MFM experience with extremely large cock left me feeling dwarfed

[weatenan 16]

We have been swinging for a while now. well kind of, we really have only done mfm, go our own seperate ways once in a great while, we have done a swap one time but did not enjoy it as much.

 

We recently found someone new to have a mfm with, it was someone my wife knew that she was friends w/ during college. I met him and he seemed very nice and not pushy. For us as a couple we are very picky in the sense that we only will consider other men that she is physically attracted to, and can get a long with as a friend outside of everything.

 

My wife ran into him one day and mentioned possibly having a mfm get together with him b/c she always thought he was very attractive and they always got along well and it had been a long time since we have had fun.

 

we went out one night just the 3 of us and had some drinks and a good time, nothing happened and i gave the go ahead for the next meet up because i really liked the guy.

so, a few days later he came over and relaxed for a big, when we finally got started it was a typical meeting. when i finally saw him i was stunned at his size. i'm 7.5" and he made me look tiny, deffinetly double digits. I have never seen my wife be so vocal or twitch and move so much until that night. it was one of our best nights yet. the next night we talked about our experience like we always do, i hadnt told her that i noticed the size of him. but she said she loved every minuet of the experience, had never had so many orgasms in one night and couldnt wait to do it again, so we did.

 

my question is: i am not a jealous person, and we do this for our pleasure, and its obvious that she is enjoying it very much and has even increased our one on one experiences together. she recently asked me if it would be ok to be alone with him when and if i am not availible, (which we have done once before). So i asked her about his size, and she said that she too was stunned and didnt think they existed only in the movies but she had reached a new height because of it and gave her completly different feeling than ever before. so i am leaving for the weekend and she told me she plans on staying over with him while i am gone. do i need to be worried about this? will i still be able to please her myself if she gets to "used" to his size? i mentioned that sometime we should have me just watch, which she agreed to but wasnt interested in ever before this guy.

[Mobile 15]

I'm a total newbie here, but this sure seems like a weird thing. I mean, at 7.5" you are like in the 99th percentile of all men. And if he was 10" plus, he had to be in the 99.999th percentile.

 

My gut reaction is you need to get a new ruler.

 

But if your figures are correct, how do you think all the other guys in your MFM's felt? Weren't you substantially larger than all of them?

 

But back to your question, if you're not comfortable with them being together without you, then why not just tell her that. If you don't want to invite him to another MFM, that's ok too, right?

[sweet_tna 680]

I'm not a guy, so I can't identify with your feeling exactly. But I have played with guys whose packages are larger than my hubby's (and yes, I've played alone with one such guy). And rest assured, while it was a novelty and exciting as hell, I'd still rather be with Mr. Sweet any day of the week and twice on Sunday.

 

That said, if you're feeling antsy about this, then talk to your wife. You're under no obligation to do anything that you're uncomfortable with.

 

=)

[Dave_kat 227]

Every person in the world is built differently. There will always be someone longer, someone shorter, someone thicker, someone thinner. We can't always be on the top end of the bell curve on this one.

 

While it's natural to be worried about his size, you need to remember something.. Your wife married you, not your penis. Swinging is about experiencing those differences, but holding onto your own love with your SO.

 

In other words, he's bigger than you. Other men have let you play with their SOs and you're bigger than they are - do you think they were worried about that? They knew where their SOs were coming home to sleep, and so should you know.

[weatenan 16]

Mobile: i would highly doubt 7.5" is in the 99% been in many of locker rooms in my day and i can honestly say im not the biggest or the bumble bee's. and i do measure correctly so no i dont think i am that far off in his size. maybe you are right maybe its 9" and a 1.5" diff makes it look much bigger. but all i can say is he is almost my size when im erect and he is flacid. but maybe you are rt on just telling her. just dont want jealousy to appear to be an issue after all these years and she is having fun with it.

 

sweet tna: thank you for your reply, that helps a lot hearing a womens perspective always does help. i havent tried talking to her on the issue of me feeling "antsy" about it, just about the experience in general and she enjoyed it so much that i didnt want to say anything to detour her from our enjoyment.

 

Dave kat, you are right, she does come home to me and i would say she didnt marry me for my penis haha

[Speed & Trixie 163]

And rest assured, while it was a novelty and exciting as hell, I'd still rather be with Mr. Sweet any day of the week and twice on Sunday.

 

 

=)

 

(except replace "Mr. Sweet" with "Speed" )

 

And Speed had played with women who have different body types than mine -- and I have no doubt that he loves me (and my body) all the more!

 

Swinging is about variety, yes? And having fun? As long as this guy is respectful and everyone's having fun, it sounds like you'll get past this little "twinge" of... discomfort.

 

Trixie

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

If you aren't comfortable, don't do it.

 

I had a little waving at the mention that she was going to stay overnight with him while you are gone out of town. That just seems like a lot more than just playing with him when you can't be there.

[DE_BBC 15]

Every person in the world is built differently. There will always be someone longer, someone shorter, someone thicker, someone thinner. We can't always be on the top end of the bell curve on this one.

 

While it's natural to be worried about his size, you need to remember something.. Your wife married you, not your penis. Swinging is about experiencing those differences, but holding onto your own love with your SO.

 

In other words, he's bigger than you. Other men have let you play with their SOs and you're bigger than they are - do you think they were worried about that? They knew where their SOs were coming home to sleep, and so should you know.

 

yep...so true.

[JandY 61]

If you're 7.5" you got nothing to worry about.

 

(The following is NOT for boasting purposes, but just to make a point) I hover between 8 and 8.5 on a good day (when the tide is high and the blood is REALLY pumping).

 

The male half of our swing-partners is, at best, 6" and having both seen it and played with it, I can vouch that 6" is more than enough (and you're 7.5").

 

Think about it. Go get a 6" nail from the shed and look at the size of that thing.

 

If the whole body was in proportion, my pal would be about 5'10" but you'd be 7'6" tall.

 

Both girls agree that the sight differential is quite great, but the actual action part is irrelevant.

 

Who the heck would even WANT 10"?

 

On the subject of percentages, apparently I'm one in three hundred and you're one of only three per hundred - so you're blessed (see below).

 

Average Penis Size

 

 

I only rate "B""on the following and the other guy fucking your wife is a "C" at best.

 

The Authentic Women's Penis Size Preference Chart [PIC]

 

You might be an "A".

 

Deffinately no penile dwarf, old chap.

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

If you aren't comfortable, don't do it.

 

I had a little waving at the mention that she was going to stay overnight with him while you are gone out of town. That just seems like a lot more than just playing with him when you can't be there.

I'm with Julie on this thought.

 

There is waaaay more to be thinking about than the size of your cock compared to his cock.

 

How unusual was it for your wife to just "happen to run into" an old college friend one day? There is this little warning beeper going off in my head. I could be way too suspicious, but I'd rather give thought to all possibilities than not.

 

If you aren't comfortable about your wife playing with this guy alone while you're out of town - or even when you're in town - tell your wife and hold off with this plan.

 

Since it's already Friday night, my post may be too late to make a difference in your decision. Come back and let us know what you decided to do.

 

LM

[it'sso 198]

Being at the other end of the spectrum from both you and your wife's new playmate, (or possibly old playmate?) I do think I am familiar with that "feeling" that you have about this, since I too shared it a time or two, in the past. I can tell you that if she wishes to meet this guy when you aren't around, then "swinging" in no way describes the lifestyle the to of you have chosen.

If you intend to go along with it, perhaps you need to find an occasional dish to see alone from time to time. Perhaps one who offers attributes that your dear wife can't provide you.

[safireblues 106]

I have been with a much bigger guy and...ok...to be graphic. The vaginal sex was incredible! Like change your life incredible.

 

My hubby is bigger (and thicker) than average, but I know he felt a bit dwarfed in the moment. Here's the thing about a big dick though--it's awesome in the novelty, and on an occasional basis, but if I had to deal with that monster every day, it would be a problem.

 

I can't imagine being able to fuck like that all the time, anal is definitely out, and I couldn't fit hardly any of him in my mouth. While he was great to play with, it's impractical...

 

now, a dick like yours...well, a girl can love that dick:)

[safireblues 106]

oh, and I can stay with others, and so can my hubby...don't let the dick size scare you.

 

However, if you feel like she's super into him emotionally and physically and everything else, you may want to move slowly on the "staying alone" thing. If she is really into him, move slowly until everyone knows the rules.

 

Is he just a single guy? Does he want your wife, would he want a relationship with her or is there a reason he's not capable of anything beyond sex right now?

 

I'd say move super super slow until her "dickmatization" dies down.

[Additude 457]

The weekend is over sir and what say you?

 

How did that work out for you, the wife and Mr. Ten Incher?

[it'sso 198]

Perhaps if the OP wishes to gain some comfort from his wife's overnighter while he is out of town, he might prefer she spend it with me and my "massive" 4.5 incher?

[CXXC 435]

I can tell you that if she wishes to meet this guy when you aren't around' date=' then "swinging" in no way describes the lifestyle the to of you have chosen.[/quote']

Mrs. CXXC and I play together as well as separate. We actually consider ourselves swinging. How would you define it?

 

If you intend to go along with it, perhaps you need to find an occasional dish to see alone from time to time. Perhaps one who offers attributes that your dear wife can't provide you.

 

That sounds almost spiteful.

 

I think the biggest point that must be hammered home is that the OP needs to make his feelings known to his wife. Openness is the best way to resolve this fear or issue.

[ERICANDANN1 23]

she recently asked me if it would be ok to be alone with him when and if i am not availible, (which we have done once before). so i am leaving for the weekend and she told me she plans on staying over with him while i am gone. do i need to be worried about this?

 

Uh yeah!!!!!!!! I don't know what your relationship is or isn't. For my wife and I we would never play without the other present somewhere. We, and this is just us, have never understood why a married couple would allow one or both to go off on their own for a night, weekend etc. with someone else without the other. We are in this together and for each other. I would never allow my wife to spend a night or a weekend with someone else by herself and I know she would never allow me to do that either with another woman. Not because of jealousy but, rather in our case we feel it would be disrespectful not to mention that it could potentially lead to developing damaging issues or other problems. If you are comfortable with doing that than by all means do it but, my wife and I got into swinging to enjoy ourselves and to make great friends and have fun with each other. As far as penis size goes I would not let it bother you. Bottom line is you got what you got. Take care and good luck.

[it'sso 198]

Mrs. CXXC and I play together as well as separate. We actually consider ourselves swinging. How would you define it?

 

 

That sounds almost spiteful.

 

I think the biggest point that must be hammered home is that the OP needs to make his feelings known to his wife. Openness is the best way to resolve this fear or issue.

 

If you both get to fly solo, then it may be considered as anything YOU wish it to be. If only one of you has the privilege, then others will consider it to be a one sided affair.

When a couple is into something "together" it usually means that both get to enjoy the fruits of the endeavor.

I would have no problem in my wife doing as suggested by the OP providing that I too would be free to do as I wish anytime I wished it.

This seldom is the case in most relationships with which I am familiar.

Not spiteful. Just stating MY viewpoint.

[CXXC 435]

If you both get to fly solo, then it may be considered as anything YOU wish it to be. If only one of you has the privilege, then others will consider it to be a one sided affair.

When a couple is into something "together" it usually means that both get to enjoy the fruits of the endeavor.

I would have no problem in my wife doing as suggested by the OP providing that I too would be free to do as I wish anytime I wished it.

This seldom is the case in most relationships with which I am familiar.

Not spiteful. Just stating MY viewpoint.

 

Originally Posted by it'sso

If you intend to go along with it, perhaps you need to find an occasional dish to see alone from time to time. Perhaps one who offers attributes that your dear wife can't provide you.

 

This was the statement I felt could be found as spiteful. Going out and finding a woman with qualities your wifes does not have struck me funny. That is all!

 

Providing both parties agree and have equality in their activities (Not always physically, see Hot Wife and Cuckhold) I cannot see that there can be an issue unless one move beyond the boundries that have been established. If they have both played solo and she would like to do that agian, I feel she should be albe to do so. However, as he has nothing lined up for himself, perhaps he is feeling a tad left out and is now reconsidering the activities.

 

The fact that she wants to stay over with her play mate is stated in such a "Matter-of-fact" way by the OP I wonder if that is really an issue at all.

 

I could be reading this entire situation incorrectly.

 

As for Mrs. CXXC and myself, providing we stick to our ground rules, solo or couple play is a wonderful thing. If she called me up while I am out of town and informed me of an opportunity to play, I could not say no as I am afforded the very same from her.

[YZF 8]

For my wife and I we would never play without the other present somewhere. We, and this is just us, have never understood why a married couple would allow one or both to go off on their own for a night, weekend etc. with someone else without the other. We are in this together and for each other.

 

Mrs. YZF and I did that once. And we wound up with a permanent third as a result. Not that I mind (two women in my bed every night, I'd be crazy to mind), but anything can happen in those situations.

[CXXC 435]

I decided to say SCREW convention! I am not going to use standard or metric measuring systems. As I travel so much, most of my time is spent working with maps. That being said, I am going to be using Rand McNally's legend as my rule. Wow! 1237 Miles! Woooo Hooo! I think I have a world record going on here!

My suggestion is to start at Key West and work your way North. If you hit New England, you are a Stud! If you only get to GA, well, ummm,

[it'sso 198]

"As for Mrs. CXXC and myself, providing we stick to our ground rules, solo or couple play is a wonderful thing. If she called me up while I am out of town and informed me of an opportunity to play, I could not say no as I am afforded the very same from her."

 

Ergo, both your wife and you appear to have a relationship different than that of the OP. Regarding my suggestion of him finding a playmate that can offer him something which his wife doesn't, presently, Isn't this, in fact what his wife has been enjoying?

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[curiousagain 326]

As a SM I don't think you need to worry about size, but you don't sound comfortable with her staying with the SM while you are out of town. Forr some couples/singles that would be no problem but since you aren't comfortable with it, it's a no brainer. She shouldn't do it. Maybe at another time you will be comfortable but until then, just don't.

 

Everybody is into what they're are in to. Obviously at this time, it's not for you so it's not for "y'all".

[CXXC 435]

Ergo, both your wife and you appear to have a relationship different than that of the OP. Regarding my suggestion of him finding a playmate that can offer him something which his wife doesn't, presently, Isn't this, in fact what his wife has been enjoying?

_

 

I cannot disagree with you. I guess it was the way it struck me at the time or the way I read it. It just sounded so tit-for-tat. The biggest point however, is that the OP needs to tell his wife how he feels. Ignorance will only bring aobut more mistakes and heartbreak.

[willyoats 324]

Here we go again with the worry about size of the other guy's cock. So she had a really good time with another cock. So what, provided she comes home to you all the time.

 

My wife has had some REALLY good times with cocks that are bigger, especially thicker, than mine. but for the whole package to spend a lifetime with, I have no worries. I win hands down every time, even after she screwed a lot when I wasn't around.

 

What counts is whether she is attracted to much more than the big cock, which may well be a passing fancy. That's the time to worry.

[The Fuse 1,012]

Hear, hear!

[turnuptheheat 98]

I have been with a much bigger guy and...ok...to be graphic. The vaginal sex was incredible! Like change your life incredible.

 

 

Interesting. After reading so much about how cock size does not matter, this is a real curiosity.

Is there more that you could add about "change your life incredible"?

[JTcamp05 9]

Here's the thing about a big dick though--it's awesome in the novelty, and on an occasional basis, but if I had to deal with that monster every day, it would be a problem.

 

I can't imagine being able to fuck like that all the time, anal is definitely out, and I couldn't fit hardly any of him in my mouth. While he was great to play with, it's impractical...

 

now, a dick like yours...well, a girl can love that dick:)

 

I think many woman will agree.....I'm no expert, but in my experience the ladys are more comfotrable with the average cock... Not to say its not fun to "play" once in a while! I wouldnt worry a bit!

[joaninla 162]

I think many woman will agree.....I'm no expert, but in my experience the ladys are more comfotrable with the average cock... Not to say its not fun to "play" once in a while! I wouldnt worry a bit!

 

I've got to agree. A big cock is fun every now and then, but I too am far more comfortable with the average.

[GerdOEvert 51]

We used to party at "The Inn Place in DC'. It burned down and never reopened.

 

There was a guy who was thre from time to time. 5'9" maybe, and with a 10, 12, 14 inch slim cock. I did not take a tape to measure it

but it was "looooonnnnnngggggg"

 

The ladies loved him.

 

He said he was in "Vacuum Cleaner Sales" I think he was joshing us.

 

Otto and Eileen