiencing now?” than a matter of, “I don’t feel so comfy with her being with him/her without me and I should bug her to get her to come home sooner.” We encourage each other fully in these adventures. When we share each other in solo play, we want to be there, but realize that this is not a time for US but for them.

 

I would love to be the fly on the wall watching and hearing everything. SURE!! Who wouldn’t? It is a great turn on to watch my wife be pleased by another. However, I also know that, as this is for her, I must not interfere and therefore keep my texts and calls away. I am very enthused about her playing solo. I simply want to share the experience with her. My desire for instant gratification is what prompts my thoughts to text and necessitates the ways to occupy myself.

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What do I do to keep from thinking about what she is doing etc..?

 

I tackle the honey-do list or complete a task that I have been holding off.

I contact people I have not spoken to in a long time. Calling a family member is probably the best way to occupy ones time as they are always willing and ready to talk for hours.

Failing conversations on the phone, I also take to going out with a buddy for drinks or to take in a show.

A movie will take no less than three hours.

I have also been known to pick up a good book and read it until she calls. I often get lost in the world of print.

Organizing ones photo collection is also a great way to take up hours of time.

If you have a great DVD collection, create a catalog of your movies in alphabetical order. This will take quite a bit of time.

If it is a daytime play date, go outside and work in the yard. If you dig a hole, you find that you have to fill it with something. That will start a chain of activities for you.

Take a nap!

Write a great sex story for her detailing what you think they are doing.

Go on a date as well. Unless your relationship is against both of you playing solo, there is no reason you can’t find a girl toy.

Wax and wash the car.

Wash the dog/cat

Take the kids to the park or to the mall.

Go shopping for new clothes or sex toys.

Clean the house for the entire time she is away. She will be REALLY appreciative of it when she comes home.

Take a pottery, photography, creative writing, woodworking, auto-mechanic, DIY (Do-It-Yourself), class and have her schedule her dates on those nights.

Join a bowling, pool, dart, softball or shooting league and schedule the nights out accordingly.

 

There are always things to do to keep your mind occupied. I do quite a bit of the list above. Not only does it keep me social and active, on the nights she is playing, it keeps me from the thoughts of sending her texts.

 

Hope this helps in some way.

 

What a great list! Nicely done!

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What a great list! Nicely done!

 

Thanks Ms. Fuse. I did forget to mention the one activity that is sure to take up and entire evening. Read all the posts on the swingersboard and add your thoughts to them.

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I also become extremely excited with the knowledge that Mrs. CXXC and I are going to engage in very hot and heavy sex. It always happens. Once the details of our adventures have been shared, we are lucky to take one breath before we are all over each other.

 

EXACTLY !

 

Well, I don't get to engage in hot and heavy sex with Mrs. CXXC (:rolleyes:) but you know what I mean. Thank you for your list, I will try some of those instead of the usual building of a mashed-potato sculpture of the alien-landing site.

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CXXC,

 

That is a very good reason to be looking for things to occupy your time. Certainly I didn't mean to imply that you, in particular, would be trying to keep your mind from wondering where it shouldn't be. I have seen a few posts and talked to a few people who have done that, though. I would be a wreck if I had to do it for that reason. But, I really like your posts in this thread. :)

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CXXC,

 

That is a very good reason to be looking for things to occupy your time. Certainly I didn't mean to imply that you, in particular, would be trying to keep your mind from wondering where it shouldn't be. I have seen a few posts and talked to a few people who have done that, though. I would be a wreck if I had to do it for that reason. But, I really like your posts in this thread. :)

 

I'm glad you like my ideas. Trust me. I often find that many of my DIY projects happen when Mrs. CXXC is not around. Funny how that works!!!

 

Unusualsuspects

 

I see your issue now. Perhaps if you did have sex with Mrs. CXXC you would be too busy thinking about her to realize your wife was on a date! Perhaps! :lol:

 

I hope you can fill the moments with constructive things. SWVAcouplelookn might be right in that you may not feel all that comfy with it. However, if you and she talk openly and honestly about it, I'm certain you will find your balance. Good luck with finding it. I'm still bid on the pottery class tho! :lol:

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Before my wife would leave for her date we would discuss who and where, both knowing what she planned to do. I would help her dress and the last thing she would put on would be her panties and I would kiss her hairy cunt before pulling them up, She would tease me saying, "you know the next time you get that close to my pussy it will be full of some other guy's cum. Needless to say while she was gone I would be super horny thinking about her fucking another guy. This was way before cell phones so contact wasn't that hard. Some nights I would sit and try to remember some past adventure and type it out to share with others. I still have some of those adventures to share if anyone is interested? Anyhow, it can be very erotic just waiting at home for your freshly fucked bride to return home.

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I never knew ahead of time when she was going to screw another guy without me around. I loved to find out about it afterwards, and then we would have a really good session ourselves.

 

Same was true for another of my playmates. Her husband said for her to go do whatever she wanted, whenever she wanted, but not to tell him about it. He was not a swinger but was very open-minded and accommodating to her needs.

 

And, I think that another woman I see does not tell her husband about our afternoon meetings. He is a swinger that we have, as a couple, been with a few times. Now, it is just the other woman and me. My wife is no longer interested in him, but his wife still wants to be with me occasionally. My wife is OK with that and in fact leaves the house to go shopping or play bridge on the afternoons that the other woman is here.

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That is sort of how we got into swinging. My husband was to busy so while I was having at it with the other men, he was just as usual, staying busy.

 

Find something you enjoy doing and have at it...stay busy.

 

Funny part is that now after I tell him ALL about it, he turns into a sexual Dynamo!

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I don't have a problem if she goes on a solo date. I want to make sure that she thoroughly know the guy's character before she get involved physically. Since we live in a very orthodox country (India) where laws related to relationships are outdated, there is no point in trying to sue a guy if he published a MMS clip on internet. Instead she may end up in some legal trouble.

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It is funny how this topic comes up just about every time Mrs. CXXC has a date. Once again, I am not able to be home so the opportunity presented itself and now she has a date tonight.

 

I am sure that I will arrive home later this evening and she will be all worked up and wanting more. In that, I am more than willing to give!

 

What to so while she has her date? Occupy yourself with those little things that you have let slip or that to-do-list. Go to a movie! Rent a movie! If you cook, prepare a few lunches ahead of time for the week! The list of things to do is endless!

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The last time my wife was on a date about a year ago. Once I got the kid in bed I popped in a movie and jacked off two times. When she got home she told me about her date and I told her what I did and we went at it like rabbits.

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Keep busy,, go out with the guys at a sports bar and enjoy yourself....Make sure the wife lets you know shes safe and everything is ok and to let you know when she is back,....if she had a great time, talk about it, be happy for her and communicate how your evening went and share your feelings ...happy, nervous, worried about her safety etc....Share it all.

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I also try get everything done on my "to do list" during this time and, of course, think about what she might be doing at the moment.

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two words:

 

porn.

 

hee hee.

 

it's probably what i'd be occupying my time with while she's away anyway.

OK that takes care of the first 10 minutes.

Then what?

:D

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It really turns me on, knowing my wife is out fucking another guys - especially bareback. While she is out I will sometimes it down and detail one of her experiences to share with others. It also turns me on to relive those experiences. Especially loved it when she comes in the bedroom with no panties and cum dripping down her legs.

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One thing we do that adds to the fun is that she gets a hickey on different parts of her body from the lover or lovers she's had that night. When she gets home I look for the hickeys and then she can tell me who it was or what was happening. We found that by doing this she would remember some of the things that were happening that when she was telling me about it she might have forgotten before. It allows both of us to relive the night and for me it is as if I was there.

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WOW, just reading and thinking, I'm not ready for that step yet. I really enjoy being there to see for myself her pleasure.

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It can be very erotic sitting at home, knowing that your wife is getting fucked by another guy and will soon return home with a freshly fucked pussy.

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I usually plan a quiet evening at home, spending quality time with our teenage son, reading or watching TV. Then, I go to bed at a reasonable hour so I can get a good nights sleep. I don't really want to be awake when she gets home, because I have no interest in hearing about what she did. I do keep my cell phone with me the entire night, in case she needs to call me because of trouble.

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Pardon me, but don't any of the Men go out on "dates"?

 

I (the mr) go out on "dates", although for us, one of the reasons we also play separate is babysitting. So when one of us is out, the other is at home with the kids in some fashion (kids are in bed already or possibly out somewhere).

 

We do have some friends who both go out on concurrent yet separate dates. They have older kids though, so it's not such a score for them to get babysitting. For us, if we manage to get babysitting, we are going out together. We save the separate stuff for times when that isnt the case.

 

 

Back to topic, typically what I do is the normal nighttime routine with kids. Dinner, homework, bedtime routine. Then I do my typical nighttime routine, computer time, tv, go to bed. She normally doesn't go out for that long (unless she's out dancing) so I don't fall asleep before she comes home.

 

Normally when I'm out, it's later in the evening, so the kids are already in bed, and she just does her normal evening routine.

 

In either case, we wake each other when we get home (if the other is sleeping) and enjoy ourselves some more. Followed by more fun the next morning.

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I would be sitting at home checking the phone book for potential dates for me to go on when she gets back. I'd start with the A's.

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I (the mr) go out on "dates", although for us, one of the reasons we also play separate is babysitting. So when one of us is out, the other is at home with the kids in some fashion (kids are in bed already or possibly out somewhere).

 

We do have some friends who both go out on concurrent yet separate dates. They have older kids though, so it's not such a score for them to get babysitting. For us, if we manage to get babysitting, we are going out together. We save the separate stuff for times when that isn't the case.

 

Back to topic, typically what I do is the normal nighttime routine with kids. Dinner, homework, bedtime routine. Then I do my typical nighttime routine, computer time, tv, go to bed. She normally doesn't go out for that long (unless she's out dancing) so I don't fall asleep before she comes home.

 

Normally when I'm out, it's later in the evening, so the kids are already in bed, and she just does her normal evening routine.

 

In either case, we wake each other when we get home (if the other is sleeping) and enjoy ourselves some more. Followed by more fun the next morning.

That's easily understandable, Tom. It just seemed from the way the thread was going, that it was the women having all the fun, while meek, little, hubby stayed home and twiddled his thumbs, until Wifey came home. Which sounded kind of disrespectful.

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That's easily understandable, Tom. It just seemed from the way the thread was going, that it was the women having all the fun, while meek, little, hubby stayed home and twiddled his thumbs, until Wifey came home. Which sounded kind of disrespectful.

 

It's not disrespectful if she is having fun, he is glad to see her having fun and he isn't interested in meeting other women.

 

It might not be something you understand. It's not something I understand, but if that is what works for them then I am glad they have figured it out.

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It's not disrespectful if she is having fun, he is glad to see her having fun and he isn't interested in meeting other women.

 

It might not be something you understand. It's not something I understand, but if that is what works for them then I am glad they have figured it out.

Oh, I agree completely. Whatever floats your boat. I was just curious if that was what the OP intended.

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Pardon me, but don't any of the Men go out on "dates"?

 

At least here in So Cal, not anyway near as many as you would think. The ladies drive the LS bus.

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At least here in So Cal, not anyway near as many as you would think. The ladies drive the LS bus.
This seems to be the case in a lot of these relationships. Makes you wonder which partner first suggested joining the LS. I might have to start a poll.

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I think in many, many cases the husband brings up the idea. Then the wife tries it and loves it. And, in some cases has many more opportunities. I don't think there are many girls who go into it thinking they will be the ones getting the most action. People who play separate do so for many different reasons. I think very few do it to be disrespectful to their spouse.

 

BigRock, I get the feeling from your posts that you are projecting your own issues on women/couples who play separately. Swinging couples have to communicate openly and make decisions together. We both want the other to be happy and comfortable. The women are not being manipulative and the men are not being wimps. They've just found what works for them.

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I think in many, many cases the husband brings up the idea. Then the wife tries it and loves it. And, in some cases has many more opportunities. I don't think there are many girls who go into it thinking they will be the ones getting the most action. People who play separate do so for many different reasons. I think very few do it to be disrespectful to their spouse.

 

BigRock, I get the feeling from your posts that you are projecting your own issues on women/couples who play separately. Swinging couples have to communicate openly and make decisions together. We both want the other to be happy and comfortable. The women are not being manipulative and the men are not being wimps. They've just found what works for them.

Not projecting anything, FCD. Look at the posts. Hubby stays home and "occupies himself", and wifey goes on dates. That's what most of the posts are saying. I certainly didn't make them up. If BOTH partners have the same sexual freedom, that is what I've always supported in the LS. If one or the other has the option, but the other has to stay home, wouldn't you say that is disrespectful? I would. I have no problem with swinging as a couple or separately, as long as it's equal opportunity.

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I don't think you'll find much "equal opportunity" in this variation, Rocky. That's one of the reasons Mrs. Alura and I decided to trash the idea after we tried it. The best one can do is hope to understand and accept.

 

Alura

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I don't think you'll find much "equal opportunity" in this variation, Rocky. That's one of the reasons Mrs. Alura and I decided to trash the idea after we tried it. The best one can do is hope to understand and accept.

 

Alura

You got that right, Alura. If the posters are alright with situation, I'm the last person to condemn it. I've posted on other threads where men were getting something that their wives weren't allowed to, and called the same thing, plus this is the major drawback to Gangbangs, in my opinion. If the ladies are allowed to have many men, then the men should have as many Ladies as they can handle.. One of the most attractive aspects of the LS is it's honesty and fairness.

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If the ladies are allowed to have many men, then the men should have as many Ladies as they can handle.. One of the most attractive aspects of the LS is it's honesty and fairness.

 

This sounds good in theory, but in reality it doesn't seem to work that way. This isn't about keeping score. When it comes down to it, women tend to have more opportunity to play than men do. So its impossible in most cases for play time to be equal on a separate play type situation. In the posts above, I really don't think the men are sitting at home pouting because they aren't getting any....

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This sounds good in theory, but in reality it doesn't seem to work that way. This isn't about keeping score. When it comes down to it, women tend to have more opportunity to play than men do. So its impossible in most cases for play time to be equal on a seperate play type situation. In the posts above, I really don't think the men are sitting at home pouting because they aren't getting any....
You're right, NG, this isn't about keeping score. Whether it's the number of opportunities for dates, or the actual numbers of partners each person has. In my opinion, it is about being respectful of your SO. I would think that in any really healthy relationship, the woman would encourage the man to go out on as many dates as possible, and at least make an attempt at equality. The men in these posts seem to be resigned to their fate. Few of them sound all that enthusiastic. But again, to each, his own.

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The way my wife works things is when she have a date is, she will inform me about two to five minutes before it happens. This makes for some very sexy time waiting for her to start and finish about an hour later. Once her date is gone, it's some great sex between us. Don't want it any other way.

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Yeah, if fairness is the issue, this isn't the way to go about it. Unless the hubby has an amazing personality and is really attractive and the wife isn't, the wife will always have more available action than he does.

 

Just how it goes. The demand for gals is much higher than it is for guys, and guys are more common.

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We both have hall passes, we don't use them that often. When the Mrs. is off on a play date I have tons of stuff to do. I don't do things to keep my mind off of her, I do them because that is usually the only time I have to do them.

 

Not long ago I posted up my feelings of insecurity about the Mrs. being off with a friend, As soon as I had gotten the post written those feelings went away. I had those feelings because it had been a few years since we had played separately, or played at all really, and it was more jealousy of her getting some strange with out me than anything else. Since then we have played together and apart and things are fine.

 

K

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Gonna have to disagree with some of you here, the man isn't always staying home because he has no other 'choices'.

 

I have never had a problem meeting girls, in fact out of respect for our relationship I many times have turned away potential fuck buddies to keep things in our relationship happy, healthy, and where they need to be; she knows I have 'options' yet remain faithful and she loves me that much more for it.

 

Ms.Lookingfora3rd isn't exactly comfortable with me playing solo and I understand. It is not selfish of her it's just what makes her comfortable and we are both perfectly fine with that, in fact we prefer it.

 

To be completely honest I would much rather have my fun at home watching porn and waiting on her to get home fresh from fucking and with a HOT story any day.

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We are still figuring it out. If you can see from my other posts a lot of people do not play safely, which could be okay but then stuff is built on lies and I don't like that (that would be the date that jumped him after he took off his condom and his other friend who had hsv2 and didn't tell us). And yeah, it is his responsibility too (regarding the woman that jumped him.... oh hello big boy...!!) but a man with a hard-on doesn't have the thinking power of a man without one. lol.

 

A few hour solo romp feels okay to me, but the 12-15 hour semi-poly sleepover makes me anxious. I guess if we were living together for a number of years and weren't new at our own relationship outside dating would be easier in some ways. I DO need to find things to do so I don't obsess and want to communicate with him. I look for men to date in my own town (2 hours from P) but it's jerryfalwellville and it's slim pickings-- and honestly, I am creeped out by his last two dates. Lol. I have met guys in Pete's town that I have connections with but I am not super interested in taking too much time away from 'our time' at this point. All we know is that we keep talking about stuff and what works and what does not. I love him too much for a little stray pussy to get in the way. :D

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A few hour solo romp feels okay to me, but the 12-15 hour semi-poly sleepover makes me anxious. :D

 

and we feel like it probably should.

 

When Ms.Looking has done this we have both fully agreed that when the sex is over she comes home.

 

In our opinion sleeping together is for partners and couples, feelings and emotions come with sleeping naked together, waking up together, having coffee together, etc.

 

When the hot, dirty, scandalous fucking is done WE get to love on each other and reaffirm our connection with each other.

 

Not saying sleeping with your fuck buddy can't work, this is just what works for us and keeps any jealousy at bay.

 

The mind is an unexplainable thing and irrational thoughts feed themselves, we prefer to not give them any 'consumables' so to speak.

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My wife is going on a date later with a new fella; this happens maybe every couple months or so. I usually get some combination of giddy/nervous/horny whenever this happens, so I feel I need to program things to keep my mind occupied or else I'll probably snap and call or text her or otherwise be bouncing off the walls.
You will forgive me, I hope, for steering this discussion into a slightly different direction, but on a related theme.

 

My wife goes out on her own with about the same frequency. Possibly out of a residual sense of guilt, which of course she should not feel, she expresses concern for what is going to occupy my time, "are you going to be OK while I'm out?" Nothing I have said seemed to convince her that I _would_ be OK. She has even tried to arrange dates for me such that they will land on the same evening. I've assured her I can manage my own little black book.

 

I believe I have finally got the point through to her. My needs and wants are not the same. I'm happy with life and with the swing lifestyle I have embraced. She can have her fun, I can have mine. No need for guilt.

 

So with what do I occupy myself while she is out on a date? I play the music which she finds distasteful at about 110 decibels and eat baked beans right out of the can without heating them. I act, in other words, like a juvenile for just a few hours.

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You will forgive me, I hope, for steering this discussion into a slightly different direction, but on a related theme.

 

My wife goes out on her own with about the same frequency. Possibly out of a residual sense of guilt, which of course she should not feel, she expresses concern for what is going to occupy my time, "are you going to be OK while I'm out?" Nothing I have said seemed to convince her that I _would_ be OK. She has even tried to arrange dates for me such that they will land on the same evening. I've assured her I can manage my own little black book.

 

I believe I have finally got the point through to her. My needs and wants are not the same. I'm happy with life and with the swing lifestyle I have embraced. She can have her fun, I can have mine. No need for guilt.

 

So with what do I occupy myself while she is out on a date? I play the music which she finds distasteful at about 110 decibels and eat baked beans right out of the can without heating them. I act, in other words, like a juvenile for just a few hours.

 

Wow - too funny.

 

My husband F s himself.

 

I'd probably worry too if he did anything but that or anything sexual.

 

And as for yours, I'd crack up.

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That is sort of how we got into swinging. My husband was to busy so while I was having at it with the other men, he was just as usual, staying busy.

 

Find something you enjoy doing and have at it...stay busy.

 

Funny part is that now after I tell him ALL about it, he turns into a sexual Dynamo!

 

The same thing happened to me before we got into swinging. We had given each other permission to have other partners, just to see what it would be like. The marriage was not in trouble. After the first time she told me about her affair, I also became a "sexual dynamo." I would get an erection almost any time and bang away. I didn't know why knowing my wife had banged another guy made me so horny. Years later I found out this is characteristic of the Madonna-whore complex that I apparently suffered from. After I found out that she had screwed another guy, she was no longer on a pedestal and was more like mother earth. What I apparently really wanted was a sexual creature, not an angelic wife.

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He works during the night Sunday-Thursday, away from home between 7 p.m. and 3:30 a.m. Some evenings she invites one of her male fuck buddies to keep her company for a while when husband is at work. She makes sure they are gone before 2 a.m. We live in a modern 2-bed apartment so the neighbors can't see other men coming/going and when they hear "something" they assume its just us together, they would be shocked/disgusted if they knew what was actually happening.

 

Other times such as on Friday or Saturday nights if she is out on a date with someone, he is at home either playing a video game, watching a movie, or has a friend round or out with a friend for a drink, just normal things really.

 

We are kind of past the jealousy and excitement stage of when the other is sleeping with someone else. We sleep with other people without the other half knowing as if it's all routine and plain normal to us to the point that we no longer inquire if the other has been "playing away", he usually knows from tell-tail signs when she has been with another man no matter how discrete she tries to be.

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      I then looked at Sue and told her to call John, and I wanted her to be "forward" with him on the phone and that she first needed to ask him if he felt comfortable after meeting the two of us (I already knew how he was going to answer).  I then instructed Sue to specifically say on the phone that she was "also very comfortable both in conversation, as well as being in bed with him."  Sue then stated, at my request, "I'm interested in seeing you on a regular basis if you are.  And if you can commit to not dating any women on the side, I'll commit to having sex with you, pretty much whenever you want.  And, one more thing, if you are ok with it, I'd rather you no longer wear a condom." 
       
      And that started what turned out to be about a 15 year relationship where we are all still friends today. About two months after they started seeing each other, John called me and asked about the possibility of Sue working for him part time.  He was thinking about her going to his house two days a week, just half days.  One day would be to work on calling back customers who call to set up an appointment with him, and another half day to take care of sending out the bills, and making bill payments to suppliers, etc. 
       
      I had an idea pop into my head because I was still of the mindset of "punishing" Sue for cheating on me earlier.  John really liked my idea and now I was going to tell Sue.  When I told Sue what John had asked and what he and I decided she initially thought it was asking too much...but I reminded her about how hurtful her cheating had been and that I really needed her to do this. 
       
      Sue was a teacher and was about to have almost three full months off.  I told her that John would be paying her to work part time out of his house for two days a week.  She needed to be at his house around 7:30 in the morning to review his schedule so she could set up appointments for him to meet with people calling asking for a quote of construction work, and then on the second day she would handle all the billing that needed to be either paid, or invoiced. 
       
      She looked at me perplexed as if to say, "Ok, what's the big deal?" I then told her that EVERY day she went to his house to work that she was not allowed to wear a bra, and had to wear a top that was revealing either because of sheerness or being low cut. 
       
      After her saying, "Are your serious?", I responded, "You are damn right I'm serious, and frankly it's all because you were fucking the other John without telling me.  Now I'll know for the next three months what you'll be doing, and the plan is that you and John will be fucking each other each day, and sometimes 2X a day (when you first get there, and when he comes home for lunch). 
       
      She said, "Ok, I get it, but I hope this is coming to the end of it."  I then had her call John and had her say the following to him, "I hear  you have a job opening for me, can you confirm the dress code and expectations that I just heard from my husband."  She listened to his response and said "When do you want me to start?.  And for the next three months she arrived at John's house, always with a sweater on in case she got stopped by a police officer or if something weird happened on her way "to work." And the first thing she did when she got in the house was take her sweater off. 
       
      The very first time she was to go to work she came downstairs and took her sweater off and said, "Does this meet  your approval?"  She was obviously braless, wearing a thin, low cut tank top with low arm holes exposing plenty of side boob, and you could make out the color of her nipples through the top.  I told Sue I couldn't have picked out better work attire and then she went to work. 
       
      During the three months doing this I had to go on a business trip for a few days so I called John and told him to call Sue and ask her out to dinner and make plans to spend some time at his house.  I also told John I wanted "photo proof of him fucking her so I know she went."  This was also going to be a test to see if Sue would be honest about telling me what she was going to do. 
       
      About 30 minutes after talking with John, Sue called me.  She told me that John had asked her out to dinner and wanted to make sure I was ok with that?  She said it felt like she was going "on a date" rather than just being a friend with benefits.  I told her it felt the same way to me, and considering that she pretty much "went on dates" with the previous John without my knowledge, that she now needed to realize that she was about to start dating John WITH my knowledge.  She asked how much longer she needed to go through with this and I told her I hadn't even started to think about that yet because I had been hurt so much. 
       
      So Sue and John had their first "date" while I was away on business.  John sent me an email that included an attachment.  He laughingly wrote: "As you requested, my first date with your wife happened.  I also told her that you asked me to inform her that you wanted her to agree to start "dating me" rather than just me fucking her.  And she agreed to it, so once she's back teaching and can't come over during the summer anymore, she is going to start seeing me for longer periods of time rather than coming over for an hour to fuck each other, we'll grab dinner or take a drive somewhere."
       
      John also told me to watch the attachment as he sent "more than a photo".  I opened the attachment and saw two things: a photo of my wife's face with his cock in her mouth, pressing her cheek from the inside so I could see his cock bump pushing out her cheek. And he also sent me a video that lasted a few minutes of him fucking her.  He told me not to worry, that he'd delete both the photo and video, but I told him I wanted him to keep it so he'd always be able to look back on how they looked fucking each other. 
       
      And that relationship lasted around 15 years.  After fucking John about 10 times Sue told me that she noticed something different and wanted to be honest with me.  I asked her what she was talking about.  She said it felt like John was "fucking" her at times like he was paying for it but other times it was more emotional, it was starting to feel like he was "making love" to her. I told her I guess that would be normal after seeing someone consistently that you liked.  I told her I was ok with that. 
       
      She then said she was starting to feel like she was making love to him at times, that it was emotional for her as well feeling like she was giving her body to someone she cared about as a friend.  She wasn't having any feelings of being in love with him, but she was getting some emotional connection where she wanted to give herself to him when they saw each other.  It turned me on. The frequency of sex got less over the last couple of years but he and I estimated, that not counting the three months she worked for him and they fucked anywhere from 2-4 times a week, that he had fucked her somewhere between 50-100 times. 
       
      And to this day, years later, the thought that she's been fucked so much by the same guy is a turn-on.  We all still remain friends today.  I thought that would be the end of our openess in our marriage but there would be two other men that would enter our lives, both of which got substantial time with my hotwife.  And she wanted it. 
       
      If you'd like to read about it, let me know and I'll write it up.
    • By MenPoundMyWife
      My wife and I have been married for over 10 years. She is 5'4, about 130lbs, 34F, and very fit. 
       
      We dated for couple of years before getting married. From the very beginning, she was the most sexual woman I had ever met. Soon after we started dating, she started to push me to talk about her former lovers. Slowly, I started to get turned on by the stories and became more and more curious about her past sexual experiences with boyfriends before me. Eventually, we got married, and few years later, she started to throw hints of wanting to raise her score. I quickly got on board and we started to regularly talk about how other men would fuck her and so forth.
       
      Finally, during a trip to Vegas, we decided to visit a sex club and she was very excited, although a little nervous. She wore a new tight black dress with red lingerie underneath. We got to the club and just hung out. She was very uneasy and she said she had never been to a place like this. About 30 minutes in, we were starting to talk about leaving, she suddenly pointed at a slightly older guy and said: "Go bring him here." My dick was hard as a rock. I walked up to the guy and asked if he is interested in my wife, he had been staring at her the entire time. He quickly smiled and said, "Oh yes, let's go."
       
      They shook hands, introduced themselves and we all decided to find the area with beds and more privacy (so to speak). We found a room downstairs that was only enclosed by a curtain. She told me to go and get condoms so she can get to know the guy for a few minutes. When I came back, they were just talking, slowly, she walked up to me and started kissing me. Once I let go, I gestured to the guy to go ahead; he quickly moved in on her. They started making out, he started kissing her all over the place, slowly, she dropped backwards on bed and pulled him on top of herself. 
       
      He lowered her dress and started sucking her big tits. She asked me to join in. We each had a tit in our mouth and we were both fingering her pussy at the same time. Slowly, I moved down and started eating her pussy. She is always fully waxed like a porn star. As soon as I stopped eating her pussy as she came, he went down and started eating it. Slowly, I moved back up and she took my dick in her mouth. 
       
      To our surprise, a crowd gathered and four other men wanted to fuck her. She shook her head but they all watched her get pounded. 
       
      The guy that went in there with us, quickly got naked and tugged at her red thong. She took it off and handed it to me. This whole time, she was playing with my dick, it's about 5.5". The guy was much larger, about 7". She looked at it and winked at me. She told him she likes it rough.
       
      He had it fully up and moved close to her pussy. She stared into my eyes, grabbed his dick and guided it to rub her pussy. He took his clue and shoved it in. She reminded him to not be gentle. He obliged and fucked her like a whore. She begged for more by saying, "Oh yeah, fuck me, fuck me hard...look babe, he is fucking me so good, he is so big, look, he is fucking your wife right in front of you....oh yeah, fuck me." About four other guys and a couple were now watching her get fucked. I asked her if I should tell them to leave, she said no, she likes it. She slowly turned to them so they can get the full view of a dick in her pussy while she was playing with mine. 
       
      Once the guy got done, she said, "Okay honey, this was awesome," and kissed me multiple times thanking me for a great experience. She said she wanted to stay for a few before we walked out. She wanted to walk around and be noticed as the woman who had just been fucked, since rest of the crowd was just hanging out.
       
      We cannot wait to do it again.  
       
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