Why MFM Threesomes?

[DarkVoyuer 15]

Although I find FFM threesomes sexy, I do not have any interest in discussing it from an analytical perspective. However, I am very curious on why men find MMF threesomes sexy. Why would they find the idea of their wife having sex with another man sexy? When did you start having this type of fantasy? Have you ever shared this type of fantasy with vanilla men during conversation? Do you enjoy MMF threesomes more than FFM threesomes?

 

 

Please share your thoughts.

[bbarnsworth 2,652]

Although I find FFM threesomes sexy, I do not have any interest in discussing it from an analytical perspective. However, I am very curious on why men find MMF threesomes sexy. Why would they find the idea of their wife having sex with another man sexy? When did you start having this type of fantasy? Have you ever shared this type of fantasy with vanilla men during conversation? Do you enjoy MMF threesomes more than FFM threesomes?

 

 

Please share your thoughts.

 

There was a somewhat recent poll here that showed the male readers here favor MFM threesomes over FMF threesomes two to one. My wife found that result surprising, though she understands it.

 

I'm very oriented towards pleasing my wife. I strive every day to make her life easier, better, happier, more fun, more pleasurable. How much pleasure I get from MFMs is directly proportional to how much my wife is enjoying it. She very much enjoys MFMs, and is always up for them. I love helping her fulfill her fantasies, and seeing her have so much fun, so much pleasure. I get very turned on seeing how much my wife enjoys having sex with another man. I don't have an explanation for it, and frankly stopped trying to figure it out a long time ago. It just is.

 

We've never had an FMF threesome, and don't expect we will. It's not that we're avoiding them, but finding a willing single female is difficult at best, and we're having so much fun with couples and single males it seems almost pointless trying to find a single female, given all the work it takes. We wouldn't turn down an FMF if presented with a woman we both liked. But, I doubt it'll ever happen. Though, I do have a specific fantasy involving lots of women in bed with me. That'll never happen

 

I didn't start having fantasies of MFM threesomes until I saw how much my wife enjoyed them.

 

We've never talked with vanilla males about MFM threesomes, and I doubt we ever will.

[Oleg&Lena 43]

I could just say something like... I prefer MFM because I like watching my wife enjoy sex with other men because I love her... But I believe there is no one reason in the men's background to prefere MFM.

Every man is many-sided personality and when he is doing something the reasons of that are not so simple as he sometimes says of them, they are many-sided too. A bit of this, a bit of that and something else...

At first I want to be with my wife as close as possible during swinging. I just want to be close to watch her emotions, to hear her moans...Because of that I prefer MFM more than MFMF.

Secondly I am be curious and last time we have been looking for males who is be curious too. My wife likes to watch this. So I prefer MFM more than FMF.

We like double prenetration and MFM give us the possibility to realise that.

And so on.

As a rule I never share my fantasies like MFM or swinging with vanilla friends of mine but once I told my friend. Although that fact was an exception. He was very interesting in swinging and every time we met began the talk to this subject.

[Guest sexyannie]

Hi, this is Nick, AKA Mr. sexyannie, Annie thought this was a good question for me to contribute to since most of our swinging involves her being with other men while I watch.

 

I think the previous explanations are pretty good, and definately agree there is no single reason, not only for different people, but for one person.

 

It was my suggestion that Annie should do threesomes, foursomes or moresomes. I didn't always feel this way though. In fact, some early cheating on her behalf when we were dating (we dated for 7 years) sent me into a jealous fit. What was interesting though was that shortly after her confession, which was also quickly after the cheating (early the next morning), I wanted to have sex with her. At the time I kind of chalked this up to a basic human (historic) instinct in me to reclaim what was mine. I completely discounted the fact that I may be turned on.

 

We were still in college, and it turned out that she cheated on me again (and I was not perfect either), but as I would eventually discover, she had been with more than one man at once. After again being outraged by this discovery I slowly started to fantasies about watching her with other men. This fantasy became very strong almost to the point of being an obsession. We patched everything up and eventually got married, but I still thought about it a lot. She eventually agreed to give it a try, and once I witnessed her with them, I was sold. She was so hot and sexy, and absolutely satisfied. We have been doing them ever since.

 

I don't think that is a perfect and clean answer, but I doubt you will get one. I could have also answered in one sentence. The mind wants what it wants, and finds attractive what it is attracted to. Believe me, I have wondered if there is something wrong with me, because "society" will tell you the ultimate male fantasy is a fmf. I have to disagree.

 

We have only shared details about our activities with one of the Annie's friends, and she eventually joined us in a fmf. We do not discuss these things with our vanilla friends.

 

Hope this helped, sorry for the long answer.

 

Nick

[DarkVoyuer 15]

Believe me, I have wondered if there is something wrong with me, because "society" will tell you the ultimate male fantasy is a fmf. I have to disagree.

I agree. FMF is the most overstated fantasy in American history. Many guys would find FMF revolting. Reality TV star Greg Brady(well he starred in the Brady bunch) was offended when he thought his girlfriend was suggesting a MFF threesome. I just find gender stereotypes regarding sex annoying. Some of the men I know would freak out about a FFM threesome.

[WesternSwing 504]

For me, MFM threesomes are just more erotic. I much prefer seeing a woman being ravished and pleased by two adoring men than being the center of attention of two women. Although both are physically satisfying, MFM is "giving" where FMF feels like "taking" for me, and thus I get more emotional satisfaction out of MFM situations.

 

Why do I find the idea of my wife having sex with another man sexy? Because she is my favorite pornstar and I get to see her doing her thing from the third person perspective, which I don't get when we are having sex together. Also, there is something very primitive and carnal for me about having sex with a woman who's just had sex with someone else.

 

I realized that MFM was my preferred threesome scenario after the first time my wife and I did one. It was a much greater rush than I had expected and produced a greater rush than the FMF threesomes we've had.

 

LScribbens

[Oleg&Lena 43]

What was interesting though was that shortly after her confession, which was also quickly after the cheating (early the next morning), I wanted to have sex with her. At the time I kind of chalked this up to a basic human (historic) instinct in me to reclaim what was mine. I completely discounted the fact that I may be turned on.

'...to reclaim what is mine...' - I believe that is main line of everything - as Nick have said - a basic human (historic) instinct.

[mike4amy 15]

It's sort of odd... When we first got involved with this the thought of my wife with another fellow scared me. I didn't know how I'd feel.

 

Ironically I've found it to be one of the biggest turn-ons to see her with someone else. Like someone said above - I get to see my favorite porn-star in action live! Like stated above I love having sex with her after she's just been with someone too.

 

I never had this fantasy before our first experience - though I did, of course, have the fantasy of being with two women alone. Happily I've had that experience too!

 

Which was better? Hard to tell - but setting up a MFM is much easier than a FMF especially since my wife is straight.

[ViSexual 1,008]

OK, let's be honest, how many men can really satisfy two women at once?

 

The only real draw for a couple having a FFM is if the wife is bi and the third is there to satisfy that need as well as letting the hubby have extra-maital fun too.

 

I think the MFM is something us married men enjoy because it takes the perfomance pressure off both men. And, if the men are bi, well self-explanitory! LOL!

 

But, the truth is sometimes that the husband use this as an introduction to swinging for the wife. And, after the wife sees the rewards of group sex, well on to foursomes!

[JDApopka 54]

For me I guess I'll put it like this the mrs and I married young (18) I was her 1st and only and after our 2nd was born I felt she missed out on seeing what else was out there. So with my encourgement she suduced a friend. I found it quite arrousing and we've been doing it ever since. I know she loves me and it seems to make our relationship stronger.

We have a nice gentleman that we are playing with now and they get along so well that she is going on a date with him soon. My dick twitches at just the thought of it.:D

 

J

[starryeyes 23]

I can tell you that just the mere mention that I would like to have one of my boy toys over with us causes my hubby to walk funny. I know that I am madly in love with my hubby and vise versa. He likes that I am the center of attention as do I and we all enjoy ourselves. He has told me that he totally enjoys seeing me having a great time... and what a time it is.

 

I have tried several times to get him a FMF, but he says that he would rather have a MFM. He says it's more erotic.

[mandlori 16]

I am not sure I know for sure why, but I am really turned on by seeing my wife with another guy. Maybe it is an ego thing for me - that other guys find her attractive and a great person to play with. Maybe it is because she could only cum about once a month before we started swinging, but my prediction that she would cum a lot with "new and different" proved to be an understatement. It is so hot to hear her cumming, and cumming, and cumming. I remember one time having a couple over to our house. The other lady and I weren't really that interested in having sex, but we were both okay with her husband and my wife doing it. We were sitting in the next room talking and every few minutes there would be moaning from our bedroom. The lady asked what was going on. I told her it was my wife cumming. She said she had to see this. I don't know what was better - watching my wife having one good cum after another or watching the look on the other lady's face. Next time we all met that lady and I did it but I still think it was more enjoyable watching my wife and the other guy doing it, and my wife having those multiple orgasms.

[DMPJ 15]

I agree with what the others have said in this thread. I've been in a FMF and a MFM and I found the MFM more memorable and erotic.

 

The first time we engaged in a MFM threesome, me nor my girlfriend knew what to expect. I was nervous that I was not going to like it or be jealous the next day. But after all was said and done, it was probably the hottest sex I've ever had. Seeing my girlfriend seducing another guy while I was there watching and encouraging him was the highlight of our evening. After all was said and done, we were both smiling for days afterward.

 

So far, the two guys we've invited into our bedroom have been respectful and made the experience enjoyable. I can see where I would hate it if the other guy was obnoxious or crosses a boundary. But so far - knock on wood - no complaints.

[Brian and Jo 344]

We have enjoyed both MFM and FMF threesomes and we have to agree that MFM is better. First, I (Brian) get a real charge out of watching and listening to Jo having sex with another man. I love to watch her licking and sucking on his hard cock but the best part is watching her being fucked. Seeing another man penetrate my wife prior to sliding in and out of her is probably the most erotic sight I have ever seen - I never tire of it. Second, for Jo, having two men to please her is a real bonus. She is multi-orgasmic and likes to cum as often as possible when she is having sex. With me and another man taking turns to fuck her or one licking her while the other fucks her is pure heaven for her. She also likes to suck a cock while she is being fucked. Third, I am bi and if the other guy is bi too it is a real bonus for both of us. I love to suck a hard cock and to fuck and be fucked by a man. For her part watching me playing with another man gets Jo really turned on and she will often masturbate to an orgasm while she is watching us. That is unless she decides to join in! So MFM it is.

[larrynd 15]

I agree with many of you but my wife is the shy one. I have shared her several times and found the experience very erotic when she would tell me about it afterward.......but she just does not want me there when it happens. She often says that perhaps I could be present the "next time" but that time never comes. Oh well.

[willyoats 324]

MFM is easier to arrange. I doubt anybody would disagree with that. MFM also satisfies what the shrinks call the Madonna-Whore complex, which I think most of the guys who like MFM (including me) suffer from.

 

Probably a third of our experiences were MFM. Like the other guys who wrote above, I like to watch my wife getting balled by another guy and then doing her myself.

 

I have had only one FMF experience. I laid back and my wife and the other woman played with me for about a half hour. It was a wonderful feeling. Then, when I actually penetrated the other woman, it was just about the most wonderful feeling I have ever had!!!! I would love to do it again, but my wife is uninterested and there are no other women we know who are interested either.

 

We had a similar experience with MFMF where we two guys went back and forth between the two women. That was fun, but it didn't hold a candle to the FMF experience for sheer sensuality.

[Guest ENCRYPTEDTX]

What a great read so far!

 

I am a single male and have experience both as a couple and as a single.

 

When joining as a couple, it is my place to add the spice to something that is already fantastic. Im the ice-cream that goes with the birthday cake. I love to please and love to see both the male and female happy and enjoying themselves. I want them to later re-connect as they are in bed making love discussing the hot sex that played out earlier in the day. I would hope they replay the events of what they liked, what they disliked, and how positive of an experience it was for them.

 

I have also been a couple and loved sharing my partner with one or more guys. The topic of male size compared to pleasure has been beaten to death, but its simply about variety. Each and every guy has a certain way that please women. I liked sharing that with my partner and then hearing all the sexy details as we re-connect and drift off to sleep.

 

Kyle

[2Entangled 15]

There's several factors involved. A pinch of jealousy, when the wife is letting go, can be a nice reminder of how much you value your relationship with her, as does the knowledge that other men desire her, too, and yet you know she's going home with *you* that night, and not with one of the other guys, who may only get a few minutes (if that) of her attention.

 

Then, seeing her having a good time, just feels good, too.

 

Finally, by "needing" more than one man to satisfy her, it creates the image of an "insatiable slut," which I must admit, I find quite a turn on.

[dr_pepper 25]

Unfortunately, I have never had the pleasure of either a FMF or MFM, even when an ex wife and I were looking for that to happen, but we couldn't find the right 3rd person.

 

One story I did hear was from a friend who was telling about his meeting two young women in a business environment. It happened that one of them invited him to her place to join them for dinner. He said that after a nice dinner and an hour of so of enjoyable talking about work related stuff. One of the ladies turned to him and said that they would like to fuck. After his heart started beating again, he said that sounded great to him and he spent the rest of the evening pleasing the two ladies.

 

What a delightful way to end the day!

 

Maybe some day...

[hotmocpl69 15]

I was in the military when we met....now twenty years ago; and I told her if I wasn't around when she needed me, do what you need. To my knowledge she never did. I'm not insecure enough to NOT let take on two or more. We well be talking this over again soon.

 

I had a prostatectomy four years ago and sex hasn't been the same since, though when I think about watching other men doing her....I can feel the start of an erection. Just the thought of it.

[carl01tx 17]

We married young also, 30 years ago and had our first encounter early in married life. My wife gave me a BJ while a friend of ours licked and fingered her. After I was satisified, they kissed, had missionary sex and then she finished him off with a BJ. We all had fun but we didn't have extra marital sex for 20 plus years after that, then we met a couple here:) Still we have only had 2 encounters with them:rolleyes:

[joaninla 162]

For me, MFM threesomes are just more erotic. I much prefer seeing a woman being ravished and pleased by two adoring men than being the center of attention of two women. Although both are physically satisfying, MFM is "giving" where FMF feels like "taking" for me, and thus I get more emotional satisfaction out of MFM situations.

 

Why do I find the idea of my wife having sex with another man sexy? Because she is my favorite pornstar and I get to see her doing her thing from the third person perspective, which I don't get when we are having sex together. Also, there is something very primitive and carnal for me about having sex with a woman who's just had sex with someone else.

 

I realized that MFM was my preferred threesome scenario after the first time my wife and I did one. It was a much greater rush than I had expected and produced a greater rush than the FMF threesomes we've had.

 

MFM's is our favorite sexual activity. Nothing else is even close.

[Guest rdy46227]

Don't recall reading through this thread before; I'm sure I would have commented. So thank to BearNakedOne for bumping it up the list.

 

Only ViSexual and Bear seems to have noticed the original post was phrased in terms of bi-sexuality.

 

Traditionally, the middle of three letters designate the focus of the encounter. MFM is two guy working to give a female the most; FMF is two girls oriented on a guy.

 

FFM suggests a girl in the center who is the focus of another girl and a guy. This implies some FF action while the guy watches, and MMF implies some MM action in front of the girl.

 

So is/was the original poster asking about something a bit different that the traditional 2 guys for 1 girl (or 1 guy gets 2 girls)?

[Guest rdy46227]

My personal answer here.

 

FFM would please me greatly because (like it seems most guys) I'd really enjoy watching the FF action. Then I'd start doing the more accessible of the two women. As my primary isn't into FF, the odds are slim.

 

As for MMF...

 

My first MM contact was in a MFM where the female took charge for a while and started us two guys working on each other. Having my GF "feed" me the other guy's dick made it much easier to get started.

 

I eventually got brave enough (different encounter) to bottom to the other guy. I was a bit worried about his aggressiveness, especially should he become really aroused. Having my GF beside us, her hand on his cock at the start, really helped me be able to relax, accept and enjoy.

 

Males who can catch my sexual interest are very few and far between, and my couple of MMFs are in the distant past. But I still remember them with nostalga.

[couplers 4,724]

Although I find FFM threesomes sexy, I do not have any interest in discussing it from an analytical perspective. However, I am very curious on why men find MMF threesomes sexy.

 

Please share your thoughts.

 

 

Hello, Petra here, so you are getting a woman's view point. I have had both MFM and FMF with my husband and our respective bf/gf. It all depends on my mood, but in choosing generally I prefer FMF the best, then one-on-one with a guy, then one-on-one with Clair, and last MFM. What it all comes down to is as one poster said, "the spice of jealousy." So for this girl at least, it is the same as the guys here, I like someone pleasing my spouse and where I am "competing" for his attention. The reason I put MFM last is that bf doesn't like to play with me simultaneously with hubby (except for the few times a year we do DP), so MFM becomes a sequential thing where I really have to try hard to have two good orgasmic episodes compared to playing one-on-one. A woman, however, at least has the advantage of being able to simultaneously or sequentially take two men with relative ease; for a guy it's harder to please two women simultaneously. He either has to recover and re-erect in a reasonably short amount of time to make it a real FMF or be able to screw and lick simultaneously (hubby's speciality). An advantage for FMF, however, is that same sex play is normal and a woman can help with the other woman, while in MFM, usually not.

 

 

But I think that the 2 to 1 MFM over FMF results here are skewed by having a self-selecting group obviously predisposed to swinging generally and enjoying the jealousy in particular. Another thread on this Board cited the results in a general men's magazine asking about men's fantasies and came up with only 2% of the general population respondants wanting their wife/gf to have sex with another man. FMF was way up there in fantasyland and FF was also much more popular. I don't know what to expect if you asked the same question of women in the general population.

[midnightplayer 135]

Just a to keep it straight, a little clarification; a mfm means two men straight pleasing the woman, fmf, means two straight women pleasing the man. Then you get to mmf, that is two bi men pleasing the lady and themselves; and ffm is two bi women pleasing the man and themselves. The position of the letters is important so as not to be confused when discussing threesomes. Hope no one takes offense with this explaination. Just for clarification

[two4youinswva 3,068]

The placement of the letters indicating what activities will take place is not a universally accepted rule of thumb. I understand a lot of people do follow this practice, but it is best not to assume that because someone says or writes "MMF" that they are actually interested in male on male activity.

 

As always, it's better to ask and get clarification than to assume everyone is following the same definition.

[The Fuse 1,012]

Not only that, but "FMF" many times refers to a threesome where the two ladies are involved with each other as well as with the man, and "MFM" most of the time means the two men aren't involved with each other. This inconsistency, in my opinion, reflects the biases in the lifestyle toward female bisexuality and against male bisexuality. Best to get clarification if it matters.

[HornyPisces20 15]

Not only that, but "FMF" many times refers to a threesome where the two ladies are involved with each other as well as with the man, and "MFM" most of the time means the two men aren't involved with each other. This inconsistency, in my opinion, reflects the biases in the lifestyle toward female bisexuality and against male bisexuality. Best to get clarification if it matters.

 

Absolutely. With the prevalence of Gay porn in use by women,many like to see two guys going at it hard and heavy.

 

Best to be safe and get as many details as you can.

 

I always say I will not go into any unknown situation with a blindfold and my hands tied behind my back even though it does sound good, doesn't it?

[sensualroleplay 16]

Just a to keep it straight, a little clarification; a mfm means two men straight pleasing the woman, fmf, means two straight women pleasing the man. Then you get to mmf, that is two bi men pleasing the lady and themselves; and ffm is two bi women pleasing the man and themselves. The position of the letters is important so as not to be confused when discussing threesomes. Hope no one takes offense with this explaination. Just for clarification

 

 

Thank you for clarifying this. I was about to post it.

 

I am not sure I fit fully into swinging completely by enjoying MMF. I love seeing two men together and the whole cuckolding scene. In the circles I'm in I see quite a bit of swinging going on within all the taboos scenes. I think its great!

 

I had a couple join us where she and I were with each other, the two guys together and then the two guys catering to us. It was awesome.