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That's what (well one of the things) handcuffs and ropes are for :hahaha:

 

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We've swapped overnight with a couple that we know well. I think it's fun to wake up next to (and then have early morning sex with) a different woman than normal! It's been in the same house or different rooms in a hotel, mainly because we live about 3 hours apart. We haven't experienced any uncomfortable bonding, although living that far apart and all having very busy lives, it'd be difficult.

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Bob and I have done this before, but it has been separate hotel rooms. Much excellent advice here about motivation and bonding. When we do this both Bob and I eat very lightly a few days before the meeting, even an enema flush. I always bring a bottle of mouthwash for that quick rinse in the middle of the night. I do the fasting and enema for two reasons, number one is anal sex and number 2 is I don't want to have do number 2. Most times the separation lasts no longer than 5 hours, which basically gives us enough time for a few intercourse sessions and then crash to sleep before we all hook up for a nice breakfast and lots of coffee.

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This is how Wifie did all of her extra sex for many years - she knew I had lots of encounters both at home & while traveling alone - she had a lady friend who was single and had "good" friends out of town - so Wifie started going on trips with her - went on for years before we had our first MFM with one of her long time male friends.

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I posted before on this thread but in reading it again I thought of something.

 

When we were swinging my wife had a lot of trouble watching me having sex with the other wife. And, in talking to the other husband, I found out that she was quite different when they were in a separate room than when all four of us were together. She must have felt restrained because I'd see her.

 

And when I was alone with the other wife my wife didn't like it at all. I believe she was afraid that me and the other wife were being too intimate or something. So, no win for her either way!

 

For those couples who have one, or both, partners who have these issues I wonder how it might be for two couples to agree to only threesomes? I can't really think of anything that two men and one woman, or two women and one man, can't do that two men and two women can.

 

If you're friends in vanilla meetings and know and trust each other then you'd know, if you're the one left out that evening, that your spouse is safe, having fun, and not being too intimate and lovey with the other wife/husband. Because that other wife/husband's spouse is there too!

 

Now I, personally, enjoyed watching my wife with others. But I could enjoy going out with good friends with the agreement that only one of us were going to go home with them. Or, that only one of them were to be going home with us. It might even make the evening more interesting not knowing until time to separate. Maybe drawing cards or straws? Interesting thought!

 

So, Julie, how about a thread for couples who only want threesomes with other couples? :)

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So, Julie, how about a thread for couples who only want threesomes with other couples? :)

 

I'm not sure that thread would get a lot of attention. That seems to be a pretty unique situation.

 

Personally, I think you need to get to the bottom of your wife's insecurity first. I would bet she's going to be just as upset about you being with another couple as she was with a single woman. She's not being rational -- her imagination is just going to invent all sorts of crazy goings-on -- so it's not going to matter how you set it up.

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I'm not sure that thread would get a lot of attention. That seems to be a pretty unique situation.

 

I don't find it unique at all. It's the only way my wife and I ever had threesomes. Furthermore, it worked extraordinarily well.

 

Alura

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I don't find it unique at all. It's the only way my wife and I ever had threesomes. Furthermore, it worked extraordinarily well.

 

Alura

 

Sure, lots of us have done it -- that's not the unique part. The unique part is asking couples to have a threesome with you one at a time -- as the only way you'll swing. Add the reasoning behind it, and I think you're in pretty rare territory.

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It's not the only way we would swing. We liked foursomes, too. It's just the only way we (normally) did threesomes. There was an exception, which was sometimes the case in our experiences. :)

 

I took Visexual to mean couples who, when they did threesomes, only did so with other couples, not that they refused foursomes with the same couples. Sorry. I guess that would be unique, if not downright inexplicable.

 

Alura

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Overnight "Swapping" isn't for us; we've never tried it and neither of us ever wants to. We like being together, sharing the experience and quite frankly I do not want to know any playmate that intimately. Your bathroom routine is a private matter and should stay that way, your sleep patterns, how you want the blankie, which side you sleep on , how many pillows you need and whether you take cream with your coffee or heaven forbid don't drink coffee is far too much information for me. I fall asleep content each night in the arms of the love of my life and waking up to his smile sets the right tone for my whole day and would not trade that for all the world.

The greatest thing about swinging/life is no matter what you do or do not do there are 1000's of people with the same preferences .

 

Mrs Sav

 

To this post we would like to add a big AMEN!

This is probably one of the best, if not the best post we have read on this board.

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All I can say to the OP is that we have done it it worked out well for us and we would do it again.

 

We used to play a game where we would swap spouses for a weekend Fri to Sun morning. We would all meet at a restaurant for a late lunch on Friday afternoon, and when lunch was over we would split up and go to different destinations. We had a 3 hour rule where we had to go 1.5 hours drive time minimum in opposite directions, This was so that we wouldn't run into any vanilla friends or family. Once separated, we became weekend spouses, we would register at the hotel as mr and mrs. this was funny at times because we would draw cards that told us who we were, and we would forget from time to time. The male of the other couple and I shared one fetish in common we loved to take the woman we were with shopping, we would pick out a outfit for the woman, with her help of course, and they would have to wear it on Sat night. We would do date things like dinner and clubbing. Sometimes we would attend a swingers party and find a couple to soft swap with. We never had an issue with getting to close, it was just something fun and different.

 

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Big Nikki here.

 

Well yes, there is a big difference between playing in separate rooms and over-nighting. And there is a big big difference between over-nighting in the same home or different homes.

 

Of course, of course everybody is different, what isn't complicated for one can be impossible for another. But here's what John and I have experienced.

 

If you're inclined, over-nighting can be just amazingly sweet -- but here is how we keep it from getting messy: same home, breakfast together. Breakfast together really makes a big difference and helps reduce the dangerous drift toward attachment.

 

It's worked for us a number of times, very sweetly.

 

(What didn't work was the girls over-nighting -- we loved it -- but the boys sure didn't want to spend the night together. So that experiment was a dead end, no repeat performances. Later we two girls wanted to over-night by ourselves, but she couldn't get a hall pass. Too bad for me -- I really wanted to hug her all night and wake up kissing her. And I'm sure my John wanted to get up to some separate evil, which he might or might not tell me about; that's one of our games.)

 

-- Big Nikki

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Somewhere between swinging and polyamory lie this foursome of which half is us, and half is another married couple. And three out of four of us would really be interested in doing just this.

 

I don't forsee it happening for a number of reasons, but it's a nice little fantasy to hold on to. I think the closest we will get is separate bedrooms in the same house. I'd personally be looking forward to getting that urge in the middle of the night and waking up my lover.

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Somewhere between swinging and polyamory lie this foursome of which half is us, and half is another married couple. And three out of four of us would really be interested in doing just this.

 

I don't forsee it happening for a number of reasons, but it's a nice little fantasy to hold on to. I think the closest we will get is separate bedrooms in the same house. I'd personally be looking forward to getting that urge in the middle of the night and waking up my lover.

 

Yeah, that was our dream, too, once upon a time. The problem is this - it's hard enough to find a 4 way match for sex. Turn that into a 4 way match for sex and a friendship - best of luck finding it. I've heard of it it happening, but I think the odds are stacked against it.

 

At this point, my wife and I are probably closer to poly than swingers. We have separate overnights sometimes. No problems, so far.

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Yeah, that was our dream, too, once upon a time. The problem is this - it's hard enough to find a 4 way match for sex. Turn that into a 4 way match for sex and a friendship - best of luck finding it. I've heard of it it happening, but I think the odds are stacked against it.

 

At this point, my wife and I are probably closer to poly than swingers. We have separate overnights sometimes. No problems, so far.

 

Well, we didn't come looking for poly. And the four of us have amazing chemistry together. We can play, we can do vanilla stuff, no worries. One of four of us is either not ready for, not interested in, or not comfortable with the extra emotional attachment it would take to pull off the overnight swap.

 

It is weird when we visit them and spend a night or two. We play with them, sometimes same room, sometimes separate room, then pair back off with our spouses to sleep. The weird thing being that we're not doing our spouses, so it's "weird" that we end up sleeping with them.

 

(And here is another of those "How did we end up here?" moments... did I actually just say it was weird to sleep with my own wife? LOL)

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Initially the idea of this wasn't really our cup of tea, but now that my wife has found a playmate she really likes (and that Im really comfortable with), this idea has come up and we like it.

 

Logistically its going to be tough to pull off though, both of us have young kids. They could just get a hotel room, and maybe will someday, but it doesn't feel the same as doing it on your own bed.

 

It would really be hot if we could swap back and forth that way, but his wife and I aren't that into each other. We've played in the past, but she's currently on a kick of alternate playstyles that I cant provide for (she really likes being a dom and I just don't do sub worth crap, actually I'm not that into dom either).

 

We have discussed this with another couple though, basically trading partners back and forth for overnight 2-3 ways. Would be fun.

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Well, we didn't come looking for poly. And the four of us have amazing chemistry together. We can play, we can do vanilla stuff, no worries. One of four of us is either not ready for, not interested in, or not comfortable with the extra emotional attachment it would take to pull off the overnight swap.

 

It is weird when we visit them and spend a night or two. We play with them, sometimes same room, sometimes separate room, then pair back off with our spouses to sleep. The weird thing being that we're not doing our spouses, so it's "weird" that we end up sleeping with them.

 

(And here is another of those "How did we end up here?" moments... did I actually just say it was weird to sleep with my own wife? LOL)

 

We didn't come "looking" for anything, other than some fun. I've had people tell us we are poly and people tell us that we aren't. We like to sleep people who are our friends, and we are cool if one of our FWB's spends the night or we spend the night at an FWB's. This weekend, my wife and one of my wife's fwbs spend the night in our bed while I was on the couch with a new partner who I met through my wife's fwb. Earlier in the evening, we were all out with vanilla friends, and the four of us hung out the next day. We just go with the flow.

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Big Nikki here.

We have discussed this with another couple though, basically trading partners back and forth for overnight 2-3 ways. Would be fun.

 

While John and I have had a fair number of spouse-swapping overnights (always same-home, breakfast together in the morning, our magic formula for a comfortable overnight) we've never done more than one night.

 

It sounds really great -- a night with the other, next night with your own, next night with the other.

 

Geez, we gotta put that together.

 

It would be a dream for us to actually go away for a five day or more vacation, maybe on a cruise ship. Days of flirting, evenings of swinging, overnights of swapping. That would be a dream for us.

 

(People think freelancers have lots of freedom. True for some, but our work life is more like business owners who have to mind the store all the time. Vacations are almost unknown to us -- and never planned in advance, thanks to demanding clients.

 

(If your sex life interferes with the rest of your life, that's called sex addiction. My work-life interferes with my sex life -- that's reverse addiction!)

 

-- Big Nikki

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