Question of the day: giving head

[spicylife42 31]

OK well my hubby says I give good head lol (after 25 years I hope I've learned what he likes) anyway this is a fun question but I really am curious.

 

Is there any such thing as bad head? lol

 

and what made it bad or what makes it good, the pressure, suction, tongue swirls,slow, fast ??????

[FitCpl30s 17]

Yes, if it's done to hard and fast and it can be quite uncomfortable.

[wickedgood69 15]

There is no such thing as a bad bj

[bicuriocpl 90]

There is no such thing as a bad bj

 

I beg to differ. When the Ex "forgot" she had bubble gum in her mouth and it wound up getting stuck to me. That was a bad bj. Another time she decided that biting during the act was erotic. Pain= bad in both cases.

[funcpl4life 51]

Uninterested "duty" bj.

"There! Is that enough?"

Nothing as overrated as bad sex.

[PB&J 1,086]

I beg to differ. When the Ex "forgot" she had bubble gum in her mouth and it wound up getting stuck to me.

 

Oh god.Last night PB paid a lot of attention to me- with spearmint gum in his mouth (because the sweetie wanted to have uber-fresh breath- good intentions.) HOWEVER, mint has a detrimental effect on the delicate tissues down there. Yikes. Not outright pain, but definitely discomfort.

[AuburnCpl 15]

Uninterested "duty" bj.

"There! Is that enough?"

Nothing as overrated as bad sex.

 

I agree 100% I'd rather go without than have a "Duty BJ". The hottest thing about by wife's BJ's is that she is enjoys it and gets into it, just like I get turned on when I'm going down on her.

[spicylife42 31]

got it no gum no biting lol, and I agree Ms. PB I don't like the mints or gum either. But a hot coffee tongue on my clit......OMG !!!!!!! What a way to start the day!!!!!!!

[Meetussoon 68]

Once I started shaving and we became swingers Marie's enjoyment of giving BJ's skyrocketted.

 

I have had a bad bj, small mouth, teeth, etc...but it was still better than no bj.

 

HA

[SW_PA_Couple 4,023]

Good blow jobs

 

I knew that I had seen a discussion similar to this discussion. I have posted a link above. Hope you find this extra information to be helpful.

 

To answer your question directly, I suppose there is such a thing as "bad head" but I have never experienced it myself. Women like to please and if I am able to show the way that pleases me, they always succeed.

 

1) Any woman who truly enjoys the act is good at it.

 

2) If I learn or perceive that a woman does not completely enjoy oral sex, I steer the activity into a different direction that is pleasing for both of us.

 

3) For any woman who does not like the taste of semen or has other fears about ejaculation, I might lead her to do it in a way that do not require having my penis completely into her mouth. But I do not know if these other techniques fit under your definition of "giving head".

[Guest crusaders]

I have had bad bj's, when teeth hits ya, it makes it hard to relax and enjoy. My ex wasn't that good at it. Thus, when she tried I just tensed up.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,023]

. . . what makes it good, the pressure, suction, tongue swirls,slow, fast ??????

An additional comment:

 

I am sent into complete ecstasy when a woman uses the tip of her tongue to firmly apply pressure near the base of my penis -- the location that medical people call the bulbospongious muscle which has nerve bundles branching from the perineal nerve. Would be difficult for me to provide a verbal road map; would be better if I had a diagram (or if you were here I could show you). This tongue stimulation can be accomplished whether or not my penis is fully into the woman's mouth. It is, however, pretty difficult to reach this spot with your tongue unless you are positioned between a man's legs. Assuming this position also allows you to nestle your man's testicles between your breasts. This warmth enhances his experience considerably.

 

Hope this helps.

[lovinher 505]

Bad - A woman who doesn't like doing it all that much (easy to figure out).

 

Good - A woman who loves doing it (easy to figure out).

[realcplub2 513]

There is no such thing as a bad bj

 

Wanna Bet?

 

Years before I met Mrs Real, I spent two months getting to know a woman, and once we got together it was a TRAIN WRECK..

 

After a few times, I wanted to get beyond the drop 'em, and Jump to it.. After some hot talk about previous expereinces.. She says, she has been told how "good" she was at giving head.. I eagerly awaited my own road test...

 

Folks, the term Black and Decker Pecker Wrecker Fits

 

First of all its called cock SUCKING not CHEWING, Teeth are supposed to be ACCIDENTAL if not INCIDENTAL..

 

Second, Sucking implies there is more than just sticking it in the mouth and bobbing the head up and down.. Make you wonder how she grew up never having enjoyed a LOLLYPOP

 

Third, when the person you are giving such a GIFT to, begs you to STOP, to the point of pulling themselves away, or shoving you AWAY...

 

well its a sure sign there is something wrong..

 

Now, to the complete opposite... My lovely Wife brings tears of Joy with her oral skills..

[couplers 4,568]

Both I and my guys like it when I suck their dicks, and I have no problem doing it for as long as they want or swollowing the results. BUT we agree all the way around that dick sucking is best as foreplay and it is much better that the majority of the time their dick is in my pussy and the cum is pumped (or dribbled, sorry David) there. Usually it is not a problem since Red and David have had enough sucking after a couple of minutes and want to move on to the really good part. The only time I prefer completing a blow job is when we are doing an MFM and one of the guys has made me come and I'm not immediately up for more vaginal sex right away.

 

 

Question for the guys: Is there a woman that has given you such good oral sex that you prefer it over pussy? I don't mean where you just prefer oral generally, but where the woman actually could with her mouth out-do a pussy. I've never had my pussy licked so well, even accompanied with a dildo, that it felt better than regular vaginal sex.

[Guest rdy46227]

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Question for the guys: Is there a woman that has given you such good oral sex that you prefer it over pussy? I don't mean where you just prefer oral generally, but where the woman actually could with her mouth out-do a pussy. I've never had my pussy licked so well, even accompanied with a dildo, that it felt better than regular vaginal sex.

 

The woman I know that gives the best head can outperform every pussy I remember from the last 30 years except one.

 

Hers.

 

She has wonderful control of her pussy muscles (hey kegels!) and can get me off without really moving her hips!

[couplers 4,568]

The woman I know that gives the best head can outperform every pussy I remember from the last 30 years except one.

 

Hers.

 

She has wonderful control of her pussy muscles (hey kegels!) and can get me off without really moving her hips!

 

Wow! Keep her away from my guys. No, wait, now that I thought about it, send her to my guys.

 

Seriously, has she written a book on how to do all that? She should start a school. Sounds like something I'd like to learn on both ends.

[vanillaknot 99]

Question for the guys: Is there a woman that has given you such good oral sex that you prefer it over pussy?

 

MrsVK gets compliments along such lines now and again. Last summer, spending a weekend at a campground in far-western New York, we were enjoying time in a tent with a new couple, and the other fellow actually said to his woman, "You should take notes." Now, that sort of observation actually makes her uncomfortable, because she fears she is about to find herself in the sights of the other lady (and not in a good way, ahem), but it is certainly testament to her skills.

[mzvarsity 15]

The only bad blow job is no blow job...

[it'sso 198]

mzvarsity said:

The only bad blow job is no blow job...

 

That's the only ones, other than he one's I got, that I can recall.

[TheLorax 173]

I have to vehemently disagree that there are no bad blow jobs. I've had several in addition to the "hate them, but will grudgingly give them" ones others have mentioned. Mind you, that's out of a sample size of several thousand bjs

 

As far as someone being so good at them that I would prefer them to intercourse, that's not one I can answer easily since I generally prefer head to intercourse. While I like fucking, I have to be in just the right mood to prefer it to oral sex.

 

I've had partners who were pretty good at giving head, and I've had inexperienced partners who were pretty good because they had such obvious enthusiasm even though they didn't really understand what they were doing.

[Swing*8701 887]

A woman who is not enthusiastic and is simply doing it as a matter of course = bad blow job

[midnightplayer 135]

Nice subject one of my favorite, There of course are aughful blowjobs. Take a woman that is uninterested in sucking cock and it is considered a duty suck. This is the second worst, totally disinterested in sucking with passion and or with enjoyment. Ther are women that don't enjoy sucking cock and heaven forbid you might cum in their mouth; OMG all hell will come upon the man. But the worst is the "raking" blowjob. This is where the woman has no concept of sucking without her teeth making marks on the sides of the cock. Hurt like hell. and kills most hardons. I had one girlfriend years ago whe refused to let me fuck her but she could not get enough cock to suck and what an expert she was. This woman had all the techniques down pat. She could deep throat like no one I have ever had in the past or since. and when I could not hold back she eagerly swallowed every drop of cum I could produce. I miss her everytime a woman or man goes down on me. What terrific memories

[Nonymouse 15]

Serious question -- When you're with a new male partner, for those ladies that perform oral, do you use a condom? If so, we'd like to know which brands are best.

[it'sso 198]

Nice subject one of my favorite, There of course are aughful blowjobs. Take a woman that is uninterested in sucking cock and it is considered a duty suck. This is the second worst, totally disinterested in sucking with passion and or with enjoyment. Ther are women that don't enjoy sucking cock and heaven forbid you might cum in their mouth; OMG all hell will come upon the man. But the worst is the "raking" blowjob. This is where the woman has no concept of sucking without her teeth making marks on the sides of the cock. Hurt like hell. and kills most hardons. I had one girlfriend years ago whe refused to let me fuck her but she could not get enough cock to suck and what an expert she was. This woman had all the techniques down pat. She could deep throat like no one I have ever had in the past or since. and when I could not hold back she eagerly swallowed every drop of cum I could produce. I miss her everytime a woman or man goes down on me. What terrific memories

 

I've had all of those you mentioned including the last and am still convinced they are all better than none at all. Regarding the "teeth raker", I think that may have something to do with what it is you are getting blown. Since I'm considered to be smaller than average, I have only had to deal with this once or twice and was able to get my lady to lighten up.

[Begood03 15]

I have found that there is good head, and great head, but I have never had bad head.

[SecretAsianMan 348]

Is there any such thing as bad head? lol

 

and what made it bad or what makes it good, the pressure, suction, tongue swirls,slow, fast ??????

 

YES... absolutely yes there is!

 

Maybe it's just because I'm an uncircumcised male and most of the gals I've been with aren't familiar with the slight adjustment to the "equipment" ... but yes, there definately is such a thing as "bad-head"

 

I'm a bit more sensitive on the glans (head) of my penis than an circumcised male - and as a result of that ... TOO INTENSE a pressure at the head of my penis does NOT feel comfortable at all!

 

I like to feel more pressure along the shaft than I do the head of my cock.

 

Neither does it feel good to have the shaft of my penis yanked back upon so hard that it HURTS (that skin is attached at the base of the glans and there's a limit to how far back it'll stretch)

 

I guess I've been lucky and all of my partners have been open to listening to my feedback and adjusting their actions to maximize my pleasure during oral sex ... (I wouldn't go back for more if she refused to listen and insisted that she knew better)

[SW_PA_Couple 4,023]

. . . . I like to feel more pressure along the shaft than I do the head of my cock.

Yes, yes. You've said it better than I said it. If there is a secret to it, this is the secret.

[Tia Vampire 167]

I the female enjoy watching a woman that gives good head. When watching pornos, right away you can tell if a woman is giving good or bad head. Bad head is when the woman holds the end of the penis and just put it into her mouth and go up and down on with her mouth closed around it, but not much pressure or put the whole penis in her mouth, then closes her mouth around it and pull upward with a little pressure just to make that sucking sound. Good head is when you put your mouth around the penis and go up and down on the penis with a medium amount of pressure while moving your head in a circular motion at the same time while you go up and down on it. Both with and without your heads.

[Trace Ekies 186]

Thanks Tia...I may never be the same...

 

I have had two bad ones...both were enthusiastic but were not good. One just pushed too hard trying to get my penis in her mouth and banged my glans on the back of her throat and the other used her teeth too much...not chewing really but nearly so.

 

Like TheLorax, I prefer head to intercourse and know what I like.

 

I appreciate every blow job but have found a few that are mind-blowing, many that are great and two that were bad.

 

These are not complaints...just facts.

[lovinher 505]

Wise Guys: What Makes a Great BJ? | Em & Lo: Sex. Love. And Everything in Between.

[SecretAsianMan 348]

I the female enjoy watching a woman that gives good head. When watching pornos, right away you can tell if a woman is giving good or bad head. Bad head is when the woman holds the end of the penis and just put it into her mouth and go up and down on with her mouth closed around it, but not much pressure or put the whole penis in her mouth, then closes her mouth around it and pull upward with a little pressure just to make that sucking sound. Good head is when you put your mouth around the penis and go up and down on the penis with a medium amount of pressure while moving your head in a circular motion at the same time while you go up and down on it. Both with and without your heads.

 

Hmmm - y'know, I'd have to experience that in person to know for sure if I could call that "good head".

 

After all - the proof is in the puddin'

[whoamihere 15]

Bad-A woman who doesn't like doing it all that much (easy to figure out)

 

Good-A woman who loves doing it (easy to figure out)

 

This made me chuckle.

 

When the wife and I started going out she didn't really like to do oral on me. Fast forward a couple of years and she could suck the chrome off a bumper and gave it to me in the car (while driving), at the movies, and to wake me up in the morning. I missed my old alarm clock sigh...

 

Fast forward alot more years and 3 young kids, no more oral cuz she says she kisses the kids and doesn't want my manhood all over their face.

 

So I guess my wife has gone from fair to A+ good and back down to bad

[TnMtns 16]

DH says bad BJs leave teeth abrassions...other than that they are all good!!!

[DiscreetDesires 32]

I cannot speak from a man's point of view on what feels best, but from the responses that I have gotten in the past... it's best to vary up your technique.

Don't do the same thing over and over and over because it's (a) boring, and (b) sometimes the man can get numb because of the same repetitive motion.

 

I try to use a variety of different techniques and will find the one that really "gets him".. and save that for the big finale to get him off in a big way.

Using that particular technique intermittently for short periods of time, and then end with it.

 

During the "main course" of the blow job, I will use any and every technique I have learned. Fast, slow, lots of pressure, less pressure, licking, kissing, sucking the balls, licking the balls, swirling the tongue, sucking lightly on just the head, sucking harder on just the head, deep throat for a short time, deep throat for a longer time, using hands, not using hands.. the list goes on.

 

You can usually tell if a guy likes a particular technique or not, and if he doesn't seem to respond at all.. then don't do it again.

 

It's fun experimenting and finding out what each guy likes!

[Coupleerotic22 1,419]

Yes, too much teeth. It can be very painful. I am rather thick, so if she can't manage to open up enough it can hurt badly, very baddddllyyy.

[good times 991]

Yes, have definitely had some bad ones. When you are sore for a week after, it couldn't have been all that good.

 

The thing about it is though, every guy likes it done differently. For example, I can't stand to much suction, others like it. One of the most uncomfortable, to the point of painful, bj's I ever had was from a woman who's husband, I later found out, likes to be bitten. He says unless a woman bites him pretty hard it does nothing for him. So upon finding that out, it explained the painful experience I had with his wife, she was just doing what she was used to.

[divenaked 325]

Some women have teeth.......and know how to use them. Some women have teeth.....and DON'T know how to use them.

[xxxboxy 139]

The worst thing you can hear from a woman is "I have a sharp tooth, let me know if I need to stop.". Wilted the ol' willie right then and there...

[tscncpl4fun34 15]

teeth, definately teeth makes for a bad blow job, that and stopping just before cumming and saying "are you enjoying this?":sad:

[Pensacolapair 394]

Biting can ruin a good BJ, as can hitting bad bridgework...but I'm surprised that my number one dick-wilter hasn't been mentioned - The dreaded nut-twister!!

 

Lick the boys, sure...caress the boys..by all means... suck the boys ... cool.

 

But tie them into a knot and try to pick me up by them - Houston, we have a problem!

[Cpl2share 147]

A bad BJ: One that someone else is getting.

A good BJ: One that I am getting. That is the only difference. Well, okay, the best BJ is the one that I get without asking for it.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,023]

Cpl2share said:

A bad BJ: One that someone else is getting.

A good BJ: One that I am getting. That is the only difference. Well, okay, the best BJ is the one that I get without asking for it.

That's all there is to say!

[let's do it again 412]

On 11/23/2009 at 2:37 AM, couplers said:

Both I and my guys like it when I suck their dicks, and I have no problem doing it for as long as they want or swollowing the results. BUT we agree all the way around that dick sucking is best as foreplay and it is much better that the majority of the time their dick is in my pussy and the cum is pumped (or dribbled, sorry David) there. Usually it is not a problem since Red and David have had enough sucking after a couple of minutes and want to move on to the really good part. The only time I prefer completing a blow job is when we are doing an MFM and one of the guys has made me come and I'm not immediately up for more vaginal sex right away.

 

 

Question for the guys: Is there a woman that has given you such good oral sex that you prefer it over pussy? I don't mean where you just prefer oral generally, but where the woman actually could with her mouth out-do a pussy. I've never had my pussy licked so well, even accompanied with a dildo, that it felt better than regular vaginal sex.

I had a girl in college that could suck dick better than fuck. Now that was this girl only, but this girl wouldn't stop sucking cock until you tapped out, she sucked my cock like she had something to prove.