Was very curious. Now VERY GLAD I didn't go through with it...
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By spicylife42
The hubs and I were very active in the lifestyle for several years. We had a great time, we had lax rules where we were ok with each other playing solo. I traveled with him on business and had a particular lover I was completely head over heals for. The sex was like no other, he felt it too. Fast forward many years, we’re out of the lifestyle. He became an alcoholic and our marriage imploded. During all of this, we had split briefly. He came back but I let him know that I didn’t have feelings for him anymore. We could try to coexist, for the family. We have lived this way for 6/7 years. Last fall T, reached out to me and I went to see him. It was electric, as it always is.
Well I was planning to see him again, and I was going to tell the hubs b4 I left, that I was going to see T. Explosion! He had suspected since last fall, how can he ever believe me again, oh yeah sure I was going to tell him... yada yada. Hubs says well if this is the way we are going to spend the rest of our marriage we might as well get a divorce.
He’s the one that drug me kicking and screaming into the lifestyle, we allowed each other freedoms. I’m heartbroken and mad!
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By The Fuse
This morning, someone started a thread poll entitled "Is your spouse the best lover ever?"
It made me think. Would I really want to ask Mr. Fuse that question? Of course there's only one right answer, but even the way that answer is given can be deadly. "Does he really mean it"? "That sounded defensive". "You're just being nice". "You have to say that; I'm your wife".
More generally, I think that question is a little like "Do these jeans make me look fat?", only more serious.
"Am I the best lover you've ever had"? has to be one of a definite set of dangerous questions in the swinging world. (It could be even worse if you ask "Is your playmate better than me"?) There are more things we all dread being asked. We know this class of questions by our reactions to them. Eyes get a little bit wide, sudden intake of breath, half a step backwards... adrenaline kicks in... we only think about survival.
It's like asking swingers "Do you really always use condoms"? or "Have you ever had an STD"?, or "Are we your favorite playmates"? or "Have you ever loved a playmate"? There are just some things it doesn't pay to ask.
Anyone have additions to this list, comments, or stories? I'm sure there are some doozies out there.
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By KittKatt
This is the Mrs.
I recently had an extreme boost in my libido which since led us to swinging and wonderful times!
PROBLEM.....it's gone!!!! I really can't explain it nor do I understand it myself, other than house wife syndrome LOL
Hubby is furious with me, he says he can live without the swinging, but wants his wife...ok I understand that, but I am just not in the mood for sex at all right now!!! and haven't been for many weeks
So he writes me a letter this morning, ending it with "the balls in your court for our relationship"....Great..is this going to end up as divorce number 3?
God I pray not!!!! I love him truly, but have issues I guess, you can read about a few in my previous posts
Now I don't know what to do, give in...pretend to feel attractive and horny, or just keep trying to explain myself, as I have done many times.
He just don't understand and really I'm not sure I do either
I become very resentful about this topic when I feel pressured, and hope he can be more understanding and patient with me.
SOOOOOOOO CONFUSED!!
ANY ADVICE PLEASE?
xoxoxoxo C
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By Ebonylehigh
We are in a relationship with another couple. The male of that couple had a single lady as a gf. That ended because he was taking love and affection from his wife and also ignoring me.
He keeps being upset that his wife gets to still be with the one she loves (my husband) and his was taken away. Compares the two situations like they are the same even though when he was with his gf, his wife got nothing and was home with the kids. Whereas when they see us he always gets me that gets him off at least twice every time and there has been more times than that. Where I am affectionate and caring. Where we both clearly enjoy each other's company very much.
Am I right to be offended that he keeps doing this comparison? It hurts my feelings every time because I'm obviously a non factor to him. He says he really cares about me and can see his feelings heading to love. I'm just not seeing that when he keeps doing this comparison.
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By YZF
Mrs YZF here. Almost a year ago we had Quita, a polymory third move in with us. It has been great. I have been into girls my whole life and so is she so it was good for me. YZF had two women when ever he wanted so it was good for him. She is the third, I am the wife. Those were the ground rules. Quita can come into our bed when ever she wants. She can sleep in our bed when she wants. She does not sleep with YZF unless I am not there. I do not sleep in another room so she can sleep with him.
She gets everything I get. She gets to spend his money. He gave her a car. She does not get to spend the night with him at my expense. Those were the rules. They were not written down or anything, they were understood.
Now this past weekend, I get booted from the room. "Something different" YZF said. Quita agreed. At least I think she agreed, the bitch does not even speak english! I can't help feeling that something is afoot here. Quita has been acting smarmy of late. I really do not know how to approach this.
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