Does my wife want a MFM or is it just fantasy?

[SexhoundDog 18]

This is probably a question for the ladies, but anyone please reply if you have some insight. My wife and I seem to find ourselves watching porn movies more and more, and it always leads to good sex. I notice that the ones she seems to like most are the MMF movies, but I don’t know if she just likes the “eye candy”, the fantasy, or would really like to try it. I asked her what she likes best, the total attention or the cocks, and she said it shows two things she really likes, intercourse and sucking cock.

I’m kind of taking it slow and hoping she’ll direct the conversation a bit more, so other than trying to be sure we get some MMF viewing to keep the idea fresh in her mind, I’m not quite sure how to move best on this. About the only other thing I said was that if she ever wanted to do the threeway, I’d have to like the guy too. We both like the movies where the guys act interested in pleasing the woman rather than the “suck it bitch” variety where it appears more degrading than sexy, so I’m hoping she thinks me having to like the guy means I’d be concerned about her satisfaction.

I guess my question is this. Should I press this any more or how would be a good way to get her to bring it up more open? I’m curious as to where enjoying a fantasy ends and perhaps wanting to taste reality takes over. Also, I assume it would make the most sense to let her do the selection? What seemed to work for you??

[Roxysbayou 20]

I would try to bring it up when you are both in a playful mood. That's how hubby always seems to get me, almost like a truth or dare. Would you ever? See how she responds, take things at her pace. Make sure that if you do decide to take things a bit further that you keep the line of communication open.

 

Roxy

[Guest Willbfun]

For us we was coaxed into our first MMF threesome, by a couple who knew the man. He was black and my wife always was a little curious about the whole black male myth. Especially after a couple of the women in our group had bragged up his love making abilities. He came around our group at the club, and we had talked to him several times, and he was very nice. I think what we liked most is the fact that he wasn't pushy. Some single men, if your wife even smiled or spoke trying to be friendly, would consider that a come on, and seemed very pushy even after she told them NO, she wasn't interested.

 

Well one night when we were at one couples house, they asked us about inviting him over, we agreed, but it turned out he couldn't make it that night. I knew the other husband was into watching, and wanted to see my wife, with this well endowed stud, but that didn't happen. So we agreed to meet him at another time. As it turned out my wife, had one of the best sexully encounters of her life. And like you said about not wanting some guy to say "suck my dick bitch" This man only seemed interested in pleasing my wife. He had a couple more inches than she could take, but he never tried stroking her deeper than she was comfortable with. After we got in the motel room, and my wife had went into the bathroom to put on a teddy. He removed his clothes, revealing his manhood, and asked me if I was ok with this. I figured it was too late to change my mind then, and told his it might be a problem for my wife but not for me.

 

I might have been a little jealous or intimidated, at first but when I seen the pleasure, in my wife's eyes. I didn't mind watching my wife ravished by another man. I never really though I would enjoy watching, and not having another guys wife to enjoy. But after they had made love for awhile I joined them, it was fun, and we meet with the same man several times after that. And after encounters with him our love making seemed hotter than ever.

[Vjklander 138]

Originally posted by SexhoundDog

I guess my question is this. Should I press this any more or how would be a good way to get her to bring it up more open? I’m curious as to where enjoying a fantasy ends and perhaps wanting to taste reality takes over. Also, I assume it would make the most sense to let her do the selection? What seemed to work for you??

 

First thing is to decide if you want to do this. Talk talk talk, then try reading penthouse letters together or stories in literotica.com

I'll pick one out or have my girl pick one out, then I tease and play with her with toys and/or my body parts whilst she reads it out loud. It becomes a bit of a contest to see if she can read it or if I can make her lose control. ;0

Once(if) you decide to go for it, select the pidgeon, er playmate, together. You both have to be comfortable with him. In my experience the decent guys will require assurance from the male as well as the female that this is ok. So be sure to make it clear that you want this for her too. Though I do love to watch, most of the time we share together, especially at the beginning. In our case, we are in several bdsm clubs so finding a horny guy for a third was pretty easy. Same for females and couples. Basically, look around. Just about any single guy will jump at the chance.

OH, geez. MOST IMPORTANT, which is why its down here and not up there. You must discuss all the potential problems as well as the advantages. Is pregmancy a possibility? What will you do if bc fails and she ends up pregnant? What if she gets a disease despite your safegaurds? What if she changes her mind at the last minute. What if the guy turns out not to be what you thought? All these are things to think about beforehand. I don't want to scare you off, but better safe than sorry.

In my personal opinion, sharing pleasures with others adds a dimension to our lives that is quite satisfying. We could live without it, but with reasonable caution and good communication all is well.

J

[Guest xerogirl]

I had a MMF fantasy for a few years before ever telling my hubby:evil: I would bet your wife dose not know how to tell u "could be wrong". My problem was telling my hubby. We had been with couples but, I wanted more attention. Some of the BEST play times i've had have been our "rare" MMF 3 sums. Just wanted to toss that in;)

[OhioCouple 41]

Much like Roxy, my husband would bring it up as part of our foreplay. At first, I was a little turned off by it...over time it began to sound really interesting and then became a huge turn on. He never pushed the issue and let me grow into the idea. Perhaps I am slow, but it took me a full three years to be really turned on by the idea. Even then I did a lot of research on it to make sure that it would fit in with my moral beliefs. Imagine the surprise on his face when I said.."Honey, look at this website I found for swingers!" The rest is history.

 

Take it slow and keep those lines of communication open...ya just never know...

 

Lori

[Guest everlast]

Originally posted by SexhoundDog

We both like the movies where the guys act interested in pleasing the woman rather than the “suck it bitch” variety

 

It sounds like you've found some of these elusive types of movies!

 

Any title names you could drop would be appreciated, We definitely enjoy watching those kind over those porno's where the woman is treated like dirt on the floor... but sadly those seem to be the standard

[uneed_love2 16]

Do the movies have to be in english? JC has some that I find almost classy! If you don't mind them being in french, I can ask him to post the titles.

[uneed_love2 16]

Originally posted by Ashley

I have huge MMF fantasies. I can't concentrate on my own orgasm when I'm giving a blowjob. So now I am searching for a way to do it, but do it differently. I want it to be all about me...lol...and if you approach it in this way I'll bet your wife will be very receptive. In my current fantasy, L is holding me, kissing me, fondling my breasts and looking deep into my eyes while a gorgeous young stud is either licking me or penetrating me. The turn on is from the eye contact more than the licking/penetration....lol.

 

This just about summs it up! Nothing to add! Except that I also find it much more pleasurable to concentrate on one thing at a time!

[curious24 17]

I've been following this thread for awhile and this is actually one of my fantasies to try. I'm not so much in it for my enjoyment but for the enjoyment of the woman. I tell ya it drives me nuts to see a woman enjoying things so much Sometimes I wonder if I'll ever get the chance. I guess that's why they call it a fantasy

[Uneed_Love 15]

Originally posted by curious24

Sometimes I wonder if I'll ever get the chance. I guess that's why they call it a fantasy

Never give up - but keep it up - because untill now hubbies cannot been cloned... So for a MFM fantasy You need at least 2 males (or even more ) which let's you 2 options :

- Find a female and marry her then look for a single man

- Reply to the ads of couples who are searching for a stud in order to satisfy the wife.

Who knows fantasy could become real one day. Good luck and be patient.

 

Have fun.

 

JC

[curious24 17]

Originally posted by Uneed_Love

- Find a female and marry her then look for a single man

that is if I can find one... I have no idea where all the single ladies are...

Reply to the ads of couples who are searching for a stud in order to satisfy the wife.

I've tried that before... but I usually don't get a reply back... seems odd to me... ah well. thanks for the advice!

[Roxysbayou 20]

Originally posted by curious24

that is if I can find one... I have no idea where all the single ladies are...

 

Hubby found me at the movie theater.

[curious24 17]

Originally posted by Roxysbayou

Hubby found me at the movie theater.

cool! some guy was coughing on the back of my head at the last movie i saw and i got sick grrr...

 

anyway.. sorry a bit off topic had to vent..

[Roxysbayou 20]

Originally posted by curious24

cool! some guy was coughing on the back of my head at the last movie i saw and i got sick grrr...

 

anyway.. sorry a bit off topic had to vent..

 

...Well that's enough to spoil the mood! When I was single I was definitely a party girl! I hit the nightclubs every Thursday and Saturday night very some time. That's all great for a one night stand. But I did find that the quality of men in those kinds of places, and women to I'm sure, was not what I was looking for when it came to getting serious. Plus alcohol really inpairs your judgment...lol. I met a great guy once in a laundry mat not far from my apartment too. Maybe that should be a new thread...what are the best places to meet women? Maybe I'll start it, even though it doesn't necassarily apply to swingers it would be fun to know where people have come together.

[curious24 17]

Originally posted by Roxysbayou

...Well that's enough to spoil the mood! When I was single I was definitely a party girl! I hit the nightclubs every Thursday and Saturday night very some time. That's all great for a one night stand. But I did find that the quality of men in those kinds of places, and women to I'm sure, was not what I was looking for when it came to getting serious. Plus alcohol really inpairs your judgment...lol. I met a great guy once in a laundry mat not far from my apartment too. Maybe that should be a new thread...what are the best places to meet women? Maybe I'll start it, even though it doesn't necassarily apply to swingers it would be fun to know where people have come together.

thanks for the advice!

 

i swear it's easy for a woman.. i just have zero luck when it comes with women.. most of the time when i go out to a bar or something it's the nasty guys that get the numbers.. like the ones that are like 5'10" or 5'11" are all built up and muscles out the wazoo.. the shirt that is unbuttoned about 3 buttons.. have the side burns down their face.. and the messed up hair... it's really annoying cause i just don't see how ANYONE could like those kind of guys.. it really dumbfounds me...

[Uneed_Love 15]

Originally posted by Roxysbayou

it would be fun to know where people have come together.

Four years ago I met my Kitty-Love on the web in a forum... Not a sexual one... We were talking first about esoterism and Spirituality... then Tantra and finally esoterism turned into erotism... and I told her that in the word libertine You can found the word liberty... LOL

[uneed_love2 16]

Originally posted by curious24

that is if i can find one.. i have no idea where all the single ladies are..

 

 

Actually, there are just as many single ladies that are looking for men! And I hear from them that they have no idea where the guys are! So...

 

Have you tried big stores? Look in the baskets of the ladies that look interesting to you. Are they buying food for one person or more? Its usually pretty easy to judge. You can always ask them for advise, how to cook this vegetable, does she think it is worth it to buy organic food, anything will do to break the ice. It is a very safe environment with lots of women!

 

There was one guy that used to do it all the time. His favorite spot were bulk eggs. I guess the discussion if its worth it to buy white or brown, bulk or packaged, small, medium or large was worth the effort. He always left the store with someone...

 

Just make sure that you dress up nice and are in a positive mood!

You have to go with the attitude that you will meet a nice lady. Because if you go with the idea that ladies are not interested in you, they will feel that and they won't be interested!

 

Another way might be to tell your friends and family that you would like to meet a nice woman and to introduce you if they know of someone. Just make sure that they know what you are looking for!

 

Good luck to you

[Vjklander 138]

Originally posted by Roxysbayou

: it would be fun to know where people have come together.

 

 

um, well, uh,

I found Mrs. Vjk in my bed.

Never one to look a gift horse in the mouth, I kept her.

J

[uneed_love2 16]

Originally posted by curious24

thanks for the advice!

 

i swear it's easy for a woman.. i just have zero luck when it comes with women.. most of the time when i go out to a bar or something it's the nasty guys that get the numbers.. like the ones that are like 5'10" or 5'11" are all built up and muscles out the wazoo.. the shirt that is unbuttoned about 3 buttons.. have the side burns down their face.. and the messed up hair... it's really annoying cause i just don't see how ANYONE could like those kind of guys.. it really dumbfounds me...

 

This thread had 1776 hits ... I wonder how many single women are amongst them that are looking for a guy... Make sure you have your age and interests in your profile so that they can look at it and maybe send you a message...

 

Personally I don't care if the guy is all muscles. As a matter of fact, I prefer a positive attitude to muscles, most of the times they turn into fat anyways...

 

JC and I are almost the same size. Its great because I don't need to step on a ladder to sneak a kiss! I can wear his clothes (a big advantage!), even his shoes! My grandmother was almost a head taller than my grandfather... So you see, its not the looks, its the attitude that counts. Well, looks can help but they are not everything.

 

If you can't find a woman at a bar, look somewhere else. What do you like? Look for user groups or clubs with your interests. There are bound to be some single women that don't know where the single guys are...

[curious24 17]

Originally posted by uneed_love2

So you see, its not the looks, its the attitude that counts.

I couldn't agree with you more.. here's my take on things..

 

1) most important is personality.. must have an awesome personality.. because when you are old and grey and everything has faded away it's all you have left...

 

2) sex.. i really think a good sex life is very important to a healthy relationship.

 

3) appearence.. they don't have to be a super model but they need to be active like me and i need to find them attractive..

 

If you can't find a woman at a bar, look somewhere else. What do you like? Look for user groups or clubs with your interests. There are bound to be some single women that don't know where the single guys are...

oh i don't look at a bar.. i've found that most of those women are just taking people at face value.. and it's so annoying cause i'm not the hottest guy in the bar so they don't give me the time of day..

 

but i do exactly what you are talking about.. i take informal classes in things that interest my.. like photography.. out door things like kayaking or hiking etc.. i tend to meet a lot of nice people that way.. but few my age.. but you never know who those other people might know...