Inviting multiple single males at the same time?

[mwp 22]

My wife and I have had some decent success with single males. She enjoys MFM's as do I. Now, our swinging activities are often fairly limited because of the lack of opportunity for both of us to be out together for an evening of some swinging fun. As a result, we always want to maximize our swinging opportunities.

 

My wife suggested the idea of inviting several single males at once to meet over dinner, with play a possibility later. Let's say there's four. Let them all know upfront that there will be other single males arriving as well, and larger group play is a possibility. This wouldn't be a specific intent to have a MMFMM scenario, but just to maximize the opportunity to swing.

 

My wife and I are still discussing this. One problem I see is let's say she likes three of the four we invite; how do you tell #4 'no' without creating a drama scene? I also think it's much more likely a single male will show up if he knows he's the only one showing up as opposed to one of four. Maybe if you invite four, you have a higher chance of getting zero.

 

Just throwing this out there for some thoughts and feedback.

[SecretAsianMan 348]

Ah... well, the thing is, I wouldn't invite over any more fellas than she would be comfortable handling if (on the odd scenario) they ALL actually showed up & were willing to play that evening.

 

Yes, it's tempting to hedge your bets in case they flake out and you're left with nothing...

 

You *might* want to try a situation where y'all meet in a neutral location for drinks or something ... and from there, y'all decide if the chemistry is right between y'all and the guy(s). And quietly invite those lucky guys back to a place where you can all play.

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

If you are interested in getting four guys together for a drink to see if there is a possiblity for play at a future date, then this sounds like a job interview and I would think the guys might feel it's more work than play.

 

If you are planning to play the same night of the meet, then it sounds like you're trying to get a gang bang together. With a gang bang the guys know coming in that there will be others there and play is planned at that date, as long as everyone clicks, the more the merrier. Of course, the guys can walk away if they aren't interested and she can turn any man down she doesn't want to play with. How particular is she? How good is she at turning guys away? How easy will it be for her to do this in front of others?

 

Does she want the gang bang experience? If not, I'd stick with meeting one man at a time.

 

My feeling is that this group interview approach wouldn't make your time any better spent, and may work against you.

 

LM

[M1F2KTJ 473]

One problem I see is let's say she likes three of the four we invite; how do you tell #4 'no' without creating a drama scene? I also think it's much more likely a single male will show up if he knows he's the only one showing up as opposed to one of four. Maybe if you invite four, you have a higher chance of getting zero.

 

I would suggest she be prepared to do everyone that shows up. An option would be for you and your wife to meet prospects first in a no sex situation like in a bar for drinks or lunch for a chance for you all to get to know each other. Things will go a lot smoother if you all feel comfortable with each other. This way she can pick who she likes and invite them over for a one on one or have a "party". Don't forget that if you get together with people you haven't met before that there is the chance that they'll decide they don't want to have sex with your wife. She might be the most sexiest woman in your world but other guys might not see it that way. What if a guy says no to her.

[Trace Ekies 186]

Attempting to maximize your swing experience by having four to choose from is completely unfair unless you tell each and every one of the attendees that they are going to be in competition with the others for your wife's attention.

 

While we have learned that ALOT of single males are flakes and liars we don't believe that two wrongs make a right.

 

We're having trouble getting one to show up after a week of chat between him and her...getting 4 to show up should be interesting.

 

Good luck and be up front.

 

Trace

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I'd say you're likely to decrease your SHOW likelihood by half. So while all 4 of those guys might have shown up if they were meeting you one on one, only 2 of them are likely to show up if you tell them there will be more guys there and the possibility of multiple male play.

 

I'd suggest talking to the SMs upfront and getting a feel for them and how they feel about gangbangs and playing with multiple males present, etc. Then if it seems like something they are into invite those that are into it to meet at one time, and for the others who prefer the smaller one one one (or 2 on one with your hubby present) just meet them by themselves.

 

For a reference, many years ago I wanted to have a gangbang and the idea was to meet all the guys at the bar beforehand. We'd invited about 6 (I think) the idea was that anyone could back out at the bar or whatever. Only one showed up.

[fun4Ds 1,098]

My wife and I have had some decent success with single males. She enjoys MFMs as do I. Now, our swinging activities are often fairly limited because of the lack of opportunity for both of us to be out together for an evening of some swinging fun. As a result, we always want to maximize our swinging opportunities.

 

OK maybe I'm missing something ? Are you really thinking of maximizing opportunities (because of a bigger selection from this group) Or, are you maximizing the experience, as in a gang-bang. (I consider 3-4 males to one woman, a gang-bang)

 

My wife suggested the idea of inviting several single males at once to meet over dinner, with play a possibility later. Let's say there's four. Let them all know upfront that there will be other single males arriving as well, and larger group play is a possibility.

So everyone is on the understanding of swinging ? This will not be a surprise introduction... Right ?

I take it the waiter you mentioned in another post, is not involved ?

 

This wouldn't be a specific intent to have a MMFMM scenario, but just to maximize the opportunity to swing.

If I go to the time and effort of contacting several, even 4 men to dinner. We're quite sure of the intentions before hand... Would you really want to tease several men with this idea ? Especially if you didn't know them ?

 

Will Dave, a trusted playmate be one of the men there ? I would want some back up. Safety First, but that might just be me....

 

My wife and I are still discussing this. One problem I see is let's say she likes three of the four we invite; how do you tell #4 'no' without creating a drama scene?

You tell all involved before hand, if your asked to not touch.... you don't ! If they don't get it, they will be gone. I wouldn't think being a passive orchestrator of this would be a good thing, at least not for me.

 

I also think it's much more likely a single male will show up if he knows he's the only one showing up as opposed to one of four. Maybe if you invite four, you have a higher chance of getting zero.

When Mrsfun wanted two men, I called one. When she wanted three, I called two. When she wanted 4 men..... we all fucked her, twice.

 

Just throwing this out there for some thoughts and feedback.

 

Me too

 

 

fun4ds

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

 

When Mrsfun wanted two men, I called one. When she wanted three, I called two. When she wanted 4 men..... we all fucked her, twice.

This is great!

 

Two men can keep a woman very busy and happy. I've never felt the need for more than two at a time. It's so cozy and intimate that way.

 

LM

[mwp 22]

OK maybe I'm missing something ? Are you really thinking of maximizing opportunities (because of a bigger selection from this group) Or, are you maximizing the experience, as in a gang-bang. (I consider 3-4 males to one woman, a gang-bang)

 

So everyone is on the understanding of swinging ? This will not be a surprise introduction... Right ?

I take it the waiter you mentioned in another post, is not involved ?

 

The idea is invite four. If all four show up, and my wife wants to play with all four, then off to a play site with all four and the two of us. Yes, all men invited would understand that this is about swinging, and all four would know that other men were being invited as well.

 

No, the waiter previously mentioned has never been approached by us regarding swinging, and won't be.

[Guest sexyannie]

If you have been active for a while, and have already met several single men, why not just invite those willing to do a gangbang back. You know you already have chemistry with them from your previous one on one. Be up front about what you expect from them, as it sounds like you plan to, and I think it will work out well. I also think that already having some experience with you, they will be more at ease, they of course will have get used to the other guys, but perhaps that is where the pre-party meeting comes into play. I also think that by inviting back guys you have already played with you will greatly increase the chance of them showing up.

 

You will have to let us know what you end up doing and how it works out. I really hope that you are successful at maximizing the situation

 

annie

[Alura 2,775]

I'm just a hick Okie and have no experience with more than MFM and FMF but here's my idea:

 

Through introductions websites or your local Swingers Bulletin Board, invite four couples to discuss the prospects of each woman having a turn for a gang bang. Of course, the men could each have a turn with multiple ladies. This could also be a group that could offer other group sex variations to each other.

 

There are a lot of possibilities. The most important part is communication; all couples need to be enthusiastically involved.

 

Alura

[DarkVoyuer 15]

. She might be the most sexiest woman in your world but other guys might not see it that way. What if a guy says no to her.

Great point and a point that is brutally understated in the vanilla world and surprisingly, in this forum. Just because there is a perception that women can get sex easier than men, does not mean that guys do not reject women for sex.

[curiousagain 326]

I received an email on Swing Lifestyle showing a fuzzy photo of a woman partially disrobed with her face distorted in photoshop and a short invite. "We are having a GB in ___(my town) tomorrow night. Would you like to be there?" I responded that I had to work that day and the next, I didn't know them, I didn't know who else would be there etc. etc. so... my answer is no. My answer was longer and contained more information than their invite. This was an example of how not to put a gangbang together.

[charms123 52]

We seldom play on first meetings. I we have tried this and let each know its just a meet and greet and no play is expected or offered. that way, its all very above board and all expectations are known.

 

This way, if we do not click with someone, we do not hurt someones (or more) feeling by saying, ok, get a room you, you, not you, not you and you two can watch! Not a good way to start.

 

There was one time that we asked one guy to wait for us and we did play with him. We had a number of emails and calls back and forth and thought we might be compatible but wanted to see each other face to face too. he did stay and we played. but that was an exception to the rule.

 

Later, if we like someone and vice versa, do we then make a play date. and we have had a few MFMM also. And hubby took the pictures!

 

Yea, I can be slutty too! lol

 

N

[padoc 1,704]

I'd suggest that you meet the 3-4 guys in a public place FIRST. If you wish to do so all together fine, you can pick and choose and then invite the "winners" to your home for play. If you have them all in your home and don't choose one or two for play time you run the risk of a scene or worse an ugly situation which may result in law enforcement intervention, "film at 11" or simply neighborhood gossip. NEVER put yourself or your wife in a situation where you don't have total control and absolute safety.

[Lascivious L&L 866]

We have the same problem: not a lot of time to meet and a number of males we'd like to meet. It sounds like an interesting way to handle this situation. This is the same advantage a swing club or event has, the ability to meet many people in a short amount of time. A difference here is eliminating the necessity for a club.

 

I think the idea has potential. The caveat would be to let all know that this is an attempt to offer the potential of meeting sooner rather than later. I see no problem in the act of choosing between those who show up. That happens every time we meet whether it is singly or more than one at a time. There is always a choice on whether that person is one you wish to play with.

 

If you hit the jackpot of more than one having play potential, I see no problem with choosing one to play with now and saving a future date for any of the others OR deciding to play with more than one right then.

 

Those of us who enjoy adding another man or more than one man to our play usually have many men wanting the opportunity to meet. Our limit is the time it takes to meet. We try to get as much of a sense of potential through email, which can mean a long email exchange. Most men would much rather meet than email.

 

Meeting more than one at a time offers the potential to reduce that time, offers the men the opportunity of an actual meeting so they can show themselves, and may offer the added benefit of seeing how men interact with other men. It could be interesting.